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That was last night and I feel fine now. I’ve never done cocaine or poppers so I had no idea that it was a bad combination. I don’t do drugs other than alcohol and weed often. Do I need to be worried about any delayed problems that could from mixing these drugs? It was about 12 hours ago. I feel pretty normal right now but I can tell my body is still recovering from last night.

Other than PornHub.

The answer has to be something other than the penis or butt.

I am aware how effective prep and doxy are and I am thankful for the effort people have been making.

But, but

There are still different STDs that would be transmitted even with doxy, and that disproportionately puts bottoms on higher risk.

And it seems like top guys are more and more like “no bb mean no”. And if they can stick to it that would mean many btm guys are making compromises. I don’t know if they are aware how serious the consequences could be if small chances fall.

Well it’s all personal choices and I can’t judge. But I don’t know. It feels off to me 🤷.

So I'm 18 years old and I met this guy and he was the sweetest man I've ever met, we talked for a while, we played some games and well, as always (not really proud of that) everything ended up in sex.

He topped, and I did it too, but when I did it the condon broke, three fucking times.

A few minutes later I asked him if he was healthy he said "I'm on treatment for HIV, I've been taking it for over a year" OK I got really scared and nervous when he told me that, I managed to calm myself down because if he is undetectable then he cannot spread it, right?

But now I'm thinking what if he isn't undetectable? I don't know what I'm supposed to do, I'm afraid I might have ruined my whole life. Update: it's sunday, a day after the incident. I texted him and I asked if he please could show me his blood tests and he said "I haven't been tested since that is too expensive, but I promise I've been taking my medicine" oh ok buddy Update: It's been 24 hours, I went to the hospital and as I expected they told me they didn't do that kinda thing today, I have today 'till tomorrow. Also there's something I forgot to mentioned, he put his condon backwards and after that he took it off to put it the right side, there was not semen but there were fluids. Update: I'm freaking out, tomorrow is public holiday and I do know they should keep working, but since I live in Venezuela... Thanks for all your advice and support!

A lot of my girl friends think it's a douchebag straight dudes type of a deodorant. I've also seen a lot of content about that online.

I mean, im gay and i love axe. it smells nice and convenient.

Do people really discriminate against guys who put axe on 😭

So I (M25) have been dating my boyfriend for about 7 months. He knew when we first started going out that I was a drag queen. He did say it wasn’t his cup of tea and that he likes his men more masculine. The catch is that when I’m not in drag, I’m very masculine. Most people would never assume I’m gay. I think that gave him some sort of comfort at the beginning of our relationship, which is why we haven’t had any problems about it until now.

He recently came to me and asked me to stop performing in drag. He mentioned how he’s been starting to have a hard time seeing me perform and be feminine when it’s not what he’s attracted to. I let him know I get where he’s coming from but at the same time, this has developed into a big passion of mine and I didn’t want to stop.

We’re at a stalemate. He’s not budging, and I don’t want to stop doing what I very much enjoy. But, I don’t want to lose him either. I have no idea what to do

EDIT: First of all thank you for the responses. I wasn’t expecting so much activity on this post. For the people saying “He doesn’t have to see you in drag or take part in it”. Yes, that makes sense in theory, but it’s not really plausible to hide every aspect of drag from him. Whether it me my wardrobe and wigs in my apartment, my needing time to rehearse, or if I have to cancel on him for any drag related reason. Yes he doesn’t have to see me in drag, but my drag life would still affect our relationship. Ugh.

I’m 18 and I am and have always known I’m gay, I find men cute, hot attractive etc, but whenever I’m with a guy I just don’t feel sexual pleasure and also find it hard to get a boner. Even if I see a guy in the street i think he’s hot but I don’t get a hard on, same if I watch porn. I know I’m young but it’s just confusing, I like guys but it’s like my body doesn’t

What’s your embarrassing morning wood story? Would love to hear from everyone. I know we all probably have at least one.

Mine was when my roommate and I moved into our first apartment after college. One morning I remember waking up and going to the kitchen and getting some water. After my first few sips, I remember stretching, and my roommate walked into the kitchen too. Jokingly he goes “Wood morning buddy” We chuckled a bit and then finished what we were doing. At first I was embarrassed as fuck but then I was just too tired to care. He didn’t care either lol.

