Im 15 and thinking of getting a kitten, whos 2 months and i believe 1 week. the room would be safe with food and water as it needs, and toys around, but i still have school and my parents have work. occasionally my father has days off so I guess it might be 3 days a week, is it still considered unsafe?
They're scheduled and it's happening, I know it's for the best, but I still can't help but be scared that something will go wrong. I know that the surgery survival rate for spays and neuters are very high, it's pretty unlikely for them to die from it, I just am terrified of that tiny fraction of a percent possibility.
We're going through a low-cost spay&neuter clinic for ~$150 each, and I'm hoping that it'll be equally good quality of care that they would've gotten at their regular vet for ~$600 each. I just don't have $1800 for my kitten and my dad's cat to get spayed and my sister's kitten to get neutered.
(I only make about $800/month from my job after taxes and deductions because I'm chronically ill and can only work part-time, but I couldn't get disability income. I pay $200 to rent my room, and buy all my own groceries and toiletries for myself except for occasionally some from food pantries, and all the pet supplies and vet care for all the animals in the house and any prescription co-pays for my own medications, and I ride my bike to work most of the year and walk or pay for gas for my parents' cars if they drive me in the winter. Basically, I'm as financially independent as I can be and my parents give me no money, but I can't afford housing elsewhere because it's usually $1100-1600+/month at the cheapest, often in the $2000s.)
I guess we could probably have only gotten the boy fixed. They're all indoor cats. But even if the girls don't go outside to find boyfriend cats and get pregnant, removing those parts does mean they can't get cancer there. Which could especially be a concern for the older cat soon. And the clinic is willing to spay her too, even at her ~10 years old age, they'll do bloodwork for her before surgery to make extra sure it's safe. The kittens will be 6 months old which is when their regular vet recommended doing it and they're fully vaccinated and seem healthy and aren't expected to have any problems whatsoever.
I guess I'm just looking for reassurance that they'll be okay and that I am doing the right thing. I love them and I don't want anything to happen to them.
Hello, I'm coming for advice because me and my sister (both previous kitten/cat owners multiple times) have just gotten kittens and I would like some advice because this situation is a bit tough for me, for context I'm a minor and my sister is 18!!
My sister is usually out of the house during the afternoon so I'm watching her kitten, (Tiffany) and obviously my kitten (Réna) anyways, Tiffany is eating hard food, my sister chose that, and Réna is eating both, which I chose. Now during the period I'm watching Tiffany she tries eating my cats soft food, so I'll bring Tiffany's bowl in and she won't eat it and just keeps going for Réna's soft food...
The advice I'm asking for is, is this something I should control? My mom told me to just let her but I told her I'm trying to watch my cats eating throughout the day, and I also told her I read somewhere that it's good for kittens to not eat from the same bowl so they don't do it later on! So is this something that should be controlled or is it no biggie? Thanks!!
Also I just have one more question to spare me from making another post, since the kittens have different owners and different bedrooms, should we try to limit their time together? Cause they slept in my room the first night and I think they were used to that because my cat Réna was meowing for the other cat, I don't want them to be used to playing together or sleeping in the same room, or is it better for them to? (I don't always want Tiffany in my room🥹) THANKS FOR THE ADVICE TO ANYONE WHO REPLIES!😭
I have tried to grow a few plants. Tomatoes, rosemary, basil, lemon balm, jalapenos.
Each time they sprout and start producing leaves my menace of a cat eats them down to the soil. I've moved them to shelves, put little wire cages over them, tried to block the windowsill, he makes it his life's mission to eat them. I do not know why.
I just want some pretty, usable greenery in my kitchen. Has anyone had any luck training a cat to just let things grow? Or do I need to only have plants outside?
I had to leave my apartment for several weeks to be with an ill parent. While I was away, an acquaintance (referred by someone I trust) stayed at my apartment and cared for my two cats. When I returned, the cats seem great -- totally calm, looking healthy and happy. However my apartment stinks like crazy! But it's not urine or a litter box, more like a barn smell... a general "animals live here," kind of stink. What could the source be? One theory: I have one rug, and it sort of looks like he didn't vacuum at all over the entire month I was away -- which is unbelievable for two cats in an apartment -- so much hair had accumulated. But I have vacuumed about ten times in three days and spent time airing the apartment, and it's not receding at all. Do I need to throw out the rug? Is it actually the hair making the smell? What else can I scrub/enzyme spray, fan out the window?
