I was gonna say “if you’re a gamer who doesn’t exercise, you’re a loser” but actually I think that might be a bit over the top. Being lazy doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you morally and it is something you can fix. So if someone calls you lazy you can just say “hey, you’re right” without taking it as an insult (if you’re one of these people)
Is it just me or is the pokies style gambling seeping into everything. I just watched an ad for coles. Spend $50 and be in to win at the self checkout, or something to that effect. Everything seems to be this instant gambling dopamine hit. I see it everywhere, in everything. Has it always been this bad? If it has just been a thing in recent years, why isn't it getting more attention?
I'm 17 and I am starting my last year at school which means A-levels. But I have a serious problem of gaming, especially the game RUST. I could play from 10am to 2am easily without necessity breaks such as food and bathroom. I find video games as a way to escape reality during the hard times but this has severely impacted my grades and willingness to study. I find myself uninstalling/reinstalling not a week later. I really don't know what to do as I love playing games and I have no idea how to just stop.
Hi my name is Anthony and recently I have retired from Video Games. I wasn’t absurdly addicted to them but I did play a lot for the past ten years on many different devices but I have recently decided to move on and begin to explore other aspects of life and what’s to be offered. I hope to have a very pleasant and productive experience with everyone in this community as we work through one of our most prized hobbies unfortunately for some turned into addictions. Thank you for having me and I hope you all have a wonderful evening & god bless. :)
I've had games I genuinely loved but eventually stopped playing.
Sometimes it's the community, sometimes the updates, sometimes it just stops feeling fun.
What's usually the thing that makes you finally quit a game you used to enjoy?
Is it bad that I feel like I'm betraying my PS5? Lol, sounds lame as fuck but I haven't played my PS5 in awhile. I turn it on, only to turn it off within 15 mins because I get so bored. It's not even that it's a waste of time, I'm just starting to realize that I'm chasing "trophies" for no apparent reason. I feel like just trading in my PS5 or selling it completely but maybe that's an irrational decision but I also don't want to be tempted by it just sitting there. It's legit collecting dust.
I'm done with 2K, I already feel like I've played the best games in my opinion. Red Dead Redemption 2, Ghosts of Tsushima, Arkham Knight, Farming Simulator 25...what's left? GTA 6..I'll pass.
I don't know why I'm posting this, I just wanted reassurance that this is a good change, a good thing..a shift towards a better tomorrow.
I'm a little Twitch streamer and since I started streaming 2 years ago I have build up a 500+ follower stream, a little discord community with some nice and kind people gaming with me. I'm streaming/gaming 5 times a week with streams usually lasting 3 to 4 hours.
Now there are changes in my life, the situation with my family changed dramatically and now I have to support my mom and family who is living quite a distance away with chores being around etc. That means beside my beside my 9to5 job I won't have any time and strength to continue streaming/gaming anymore.
I will have to give everything up what I have built over these years including leaving all the nice people behind. I don't know how many people will leave my twitch or discord and seeing everything I have built decaying over time is breaking my heart.
Since I know this I'm constantly crying but I know I have to go this way.
Did you experience something similar or do you have something that could help me ? I'm thankful for any comment ❤️
I recently, about 24 hours ago, deleted a game. I thought it would be easier but I keep thinking in a few hours I will lose my 951 day streak of continuously playing and that I am getting behind. It was too consuming, and I was definitely addicted. I keep wanting to redownload the game. Any tips or advice on letting it go for good?
I have created a program that is designed to help you stay off your games. I have been banned from other subreddits because apparently this is self promotion or whatever, seriously, reddit mods, fu. This was just a thing that I created for myself and wanted to share if it can help others. So I'll say it again, I am making zero profit, zero fame, zero anything from this. I just want to help. Now that I know that simply creating this fucking post can earn me bans, I have become too lazy to explain what it is. If anyone is interested, either just read the wiki or ask me questions in the comments.
I'm 24yo who has completely wrekt his life by being addicted to online multiplayer games like CS2, PUBG and Valorant. Today after my birthday, I feel so ashamed that I am unemployed and didn't finish college that I wanted to vomit. Hopefully, I can turn my life around. Uninstalled steam and deleted all the games I had today. Gonna focus on going back to college and finding a part time job, luckily I have saved 3k.( it's a lot where I am from).
Hi!
I'm a quite busy (as everyone) adult who has played videogames since his childhood. I played quite a lot during my teenage years, but after growing up my gaming time decreased a lot due to responsibilities. Nowadays, I rarely play, maybe 1h a day if I'm lucky.
I have a functional life and everything goes generally well. My problem is simply that I find videogames **too** engaging and exciting. I have many other hobbies, but none can be compared to gaming. Everything is a bit duller in comparison, and if I'm doing anything other than gaming (e.g. working, studying, other hobbies...) I feel the urge to play. If by the end of the day I have not played (which happens often), I feel dissatisfied, even if it was a nice day.
