r/PornAddiction

So I know I have an addiction. Currently the power has gone out due to a storm. Meaning no wifi and bad cell service. I usually do it every night. I have even tried to let some short videos load and when it didn’t I felt like I wasn’t gonna be able to sleep. I’m currently at someone else’s house because it was just too hot to stay at my own. It’s been about 3 days and I know I’m going to do it again the second wifi comes back. I usually do it when I go to bed and I’m there for hours. I don’t even have to be fully erect. Sometimes I do it after work and then nap to.. recover? The problem is I want to stop and I can stop during the day but when bed time hits. I cave even if I can fall asleep without doing it I end up waking up during the night and end up caving. The problem is I’d like to quit. I’d like to be able to date and have a real connection with someone again, not just have a relationship based on sex. I know if I can break this habit I’d be able to start recovering. So if anyone has any suggestions on how I can get past it during the night, I’d love to hear them.

So I’ve probably watched porn/masterbated everyday for the last 5-6 years of my life (17F). I’ve always known it’s a bad thing to do everyday but I’ve still done it everyday and everytime I feel guilty. As soon as I’m done I tell myself “I’ll never do that again I swear” but then as soon as I wake up I really wanna do it again. So I’ve probably done that everyday for the 5-6 year span. But now I am going to try to actually quit and try my hardest because I do actually wanna become a better person before I graduate and stuff and I just don’t wanna have bad habits.

I found myself in a really thoughtful mood and have finally realized that I may be a porn addict. I’m a 20 year old female who has probably watched porn almost everyday of my life for years. I feel like this is the first time I’ve ever recognized that before. I just want to know what is the porn viewing average for women? I’m so curious I’ve never touched on this subject with anyone throughout my life so I’m interested to read any replys.

When u quit porn did u notice a better change in erection qaulity as in did u notice your dick getting bigger not in size as in it started to take in more blood and reveal your full potential size?if so how long after quiting did it take

Hello,

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Just an update on my side.

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After a month Im feeling good and I feel like this time Im fibally beating it.

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The urge to watch porn is gone, I can still masturbate with just my mind and its great.

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I still try hard to avoid porn as I feel like its still a huge trigger for me and Im afraid I might fall back into it if I see it but overall Im feeling good.

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You can do it too!

I’m trying to understand this part better.

A lot of people talk about urges like they are always intense and obvious. But sometimes, for me, it’s not even a strong urge. It’s more like this short “fuck it, whatever” feeling. Like my brain stops caring for a moment. Not because I truly want to relapse. More because I feel bored, lonely, low, tired, or like “I’m never getting over this anyway.”That state feels different from a normal urge. It’s less like desire and more like giving up for a few minutes.

For people who struggle with this too: do you recognize that feeling?

And if yes, what helps you snap out of it before it turns into autopilot?

I've had this pit that I come to and throw pieces of myself into. The pit grows hungrier and hungrier the more I feed it. It's been a part of my life for over ten years now. I found it before I could even recognize why a pit is dangerous, or scary. It waits for me at the end of my worst days, and my best ones. The pit doesn't care how I'm feeling or how I feel about it, it just wants more forever and ever. Going in an endless cycle until there's nothing left of me to throw in. I can't tell anyone about it, and the shame regarding it makes me want to not look at myself in the mirror. It doesn't feel like me. This is how this addiction feels for me. I had such a great day today around friends and family, and yet here I am again. In that familiar feeling I've dealt with since nine years old. And it's a feeling I face alone. I can't take this for the rest of my life. I just can't. I've never had anything else be so endlessly pervasive and destructive for me. I just want to cry. When you've been trying to stop doing something forever but no matter what you always come back to it, it feels so hopeless. I hadn't relapsed in almost two weeks as well. I was doing so good. No one understands this addiction, I wish it was normal to talk about like other addictions.

I just turned 23, and I am at point in my life where I'm just tired. My porn consumption started when I was 12, then continued on as I kept going through more life. My mother died when I was 13 and had to leave my abusive father when I was 9. I developed somewhat of a dependency on porn after my mother's death. I have had to move thru many different countries since then and I finally ended up in the US for college where Im able to take advantage of the opportunities here.

I started realizing that I really like and naturally understand science, on top of all, I love people. So I pursued pre-med route throughout my undergrad career and now I'm applying to med school in America. However, I'm really tired of my past and my story, I almost feel like a functioning alcoholic but instead of the alcohol it's women and pornography. Like I'm a bird flying over storming clouds unaware of the future consequences of sleeping with women and consuming porn everyday. What pushed me to feel so tired is that I really like a girl and it's been going well, but I keep being so hard on myself about whether I would be able to be faithful to her in the future. I feel inhibited by my own thoughts.

Im gonna be working in healthcare as I'm applying to med school, I still am seeing a girl I met at a bar a month ago and I don't know if I wanna end things despite the shame I carry each time we do things. I've been thinking of seeing a psychiatrist, but I don't know if I can afford treatment or anything further. I'm tired of feeling shitty all the time.