(I do not believe this is a case of losing my nose blindness. I have been away for weeks before and not sensed such an intense smell.)
Calling all GTA cat fosters, rescuers, vets, or experienced cat owners. We desperately need advice/help.
I have a 3-year-old female, spayed cat who has had a pretty sudden and extreme behavioural change, and at this point we genuinely do not know what to do.
Ever since her spay, she has seemed a little different. She became much more vocal, gets irritated more easily, but at the same time became extremely affectionate and constantly wants attention. We assumed these were just behavioural changes after surgery, and I don't know whether that's related to what is happening now.
Two days ago, I was watching a video with a dog barking in it. My cat has NEVER cared about dog/cat noises from phones or videos before, so I didn't think anything of jokingly reenacting the barking sound. Shortly afterward, I got up to pet her and she completely lost it.
She full-on attacked me. Not a warning swipe or normal irritated-cat behaviour. She chased/attacked me hard enough to leave a large scratch/scar down my calf and was hissing, growling, screaming/yowling and acting like she genuinely wanted to hurt me.
The strangest part is that the next morning she was completely back to normal. She wanted affection, was behaving like herself, and everything seemed okay. Then I went to grab a hair tie and something seemingly triggered her again. She attacked me and immediately went back into the exact same aggressive state.
She has now been like this for roughly a day and a half. We cannot safely approach her, pick her up, put her in a carrier, or even get her to a vet. She can go from seeming interested in affection to becoming extremely aggressive, so we genuinely don't feel safe around her right now.
From what I've been reading, this sounds like it could be redirected aggression, fear, pain, or something medical, but obviously I'm not qualified to diagnose her.
The biggest problem is our living situation. We're in a two-bedroom apartment and both bedrooms are occupied. We don't have a spare room where she can safely decompress for several days while we continue living normally. Right now, getting around our own apartment involves trying to lure her away and then running into a bedroom and closing the door. I work from home, we have work/school obligations, and this simply isn't sustainable or safe.
We need help figuring out what to do next.
If anyone in the Greater Toronto Area is a vet, vet tech, experienced foster, rescuer, behaviourist, or has dealt with severe redirected aggression, I would REALLY appreciate hearing from you.
We're open to basically any realistic option: someone experienced who can help us safely contain/transport her, veterinary help for a cat that cannot currently be handled, an experienced foster/rescue who can take her temporarily, or, if there truly isn't another safe option, surrendering her to a reputable/no-kill rescue that is equipped to deal with behavioural cases.
We love her and this isn't a decision we're making lightly. I understand that giving her time and space may be ideal, but our current setup makes that incredibly difficult, and we're honestly scared of her right now. We also don't want to make the situation worse by trying to force her into a carrier ourselves.
If anyone in Toronto/GTA knows a rescue, foster, vet, mobile service, behaviourist, or ANY organization/person equipped to physically help with a severely aggressive cat, please comment or DM me.
At this point we really just need someone who knows what they're doing to help us figure out the safest option for both her and us.
My upstairs neighbours have an indoor cat and they're going away for a week. They've asked me to pop in to change the litter, feed him and give him a bit of attention, which I'm more than happy to do.
The thing is, they've asked me to go in once every 3 days because, in my neighbour's own words, "We want to get him used to being on his own as much as possible". They intend to set up an electronic feeder for dry food, then have me top up the wet food every 3 days.
The Google consensus tells me leaving any cat alone for more than 1 day is considered a bit cruel, and given I work from home I can easily go in every day and spend a few minutes with this cat. But I don't want to tell them they're doing the wrong thing trying to get him to tolerate longer periods alone, and I also don't really want to go into their place more often than they've asked me to - both seem the wrong thing to do.
But it seems equally wrong leaving this cat alone for 3 days at a time. Any suggestions on how to deal with it? We only know each other to say hello to and I don't want to cause any bother with them.
Thanks for any replies.
Hi Reddit, I have a very silly question for you today.
My boyfriend and I plan on adopting cats together in the near future. In the past, when I’ve taken my cats to the vet, their chart is set up with my last name, since I’m the sole owner/primary caretaker. But if both my boyfriend and I are the owners, whose last name should they get?
