People say one can choose only two things from health, money, and love. And that has proved to be so true for me.

I got a job and decided to get in a relationship. But the relationship came in between my health and other ambition, so I had to let it go.

But now that I'm focusing on my health and money, I don't have a love life.

I sometimes wonder how people balance their health goals and love life, but then I realise that a lot of them come from upper economic class.

And that's where is all messed up. However much I try, however much I fight, there's this invisible glass ceiling that I cannot cross alone with proper support system.

Especially in a country like India, where each and every person and system is out there to get you and bind you to shackles.

Half of my life is gone and I don't have anything to show for it, and I'll not get anything worthwhile for my work in this country.

Just checking in on the humans that I may never meet . How are you?

I was just thinking about this today. I’ve never watched a movie alone in a theatre before.

Is it actually sad, or is it kind of lovely? 😅

If you’ve done it, how was your first solo movie experience? Did you enjoy it or feel awkward?

Would love to hear your experiences.

I’m 26F and am going through some tough, uncertain times; my professional, personal, financial and physical/mental health, everything’s in a quite bad shape. On the other hand, 90% of my friends have most of it sorted and are getting married one after another. I literally have to attend one friend’s wedding every second month. While I try to be happy for them, it also pisses me off.

How do you deal with this? Please don’t give me the “nobody has it figured out” lecture….i’m talking about the basics being sorted enough to be able to take the step for marriage. How do you not feel left behind at this point?

So there was a girl in my college. Let's call her Sush....(ofcourse I won't reveal her real name here). Sush was incredibly nice and sweet girl. Always helpful and nice to everyone. And I liked her a lot for that. Whenever I needed some help regarding anything she helped me everytime. And that's the reason I never confessed to her probably because my head takes priority over my heart. But I always thought I one day I will confess to her. We used to talk sometimes about our common interests. And a lot of it actually matched her. It felt like she was the one for me.

We both liked metal and rock. Vibed over linkin Park and SlipKnot. It was nice. But I never had that courage to confess because of the fear of ruining the friendship. I was also selfish because she used to help me for my studies and assignments and everything and that played a role in not confessing to her. What if the friendship gets ruined she would block me and never talk to me and I won't get any help which I am getting now. Yes I was selfish back then regarding my studies.

So I just never confessed. But then comes the twist. I thought of confessing her during the final exams. College would end anyway. Even if she says no it would be alright for me because we would part anyways. And then when I was just going confess I saw her wearing sindoor and she was with a man. She got married just before the exams. It was a big shock for me and I was sad about it for some time. Really sad.

It took me some time to move on. But I moved on fairly quickly(maybe because of my ADHD). Later I came to know she was in a long term relationship for 6 years before marriage. I am happy for her. She is happily married. And I am glad that I didn't confess. But some of my friends who knew about this probably informed her as her whatsapp statuses are no longer visible to me.

But I am happy where she is and I wish her well in her life as a wellwisher.

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I am SO frustrated.

Ek toh I’m in a completely new city, on my own, and I just joined this company for an internship. And currently… I’m basically getting paid(itna kam ki chhod hi do) to sit and stare at my monitor 💀

Day 1:

Went to office at 9:30 AM. Filled out some form.

Waited.

And waited.

After like 4 HOURS, finally got system access. Had a protein bar for lunch.

Then waited for the manager.

No luck.

Waited some more.

Eventually went back to my PG.

Also somehow managed to eat NOTHING the entire day, so obviously the day went beautifully 🤡

Day 2: TODAY.

Still waiting.

I notified HR. She told me to message the manager.

I messaged him.

Mailed him too.

At 11 AM.

It’s now 1:15 PM.

And… nothing.

I’m sitting here hungry, bored out of my mind, nobody is really talking to me, and I don’t even know what I’m supposed to do 😭

And the funniest part is, I don’t even know when I turned into an introvert. I used to be able to talk to people. Now I’m sitting here thinking, "Should I go talk to someone or will I look stupid?" and then proceeding to do absolutely nothing.

My head is hurting, I’m hungry, I’m bored and I’m starting to question all my life decisions 💀

Is this normal for the first few days of an internship/company joining or did I somehow enter a parallel universe where nobody knows I exist?

Because bro… I JUST WANT SOME WORK. 😭

Hmu

so i started doing bhairav sadhana 108 names a day this year

it's supposed to end in 7 months cause I said I'll do it for 7 months

But something major happened in my life and now I don't believe much in any bhagwan anymore idk I don't get the goosebumps type feeling anymore I feed dead inside and every time I skip sadhana i note it down on my journal keep adding days on it

So i just wanted to know how to get this feeling back to pray and hope again

Attract positivity or whatever again in my life .

please don't leave backchodi comments , thank you .

I have insomnia from a decade, nothing worked on me no medicine no technique no env.

People have no idea how much I craved just have a normal morning, to wake up early, have breakfast, take bath, and be ready for the day by 9-10. I just wanted to be normal, every mornings and nights were all merged as I spent all night just thinking to sleep.

Oh god it is so terrible, everything feels like a nightmare and people just thought it was normal for me but it every single day just destroyed me a little.