I met a guy of the app jacked and we were chatting for a while and he asked me to come over and i did all the regular stuff bottoms do I took a shower douched got ready and whatever and went to his place I made it very clear that I wanted to use a condom because when we were first doing foreplay, he tried to stick his penis inside me I told him wait. Let me grab the condom so after the foreplay I put the condom on him and then I turned around into the doggy position and he was entering me and after about 2 to 3 minutes he started to hurt me and I was kind of pushing him off and I look towards the side of the bed and I see the condom. I immediately threw him off me. I said what the fuck did you take the condom off? He said I couldn’t stay hard with the condom on I’m like you didn’t tell me and I freaked out btw he did not ejaculate in me I am on prep and doxy pep however, this just disgusted me and he violated me. He reassured me that he doesn’t have any STDs and proceeded to show me his prescription of prep and Doxy pep inside his room and text messages between his doctor. Surprisingly, we have the same doctor. It’s not that the fact that he’s not positive for any STI it’s the fact that he did that without my consent why do guys do stuff like this it’s actually pretty disgusting and infuriated me as soon as he showed me his prescriptions and text messages between his doctor. I immediately put on my clothes and decided to leave. He kept begging me to stay. I told him absolutely not. I left and took my prep and doxy in the car as I carry it in my bag with me everywhere I go and blocked him on everything

Ive been working out for over a year now, I hired a trainer around 3 months in and started from basically zero physical activity my whole life. I was always overweight and lost a considerable amount of weight. I feel I only recently fixed a decent routine.

Its fucking hard. Juggling trying to fit that hour in every day with my demanding job. Some days Im flown out for work to places where I don't have access to a gym, or sometimes put in 60 hours a week and I get home I can't be arsed to lift or fucking cook a chicken breast, but Ive been trying some work-arounds.

To make it easier I set up a home gym and after setting a good routine in with my trainer, I dismissed her to save money. But damn, this is expensive - not to mention the suppliments and higher quality meals. Im approaching my next progression limit and have to buy more weights soon.

Its also caused my life to become a lot more regimented and exhausts me because over weekends Im just so done I struggle to spend time with my friends, I can't drink or enjoy other things I used to.

Im doing it naturally but fuck, progress is slower than Id like. Id just like to meet a guy with a six pack but fuck, those guys are picky.

I know people ask about dick size thing here and there and many guys are insecure about it. I just wanted to share my thoughts on it and wonder if others agree or not. We can end the discourse here so people can refer this thread in the future.

1. Avg size is around 5-6in. This is the majority of guys and is sufficient enough to pleasure a man especially prostate orgasm. There is even an argument where avg dick hits prostate much efficiently than bigger ones cuz it targets better instead of passing through. So if you know how to use it, you will def have good sex. You know how to use it and does not seem to work? Well thats more on the bottom and chemistry between the two.

2. Big dick obsession mostly comes from porn. Big dick itself is indicator of more dominant, blessed, more alpha, and higher status that people envy cuz it is rare and people cannot obtain no matter how hard they work. So it is porn’s biggest selling point. As a result, we get this overly big dick obsessed men. From my experience, this is even more prevalent among younger generation as porn became very accessible.

3. But does big dick means more pleasure? For majority of the people, it does not give better physical pleasure as thats just not how human anatomy works. Those who do, did it to themselves by extreme practices. However, as I stated above, mental arousal is what makes big dick experience better. This amplifies all the pleasure until it became painful/discomfort. Once a bottom is practiced enough to not feel discomfort and size obsessed mindset that makes him extra aroused, big dick feels better most of the time.

4. Why guys always come here and ask about dick size question and express insecurities? Again, porn and apps. People on the app more not majority of gay community. They are designed for hot people to have fun. When i say hot its face, body, big dick/fat ass. You have to exceed in at least one of them to have a good app experience. This eventually makes the population on the app more size obsessed.

So yes dick size matters but if you are average, it is more than fine.

After years of bottom tradition I’m finally exploring my top side. I’ve never thought I would change sides, but life is full of surprises.

Is it normal to imagine your male friends while you're masturbating ? Or remembering their underwear waist bands or their bulge is it being gay or normal? did you guys happen that?

I (22M) have been dating someone (23M) for about an year and a half now. It was going well until yesterday when I discovered that he had consistently and constantly lied about where he lived...

So we live 1 city apart (i thought like 2 hours distance) and since it's a long time distance, we used to meet every week, after he got a job, we met like twice a month. He always always used to come to my city cuz he didn't want me to exhaust myself travelling, either that or a mutual city nearby us. He was very adamant about it so i gave in and got used to him always coming to my city.

That was until his cat gave birth and I wanted to meet the babies, he didn't refuse and told me to take the subway/train to his city finally. This was my first time going to his place( for context we both live with our families so there's no culture of staying at each other's places a lot, even when he comes over, we go to diff places and not my home), and yes I reached the station finally for his city which took almost two hours, then he came to pick me up and go his home.

Then the travel and distance just kept going on and on and on until I realised that he did NOT live in the city he said he did, but instead quite far away! He lived like 2 cities away and the travel was around 3-4 hours. I met his family and saw the kittens but still I was so shocked, cuz imagine consistently and constantly lying about where he lives for soooo long. I thought we were behind any little secrets. And imagine if I didn't insist on meeting the cats what would happen???

He then confessed that he thought if i knew where he lived I'd be hesitant to get into a relationship as we'd meet less and it'd be considered a long distance relationship, also the city he lives in, M is considered a 'small town' maybe that's why he lied as well, as he kept commenting how it must be my first time in a place like this.

He had told me long back though that M ( the city he lives in) was his 'home town' where he was originally from and he and his family is planning to 'move back' there soon, so I guess that was his plan to explain the city change finally... After like months and then I would never discover his lies.