Recently, I even had a thought that maybe getting an STD from one of the women I've been sleeping with can end this pursuit of lust and pornography. I wanna make it clear that I am not suicidal and would never consider it because I have a lot of love to give for the people in my future, it's just thoughts.

Thank you in advance for taking the time to read this and share your honest advice.

My husband and I have been together for 4 years and married for 2.

For the last 3.5 years, I’ve been the primary breadwinner, making six figures while working remotely. I never minded supporting him while he got on his feet, but at what point does “getting on your feet” become the new normal?

Before we got married, I already owned a home, had a car, savings, investments, and a stable career. He didn’t bring much financially, but I believed in his potential. Looking back, I think I enabled him.

When we first met, he worked in nightlife, and there was lying and emotional cheating (flirty messages with other women). I gave him an ultimatum to quit or lose me. To his credit, he quit, became transparent, and infidelity has not been an issue since.

Over the years, he’s tried several careers. We even opened a business together that I funded, and I lost my investment. He later got into life insurance, which I also financially supported, but after selling to friends and family, he didn’t put in the effort to continue growing it. Meanwhile, I never had the luxury of quitting jobs. There were times I worked two jobs just to keep us afloat.

We built a house that I essentially funded. He said it would motivate him to work harder, but he only got a job a month ago after I told him I might get laid off (which wasn’t true…I was trying to create urgency).

While I’m glad he’s finally working after all these years, I don’t trust he can keep It, and, it’s low-paying commission work that doesn’t come close to covering our expenses. If something happened to me today, I honestly don’t think he could support our household, not even half of our expenses.

I’ve also tried helping him pursue better opportunities, even in my field. I’ve helped friends and family build successful remote careers, but he hasn’t shown the same drive. I’ve always been ambitious, motivated, and career-focused. I thought some of that drive would rub off on him over the years, but it never really has.

To be fair, he’s genuinely kind. He opens doors for me, buys me flowers, is affectionate, and we’re honestly best friends. We rarely argue, he’s never been abusive, and I truly believe he loves me.

After years of asking, he now helps around the house more, which I appreciate. When he has money, he’ll occasionally buy me gifts or pay for dinner. But most of the time, I’m still paying for everything. There have even been times I’ve sent him money so he could pay in public because I didn’t want him to feel embarrassed. Despite all of that, I still carry the financial, mental, and emotional load. I don’t want to be the sole provider while also managing everything else.

He tells me I’m impatient, that I need to be more understanding, and that things will get better because marriage is about sticking it out. He also says me being the primary breadwinner has hurt his confidence and pride. I understand that, but after years of waiting, I’m emotionally drained. I feel like I’ve poured into his cup for so long that mine is now empty.

In his mind, he’s a good husband because he doesn’t cheat, treats me well, buys me flowers, opens doors, and isn’t abusive. He also feels that now that he’s finally working, I should be satisfied. But to me, being a good husband is more than simply not doing bad things. I need a true partner, someone who can help build and sustain the life we both want. So I can rest a little.

I’m also scared to have children with him, because I already feel like I’m carrying one adult. I worry I’d end up financially and mentally responsible for him and our kids.

Our sex life also isn’t great. He struggled with porn in the past and claims he’s over it now, but our intimacy has never fully recovered.

The biggest issue is that I feel more like his manager than his wife. I’m always planning ahead, solving problems, motivating him, and carrying the responsibility. I kept believing that if I loved him enough, supported him enough, and stayed patient, he’d become the man I knew he could be. I’m starting to realize that ambition and drive have to come from within.

I’ve reached the point where I’m resentful. I recently left our home and spent a month with my brothers in another state just to get space. I’ve never done anything like that before, and it made me realize how unhappy I’ve become.

I know the grass isn’t greener on the other side, but of late, I have been romanticizing my single life and all that I was able to accomplish on my own.

Am I expecting too much from a partner, or have I simply stayed too long? Would you continue hoping things improve, or would you leave?

I've been masterbating for 5 years now. I can't stop I'm throwing away my future my life away I'm only 15 years old. And I've I'm so useless because of my addiction I can't stop nothing beats the urge. I can't do anything about it. And when I stop for a good 10 days I only feel worst more sad numb depressed tired for no reason. I genuinely hate lust but can't stop no matter what and it's slowly consuming my life away taking away all my potential. Im so isolated and lost my social skills because of it im so akward because of lust. Please help me asap it's ruining my life my days it's ruining everything. I have mental problems because of it. I have physical problems because of it to. I have blurry vision, weakened bones, no drive motivation , always tired drained brain fog 24/7, lost of smell and taste. Someone help me overcome lust

I get too stressed and anxious when using dating apps or texting potential date. So much I relapse few days ago. Being going at it since. Feel like I lost all my progress.

