r/selflove

The past two years have been emotionally difficult. I won’t lie about that. I’m going to therapy and trying different therapeutic approaches, but I still feel the same. And by getting deeper into psychology and reading different self-help books, I’ve realized that I don’t have healthy relationships with other people.

I don’t really have any close friendships anymore because I’ve been disappointed by people, and now I’m also able to recognize different patterns, such as mind games and manipulation. And that makes me feel very lonely, because it feels like there are so few genuinely kind and honest people.

I am a chronically depressed person(27F).There have been some stretches where I feel better but mostly I feel low. Growing up in an emotionally unavailable household I did not even experience reliable friendships.Had been constantly excluded and bullied. Have never felt desirable. I take meds and therapy but I don't have any personal support system. I needed to vent.

How do you build self worth and esteem and confidence after you’ve spent your entire life people pleasing, choosing people who needed more help than the average person so you could be useful and feel needed. And only used validation from others up to this point. I feel like a blank slate. Like I know I’m not but I’m incredibly sensitive to criticism and rejection and I’m in a very low place right now. So I’m trying to figure out how to establish my own foundation of self

I need to vent. I feel i will always feel rejected, i feel rejected on my family, i barely have friends (recently i cut most of them because i saw their true intentions toward me), i feel rejected on workfield, i go to social media i feel rejected

Its really hard to love myself because how i was raised but i feel rejected no one cares about me so the only option to me is stand my ground bymyself, does someone understand or relate with these feelings??

im autistic, adhd and have severe anxiety… im in the later years in secondary school, everyday i feel like im going absolutely insane and i cant do it anymore. ive mentioned to my parents im actually losing my isht but they dont realise the seriousness, im on the verge of stopping everything, its just too stressful.