I suppose this counts as an addiction, even if I barely consume it, as I do think it raises my threshold to enjoy other things. Restricting it is worse, because I crave it more. But fully quitting feels like dropping a very important part of my life that I do enjoy a lot. Maybe my reward system is broken and videogames exploit that in ways no other hobbies can.
Is any of you in a similar situation? Did stopping gaming make you enjoy other things more? Any advice on how to handle this?
Thanks!!
I'm struggling, sat in a chair on my day off for 14 hours building scenery in a factory game, at one point i'm trying to do some basic math in my head and couldn't remember a few basic numbers. I was so dehydrated I was getting delirious and having trouble thinking, seeing spots and even got short of breath. 12 hours and a gallon of water later i'm back to normal, this can't be healthy. When I play video games at the computer I get sucked in so hard I don't even move and I neglect everything in my life.
I’m a married father of 4 with kids ranging from 8-23 and I have been online gambling all of our money for 5 years now. Some of the highlights are laying in bed with the power shut off still gambling. Working out in the hot Florida sun all day Starving all day and thirsty because I gamble my $10 lunch money, gambling all my pay the day before my sons birthday and loosing the house my dad left my family when he died. I can go on and on. I’m at the end of my rope, I feel like a total piece of shit scum and worst of all I failed my family. God help me.
Oh yeah and yesterday I spent our last $5 won $2,035 that we desperately needed for groceries and lost it all in less than a couple hours.
Hi, so I find quitting video games to be particularly easy for me but what i really struggle with is stop watching content like video game walkthroughs. As a kid I always liked watching walkthroughs seeing as they were very simple entertaining videos back then like Pewdiepie playing horror video games or other types of long form gaming content. However, with youtube today now everything feels up in my face and i watch solely to watch now. Like if im eating something i'll have a video game video of some video game essay i have no real reason to watch just so i can have something in the background to look at while dining. some days im watching mission alternate endings because it seems interesting even though again it's just wasted time. I'm also just clicking through so many videos and youtube blockers don't work for me since i just turn off blockers anyways.
i don't know what i could do to replace these very fast paced all-up-in-your-face videos.
Hi all,
we recently bought a house together and I was excited for our next steps in life. Marriage. Kids. The other day he told me that he isn’t ready for kids yet. I’ve asked him twice to sort stuff out to get registered for our marriage, and he keeps forgetting to do that. We are both gamers, but the difference is, I game max three hours. But before I game. I cook and I clean. I fold the laundry. Etc. He doesn’t cook now that we moved into our new house. He just makes himself sandwiches or he orders take-out. What does he do? He games. All day. He’s up all day playing matches that can take up a hour per match. He was on yesterday morning. Afternoon. Evening. Climbing ranks or whatever.
I tried to talk with him about it today and he tells me that he’s home alone four days a week (he works from home and I don’t) so what else can he do. But as I’m writing this out, I was home yesterday when he was on all day. So that’s nonsense…. I told him to perhaps work out. Since I joined a gym the other day and we now live close to everything, trying to be helpful. And he dismissed that too.
I’m so lost. What do I do? This makes me want to stop gaming altogether. He’s on the pc all the time. Has no other hobbies. I want kids one day, and I’m really scared that he just wants to live like this forever. Anyone has experience with this, and if so, what did you do?
I’m 39, 6’0”, around 280 lbs, married with children, and I feel like I’ve slowly lost the version of myself that used to have energy and take pride in himself.
My wife sent me a picture of myself from when I was significantly skinnier and looked full of life. It honestly hit me hard. I realized that I don’t necessarily miss just being thinner — I miss the person I was.
Right now I have a gym membership that I haven’t used in months. I stay up too late, sometimes fall asleep at my desk, eat too much sugar, spend too much time gaming/doomscrolling, and generally choose easy stimulation when I’m tired.
I also have sleep apnea, which I’m realizing may be contributing to how exhausted I feel.
I have a wife and children and I want to be energetic, present and healthy for them. But I also want to do this for myself. I don’t want my entire identity to become being a parent who has no time or energy left for himself.
I’ve tried intermittent fasting and different workout routines before. Sometimes I get motivated, lose some weight, then fall back into old habits.
I’m not looking for a crash diet or a 30-day miracle.
I want to rebuild my life.
If you were in my position, what would you focus on FIRST? Sleep? Gym? Diet? Cutting social media/gaming? Walking? Something else?
What habits actually helped you get your energy, confidence and self-respect back?
I’d especially appreciate advice from people who were overweight, had kids, and felt like they had lost themselves but eventually turned things around.
