u/noufellaamouri

I used to watch porn guys and I’ve into a relationship with this girls right
So we had sex a lot
And while we finish
My penis feels numb; I can't feel the front half at all. Everytime
I also experience a drop in energy and lingering fatigue in the days that follow. Furthermore, I find myself highly distracted by women and constantly craving sex. The way my brain reacts to normal sex feels identical to watching porn, only much more intense.

I see a lot of things on social media that I rarely see reflected in real life, especially when it comes to men and women.
And honestly, sometimes I ask myself: what happened to us?
I see women who have been hurt by men, betrayed, manipulated, cheated on, abandoned, or treated badly. And yes, some men are genuinely toxic. Some are abusive. Some hate women. Some manipulate and destroy people emotionally. That is real, and it should not be minimized.
But something else is also happening.
Sometimes one bad experience becomes a hatred of an entire gender.
You get hurt by one man, then another, and eventually you start consuming content from people who tell you that all men are trash, that men cannot be trusted, that relationships are pointless, and that hating men is somehow empowering.
You keep watching it.
You keep liking it.
You keep following people who are angry, bitter, and emotionally broken.
And slowly, without even realizing it, their pain becomes your worldview.
That isn’t healing.
That’s how hurt turns into hate.
And hate doesn’t stay in one place. It spreads.
A woman gets hurt by a man → she develops resentment → she treats the next man with suspicion or hostility → he gets hurt → he develops resentment toward women → another woman gets treated badly → she becomes even more bitter.
And the cycle continues.
The uncomfortable truth is that being a victim does not automatically make someone a good person.
You can be genuinely hurt and still become toxic.
You can be mistreated and later learn to manipulate people yourself.
You can have been betrayed and then start betraying others.
You can have been emotionally abused and eventually use emotional manipulation against someone else.
And sometimes people hide behind the victim label to avoid taking responsibility for the damage they cause.
That’s the part nobody likes to talk about.
Some manipulative women use guilt, emotional blackmail, constant victimization, silent treatment, jealousy, playing innocent after provoking someone, weaponizing someone’s feelings, or constantly moving the blame onto others.
And yes, men do the exact same things.
Manipulation doesn’t have a gender.
Toxicity doesn’t have a gender.
Neither does accountability.
Being hurt explains why someone became defensive, angry, distrustful, or bitter.
It does not give them permission to hurt innocent people.
At some point, you have to look in the mirror and ask:
“Am I still dealing with what happened to me, or am I making other people pay for what someone else did?”
That’s where real healing begins.
Not by hating men.
Not by hating women.
Not by surrounding yourself with people who constantly feed your anger.
And not by turning your trauma into an identity.
Heal with people who genuinely love you. Talk to your family. Talk to good friends. Get professional help if you need it. Take time alone. Learn yourself. Understand your patterns. Accept that you can be both a victim of someone’s behavior and responsible for your own behavior afterward.
And this applies to men too.
Men need to stop pretending that every woman is the enemy because they were rejected, cheated on, or manipulated.
Women need to stop pretending that every man is the enemy because they were hurt by one or several men.
There are terrible men.
There are terrible women.
There are also incredibly good men and incredibly good women.
Don’t punish good people for the crimes of bad people.
And don’t let social media convince you that your hatred is wisdom.
Because the algorithm doesn’t care if you heal.
It cares if you keep watching.
Anger gets engagement.
Division gets engagement.
“Men vs women” gets engagement.
People who are peacefully building healthy relationships don’t usually spend their entire day making content about how much they hate the opposite sex.
Real life is different.
There are men who want to love, protect, provide, grow, communicate, and build something meaningful.
There are women who want to love, support, build, communicate, and grow with someone.
There are people who actually want peace.
Maybe we just don’t see them as much because peace isn’t as entertaining to the algorithm as war
So to the women with good hearts: don’t let bitter people teach you to hate good men.
And to the men with good hearts: don’t let bitter men teach you to hate good women.
We need each other.
Not because men are incomplete without women or women are incomplete without men, but because healthy relationships between good people can create families, businesses, communities, friendships, ideas, and futures that neither side could build alone.
We don’t need another gender war.
We need accountability.
We need self-awareness.
We need emotional maturity.
We need to stop glorifying our wounds and start healing them.
Because if you don’t heal your pain, eventually you’ll make someone else bleed from a wound they never created
And then they’ll carry that wound to someone else.
That’s how the cycle continues.
So break it.
Take responsibility.
Heal.
Love people who deserve your love.
Walk away from people who are genuinely toxic.
And stop confusing hatred with strength.
MAKE LOVE, NOT WAR. ❤️
And no, I’m not saying I’m a perfect man.
I’m not.
I’m saying there are good men out there.
Just like there are good women.
The goal shouldn’t be to prove which gender is worse.
The goal should be to become better human beings.

Hi everyone
I’m 25M
Well it is not easy for me to say this but yes I will say it
Before getting addicted to porn I was a very extrovert person very social very confident I could to anyone on the street without thinking even for a sec on other people thinking abt me I can make a whole conversation very easily and for approaching ladies that was the easy part I can’t go to any girl I like she can be a star or an actress or whatever and I will approach her like she’s just another girl and I will ask her for her number no stress no fear of rejection no nothing
But after porn I couldn’t even make eye contact like for real porn destroyed me and It makes me sad and angry at the same time this is bad guys I even sometimes look at the mirror and don’t recognise my self anymore porn made me weak and waiting for others approval like WTF I’ve never been like this and the bad thing is in My country there’s no social therapy for this kind of addiction so u have to deal with it at your own I couldn’t even focus on one task for 30 minutes my brain is cooked and it made me very lazy not wanting to do anything I couldn’t even go out for walk because I think people would not like me this way this bad bad very bad
This just crossed my mind and wanted to share it here and there’s much more stuff but I don’t want to make long so Yes happy to share this with y’all and hope u all the best thanks for being as beautiful as you are and you are amazing

I’ve been reflecting on how dating culture in our community is evolving. On one hand, many of us want modern partnerships built on emotional reciprocity, deep communication, and shared responsibilities. On the other, cultural traditions, family involvement, and classic gender expectations still carry heavy weight.
For those actively dating or in relationships: How do you balance honoring your roots without feeling constrained by old-school mindsets? What’s one traditional value you deeply cherish, and one you’ve completely left behind?"

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