Is it still rape if I don't fight and I say "Just do it already." Or "Just get it over with."? I'm struggling because I often said this to my abuser bc ik he would fuck me even if I said no or fought him. So does this count as rape bc idfk anymore
I had a female friend who I have know for years over for a swim. She gave me some shit wine and told me I had to finish it because she didn’t like it and then we shared another bottle I’d say 80% me. She was saying things like “you seem unhappy” and “you font seem like you” She then tried to get close to me and I got a weird feeling, she leant in to try to kiss me and I ducked under the water and pushed away swimming to the other end of the pool. I said to her that she knows I have a girlfriend and I don’t want anything like that to happen. I said we should get out as it was getting cold as a reason to get out. When we got back into my house I said that I was going to shower and that she should get dressed and leave, that I would see her next time. When I was in the shower rather drunk I heard the door go and when I turned around she was entering the shower. I said she needed to get out and that I didn’t want to do anything. She then shoved me into the wall and said “I’m making an executive decision” then kissed me and grabbed my dick. I pushed her back and she turned and pressed her ass into me while pulling my dick towards her. She backed up into me as I went around her and out of the shower. I grabbed some shorts and told her to get out of my house. She then said we needed to talk about what had just happened at which point I started throwing up violently. And she got dressed and left at that point. Since then I have just felt dread and violated and blaming myself for inviting her over. I kept saying no and telling her to leave but can’t stop blaming myself and thinking that I have ruined my relationship. I feel the need to tell my girlfriend but I pressed it down and it has been 3 weeks now (we don’t live together) so I feel like that makes it look dodgy. I just haven’t been able to bring myself to say anything. I feel anxiety all day as I am scared my girlfriend will leave me. I feel as tho all the choice I had has been ripped away and although I said no I am still guilty. I don’t know how to tell her or how she will react and it terrifies me. I have been writing how I feel down which seems to help a bit, a help line I called has told me to focus on how it was not my fault and I didn’t consent but it doesn’t seem to have eased my feelings. My girl friend is my support network and I feel lost without her but scared that if I speak up she will leave me for cheating. I am embarrassed to speak to my friends so I thought I’d ask here. The help line lady asked what I would do if it was the other way around and my answer was hug my partner and cry but I need to know if other people would leave stay or not say anything in my case. I feel so lost and isolated please help.
Was it SA or just a stupid joke my father made?TW
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Hi guys I'm Olivia and I'm so sorry if this comes of as disrespectful for real SA survivor's but I need to know.
My father was abusing me until I turned 12. I don't live with him but I was forced to see him. By abuse I mean violence like beating me etc. Because of that I got trauma and ptsd and I can't remember a lot of things. I live with my mom now and see him from time to time because I have Baby siblings. When I was like 9-11 years old he said he wanted to give me "fake hickeys" to prank my mother.. and he leaned towards my neck. I pushed him and was uncomfortable and told him no but he just kept holding me. He didn't actually do anything. And I don't know how he wanted to give me "fake hickeys" I didn't even know what that was. And it felt wrong at the time and I only told my mom that he made a weird joke. He's also slapping my butt even tho I told him I don't like him and expects me to kiss him on the mouth. I'm 17 btw. And when I was young I knew Abt stuff like rape and sa even tho no one told me about it. I would say weird things or think that being touched in private areas was totally normal. I don't remember if something beside that ever happened but I also can't remember anything. I don't want to overreact if it was just inappropriate but he's also always touching my thighs in the car and stuff. And idk if I'm just reading too much into it. But I panic when someone gets too close and can't even take my shirt off without panicking in front of a doctor. Maybe these symptoms could be because of the abuse and not the weird things. But this thought is killing me cause I can't tell anyone. It's so uncomfortable I don't even want to say it cause then it's real.
I'm 23F and I've only ever had one sexual partner before this my ex-boyfriend. We broke up about 7 months ago and I've recently started trying to date again. I'm quite inexperienced and I've been very anxious about sex.
