u/TheoryStrong6490

Most of my friends are engineers by degree. I am tired of hearing their constant discussion regarding salaries- 20 lpa, 30lpa etc etc. I feel left out and find nothing to contribute in that conversation. Very good they are very capable and had decided to go for a stream that would benefit them monetarily at 14/15. I didn't even have much idea regarding money and high packages back in those days. I studied arts, no placement or high packages but atleast have the intuitive sense to speak something suitable at a certain place, that doesn't hurt others. I read all the rants, toxicity, no wlb,quant, eng , reasoning, unpredictable GA concerns here, but atleast I have a sense of belonging here. My lifestyle would depend on the amount I would earn. I won't depend on anyone else. I would find dignity in whatever I earn for myself.

P.S. Don't be harsh if you choose to comment. I was already very hurt when I wrote this. Will delete this post after sometime.

As the title says. I long for an admirable, reliable male presence only on some days. Loneliness is not a constant feeling, that I get, it is nodding me only when I see my friends enjoying quality time with their boyfriends, or after a long day when I need to share something with someone, or may be just to feel that someone is there for me unconditionally. I am not sure whether it is a feeling out of loneliness or out of the fact that my friends have partners and currently I don't have anyone. It's a weird feeling.

Just posts and comments. Not commenting or voting?

I am a dusky woman with sharp features and some regular scars which do not bother me much anymore. But in the childhood I was always ignored & was treated as invisible in my friends' group. My closest classmate in school had fair complexion and had no acne or scars ever and she was always praised for her looks, no other substance . I communicated her the fact how much insecure I feel when everyone compared our looks when we were together, but she conveniently enjoyed the fact it seemed . I felt left out. At times it also seemed she had an unspoken upper hand when it was about deciding something. Once she got proposed in the school corridor by a senior and I was just invisible there. It made me cry. I grieve that moment so much even as an adult. I have been praised for my articulation, dressing sense, merit & intelligence but never for how I look.

I have been feeling v disturbed since last night & these thoughts suddenly flooded my mind. I could not pass this thought

Asked this in another sub also. Now want to know it from ppl of my age range. Someone stopped talking with me since I didn't share my name with him. I was lowkey liking our talks bt I hesitated to share my name.

Need to know this. Especially if the person is from this sub.

Hi ladies. Those of you, have been emotional support to your mother since childhood, how do you cope with the fact? Besides, navigating your own difficulties, you also have to mind about her. It has been very exhausting at times for me, more than I could handle. And, at late twenties also, though I love my mom a lot, but carrying all her issues and her emotions are getting increasingly difficult for me. She is a beautiful person, but she is emotionally not strong.

I end up wasting a lot of time whenever I attempt that topic

I didn't have maths post 10th. Studied Humanities. Pls guide someone.

Since these are single day exams, a small mistake here & there can cost me an opportunity. Does practice outshine luck especially in case of puzzles?

Have never felt chosen, experienced male admiration or affection. When I look inward, it feels it is a lacking on my part. My personality is not strong enough to keep others glued towards me. I look so plain so average. In my friend circle also, I just exist. Nobody cares if I am there or not. I am not one's interest. I will be 28(F) by the year end and over the years it is my mental strength that has kept me going. I feel tired......

How I know this- my profile is hidden. Still there have been instances where people mentioned about posts I commented under, in DM request. Is there anything I can do about this?

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On depression meds, still feel sleepy and lethargic the entire day. Unable to be productive. Before the meds also used to feel like this. And, after the meds also same. No change. Got my blood work done, everything is ok. Was also prescribed meds to stay awake. Post that could not sleep for 2 days. And had to resort to meds to sleep. Feeling irritated that I cannot get this issue resolved and be properly functional. Having crying spells because of this. 27f.

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On depression meds, still feel sleepy and lethargic the entire day. Unable to be productive. Before the meds also used to feel like this. And, after the meds also same. No change. Got my blood work done, everything is ok. Was also prescribed meds to stay awake. Post that could not sleep for 2 days. And had to resort to meds to sleep. Feeling irritated that I cannot get this issue resolved and be properly functional. Having crying spells because of this. 27f.

On depression meds, still feel sleepy and lethargic the entire day. Unable to be productive. Before the meds also used to feel like this. And, after the meds also same. No change. Got my blood work done, everything is ok. Was also prescribed meds to stay awake. Post that could not sleep for 2 days. And had to resort to meds to sleep. Feeling irritated that I cannot get this issue resolved and be properly functional. Having crying spells because of this. 27f.

My mother has several drawbacks as a mother as motherhood cannot be flawless. But I (27F) have still managed to imagine the best version of my mother in my head. Whatever, good bits in someone around her age I find, I try to think, had my mother owned this skill it would have been great for her. Whenever I meet any woman, be it in any capacity, I try to find motherly elements in them. But, the unfortunate thing is, these days, everyone is cunning and very shrewd, atleast in majority cases. So, talking to them and receiving harsh words from them make me morose. There have been exceptional one, two cases though. I really don't know, if this feeling makes sense to you all, but this is a weird feeling that is there.

Title. Chai should also be available nearby.

Oftentimes, it happens, in a group, someone is doing some action in order to draw attention of others and they are labelled as attention seekers. Well, it is true essentially, they want to be attended but it is a primal human instinct to be felt desired. No one wants to feel ignored or invisible. When people naturally do not get attended, they start doing things which may go a little overboard. When a child in the classroom is being naughty and is getting caught, there is a possibility that he or she is doing it in order to be attended.

Edit: I want to make it a point that, it should not be perceived as a negative trait. Example: In a group of three friends, when only two friends are continuously talking, it is ought to happen that the other friend is being treated as the third person and is feeling neglected. In that case, if the third friend does something in order to feel included, it should not painted negatively.

Edit(2): As someone has rightly pointed out in the comments, " The want to be felt desired" is a very poorly constructed sentence and it shows bad grammar. It should either have been- the want to be desired or the want to have been felt and desired. But, I cannot edit the title anymore as it cannot be done.

Am I shadow banned?