r/PornAddiction

Morning folks,

I've been addicted to porn since an early age, today im 27 and have been taken care of own live, quitting social media, porn and alcohol, being porn the most recent one (about 2 months now) as i noticed a lack on my sex drive and motivation to aproach real partners (since i had porn an ai recently, felt like there was no need. Awful), lacked morning woods, etc.

So, i started hitting the gym for the health benefits both physical and mental in hopes to recovery that sex drive and confidence lost to porn. Today i finally got sincerely horny as fuck waking up, felt happy since its a good sign in my libido recover and overal health, but it's pushing me towards porn since i do not have a partner and i have been craving one (currently in a few talking stages, but i like to take things slow since i get attached easily and heavily).

Have you guys in your recover progress felt something like this? What have you done to stay away? Should i just fap to imagination (tend to think of ppl idrk if its bad for the process or overall an inmoral thing to do)?

Thanks in advande for reading me.

Just by having to switch lenguajes and writting the urge has dissipated a lot, but i do wanna know about your tips ans tricks.

Edit:typos

I’m helping my boyfriend quit porn but I get worried he will relapse. It’s been two weeks since we started his journey with the help of therapy. He’s been watching all sorts of porn, straight, gay, solos men and women. But he said he is straight, he started watching gay stuff when one girlfriend of his sometime back introduced it to him and it grew on him. For the former porn addicts did you used to watch all sorts of porn?

Hey guys,

I’m currently 31 days porn-free. No porn, no PMO. For the last 2-3 weeks I’m pretty sure I’ve been in a flatline.

The weird thing is: I have basically zero urges to fap, but also not much drive to have sex either. My libido feels kind of muted/offline. I’m not disgusted by sex or anything, I just don’t feel that strong sexual pull right now.

Important context: I’m also taking SSRIs, so I know that could also play a role in low libido / sexual side effects. I also got Sildenafil prescribed by my doctor, but I’m not really sure how to think about it in this situation.

I’m in an open poly relationship with my GF. There isn’t a second partner yet, but that’s part of our relationship structure. During this streak I had sex with my GF maybe 4-5 times, mostly when cuddling naturally turned into being horny. So it wasn’t forced, and it felt more like real intimacy than chasing a dopamine hit.
Also I had a hook up in a darkroom last week and I was hard at first and than I got soft, after thinking too much about it. He tried everything, but didn't got me hard again 😃

This weekend I’m meeting my FWB, and there’s a good chance we’ll have sex. There might even be more developing between us emotionally, so I’m excited but also a bit nervous.

My questions are:

Can you still get naturally aroused with a real person while being in flatline?
How do I know what’s flatline and what might be SSRI-related?
Does Sildenafil help in this kind of situation, or does it only help with erections once you’re already mentally/emotionally turned on?
Should I avoid using it unless I actually need it, or is it okay to see it as a temporary safety net?

I don’t want to use sex as a replacement addiction, and I don’t want to turn this into a “performance test.” I also don’t want to get into my head too much and create performance anxiety out of nowhere.

Has anyone here had real sex during flatline, especially while also being on SSRIs?
Did arousal come back in the moment, or did things stay dead?
And did anyone use prescribed Sildenafil during reboot/recovery without it messing with their progress?

Stay strong.

Nobody can actually help me but myself. Listen to my story :

I've been exposed to porn age 7, I won't get in the details but I had a precoce intercourse at 15 . It's been a decade and nothing really changed. Sometimes I use my fantasy but I restart looking for pornography that seems better than looking for ONS in a harming way. I should talk about it with my therapist....... Maybe she could help. What do you think?

I don't think I realized how bad it was until last night. He literally was doing it and jacking off as I was laying in bed next to him. I was sleeping and just so happened to wake up. How do I help him?

I mean I was literally right there. He could have asked me or something idk.

Now I just feel like I'm not enough for him and never will be.

as the title says whenever im home i often find myself touching myself and sometimes not even for pleasure but just to touch (which leads to what we all know) anyone have any similar situations and offer any suggestions?

I was very good academically till me 9th grade. After that porn and masturbation started giving me the dopamine release so much that I never made out of it. My grades slowly fell and I came to a point where I don't even understand basic things, constant brain fog, and self doubt.