I’m looking for practical advice, not perfection. I genuinely want to become the best version of myself again — for myself, my wife and my kids.
Hey guys,
I recently quit gaming and paid off my debts. I feel fine while working, but the second a day off hits and boredom creeps in, my brain panics. I instantly start craving a quick dopamine fix—flip-flopping between buying a €3k PC, a PS5, or a Steam Deck.
Every other hobby feels dull right now, and my girlfriend is tired of me constantly talking about buying something.
Has anyone gone through this dull phase after quitting? How do you fill the emptiness on off days without falling back into old habits?
So I was doing well a few weeks ago. I was going to BJJ and playing pickleball and it was quite enjoyable. But then I got injured and fell back into gaming. If I’m being honest I think it’s kind of getting to a point where I don’t really enjoy the game but I’m just kind of programmed to keep hitting the respawn button. The game gets me really frustrated especially because a lot of times I think the outcome of the game is out of my control, even though others will say I’m just bad at the game. Part of me is kind of thinking that you shouldn’t quit something just because it’s frustrating and that if I keep grinding it will be annoying for a while but eventually I might be able to make it to the top. The game is full of savages who just spawn camp and mercilessly kill you. The game also tends to be super unbalanced. I think sometimes it makes me feel better if I imagine most of the players on the game as having relatively unfulfilling lives. I don’t know if it’s true or not but it does seem a bit helpful for staying away from the game even if it might be an unhealthy mindset. Anyways let me know what you think.
My boyfriend, M18 and I, F18 have had this ongoing issue for a long, long while now. I've spoken to him about it a ridiculous amount of times over the course of about a year now.
I've told him he doesn't balance me with his playing time, and that I feel ignored almost all of the time and that he'd rather play his games than spend time with me or even talk to me. I understand it's his hobby and he's been playing games for years and years and has recently upgraded his setup. He's extremely passionate about his games but it's gotten to a point that he's just genuinely addicted and ignores everything else in his life when he plays.
Before, he wouldnt play his games when I'd be staying at his house because we would spend time together but as we've gotten older I'd stay at his house much longer than just a day or two, so we came to a compromise that he would play while I'm staying at his house but only until an agreed time while I'd just be on my phone or watching his tv. But recently he has been abusing this compromise and playing for long extra hours instead of getting off to come spend time with me. I told him I don't see a point in me coming over when I'm always just stuck on my phone or watching tv when I can just do that at home, because seriously what the fuck?
He works 5 days of the week and when he comes home he will wind down with the game, all the while not texting me or giving me a call at all. I have to basically beg him to just talk to me before disappearing on his game for 6+ hours on end, all while being completely unreachable. He gets aggressive when he plays his games too, so I'm scared to even try and speak to him while he's playing or even call him because he just blows up and causes a heart aching argument.
Every time we're having a good time together, he'll hop straight on the game and say he's playing until late while I'm in his bed doing fuck all. Weekends are the only times we get to see each other, and he doesn't bother to care that I simply want time with him instead of being bored out of my brains on his bed waiting hours and hours for him to come into bed. And then when he does, he's tired and he almost immediately goes to sleep so we get absolutely no time together throughout the day or night at this point.
My mother has been diagnosed with a serious illness and she's currently in hospital. Me and my boyfriend sorted out plans for me to spend the weekend at his as I'm distraught over my mother. Then all of a sudden Wednesday evening he tells me he's not bothered to see me anymore because he just wants to play with the lads because he's so tired and exhausted from work. He proceeds to tell me he doesn't care that I just want him to be there for me and calls me annoying, starts shouting and being aggressive etc.
I mean seriously what can I even do anymore? That broke my heart more than I can put into words. Years of a relationship, but when it comes down to being there for me at a time like this he's "too tired and exhausted from work". I cried on the phone to him and all that did was piss him off more. He tells me he's unhappy with me and he doesn't fucking care anymore and he wants a break. This is what I mean by him getting aggressive and mean when he's playing the game. He even said all of this with his brother in the room. He called me crazy and told me to get over myself.
At first it was just me waiting on him to call me when he's finished his game and him never showing up, him lying about not playing when he really was, choosing to play instead of spending time with me after a while of not seeing each other etc. But now it's gone too far. I don't understand how he can put a computer over a person who just needs him there for her. I've tried everything and nothing works. All he cares about is the game at this point and all I feel is alone and a burden for asking to talk to him.
Does anyone know what I can do about this? As I said I understand it's his hobby but it's gotten to a point that I can't take it anymore. Please help me out.
TLDR; My boyfriend constantly chooses his computer games over me to the point he didn't care enough to be there for me while my mother is in the hospital and I don't know what I can do anymore to just get him to understand him and his games have become ridiculous.