r/MindsetMode

The hardest part about self-help books is actually remembering what you read.

Only a week later I can barely remember anything from it
I have bought books on communication, business, psychology, parenting, or self-improvement, but they just sit on shelf because they feel too long to get through.

I wanted to learn from these books, but I kept running into the same problems:
• They were so long and dense that reading started feeling like a chore.
• Even after finishing them, I forgot most of the ideas before I could actually use them.
So I and my Psychology professor build an experiment named BookBii
Instead of making you read long, information-heavy chapters, BookBii turns books into engaging stories with real-life applications, making them easier to understand, remember, and apply.

If that sounds interesting, the app is in my bio. It’s free for the first 1,000 users.

I’d genuinely love to hear what you think.

#ancientwisdom

I lost 80 (223 -> 143).

For years I was the fat friend. I told myself I had a friend group. Looking back, I was mostly useful for them. I was the one who made them look better by standing next to them, the one whose job was to laugh first at the jokes about my own body, because if I didn't, they would comment: "it's just a joke, don't take it so seriously," "omg you're SO sensitive." So I just kept laughing. That's my fault, I know. But I genuinely believed that the moment I stopped being the "chill" one, they'd stop hanging out with me.

The other thing was hunger. If you've been the overweight friend, you already know exactly what I mean. I'd be physically starving, stomach actually hurting, and I would not dare be the first to say I was hungry. Because I'd get that little look that said you should probably eat less. Or honestly, nothing at all.

So I learned to wait. Never order a starter. Never finish my plate. Eat the "right" amount in public, then eat properly later, alone, where no one could see me.

Then, after months of working out, preplanning my days and cutting back on food, I lost the weight. And it got weirder.

I thought losing the weight would fix the friendship. It did the opposite. The same girls who joked about me went really distant. And some guys actually started approaching me, and somehow the group said every one of those guys was just "not worth it."

After a while contact broke down more and more. Now I have my tiny circle of old friends but not one of them ever lets me feel like the sidekick .

For anyone on the larger side: the people who only love you when you're the least attractive one in the room were never your friends. They just needed someone to feel superior to and let out their own frustration

What you do if you are 18 years old and still useless in this world??

I mean how you overcome it??