I met a guy through a dating app. We talked for a while and he asked me out for drinks. We went to a bar, chatted and had a few drinks. He then asked if I wanted to go back to his for a few more drinks and I agreed.
At his place I had another drink and everything felt fine. He made a move to kiss me and I kissed him back. We started making out and he was touching me, and eventually we went to his bedroom. We both undressed and continued making out in his bed.
He then wanted to escalate things to sex. I told him I didn't think it was a good idea.
He kept saying that it was fine. I felt pressured and kind of just lay there. He then had sex with me.
I'm really confused about what happened. I had consented to kissing, making out, going to his place, and getting undressed but I had told him I didn't think sex was a good idea.
So I am 28 (F) and my boyfriend is 30. We have been together for 9 years come December but like most long term relationships it hasn’t been all rainbows. But the current situation we are facing I think is giving insight on maybe he is not the right person for me. I was sexually assaulted by a very close friend of mine of in May and I disclosed it to my other friend because I just wanted someone to know. The friend that assaulted me I remained in contact with and have been around because she considered it a drunk mistake and I rather not acknowledge it happened. Well it’s August and the friend I told about it told my boyfriend and now he won’t talk to me and doesn’t want to be around me. I don’t want to be selfish because I know the situation probably is hurting him especially since he’s been around my close friend since it happened. But I’m also feeling like this is showing me how he deals with conflict like instead checking on me he’s making it about the fact I didn’t tell him. I just don’t know if tensions are high or if I’m in the wrong for having him around her knowing what she did to me or if he’s being selfish and I have a right to end the relationship now.
went out with friends and friends of my friends . got really drunk. remember the guy. we were flirting. i remember we kissed on the dance floor and i wanted to. after then i kinda don’t remember anything. apparently some of us went to an office and played table tennis. we then went to another bar but i lost my ID and the guy didn’t get let in. apparently we ubered to another place, i kinda remember jumping a fence and sitting in a closed bar’s beer garden and met two girls i think who were 17. after that i can’t remember anything . apparently the guy got ogalo. next thing i remember i was woken up by my mum the next morning. i was naked in my bed, and peed the bed, saw my pad that was stuck to my undies in the floor. later that day my friends told me i had had sex with the guy, because he told his friends that when he was sneaking out, he woke up my mum and she had a mini heart attack.
i kinda remember maybe being on top of him having sex, maybe he had a small penis or ejaculated really quick.
it’s just so unlike me to be bold enough to bring a guy home, my parents and mum and really catholic and strict about that stuff. so i really can’t imagine i suggested or wanted to go back to my place.
in the past i have blacked out. a couple months earlier i got really drunk and brought this mutual friend back to my share house but we didn’t have sex or anything i distinctively remember saying no.
Yesterday I visited an older neighbour whose partner recently died because he called saying he wasn’t doing well.
I’m 29 and he is around 65. I didn’t really want to go, but I felt sorry for him and thought he probably just needed someone to talk to. I’d also like to point out that I’ve taken the deceased woman to the hospital several times while she was alive and did grocery runs for them sometimes. So he was no stranger.
While he was crying about missing his partner, he touched my thigh several times. Stroking my thigh… I kept sitting further and further away, even put my bag between us…I wanted to say “stop touching me” and just couldn’t.
I have past trauma from being molested as a child from someone very close to me and I tend to freeze or people please when men cross boundaries. I hate it because in my head I know exactly what I want to say, but sometimes I just cannot get the words out.
Then he said he cannot be alone and wants to find a young woman to live with him. He offered for me to shower at his place because I don’t have a bathroom (currently renovating) then offered for me to move into one of his properties because “everything would be free”. I kept saying no.
By the time I left I felt completely disgusted. He gave me the rest of my coffee in a travel mug and told me to keep it so I could remember him when he dies. I threw it away on the way home, washed myself under my garden hose and later blocked his number.
I think what bothers me most is that I went there purely out of kindness because his partner had just died, and I left feeling violated and angry with myself for freezing, even though I removed myself from the situation, it doesn’t feel like I did enough to stop him.
