u/Financial_Access_671

Just checking in on the humans that I may never meet . How are you?

What do you all regret most

Let me articulate this before anyone screams patriarchy/misogyny.

I want my wife to be financially independent , but I don’t want her to work typical 9 to 5 job , corporate politics, colleagues, corporate world is fucked.

I want her to start a business, I’ll invest it in . Be it a make up brand, a franchise, a cafe . She will not be bore off her mind & I’ll have a happy wife .

But I’ll definitely get a proper PPT presentation before investing 😂😂

I saw a clip where a woman said the marriage is more important to me than the wedding.

I’ve literally heard parents saying that they have spent a lot on the wedding and our child was not even married for 5 years .

I’ve seen lavish wedding fall apart after months of the ceremony, I’ve seen humble wedding thriving after decades of.

So ladies and gentlemen are what’s more important the wedding or the marriage?

Not talking about goals or habits. I mean the non-negotiables the lines you don’t cross regardless of mood, company, or circumstance.

Mine:

1)No alcohol, no cigarettes, no weed, no drugs. Never have, never will.

2)If I marry someone, I’m fully in. No cheating, no double timing, full stop.

3)Never go after a married woman. Doesn’t matter the situation.

4)If I want something expensive, I make sure I have at least 5x its cost sitting in reserve before I buy it. Luxury is fine. Desperation isn’t.

5)I think in decades, not years. Most people overestimate a year and completely underestimate twenty. The decisions I make today I’m making for the person I’ll be in 2045.

6)Play the hand you’re dealt. Complaining about the cards is a waste of the game.

Some of these came from watching what happens when people don’t have them.

I’ve seen it in real time not in books, not in theory. Men who had everything. Generational wealth, businesses, respect. And when the rules broke down the cheating, the shortcuts, the living beyond means the money followed. It always does. People think character and wealth are separate things. They’re not. The same disorder that ruins a marriage ruins a balance sheet.

Ever had the feeling that the life you’re casually living is probably someone else’s dream life?

Maybe the job you hate is someone’s goal.
Maybe the peace you take for granted is something another person is desperately chasing.

Describe your “dream life” in the comments.
And if someone here is already living that life, reply with your experience.

Curious to see where human ambition actually ends — or if it ever does.