Hi, does it ever get to a point where you know you've overcome the habbit of watching porn, I've been clean for 2 weeks today and feel fine without it and not need for it as I can do it with my imagination. Can it go after this short amount of time? Im also not sure that going through a breakup has also forced me into not wanting to watch it as it caused the breakup?
Any thoughts would be appreciated.
why is sexuality something that I run away from?, I mean whenevr I see smthn sexually provoking the first thought in my mind is to avoid it or run away from it, and im feeling so non sexual and completely abandoned by sexual health. I hardly masturbated 2 times in one year and I am proud of it to control my sexual urges and focus on my life but also I dont last long enough so start stop technique and training sessions require me to ejaculate. and this is because I was a gooner and an addict previously and I got off that ugly world and stepped into the real world but I dont know what to choose. whether to continue to be a celibate and a lazer focused man, or get back into the terriotory of erotica but train myself to last longer.
This is probably the longest ive gone without porn in years and im holding fairly strong. The urges are strong these days but im in the mountains right now with very little Internet so that helps alot. I posted it this community on day 8 or so and you guys helped alot to keep me motivated!
I don't have anyone to talk to to take my mind off things, so I need help
I’ve been two weeks without porn, today I jerked off thinking about a normak video of my crush, but without thinking anything related to porn, so does it count as relapse?
Its day 8 and i've had alot of time to think. I always wondered why i chose to keep doing it but i've found the answer.
I feel lonely. I am a quite social person and aren't exactly unlucky with women but it was never those i wanted to be with. I have had one girlfriend and i loved loving her. Getting her things,being nice to her etc. After all the drama however i was left alone. Chasing the feeling of love again without success. I felt a void that i filled with AI.
A horrible decision. Ive never like AI, its always been the one thing i've been unapolagetic about. Yet for some reason i used the one thing i hated to fill the void.
I'm better now. I'm not going to use any of this ever again. Never ever let yourself fall to these lies. I filled my heart with false niceties to fill a necessary void.
Hello. I (mid-30s M) have been trying to quit porn for years. More specifically, I have used porn for almost 25 years except for a break from about 2011-2013 when I was in a serious relationship. Probably not coincidentally, that relationship began after I quit, and I feel my decision to start using porn again contributed to it ending and has made it harder for me to find a partner since. It’s exacerbated my social anxiety, encouraging me to avoid talking to women since I can just jerk off at home to an essentially infinite supply of photos, gifs, and videos. And that has caused greater isolation, making me more depressed.
I’ve been struggling to quit for about six years now and have gone as long as three months a few years ago. I really feel committed to it (I started seeing a therapist specializing in sexual health), and it’s been more than three weeks since I used porn.
I do have a few things where I feel like advice from others who have been in similar situations could help. Should I refrain from masturbation and if so for how long?
Next, in a fit of desperation and feeling “naughty” I bought a bunch of sex toys about a month ago. More specifically, I purchased 40 fleshlights. That’s like $2500. I regret it, and not just because I would rather have the money back. I haven’t even used all of them. What should I do with this collection? It feels like such a waste to just throw them out but I don’t want to hinder my recovery.
Finally, how long might it take to reset my brain? It seems it probably could be about a year. It’s discouraging to think it might take that long, but I really believe porn has negatively impacted my life. Thanks for your consideration.
I’ve been finding value in this community, but I’ve had some negative experiences with unsolicited DMs.
Are there any similar communities or support groups specifically for women that have a verification process to keep things private and safe? I would love to connect with other women on this journey in a space where I don’t have to worry about my inbox.
Thanks in advance for any recommendations.
Hi everyone,
I'm in week 3 of my month-long attempt to quit watching pornography/masturbating. I've tried to quit many times over the past 3 years, and this has been the most comfortable and controlled attempt so far, I felt few urges and was able to control what came up. I also noticed the real benefits: increased self-confidence, better focus, and my lifts in the gym have been going up. My plan was to continue this series for much longer than a month.
Then last night, on day 21, I had a wet dream and woke up in the middle of ejaculating.
Logically, I know the facts: I didn't watch pornography, I didn't touch myself, and it was just my body's natural ejaculation because I hadn't ejaculated in weeks. Technically, I didn't break any of my rules. But part of me still thinks this series is "ruined," and I'm worried this feeling will turn into the classic "I've already failed" mentality.
So here are my questions:
When you had wet dreams during your series, how did you frame it mentally?
Did these dreams occur more or less frequently over time?
Do you have any advice on how to silence that irrational "I failed" voice before it actually causes harm?
My main goal is to quit pornography entirely, and that part is fine. I just want to hear how others handled this moment.
Thanks.
I relapsed after almost 12 days without porn, the reason I relapsed was because my mood felt I guess worser and I'm afraid to get mentally ill as I've had psychosis and have bipolar, I'm afraid the dopamine effects of not using porn which I've used since I was 13 or 14 will mean my dopamine wil mess in my mind and I'll get ill...