Am I overreacting, or was this as creepy and predatory as it felt?
Idk if this is the right place to talk abt this but ive been seeing this guy for the past month. We been on 4 dates and been having sex after the second. First time we had sex he put it in me without a condom and didnt even ask. I told him to put one on. He then proceeded to attempt to put it in my ass and it led to the condom ripping and I stupidly let him continue w out a condom. Second time he put it on and kept it on. I reiterated that I dont wanna have sex without a condom and thanked him. Third time he told me he doesnt have a condom, and i said "oh uh" and he just started thrusting. I know i was rlly dry down there cuz the foreplay didnt lead to anything and my hormones r fucked up from when i took the plan B (after first time). He stopped and said hell put it on. It felt weird cuz why did he tell me he didnt have one when he did? And it felt disrespectful thay he was willing to risk me getting pregnant and stds just for his own pleasure. Im so annoyed and pissed rhay I cut it ofd with him.
I’m embarrassed to post this but it has been weighing on my mind on whether or not this was considered SA. I feel so torn and upset and I’ve been spiraling as a result of it. Please don’t be mean and make me feel shitty in the comments I feel bad enough. I’m autistic and struggle to read certain cues and situations more than the average person. But anyways. There was no penetration and it was just kissing and dry humping according to him but I’m still uncomfortable he did that while I was so blacked out I don’t remember.
So basically I’m friends with this guy and he caught feelings for me but I politely rejected him and tried to move on because I’m asexual. I don’t wanna have sex. I very rarely experience sexual attraction if at all and I’ve told him this. I went to his house as I’ve done before because we’ve been friends or a long time and used to be roommates. Anyways, I am a recovering benzo and opiate addict. I ended up relapsing on a lot of benzos and blacked out for days. During that time, I went to his house but I have no recollection of it at all. The whole time I was there. I only knew after the fact because of him telling me and looking at my phone when I was conscious enough to do so again. He claims that he thought the Xanax ‘wore off’ and that it was true consent because I said I wanted to but I feel like it wasn’t? I genuinely don’t remember this at all?? And on my Snapchat I was literally falling over while taking this random video at his house and clearly looked intoxicated. I couldn’t even tell you what I wore or if I packed a bag or what I had to eat or drink that day. I don’t even remember getting into his car when he picked me up. His story also changes every time we talk about it. First he said I didn’t seem high enough to not know what was going on but then he said he didn’t like the way I was acting so how was I acting? Which one is it. I still feel violated either way I just need a second opinion because I feel disgusting and like I’m losing my mind. For context I went though like 50 pills in 4 days… and I had no tolerance because I was sober for at least a year.
This makes me really uncomfortable that he made out with me and dry humped me as he claims when I don’t remember any of it and he knew I was really high. He claims I said yes. He was a safe person for me and this feels like a huge violation of my trust especially because he also knows about my previous trauma with being raped. There was no penetration but it still feels wrong. Am I in the wrong? Or am I justified to not be friends with him anymore? I’ll probably delete this soon but I have nowhere to reach out for support and idk if I’m even justified in feeling this bad because it is my fault but it still feels shitty and then he acted like I was the one who hurt him when I said it made me uncomfortable. He said he asked me multiple times if it was okay and I supposedly said yes but I don’t think I believe him when he says he didn’t know I was still blacked out or high… it just doesn’t add up.