Currently doing my undergraduate but still the addiction is there, I have just given up. Once I was very optimistic about my future but now I have no control over myself. How do I even get out of it.

I have tried every, each and every fucking techniques to overcome it but after 2-3 day or a week, i relapse and that makes me more weak.

I honestly don't know what to do.

i am so mad at myself every other two weeks i always lose my streak n it messes up things for me and my so. but i literally have been consuming content since i was 11 ?? it’s like wired in my brain n idk how to unwire it. the guilt makes me so paranoic im so mad i could have been sleeping. i know it would hurt my so if i told him bc we both established this boundary but i keep messing up. i mean its not as bad as it used to be i use to watch every day now its spread out. i’m gonna try to go a month without but usually after a couple of days everything resets. i just am a terrible person. i feel like for women its hard to talk abt cs like more frowned upon

I keep falling into lust.

I am under 18, started porn a couple years ago, only my mom knows, but she thinks I quit. I can't bear to tell her the truth that I'm still struggling. The most I've made it without porn is maybe a week? I can't even recall. I hate it so much and I want to return to Jesus. My mom is christian and so am I, and I want to quit porn before I get baptized. Ive tried the methods people recommended, asking God to take the lust away, using app blockers, nothing works reliably.

I want so badly to quit but im entirely lost on where to start, so if any of you can help, please do 🙏

So I've been watching porn & masterbating since 8 years (2018) & it has seriously damaged my mind.....I need to stop it but I just can't resist....the day i don't watch porn, I get dreams of me having sex, thus I wake up with lustful morning wood, so I end up watching porn while masterbating in the morning..... I'm really addicted to it, but i really really want to stop...I tried a lot but I can't....the lust always overpowers me.....pls suggest some affective methods to stop this.

I know my addiction to the flash is bad but now I've started going at it at Work i mean it's a high-key chance I get caught not high key but high key I started masturbating, man its ridiculous so now that I've come to the clarity and I've said it b4 but I'm serious now that it's advanced to my job I think it's time I step away from porn and masturbation cold turkey stick to sex and just turn that down to but man it's getting and and I see it now I can't turn into one of those freaks no offense butthats the only way I can stop it is to shame the shit out my brain

Day 16 of NoFap and feeling super proud! Has your productivity gone up too? I'm thinking of starting a similar challenge where I workout every day 🔥 Not sure if it's an official challenge, but it sounds fun!

Honestly, I'm still trying to wrap my head around the idea that "Porn addiction" is even real, but when all you're looking at is just naked women be it images or videos, does that even make the cut? Is that "porn addiction"?

And more to the point, I've been single now for 16 years thanks to my lovely disability ruining my life. First diagnosed back in 2013 officially, but my last relationship ended back in 2010, that was also the last time I was with a woman sexually. I'm turning 40 in just a couple days now and it's killing me that it's been that long since I had a woman in my life, I suppose these dumb videos are the closest I will ever get now. How can that be a bad thing if that's the best I can do? The closest I'm ever going to get now is just this, and yeah I watch daily, who wouldn't in that scenario? Why would it be seen as a bad thing?

Throwaway account. We’ve been married 14 years, just had a baby 3 months ago. I’m late 30s, he is early 40s. He’s been addicted to porn for a long time (probably his entire adulthood). Two weeks ago my husband was arrested and charged with downloading and distributing child porn. I am so angry with him I can barely stand it.

He has a lawyer, I have my own. He let his addiction control his life and now it has ruined his life and destroyed everything. He might lose his job (he works in a family owned business) and he had to resign from a bunch of community organizations he was a part of. He is from a small town so he is effectively shunned from town. Half of his family (and all of mine) won’t talk to him anymore. I was worried I would lose my job as a teacher at the small school he went to (and his family has taught at) but thankfully everyone has been very kind to me and asking me what they can do to help me and my young child.

He is finally seeing a therapist that deals with this type of addiction, after years of me begging him to.

So let this be a cautionary tale for you porn addicted people. Get help before you take your addiction too far and destroy everything. I don’t know what the future holds for my family but my focus right now is keeping myself and my child safe.

