r/introverts

Going way back now. Would you say that the internet actually “enabled” you? Sure, you were always an introvert, but without that tech outlet at your disposal, how did you cope?

Can you please provide some insight ?
A bit of an empath , old soul here . How is it that no matter who I help , how many good ideas I have , I get ignored ? My ideas get rebranded , down played as my own. I’m speaking at work . Being who I am , this doesn’t bother me. However it does make me wonder “why” ??
Why do people so quickly ignore and forget what I do for them ? Are they jealous of my position ??
Anything you can provide to help me understand this is much appreciated . Thank you

Im 44yo and in the past few years I have really embraced solitude in nature far more than I ever thought I would.

One of my favourite things has become embedding myself in nature by myself during sunny days from late autumn to early spring. I get considerable pleasure from feeling the gentle winter sunlight on my skin while drinking a coffee or wine while watching the sunlight glistening meditatively on the water at a beach or laid on a picnic blanket in the grass in a park staring at the lush green leaves rustling in the wind.

I get such an energy recharge from this. And i get such gratitude from staring at bright blue skies especially contrasted against buildings or greenery. I can rest like this for hours whilst alternating between reading a book intermittently and staring at nature.

Im a bit naughty that on days off I do like to drink half a bottle of wine while doing this in parks or at a beach. The buzz amplifies the experience. But I can still enjoy the bliss without that too,.

I cant believe I missed out on this in the past. i always felt I needed to get people to go with me to these places or do something more active or social. But I just get such an enormous buzz from doing this alone and feel really grateful.

Does anyone else do this and get a similar feeling?

I can’t be the only one , I work 3rd shift by myself , I trade off with the 2nd shift (3 shifts) I barely say all of greeting minimal as possible and disappear soon as I can before they can drive away

First shift comes in same thing , I know him a little more so I’m a little more talkative , probably not by much

Not that it should matter but I’m sure they think I’m either pissed off don’t care or whatever but to me work is WORK ,

Theirs a saying about work and co workers aren’t your friend , do your job get paid , go home . But I could at least try to be more social or likely not

I recently rekindled a decent friendship with a introvert (I sometimes forget she's one) and things has been going well due to our easy going conversations and communication. Or if certain dates are not possible to hang out, we rearrange them for another time. Next week though, she will be joining me on a roadtrip between her and I for 4 days (during her off time) and totally left it up to me to dictate the trip, stated she will go with the flow which kinda surprised me. So r/introverts, have I totally gained her trust in me? Anyways, in what ways do you show to others after letting your guard down?

Besides being a confirmed introvert, I long ago reached the conclusion that I just really don't like people. Please don't misinterpret my statement as I don't wish ill of anyone and generally hope people are happy and fulfilled. That said, I think a lot of people are just trash and over the years, I've had my fill of mean spirited, passive-aggressive, toxic coworkers. Honestly, if I never had human contact again, I really don't think I would feel at a loss.

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Okay, I'm a 17 year old girl who at some point was an extrovert, this was right before covid, I used to be outside playing with my friends all the time (probs not even an extrovert/introvert thing, I was a kid haha) but after covid hit, well, I became more distant and shy especially with my classmates. I used to not even get up from my seat until all classes were finished and my classmates did not waste time to try and include me in "their stuff" and I became lonely, I had one friend and she is still my one and only BEST friend (so thankful for her) and I'm pretty sure I did not make a single friend for 3-4 years, Yeah, I blame myself for this but not entirely me, no one used to invite me to their bday parties or when they just went out. Anyway, timelapse to now, I am graduating in about 2 weeks, I made some new friends thanks to tutoring groups but the problem is I am still very lonely. I cry every week because of how introverted I am (well how introverted i become with other people) and thanks to that I can not even think of what to say when I am with my new friends. I cry cause I am scared of losing them because of, again, me and before you guys say: "you should accept who you are" and stuff like this, I KNOW FOR A FACT I can be an extrovert and I that is my actual actual personality but i just dont know how, being an extrovert is all I have ever wanted, when I am with my sister I am the best version of myself, I am truly ME, annoying, loud, funny, I legit cannot stop talking but when I am with other people (also depends with who) my mind goes blank, I wanna talk more (not that i just sit in silence all the time) but I do not know what, i try to say stuff about the topic they talk about but it just feels like I am filling a blank just to acomplish some kind of a task I gave myself (which is basically "fake it till you make it" type of thing and it does not work for me). I just want to forget about what others think of me and be a playful, funny and the real version of me but I can't. I know this is something I have to fix and no one else can but literally any advice will do hehe. I really do not wanna lose the new friends i made, they are great people and with my actual personality I know we can be a great match. (Forgive me if there are any grammar mistakes hehe, I wrote this really quickly, P.S I just came back from my tutor class and after we usually hang out in the park and I used to say stuff but these past two days when I tried to force myself to be an extrovert I fail fucking miserably, I said like 3 fucking words I really dont know what happened today).