We’re thinking about doing a hyphenated last name (so if parent A is Jones and parent B is Smith, the cats would be Jones-Smith). Would the vet allow this? Or does the cat’s last name need to match one of the parents exactly?
This is a very unserious question, I know, lol. But I thought it’d be a fun hypothetical. What do you think? Has anyone else been in this particular scenario?
ETA: WOW I did not expect so many replies in such a short time lol. Thank you to everyone who commented! Consensus here seems to be they should get my name since I’ll most likely be the one handling vet visits and such. It helps that I already have an account (?) set up at the vet I’d want to continue going to. I might still see if they’ll let us hyphenate though, just because I think it’d be cute… and also really funny.
Hi Reddit,
Seriously out of ideas. This is day 2 on no sleep whatsoever because the kitten is in HEAT. Our neighbors hate us. I hate us. It's super loud and the meowing is constant (I am writing this to you, sleep deprived at 4 am). Also we live in an apartment and none of our neighbors can sleep 10000%.
So the cat is scheduled for a spay Thursday, which will deal with the noise but let me tell you why I am exhausted and pretty dang close to dropping her off for the spay and leaving her with the SPCA.
My roommate adopted the cat 5 weeks ago (cat is 4 - 5 months old). Technically she can't formally adopt the cat until the cat is spayed. She told me she's been suicidal the last few years and extremely depressed, and was hoping a cat would help the situation and make her happier to have a cat to take care of. I - not a cat or pet person - am not a MONSTER so obviously I said sure of course as long as its YOUR cat, I don't want to have to take care of it, but if you're feeding it and doing the litter box I don't mind having a cat around.
Now 2 weeks ago, my roommate (who is WONDERFUL all the time she's great as a roommate she's super kind and super considerate and super tidy most of the time, and I THOUGHT she was the happiest person ever she's super bright and cheerful) was admitted to the psych ward for suic*dal ideation and self harm. Which is awful, and why this is a delicate situation and I've tried to be as understanding and compassionate as physically possible.
Now, it's been 2 weeks, and they are keeping her on a psych hold because they think she is a danger to herself and others, and from the sounds of it she will not be released for a full month.
Cat is a baby. Cat needs care.
Going back to the story, this cat needs care. I took care of the cat with changing the litter box (ew, that shit was nuclear. Now I try to change the litter box twice a day because oh my shit I left it for 2 days the first weekend and ooffff), I fed the cat as per explicit feeding instructions, wet and dry food twice a day. We ran out of food. So went out and spent hours (more like 30 min but still) in the pet store inquiring about kitty food and blah blah blah and hooked the cat up with some good food. Food looks bougie and I probably got price gouged but roommate said she would pay me back.
Then my roommate asks me to 1. pick up medication an hour away from our apartment - I do not drive so 50 dollar uber each way or 3 hours transit, and to administer meds to cat (injection in the back of the neck). and 2. take the cat to get spayed this week as the spca will not allow her to adopt thje cat unless its spayed and they cant put it off any longer. I said you need to sort out a different solution for the spay. I cant do that. It's again super far, this cat will scratch the shit out of you if you pick it up, and so now if I drop her off for the spay I have to uber the cat an hour away to drop it off, then I guess just go fuck myself for 6-8 hours as I am not paying for an uber twice, and then pick the cat up, and take it home and care for it for the next 3 days.
So yesterday, I said, heyyy gently checking in, how are you? she says she is really sorry but the spay and can I do it for her, and they won't let her postpone the spay until after Sept 7 which makes me think that she is not going to be released for another month.
Now reasons I dont' want to deal with the spay or after care
Plus I am not going to be able to check on the cat at all, I'll literally be at work, and doing the after care sounds awful and I think the cat should ahve someone actually present to make sure they are ok.
Cat yowling nonstop makes me want to remind the good people of reddit that this is my VACATION this cat is fucking up, and I have been dealing with this cat, that I never wanted or asked for, and extreemly zombie like and sleep deprived for my whole vacation week. I have a super demanding job and my vacation weeks are precious to me and I'm super irrationally angry Miss Horny Kitten is yowling all night and ruining it. Also, I start a new job soon, and I cannot be this sleep deprived for my new job. My last few days of freedom are fucked, then I go back to stressful job 1 in a day or two here.