I just wanted to fix it anyhow no matter how hopeless it got when I couldn’t sleep till 8 in the morning even though I laid on bed at 1. It destroyed my relationship, every single thing took lot of effort, my depression was only fueled more by insomnia, I thought I couldn’t even have a normal fu**ing for even a single day. I even got laid off from first company because I couldn’t focus on work. Thank God my curr org understands me and somehow my curr career is doing okay.

I was determined to fix, so hit all trials, everything that was in internet. Then I realised first I need to fix my digestion, then mental trauma and then sleep, sleeps basic demand is for body to feel safe, relaxed and calm nervous system otherwise even meds won’t have no effect.

I did that, fixed my digestion then mental health, but reaching there took everything from me, fixing a traumized soul is like getting out if hell with no map or doors.

Then I tried normal sleeping, it worked partially, now I was able to sleep naturally but in the mornings but atleast I was able to sleep and quality was also good.

Finally I showed to psychiatrist again, he suggested combination of two meds and boom they worked. I slept after around 2 hours of taking them. And for the first time it was not my delusion, I slept each time I took it, you couldn’t imagine the joy it gave me, it was like a blind person seeing for the first time.

So I had this interview today which I really wanted to give my best, in past if I had an imp event I never slept whole night, just couldn’t and half my chances was lost there. But not today, based on my hit and trial, I took the med at 8, slept by 11, woke up naturally at 7:30, took bath, had apple, even exercised and gave interview with fresh mind.

Even though I tanked it and not selected but I am incredibly proud of myself for finally having a normal morning 🌅. I hope my insomnia will be cured entirely by next year. God sent an angel in disguise of that Doc.

Tldr; I had insomnia from more than a decade, finally feels like it’s getting better

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I am in the talking stage with a girl and she seems like a good person but she is quite troubled by certain things in life which honestly, we all are. The difference is that she tends to open up about these things with me.

I can probably help her with many of these problems through my contacts, but I am deliberately holding back for now. I feel that getting this deeply involved before things are even official isn’t the right approach.

Ps - Please kids below 24 stay away

So my cousin is coming back from US for few days, and my question to all here is

"What can I ask her to bring from there, preferably something not available here and not too expensive?"

For context, I love electronic gadgets and as far I as know, there isnt much which isnt available here.

I'm also a casual gamer and a Pokefan, I have a Switch OLED console since few years, although I dont game nowadays. Initially I was thinking of asking her to bring a Switch 2, but with all the RAM & storage crisis, price hike and stuff, I dont wanna buy one now. I was also excited for GTA 6 but with Sony's no disc fiasco I cancelled getting a PS5 too 🫠.

I have already bought laptop and phone in last couple of years, so thats out of the equation.

I have thought about this a lot and still couldnt think of anything, any suggestion could help.

I'm 26, living alone in Mumbai, and lately this has been on my mind a lot.

People keep asking why I don't have a girlfriend. They say I look decent and could easily get one if I tried. But my life is honestly just office, gym, home, and repeat. I'm not very social, don't use Instagram, and I barely have any photos of myself, so dating apps never really appealed to me.

I never felt like I was missing out before, but now that I'm in my mid-20s, the fact that I've never been in a relationship is starting to feel... weird. Almost like everyone else has experienced something that I somehow skipped.

It's just an odd feeling when you realise you've reached this age without ever having that part of life.

Anyone else in their mid-20s or older relate to this?

Honestly as weird as it might sound but i just wanna see what it feels like and want to experience it once no expectations just want to see how it feels like.

With their consent I showed my pics to someone to rate my looks and they rated me 4.2/10 which is below average by dating standards. I have a recessed jaw and neutral canthal tilt of eyes which drags down my appearance score. They told me its over for me and I should delete my profile as no one will like me. I have a midface heavy with soft lower third which is an anti-mogging feature. My eyebrows arent creating orbital frame. The only potential mogger is my hair which is not enough. I am a manlet too(only 5'7)

Feeling extremely depressed over my looks!🥺

Tbh I feel so isolated from everything lately that I don’t even know what I want anymore.
I’m just tired of explaining what’s going on with me. I don’t have the energy to keep putting everything into words and then still feel like nobody really gets it.

Sometimes I just wish there was someone who could understand without me having to explain every single thing. Someone I could talk to without having to think about how I’m going to explain myself or whether I’m being too much and I genuinely can’t tell if I’m actually yearning for a partner or if I’m just yearning for myself and the life I wish I had. Maybe I just miss feeling like myself.
Idk I’m just really tired. 🫠

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Personally, I’ve heard similar stories from some of my married friends and family members, and honestly, I have started believing that the right woman can change your destiny.

When my dad got married, he landed a government job within a year, and things gradually started changing for the better.

So I’m hoping for the same 🤞 Hopefully, I’ll marry my lady luck by the end of this year.

Would love to hear your stories

22M, run an online business (fully remote), thinking of leaving my hometown for a better social life, friends, hosting people, eventually a serious relationship.

Which city would actually work for this?

Anyone made a similar move in their early 20s purely for lifestyle reasons, not a job? Where'd you go and how'd it actually work out?