My boyfriend and I dont have the best relationship, he is toxic and missy and problematic but I still loved him and wanted to be with him so im in fault, hes always been into the idea of threesome mmf, but I wasnt, one day we were together and and he invited his friend to stay at our place, normally I wouldnt mind it in a healthy relationship senario but because I cant trust my boyfriend I got so upset and told the friend that hes not welcome and my bf didnt ask me before inviting anyone, my bf told me that he just need a place to stay the night and that his friend is not going to touch me and will just sleep in the living room, I said ok because it felt like I had no other choice and went to have a drink before going to sleep, when I woke up the next day my bf was sleeping beside me on bed and his friend is sleeping on the couch in the livingroom, when I got up I noticed that the bedsheet was covered with blood, I noticed a condom on the floor, I dont remember if it was used or not but I know that my bf never liked to use condoms, I couldnt ask my bf because I know I wouldnt get any answer from him, I try to ignore that night but it keeps haunting me and giving me anxiety whenever I think aout it and I dont know the answers to my questions
Three months ago I was sexually assaulted. For the first two months or so I felt more traumatized by it and had ptsd-like symptoms, but now I feel mostly desensitized to it. I can think/talk about it without getting upset and I don’t really have ptsd-like symptoms from it anymore. I think the reason I’m desensitized is because I joke about it excessively and I was so drunk when it happened that it’s a fuzzy memory. However, I still think about how I wanna fight the guy and have internalized victim blaming.
Is it possible that I processed it or does this just mean that it’s very unprocessed?
A few days ago, I went on a date and we were drunk. He came back to my place. I thought he was a gentleman because he walked me to my front door, but then we realized there were no trains running to get him home. So, I told him he could stay the night and leave in the morning (So he could save money). But as soon as we got inside, he came onto me. I was very drunk, but I remember a few things. I know I tried to push him away and I know I said no, but he didn't stop, so I just waited for him to finish. While I was asleep, he had sex with me again. He didn't know I woke up during it, but I didn't know what to do, so I pretended to keep sleeping. And when the alarm went off in the morning, he had sex with me again. This time I didn't say or do anything because I thought it wouldn't make a difference. He asked me if I remembered anything, and I lied and said no because I didn't know what to say. But I wanted to know if he knew what he was doing... He texted me saying that he had raped me and had sex with me while I was asleep. However, he claimed it was just roleplay and that we had agreed to it. I don't remember that at all. I don't know why, but I was worried about saying anything, so I pretended everything was fine.
I am feeling weird and empty
I am a trans man, i occasionally get on Grindr to secretly hookup with guys I struggle with my sexuality so only a couple of my friends know I’ve done things like that I only date women, but tonight I decided to get a hookup w someone after a year of not doing anything w guys due to being in a relationship and we had broken up, we had previously discussed what im into and expressed I did not want to do anal and when we started doing stuff he bent me over and started trying to do anal and forced it in and i just froze up I didn’t say anything idk how to feel about it and im feeling very guilty as if this is my fault bc i chose to meet a stranger and i don’t want to go to police bc i don’t want anyone knowing i do anything with guys it makes me extremely insecure.
On friday i went out to a rave and ended up basically black out drunk. I went with my bestfriend and this other friend ive only met at 2 raves before i will call him bob for now.
I was pretty drunk by the time i had met bob inside the venue but from 12 onwards my memory is blurred, all i know is that he was buying us both drinks after drinks which i definitely didn’t need but i will admit once i start drinking i won’t turn down anything (this couod be a problem but anyway).
Around 3am everyone started leaving and i can’t remember why but i agreed to let bob stay at my house because he lives far sway. The problem is i don’t remember even leaving the venue and informing my parents he was staying round ect.
I was so drunk it took us hours to get home as i was so gone i forgot how to so we got to mine around 5am i think. I have no recollection of how we got home.
Then we where both in my living room and i dont know how it happened but we ended up having sex. I know he was also drunk but i know he was probably more aware than me… i have no idea how we ended up having sex ect and he didn’t use protection.
The next morning he left and i felt confused on how it happened, i texted him asking if he finished inside me as theres a chance of pregnancy and he said yes. This made me freak out because i know if i was sober i would have never slept with him, let him finish without protection especially so i felt disgusted and upset.
