u/RepulsiveMidnight574

he’s had depression throughout his life (so have i) but because of it he’s done a lot of self destructive things. we never had porn issues until recently we hadn’t had sex in a while, and i found out he had relapsed on a previous porn addiction (he lied to me that he didn’t watch porn). specifically it’s a lot of porn about being cheated on.
i just put it together this week and i think this fetish is why he keeps sabotaging our relationship. he will read through all my texts with past hookups, he read through my diary from years before i met him. his depression will get worse because of it and he’ll get off to the idea of me being with other men. he convinced himself i cheated on him and went through like a psychotic episode about it. he did things like this when he was sad and insecure, gets off to it, and gets even more sad about it. he has had very bad depression throughout his life and sabotaged all his ex relationships. he’s cheated to make them want to get revenge, and gets off to the feeling of being sad. he convinces himself that he’s poor/small/pathetic and gets off to that, gets sad about it, and continues.
has anyone dealt with anything similar?

i’m the gf of someone on this subreddit. just seeking advice from others

we never had porn issues until recently we hadn’t had sex in a while, and i found out he had relapsed on a previous porn addiction (he lied to me that he didn’t watch porn). specifically it’s a lot of cuck porn.
i never knew he was into this bc he’s always been really dominant, vanilla sex. we had a really good sex life, averaging like 2x a day and sometimes doing it 10 times in a day. it was always very wholesome, like telling each other i love you / i only want to be with you / etc. it’s so crazy to me that he’s into being cucked, it’s usually what he watches
but the real problem is that i think this fetish is why he keeps sabotaging our relationship. he will read through all my texts with past hookups, he read through my diary from years before i met him. he’ll get off to the idea of me being with other men. he convinced himself cheated on him and went through like a psychotic episode about it. i he did things like this when he was sad and insecure, gets off to it, and gets even more sad about it. he has had very bad depression throughout his life and sabotaged all his ex relationships. he’s cheated to make them want to get revenge, and gets off to the feeling of being sad. he convinces himself that he’s poor/small/pathetic and gets off to that, gets sad about it, and continues.
has anyone dealt with anything similar? it’s so strange to me, i don’t know if this is common

i am the gf of a porn addict, seeking advice

we never had porn issues until recently we hadn’t had sex in a while, and i found out he had relapsed on a previous porn addiction (he lied to me that he didn’t watch porn). specifically it’s a lot of cuck porn.
i never knew he was into this bc he’s always been really dominant, vanilla sex. we had a really good sex life, averaging like 2x a day and sometimes doing it 10 times in a day. it was always very wholesome, like telling each other i love you / i only want to be with you / etc. it’s so crazy to me that he’s into being cucked, it’s usually what he watches
but the real problem is that i think this fetish is why he keeps sabotaging our relationship. he will read through all my texts with past hookups, he read through my diary from years before i met him. he’ll get off to the idea of me being with other men. he convinced himself cheated on him and went through like a psychotic episode about it. i he did things like this when he was sad and insecure, gets off to it, and gets even more sad about it. he has had very bad depression throughout his life and sabotaged all his ex relationships. he’s cheated to make them want to get revenge, and gets off to the feeling of being sad. he convinces himself that he’s poor/small/pathetic and gets off to that, gets sad about it, and continues.
has anyone dealt with anything similar? it’s so strange to me, i don’t know if this is common

this is from my pov as the girlfriend of someone who is on this subreddit. i’m just trying to understand what other similar experiences there could be, since he tells me this is an issue he’s struggled with all his life. he says he doesn’t want to watch porn, porn made him like the cuck fetish, and the cuck fetish is what makes him sabotage this relationship

we never had porn issues until recently we hadn’t had sex in a while, and i found out he had relapsed on a previous porn addiction (he lied to me that he didn’t watch porn). specifically it’s a lot of cuck porn.
i never knew he was into this bc he’s always been really dominant, vanilla sex. we had a really good sex life, averaging like 2x a day and sometimes doing it 10 times in a day. it was always very wholesome, like telling each other i love you / i only want to be with you / etc. it’s so crazy to me that he’s into being cucked, it’s usually what he watches
but the real problem is that i think this fetish is why he keeps sabotaging our relationship. he will read through all my texts with past hookups, he read through my diary from years before i met him. he’ll get off to the idea of me being with other men. he convinced himself cheated on him and went through like a psychotic episode about it. i he did things like this when he was sad and insecure, gets off to it, and gets even more sad about it. he has had very bad depression throughout his life and sabotaged all his ex relationships. he’s cheated to make them want to get revenge, and gets off to the sadness of being cheated on. he convinces himself that he’s poor/small/pathetic and gets off to that, gets sad about it, and continues.
has anyone dealt with anything similar? it’s so strange to me, i don’t know if this is common