I don't want to stop OLD but it's just not good for my mental health. It's been only a week since I've re-downloaded them.

How do you guys cope when it comes to dating while having this addiction? I have a hard time acting "nonchalant", like it doesn't matter to me.

Day 7 without pornography and day 3 without chatbots

It's been really difficult, but reaching this milestone feels so good to me! I'm genuinely proud of myself

Today was a really boring day to be honest, I spent most of the day either sleeping or helping my mom with her work

Tomorrow I go back to school and I can't wait to see my friends again after two weeks off, going back to studying will help me a lot tbh

Today I didn't feel much like watching pornography, but the urge to go back to chatbots is HORRIBLE. Like genuine hell

But anyways, I'm happy to be getting better! And I hope everyone is getting better too

Just wanted to post because I don’t really have anybody to talk to about this. As the title says I’ve been two weeks clean. I think this might be the longest I’ve been clean for prolly the whole span of my addiction, which I think is around at least 10 years. Today was tough, was having a lot of urges. Stuck in my house alone, but decided to take my sister up on her offer to hang out. Which helped take my mind off things. I was wondering though, can you masterbait without watching porn and still be considered clean? Because porn is the problem right ? Although I think it could lead you to watch porn if ur not careful. Want to hear y’all’s thoughts

I (M) had a really open, honest conversation with a good friend recently about porn and where we're both at with it. It didn't go badly, but it left me more confused than before, and I think I need outside perspective.

Some background: I've been watching porn for a long time. It has varied over time, when I'm more stressed and in difficult seasons it was daily, but when I'm back home it's more like every 2-7 days. I've tried to quit before. Never successfully though, it's kind of always been there since I've started in one way or another.

Now here's the part that's messing with me, my friend and I see porn completely differently. I've always seen it as an addiction, something that I can't escape, and that I've been trying and trying without any progress. But they pointed out that I hype it up way to much. That I treat it like this insurmountable thing, when maybe it isn't.

That's what I need some help on. I feel lost in what to do about it, like how to go on just stopping.

In the past I've tried cold turkey, all sorts of wisdom methods, easing it off etc. But all along is it actually as hard to quit as I've always told myself? Have I been giving it more power that it deserves? Or is shrugging it off how I've stayed stuck. I genuinely don't know anymore which framing is true or if I've just been going with the one that is more convenient. Maybe I'm just stuck up in my thoughts with no action, because I've been "TRYING" to quit porn, but have never actually quit. Trying isn't doing, I've just continued with porn.

I don't know. After that conversation I just feel especially down and feeling like I need to do something about it. I have a gf, and it bother them a lot that I'm struggling with it too, less about the struggle but more about the fact that I do it. I just feel like shit. Like I don't want to do it but I always find myself doing it.

For people who've quit, did you start thinking about it differently? does that actually matter, or was it just taking action?

Hi, I never thought i was addicted even tho I masturbated even 4 times a day sometimes but now in trying to quit or, at least, pass from x times daily to only sometimes a week. I look for some signs online and I began to worry about me not having any typical morning erection for years. How bad is my situation???

Soon i'll tie my previous record. 5 days until science says the addiction is broken. I know it likely isnt the case but i hope that its true

Just to give some context, i’m a teenager and i understand that it’s fairly normal for a teenager to be addicted to masturbating but honestly i’m tired of it. It’s become to the point where it’s super frequent and i honestly don’t like doing it but for some odd reason i just can’t stay away from it. To help take my mind off if (which never works) i workout every single day and compete in strongman and i take walks and runs but i just can’t seem to break away from it. If anybody can give any good advice please let me know i feel like it’s ruining me and my teenage years.

I discovered my bf porn addiction 4 months ago.
He was deep in trans porn, cams and messages on Kik to trans women. Purely sexual and no emotions.

I am so blindsided. Our sex life was amazing he was affectionate, caring loving. I’m so destroyed about this. He claims he’s not gay or bi. He claims he never started out watching these categories and it escalated into this.

I really need to hear from straight men who this has happened to. He is currently in therapy and desperately wants us to work out. I just don’t know how.

If this is porn addiction is it possible to recover? Did it affect your sexuality?

I 23m have been trying to stop using porn and improve my life. I have a dream of being a husband and father one day. I fear that dream will die if I never truly get rid of this addiction. I’ve noticed for me I just have a super high sex drive and being single for a while makes it hard to not want sex. I think about sex all the time and wanting to have it. I do know that I also deeply desire a deep emotional connection with a woman with the physical. I guess I simply desire to connect with someone.

So about a year ago I had very vivid dreams about quitting porn & cam sites. But around that time I figured out also you can talk to AI like ChatGPT about problems. I like opened up on chatGPT about my issues and everything I have done regarding this subject. It helped me out a lot letting all of it out. I have had some relapses since ,kind of getting off one now, but it seems like they have been fewer and farther in between and shorter and less taboo. So hopefully maybe that can help someone.