I'm not being anti masturbation. As a matter of fact , I don't think I can stop it. I want to be able to more easily enjoy penetrative sex with a condom and gain my sensitivity back. I can't make it more than like 1 or 2 days without "peeking" at porn. How do you stop giving into the extreme urges when you get them?
I wanna buy a pocket pussy
i wanna buy 1 because i used to have one but my dad found out about and threw it away. it’s been 5 months without it and i keep thinking about it because it brought joy to my day everyday since i bought it and got it taken away. (ps im old enough to have a permit) should i get 1 or no
For the longest time I thought I kept relapsing because I wasn't disciplined enough so every time I failed I promised myself I'd "try harder" next time it never worked eventually I realized something:
I wasn't fighting porn
I was fighting the way my brain had learned to respond to stress boredom loneliness and anxiety porn was just the symptom once I started understanding the habit instead of simply resisting it things slowly began to change
I'm not saying discipline doesn't matter it does but discipline without understanding feels like pushing a car with the handbrake on
I'm curious... what was the biggest mindset shift that actually helped your recovery?
Running into a pattern I can’t quite get past. When I masturbate without any visual stuff it just gets boring fast, the interest fades pretty quick. But if I go too long without orgasming at all, I get this flat, low mood, what people call flatlining around here. Weirdly it doesn’t keep getting worse the longer I hold out, it plateaus after about 10-14 days and just sits at that lower baseline.
So it feels like I’m stuck between two options that both kind of suck: keep masturbating and it feels increasingly empty, or abstain and deal with the mood dip. Has anyone actually worked through this specific combo long term? What helped, beyond just white-knuckling the first week or two?
I wanna buy a pocket pussy
i wanna buy 1 because i used to have one but my dad found out about and threw it away. it’s been 5 months without it and i keep thinking about it because it brought joy to my day everyday since i bought it and got it taken away. (ps im old enough to have a permit) should i get 1 or no
This shit is so fucking terrible man idk what to say. Its fucking me up so bad im sorry. I dont feel like a good person anymore. i cant lower my gaze. porn has ruined my mind. I often have dirty thoughts and I wish i could stop that. i have been addicted to porn for years and it only gets worse. im not doing in person therapy im ashamed. does anyone know anything i can do online? thanks
I'm 22 yrs old and have been watching porn almost daily since I was 9-10 years old. It has been a constant struggle, source of shame and blight upon my life. I hate it so much, it has robbed me of so much joy and connection and is one of the major reasons I actively avoid getting into a relationship.
I have tried to quit more times then I can count, sometimes more successful than others. But honestly, I don't think I've gone more than 2-3 weeks without watching porn for over 10 years. Yesterday I was camping for my birthday and decided that it was time I stop for good, but here I am staying up late watching YouTube to distract myself from the urge to watch it. It feels like such an impossible task but if I don't do it now then I never will, and it will rob me of my life.
I'm here asking for any tips anyone has or advice that you would give to yourself if you were back at the starting line. I'm also curious as to whether its' important to stop masturbating altogether, or if just abstinence from porn is ok.
Thanks in advance, M.
i’ve (20) quit porn for about a month now. now i only watch homemade videos of my girlfriend and sometimes ill look at art or cartoons, but recently i decided to quit those (the cartoons and art, im still looking at videos of my girlfriend and i) too even though my girlfriend said she’s comfortable with me viewing them. i no longer have the desire to watch porn.
i think i was imagining i would get superpowers once i quit porn but nothing happened. my already bad libido isn’t fixed (which is especially embarrassing as a male) and i’m not any less depressed than before. i’ve heavily used porn since i was 14 and i think i expected myself to struggle to quit but when i actually tried i could do it just fine.
i’m now looking into other addictions that seem normal like video games and fast food to see where else i need to improve.
is there a logical next step? did i miss something? did anyone else feel the same before and after?
So im off porn for nearly a month now, and sensitivity has increased by a crazy amount, like i can barely last a few minutes now. I genuinely forgot how good sex is actually meant to feel lmao, it was suuuper numb before compared to this. I think erections are slightly better but nothing crazy
What are u guys’ experience with sensitivity? And how long did it take u guys to get full raging boners again?
Hi, I'm 27F. Looking for female accountability partners if there are any. I know it's not common as most of these spaces tend to be catered to men. I' ve suffered from significant past trauma which has led to compulsive PMO, there are days when it's all I do and it's affecting my work. This has led to some dark additions and fantasies. I have been told to seek professional therapy but I feel I'd rather try and deal with it myself before resorting to that. If there are any other females struggling with this, I'd appreciate it. I prefer not to have male partners as in the past it tended to make my struggles worse. Thank you for listening and for any support.