So I told my roommate, no. I cannot take the cat to get spayed. I can't drop her off an hour away, pick her up same day, and then take care of her for the next few days. I just cant. This is too much. I don't think I should be expected to do this, and I can take care of the day to day but this is just TOO MUCH.
She came back and said I am it, and she cant keep the cat if I dont do this. She doesnt have family in the area and if she doesnt get the cat spayed this thursday the cat will be rehomed to a family that can take care of the cat as per SPCA. Her deadline to prove she can keep the cat is picking up the meds, and making sure the cat is spayed.
Obviously I dont want to get rid of the cat and give it to a shelter without telling her first, and because of mental health I feel really awful and feel like if I drop off her new kitten at the shelter she will hate me forever, and her mental health with deteriorate.
My options are
Option 3, as I write, the yowling makes me want to scratch my eyeballs out, so is looking like this is option 1 or 2.
I'm really at the limit of my compassion, and tbfh my compassion is much less running on 3 hours of sleep. My poor neighbours man. I partially couldn't sleep because my neighbors that share a wall... RIP.
So, good people of reddit.
TLDR - roommate in the hospital for extended stay, brand new unspayed kitten in heat / needs constant play.
WIBTAH if I called my roommate tomorrow and dropped this cat off at the SPCA? Or do you think I am a monster and should take this cat to get spayed?
P.S. Any cat owners if you can get me through the next 24 hours I'll consider the spay and care option but I will physically scratch out my eyeballs if I have another sleepless night becasue of this god damn cat.
P.P.S. I wouldn't never drop the cat off at a shelter without telling her first. I just think we need to be realistic with her ability to care for the cat unfortunately and this isnt working for me or the kitten. The reason I titled this post that, is because apparently if she doesnt take the cat to get spayed this week, the SPCA told her they will not let her keep the cat and the kitten will have to go to an owner who can pick up meds for it and take it to the vet visits. So if I don't take this cat to the spay, and pick it up, and care for it, she will have the cat taken away anyway.
PPPS. Half of you think I'm the AH, I'm seriously not a monster ok I've just never had a pet before. So far I have:
-fed the kitten it's stupid specially made for baby cats wet cat food, and dry food twice a day.
-went to the store and got more wet and dry food when we ran out (I do not have a car I had to commute 30 min on the bus to do this). I bought the food and did not ask roommate to reimburse me.
-changed the litter box and have been keeping her space clean by changing it every single day and inspecting for poops (she had eating issues with too much wet food so I started giving her less wet food and more dry)
-ensured the cat is alive several times a day so my roommate doesnt come back and hate me (kitten is an escape artist)
-played with this cat for hours after it started waking me up at night, so that it is tired out and will sleep through the night. I kitty proofed our apartment because this kitten will stick its nose at anything and made sure it could roam with no sharp or bad stuff nearby.
-did my ABSOLUTE BEST to take care of the cat until the heat meowing all hours of the night and I have been very kind to the cat even though I haven't slept more than 3 hours in the last 2 nights.
- I even offered to drop the cat off (paying for an Uber that will be around 60 bucks each way to get there) at the spay appointment but said I cannot be responsible for full time care going forwards or picking the cat up and caring for it after the spay as I work all weekend and start a new job next week
-went to pick up meds for the cat and adminsitered them to a scratchy kitten.
- googled a million things to make sure I'm not accidentally hurting the cat and making sure I'm taking care of her properly while I have her temporarily in my care since I have never had a pet before
Hi! I’m getting my first cat soon and trying to decide on a name. I shared my top pick with my best friend today and feel kinda unsure about what to do. She told me that she would like to name her daughter that same name in the future. We are both 23 and she is not pregnant and not married. The name is special to me, but quite common. Would I be a bad friend if I decided to give my cat that name?
When ever I sing my cats get upset and will bite me. I know cats ears are sensitive and that they think somethings wrong, but I don’t understand why that translates to them biting me. As an ex theater kid I really love to sing when doing the dishes and cooking. When I least suspect it though one of my cats will come up and nibble my arm or ankle. Not super hard but enough to hurt and surprise me. Sometimes I just put them in a bedroom, but I was wondering if there was any way to train them out of this habit? Maybe a way to show them I’m not distressed, that if it bothers them to just go somewhere else? Does anyone else’s cats do this to them? Am I just a terrible singer?
Hi! Last week I emergency adopted peanut who is a lovely and friendly adult male cat.