I then took plan b and now im waiting it out in hopes im not pregnant. Im wondering if this is SA or not because both of us where drunk but i was black out and have no memory of consenting or atleast being able to properly (i could have said yes but i don’t remember ect) and i just don’t know what to do.
i’ve (21f) been dating/seeing a guy for a couple months who is younger than me, so i’ve known it wouldn’t progress to something serious which he also knows. i have a personal rule where i only have sex with someone i’m in a committed relationship with so i’ve told him from the beginning that sex is off the table since we’re not official. the furthest i’ll go with someone i’m seeing is allowing them to put the tip in, and if they try to push it further i put a stop to it immediately. i really like having sex but it’s also super important to me who i have sex with, so this is my compromise to restrict myself from going all the way. in the past it’s worked fine and people respected that boundary.
there have been two instances now where the guy i’m seeing has pushed past that boundary and i’m wondering if it’s considered sexual assault/rape? the first was when i was drunk, i could feel that more than the tip was inside and i used my legs as a partial barrier but i was too drunk and tired to physically stop it. i’d ask him during if it was the tip and he lied and said yes, but i know he was lying because he apologized after by saying that just the tip “isn’t for him”. i was upset but felt like i should have told him no more firmly if i expected him to listen, and i felt sure i wouldn’t let it happen again. the second instance, we were both sober but he flipped me in a position where i think he knew i wouldn’t be able to physically stop him with my hands/legs if he tried to go deeper. i didn’t know i wouldn’t be able to stop him since it happened so fast. immediately he puts it all the way in and i froze and said stop. he didn’t move and started begging me to let him, to which i said no. after another pause he starts thrusting (fully) and i tell him “i said stop”, but at this point i’m scared that he’s not listening. after a second he takes it out and just starts denying that he was pushing me for sex.
i ended things but am pretty shaken about the whole thing, mostly just because of how disrespected it made me feel. since he did eventually stop when i told him to, i’m not sure if that counts as sexual assault and/or rape. any insight would be much appreciated.
EDIT: NOT RESPONDING HERE AGAIN. I THINK SOME ARE TRYING TO HIJACK THIS THREAD AND TURN THE NARRATIVE. I ADMIT, IT SEEMS LIKE I HANDLED THIS WRONG AND MAY HAVE THOUGHT MORE OF IHG. I DONT KNOW WHY THAT ANGERS SOME OF YOU, BUT IM SORRY FOR THAT. MY MOM DID NOT WANT TO REPORT, THAT IS HER BUSINESS AND I WAS NOT GOING TO PUSH HER UNLESS IT WAS GOING TO BE MEANINGFUL AND NOT JUST ANGER THE GUY.
THIS POST, HOWEVER, WAS INTENDED TO HIGHLIGHT THAT WE GOT KICKED OUT, SIMPLY FOR REPORTING A SEXUAL ASSAULT AND WERE TREATED HORRIBLY BY THE MANAGER AND DIRECTOR FOR DOING THAT. I ASSUME MAYBE THAT IS WHAT HAS SOME OF YOU NOT HAPPY, I DONT KNOW. MAYBE MY WRITING. BUT IM NOT TAKING THIS DOWN AND THIS JUST FURTHER MOTIVATES ME TO PURSUE THIS FURTHER AND LEAVE REVIEWS ELSEWHERE. WE HAVE CALLED THE POLICE, WE ARE NO LONGER IN THE SAME CITY AND IT NEEDS TO BE FILED IN PERSON. IT SOUNDS LIKE IF THERE WAS ANY FOOTAGE, IT WOULD BE DELETED BY THEN. THE MANAGER ALREADY TOLD ME THAT THEY DONT HAVE CAMERAS IN THE KITCHEN AND IT SOUNDED HONEST.
AND JUST A FYI, IF YOU WERE TO ACT THIS WAY OR SAY THIS IN FRONT OF ANY DECENT PERSON, THEY WOULD LOSE RESPECT FOR YOU. ITS NOT HARD TO SAY I AM SORRY THAT HAPPENED AND DANG MAN YOU SHOULD HAVE CALLED THE POLICE FIRST. YOU GUYS KNOW THAT, I DONT KNOW WHY IM SAYING THIS. ALOT OF YOUR POSTS WERE SIMPLY JUST ILL INTENTIONED, AND ITS SAD. MORE PROOF THAT THE INTERNET IS NO LONGER A GOOD PLACE.