Hi everyone. I (21f) have been dating my girlfriend (20f) for about two months now. Today on our road trip she admitted to me that she has had an addiction to porn since she was 13, and uses it as a way to cope with her depression. She sees nothing wrong with it, and doesn’t want to change anything about it. I have also struggled with porn addiction, but for very different reasons. I dealt with some pretty horrific stuff when I was younger, so a lot of the time when I relapse it’s because I was triggered and I dissociate. Re-traumatizing myself. I am currently 4 days clean. I want to quit, and I’m worried that if I have a partner who normalizes it, I won’t be able to. I just need some advice, I don’t have anyone in my real life who I can talk to about this. It’s made me feel so… disconnected from her, like I suddenly don’t want to be close to her or want her to touch me or anything. I don’t want to be a hypocrite, because I struggle with porn addiction too but… is this brake up worthy?

hello everyone. i am here because, well, i'm a porn addict.

i'm not sure what to do about this.

my mom knows about this, but i've only ever told her once and i'm scared to bring it up again.

can anyone give me some advice? i'm afraid that this addiction is going to take over my life, and in some ways, it already has.

so.

thanks in advance.

i think i’m not ready to quit porn because if i quit, that means sex with a real person would be the only way to satisfy the sexual urge and intimacy i crave. and im too scared to have sex with a real person because im too insecure with myself.

i’m not a virgin, i was abused sexually as a kid, didn’t have sex again until i left for college and got addicted to hooking up with random guys. stopped because i felt like shit about it and then slipped into a depression that i haven’t recovered from.

i’ve tried going on dates too because it seems like everyone’s so self absorbed. last date i went on, the guy said he loved getting compliments from people only to shut them down by saying he wasn’t interested, he just loved the attention. guy before him would talk about his ex’s and his type in men (which i did not fit the description). i’m tired of dating, im tired of feeling like shit, i’m tired of giving into stupid addiction all because im lonely as shit and can’t/don’t know how to deal with it. i don’t want to hate my life but i do.

i have been faced with this situation for a bit under a week now and i figured asking the source of people who suffer from it would give me some insight.

my gf and i have been dating for 3 years now and she recently told me shes questioning if she is non monogamous, since when she watches porn she feels an overwhelming urge to have sex with other people. because she hasnt gone for long without relapsing she tells me she gen doesnt know if the urge is bc shes an addict or if its bc she isnt mono.

in order to answer the question she has finally decided to quit for good this time, taking it slowly but steadily since quitting suddenly has never worked in the past.

for context:

she only feels the urge when actively consumming, but when she doesnt she feels normal. it also comes with feeling apathy and disconfort towards me instead of love. she has told me this is affecting our relationship since i am 100% mono and she feels like making me wait for a definitive answer is unfair.

honestly the uncertainty is killing me, and i wonder if this is a normal thing porn addicts go through. is it common to feel like you need more than one person when actively consumming porn? is it a regular urge?

any insight would be appreciated since i very much feel like my world is ending

(obviously nothing wrong with nonmono its just a deal breaker for me and we discussed it pre-dating)

its been a while since i posted here, i am 28 days clean. For like 90% of those days i had no urges or interest towards porn, i focused solely towards my girlfriend, only having eyes for her. I’d get the occasional thoughts about girls but i just shoo the thoughts away because they’re mostly just intrusive thoughts that i know are not MY thoughts, but what i’m really mostly concerned about is how i’ve been feeling for the past like week, i’ve been slowly getting urges back for some reason, maybe cuz of stress or something? no idea. but i have been exposed to some sort of nsfw completely by accident for most of the days and i kept avoiding it, didn’t feel anything towards it for a while. but nowadays i’m kind of glancing longer at it and noticing my patterns, i’m getting impulses to search stuff up, like that curiosity you always get to search something “innocent” knowing damn well what you’re gonna find. I’m not gonna lie i did slip up, i didn’t fully look into anything, but i gave into the curiosity a tiny bit and gave quick glances at the things i saw but i controlled myself and realized its not worth it. i think I’m really just getting dangerously close to relapsing and i really don’t want to, i feel so much better how i am right now and i do not want to ruin that, this is sort of just a vent to let everything out and an opening for someone to give me advice because i truly feel like I’m getting close to another relapse. if you read all this, thank you so much and please try to leave an encouraging comment if you can or any advice.