He is 2 years old, healthy weight according to the vet, unneutured, eating and drinking well.
Peanut wasn’t that bad when he first came, but over the week he has started to develop near constant diharrea and I cannot understand why. I have kept him on the same food the previous owners gave him, give him plenty of fresh water and everything he should need. This is really difficult to deal with as he constantly gets covered in poo and will trample it all about the living room and most of all I just want to make sure he is okay. I took him to the vets for this 2 days ago and she said he looks fine but his diharrea frequency has increased since then and I don’t know if I’m being paranoid or if this is normal for a newly rehomed cat over the first few weeks.
Peanut is constantly crying and yapping through doors because he wants me to be in the room with him or because he wants to go outside. The previous owners had him outside all of the time and with me having recently adopted I cannot let him out. He also claws at windows and doors to try to get out, and if I let him out of the living room where his litter box is located he just pees and poos all over the floor outside the litter box while searching for ways to escape. The crying can go on for multiple hours at a time and is really hard to deal with, it seems like he will only stop if he thinks I have left the house but if he sees, hears or knows I’m nearby he will just begin crying and crying until I come - then when I am in there he can begin crying endlessly looking outside.
I’m assuming that these two issues are the cause of the previous owners being too neglectful to bother neutering him, and just adjusting to a new place but I am feeling really upset at his condition - because of this behaviour I am basically having to keep him locked in the living room all day and I am constantly having to spend hours with him to stop his crying which is starting to negatively affect me. The vet has said to leave neutering until he settles a bit more and the diharrea stops, but that just doesn’t seem as tho it is going to happen anytime soon, in fact he is getting worse. What can I do to make things better?
People who have the Pawspik, is the sliding cover solid or slatted? Would it keep the food inside from being exposed to the air?
I’m looking at the Surefeed and the Pawspik and I found a good deal on a secondhand Pawspik, the thing is tho I feed only wet food, and what I want it for is two things:
I like the design of the Pawspik better than Surefeed mostly because it has the removable stainless steel bowl, but the thing is I can’t tell if the slatted sliding cover thing is actually solid or if it’s kind of a grate that wouldn’t really tightly contain the food inside.
Any advice about this would be appreciated and pics/videos that show the cover would be awesome! ty! :)
My eight year old female overweight cat recently developed FHS. She was on Hills Metabolic Diet food mixed with her Purina Live Clear & she had lost some weight. She was always an affection eater & you had to walk her into the kitchen but she ate from her bowl. Since the episodes of FHS she has rejected the Hills & only wants to be handfed her Purina, I switched to their weight management Live Clear, & plan to order their prescription diet food. At her recent vet visit she had gained 2 lbs & is up to 22 lbs. Her blood work was normal. The vet wants me to stop the handfeeding but she has had a lot of trauma in her past & now the FHS. She was meant to be a barn cat but fell through some planks at 2 weeks old & the mother cat disappeared. The person who raised her for 2 years abruptly gave her away to an individual who kept her for 1 year & threw her out when he got a dog. She was luckily retrieved by the original pet parent & I got her at 3 years old. Any advice as to how to transition away from handfeeding? She lays by her bowl and I find it very difficult to just ignore her. This behavior happens at least 8xs a day. I worry that if I don't handfeed her this will trigger more FHS episodes.
hallo, mijn kat was de laaste vijf dagen bij de dierenarts voor blaasgruis en is vandaag terug maar elke keer dat hij vandaag naar het toilet ging, ging hij wel daadwerkelijk dus er is geen verstopping maar elke keer weer wanneer hij zich likt word hij kwaad als ik dichtbij kom zoals toen ik hem heb gebracht, had iemand anders dit ook? mijn dierenarts zei het afwachten voor een dag of twee... iemand anders met dezelfde ervaring?
Hi. I adopted a little kitten a few days ago. She is only 9 weeks old because my parents insisted on a younger cat even though I wanted an older one. Since I live with them (I am 16), they wanted an outdoor cat, which I don't think is THAT bad. Our area is quite safe: no wild animals, and cars drive very infrequently and slowly. We also live far away from the main road.
But I still don't think keeping a 9-week-old kitten outside is a good idea. Of course, we have a garden house where she has a sleeping basket, a litter box, water, and food. It is a warm and dry place; we only have a few things there, nothing that could hurt her. We put her in there at night, and in the morning we let her out. She runs around the garden as she pleases.