He also lied to me consistently about the time he reached home every single day, cuz he city I thought he lived in was 2 hours away from me so he usually texted he has reached in 2 hours, but now it's obvious that he just lied about it and actually reached like 3 hours away.

I went back through a cab and since it was intercity it was expensive asf, which made me realise just how much money and time he spent on travelling to my city every single week...

So some of you might remember my post from yesterday about getting head from a military guy for the first time. Well, I ended up texting him again last night and asking if he wanted to come over.

He said yes almost immediately lol.
Honestly I was way less nervous this time. We’d already done stuff together, and he’s genuinely a really chill guy to hang out with. We talked for a while before anything happened, which made it feel a lot more comfortable. He gave me some workout tips as well. But eventually he unzipped my pants and did his usual.

Anyway, I actually took some advice from a few of you guys in the comments last time. Someone suggested rubbing or massaging his head a little, and a few others said I should be more vocal instead of trying to stay completely quiet.

At first , I gently ran my hand through his hair, and attempted to be more vocal about what feels good with moans and stuff. He seemed to appreciate the encouragement as I think he chuckled on my dick. (Felt good)

He even smiled at me afterward and said I was getting a lot more comfortable with him. So thanks for the advice lol.

After a while he asked whether I’d be interested in trying something different. I was a little hesitant because I’m still pretty new to doing anything with another guy, but he was really nice about it. He explained what he wanted to try and made it clear that I could say no.

He asked whether I’d be comfortable flipping over onto my stomach. 😭

That was honestly a little awkward at first. I’d never been in that position with someone before, and I suddenly felt a lot more exposed than I expected cuz my butt was cold.

He laughed too and reassured me that we didn’t have to do anything I wasn’t comfortable with.

After I turn onto my stomach, he kissed around my butt a little and was inching closer to my hole. Then he started eating me out gently. It was a unique sensation, not sure I was enjoying it more than sucking, but it was actually relaxing he spent about 3 minutes down there so ig he liked it too.

He kept asking whether I was doing alright, which helped a lot.

Eventually he asked if he could try using a finger. He mentioned that I seemed a lot more relaxed than before and explained that he wanted to see if I could feel my prostate being stimulated.
I’ve obviously heard about the prostate before, but I had absolutely no idea what I was supposed to be feeling.
I agreed because I was curious, and I trusted him enough by that point.

He was slow but he got a finger in me. He was trying to apply gentle pressure near my prostate. He claimed to have found it but all I felt was the sensation of movement and my muscles reacting, but I can’t identify a distinct feeling that seems specifically connected to the prostate.

He said he was pretty sure he could feel it, but I genuinely couldn’t tell.
I kept asking him whether he was actually touching it, and he seemed convinced that he was. I believed him because he seemed to know what he was doing, but I was expecting some really obvious sensation based on everything I’ve read online.
Eventually I found myself on my back again and I came in his mouth like last time.

Afterward we just hung out for a bit and talked about it. He asked what I thought, and I told him I liked experimenting but still had no clue whether I’d actually felt my prostate.
He thought that was pretty funny and said I might just need more time to figure out what feels good.

Question for guys who’ve tried prostate stimulation: Can you actually tell when someone is pressing directly on your prostate? Like, is there a distinctly different feeling, or does it just feel like general pressure and movement at first?
Because this guy seemed pretty confident he found it, and I honestly couldn’t tell the difference.

I found myself (20M) asking here recntly more and more questions, but something always felt off. I was asking about emotionally handling my crush on the first gay guy I got to befriend and so on.

Well now I'm not sure if that's what I should actually be asking about. I am quite easy going and open, so I should handle this no matter the result, but to first get there I need to tackle something else.

I thought I've come to terms with me being gay, most of my life it felt like a looming threat of being abandoned by friends, disowned etc. All of this is absolutely not true. My friends are very supportive, my family seems ignorant/indifferent and I can work with that.

I always knew it was no decision "to become", this is who I am, but even now I feel so alone in this. I don't know anyone that could relate, who I could talk to. Even when I say it out loud it feels so unconvincing. Today I even struggled to just say this, although I really wanted to give a hint to my crush I mentioned.

I don't think reddit is the place I should visit for stuff like this, but I'm on student exchange and can't book a proper appointment with psychologist.

I was wondering where I can find a good first dildo, and if there were any reputable dildos on Amazon. If not where should I get my first one, while being discreet. I do not want to go on a sex toy sight like Adam and Eve and it pop up on my transaction for my card. Any help would be much appreciated!

Have you ever been approached by someone you know IRL that they saw you posting dick pics or showing your face on Reddit? I’ve been debating whether I should post my dick pics with my face just for fun, but I’m kinda scared someone I know IRL might come across them and things could get awkward lol.

Also, idk if I look good enough to actually post them lmao. I’m kinda scared people on here might talk shit about my appearance in the comments 😭

All the time there’s people posting “why do gays hate ***” and they just bring up not being successful one night on Grindr or in a bar.