u/PahadiBoy444

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Bro, how are you filtering the girls whose marriage proposals you're getting?

I mean, I had rate myself around a 7/10, but the girls whose proposals are coming my way are all 9/10 in my eyes. It's honestly getting difficult to filter them.

I've already turned down the ones who seem way out of my league, but how do I choose among the rest? I'm getting two or three proposals every month.

Sometimes I even wonder they could have had a love marriage, so why are they entering the arranged marriage process?

Help your bro out.

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Bro, how are you filtering the girls whose marriage proposals you're getting?

I mean, I had rate myself around a 7/10, but the girls whose proposals are coming my way are all 9/10 in my eyes. It's honestly getting difficult to filter them.

I've already turned down the ones who seem way out of my league, but how do I choose among the rest? I'm getting two or three proposals every month.

Sometimes I even wonder they could have had a love marriage, so why are they entering the arranged marriage process?

Help your bro out.

You may have experienced how much we have normalized wrong behavior. Sometimes it even makes me feel like there's no value left in being a good person.

What's your take on this ?

What distinguishes a good human being from a lover?

What qualities or responsibilities set the two apart?

If someone is a good person, does spending enough time with their person help them become a good lover?

I don't really expect true love or anything like that from my future wife anymore. If we both fulfill our responsibilities as husband and wife, that would be more than enough for me.

The person I once wanted to marry is no longer a part of my life, and with time my perspective and way of thinking have changed as well.

How has your mentality changed over time?

Hello dagdiyon koi chalega running karne sharp at 5am from Clocktower to Mussorie

Age range. - (22-25)

Thodi running thoda walk karlenge

I am not a hard core runner

Next Sunday agar Mausam acha raha

If you know any hidden spot it will be cheery on the cake 🍰.

When you enter a relationship, you often don’t realize how many things need to align for it to reach marriage.

Financial stability, emotional maturity, parents’ approval, and the ability to stay committed to the same person even after 2 3 years without getting bored all play an important role.

And last but not least, loyalty.

Anything which you want to add?

I’ve seen my father from the very beginning as a provider someone whose happiness comes from keeping the family happy. And I think I’ve turned out the same way.

I don’t really have many personal desires just seeing others happy gives me a sense of fulfillment.

Taking care of my sister, my parents even when I was in a relationship, I was the same with my girlfriend. I have realized I don’t even know how to spend on myself.

I’m not sure if this is right or wrong, but it is what it is.

Do you feel the same?

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From what I’ve seen and heard, dowry is still mostly being paid by girls coming from conservative, lower-middle class, or financially weaker families. They are often the biggest victims of the system because many of them are not financially independent.

Whereas in cases related to alimony, it’s often the opposite the women seeking it are usually more educated, financially aware, and come from comparatively stable backgrounds.

Ironically, the louder voices against dowry also seem to come mostly from this second group.

In the end, it often feels like weak or vulnerable people especially financially weak men or women rarely get real support from society or even the legal system.

When will the people who truly deserve justice finally get it?

Is anyone pursuing a B.Tech from GRD, or has already completed it? I’d like to ask a few questions can someone help?

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I started my corporate journey right after graduation, and three years passed just working. I met quite a few girls during that time, but none of them felt worth investing real effort in.

Then Saumya joined the office. Something about her stood out I felt she was someone I could seriously see a future with. We started talking regularly, and from my side the intention was clear: I was thinking in terms of marriage.

I took my time to understand her betterher background, values, and even the practical aspects that might matter later. We connected on Instagram, and over the next few months, I quietly observed her interests, the kind of content she engaged with, and her overall personality.

Back then, I was pretty average like most guys not very focused on grooming or fitness. But once I decided she was worth it, I started working on myself. I joined the gym, improved my appearance, and also pushed harder to switch jobs for a better salary.

Eventually, I felt ready to confess my feelings. But life had other plans. I cleared an interview that offered me a 30% hike, but it required relocating to another city. At that point, I chose my career.

I never told her how I felt. On my last day, I just said a simple goodbye to everyone including her.

And that’s how it ended before it even began. Maybe we could have built something meaningful if I had stayed or maybe it was never meant to be.

Do you have any story like this please share

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Reasons for marrying late or choosing not to marry

For men -

They feel they are not financially stable enough or able to provide

adequately for their partner.

What can be other reasons for men?

People (both men and women) will marry later, mostly in their late 20s.

Families will prefer having only one child.

Casual relationships will become more common.

More people will choose to live in rented homes rather than owning property.

The attraction toward government jobs will decrease, especially in tier1/2 cities.

There will be more individual entrepreneurs, and traditional education will be given less importance.

More people will move abroad from India.

People will not blindly follow others in the name of religion.

Cultural traditions may fade over time.

Inter-caste and inter-religion marriages will increase.

There may be a decline in empathy and emotional connection among people

Any corrections or changes according to you?