She has never been to the vet (the previous owner probably didn't bother with it), so I wanted to take her there, but my parents don't want to; they say it's not that important. Unfortunately, I'm not an adult yet, and I don't know how to earn money, so I can't take her there myself, but luckily I have some money saved up. It's not quite enough, but I hope I can save more. I love animals very much, and I'm sorry that my parents don't see it any differently.
Don't worry, of course, they play with her too. It's thanks to them that I have her. I often change her water to keep it fresh, and we feed her about 3 times a day. She only drinks water occasionally. We give her wet food because she doesn't eat kibble for kittens; she just smells it and walks on. I read on the internet that they are not good for cats, unfortunately, after we bought them. Again, I try to take care of her as best as I can.
Unfortunately, I have no experience. I look up everything on the internet. I'm still not sure if I'm doing something wrong, but she looks happy and I hope she is. It's very likely that the previous owner kept her inside, so she sometimes sits by the patio door and meows. It really breaks my heart. I would really like to take her inside. I need to get her ears cleaned and her nails trimmed because I don't dare to do it myself, but I doubt my parents will take it seriously. So if you, by any chance, have any experiences like mine with parents, etc., I would be grateful for anything.
I am helping a friend to find a new, loving home for his cherished cat, Lady. Due to unforeseen personal circumstances, he is no longer able to provide her with the care and attention she deserves.
Lady is a gorgeous all-black Bombay cat, approximately 4 years old. She is spayed, fully vaccinated, and comes with all her paperwork up to date and fully clean bill of health!
Lady is a gentle soul who adores people and is especially sweet with children. While she may be shy at first, once she feels comfortable, she becomes a loving, affectionate companion who enjoys being held, petted, and included in family activities.
Lady is playful and curious, often chasing after her favorite toys or exploring sunny spots by the window. She is also very tidy, always using her litter box and keeping herself well-groomed. Lady enjoys cozy evenings curled up next to you, and her soothing purr is sure to bring comfort to her new family.
She would thrive in a calm, patient home, ideally with people who understand she might need a little time to fully come out of her shell. She has not lived with other pets, but it is possible that with the right introduction, she could potentially adapt.
Lady is currently living with a loving foster family in Brooklyn. While the foster arrangement is temporary and will be ending in the coming weeks, we’re focused on finding the right forever home for her.
I have pictures, but didn’t see where to attach them in the post.
I just adopted 2 floofy kitty brothers from a shelter. Had them 2 months now and they seem full grown. One of them is reserved and shy, and the other gets into absolutely everything. He’s gotten into the habit of tipping over every trash can he can find… and I always point my finger at him and sternly say “NO!” I have no clue if he understands and is ignoring me, or if he honestly doesn’t understand he is doing something wrong. I also don’t know how or if I should discipline him. HELP.
So I know a lot of people say to leave out a bowl of dry cat food as an extra for kittens since they get pretty hungry as they are growing, but doing this has brought in..a crap ton of ants. This only became a problem recently but we are getting bit up in here and I’m freaking out. Has anyone had this happen and does anyone have pet friendly poisons they can recommend to use on the ants?
Hello there! I just wanna make sure that I’m not the “crazy” one in this situation. For context, we(my parents and I) have two bengal cats, 1 year old female and a 12 week old male. Our male kitten just got back from the vet after his second vacation round. At the appointment, the vet noticed him having a soft heart murmur and could only find 1 testicle. Which shouldn’t be a problem later on, since both of those things he can grow out of. However, if over the next several appointments things won’t change, the vet advised neutering him. Since our female cat isn’t spayed, there’s a possibility of them breeding and passing on both of those concerns. My dad, who was present at the appointment, was NOT happy about this. At home, he proceeded to mention that I trust the vet too much, questioning why I told the vet that we have another cat and that we may plan on breeding them. (My dad does want to breed them, I do not) He also mentioned something about the vets being scammers, that the kitten will not need neutering, nor will he “allow it”. And that after being spayed/ neutered, cats are not really cats anymore, they’re crippled. (???)
I’M not the one who sounds crazy here right??
And in case of the kitten still having complications at the next vet visit, how exactly should I talk to my dad about needing to neuter the kitten??
He acts like that possibly is a personal attack on him.