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Excuse grammar, writing this quickly. -Mom was sexually assaulted at the staybridge in lake forest last week by an employee. When it first happened she told me it was just a pat on the butt and not to report. She then went from being happy and wanting to extend the room and loving the hotel, to then being depressed and wanting to go somewhere else. I then learned a few days ago, it was much much worse than a pat on the butt. I said no I'm reporting immediately, hoping theyd still have camera footage.
It was midnight when she told me, so I sent an email, two days go by no reply. Then a phone call today, and just like during our stay, this manager lady was horrible. Immediately being accuasatory, passive agressive in her tone ect. I literally said in the email this was not for our benefit, we were not suing ect. This was for anyone else he might attack. Then she had some other guy call us, not very professional, was extremely rude and accusatory. Basically saying like "thats not possible, employees are not supposed to be in that area". Just insanity. He then started yelling practically, my mom was so right. Earlier in the conversation he had said, "why didnt you report it the day of", I said because she told me it was just a pat on the butt and that she absolutely did not want me to do anything till after we were gone from the hotel. Retaliation ect. Then later on, he basically said we no longer want you as a guest. I then said, this is exactly why she didnt want to report it. You were literally giving us shit for it then and youre now just proving us right. He then started to get very angry and say blah blah sir dont put words in my mouth. I said dude you literally said "why didnt we report it then?". Started yelling more so I hung up.
No info online about the franchise owner, I called IHG and a lady took notes, but its basically just for IHG's benefit. I doubt we would receive a call about our problem now of needing a hotel. Everything is now 2x as much as before. Before we hung up, I told them this asked if they could just put us at the other staybridge in town. He basically told me it was not his problem. That we'd get a refund.
All we were doing was protecting future women. This is insane. Did not say sorry once, not once. Didnt even act polite for one moment. Forget about polite, they werent angered for one moment,
When I (24f) was a little girl (10), my curiosity and willingness to experiment got me SA’d and it led to a lot of other bad shit. I had a couple boys I played with in my neighborhood who I did stuff with. We would sit together on the school bus and they would put their hands down my pants and I would put my hands down theirs. They never did anything to each other. We would laugh and we felt like we were being sneaky and grown up. Sometimes I would put my hands down their pants, and they would press my hand against their genitals and act like they were humping my hand. We all thought it was hilarious.
When we weren’t at school, there were some woods at the edge of our neighborhood where we could go. We would take turns flashing our genitals to each other. It progressed to touching and licking. Sometimes lying on top of each other and touching genitals together.
I didn’t know it at the time, but one of the boys told his older brother (16m). His brother started showing up when I was hanging with the boys. I didn’t want to do any of that stuff when the older brother was around because him being older made me feel like he would tell on us and we would be in trouble.
One time we were in the woods and the younger brother had to pee. He pulled it out and peed right in front of me. The older brother watched this happen. It wasn’t long after that, I was outside hanging out with the younger brother, and the older brother showed up and said his mom wanted the younger brother to go home for some reason. The younger brother left and the older brother stayed. He asked me if I wanted to go play in the woods. I said sure. This time I felt really cool because here I was with a 16 year old boy who wanted to hang out with just me.
We went to the woods. While we were there, he had to pee. Same thing, he pulled it out and peed in front of me. I wasn’t sure if I was supposed to look away so I kind of just froze. He wasn’t trying to hide it at all. He was right in front of me facing where I could see it. Two things caught me by surprise. The size and the hair. Again he was way older. When he was done, it took him longer to put it away like he enjoyed me looking at it. I didn’t say or do anything. I just watched. We walked around in the woods some more and nothing else happened.
After that day the older brother kept finding me playing outside and asked me if I wanted to go to the woods. The second time we went to the woods alone together, he did the peeing thing again, but this time he just left it out and kept looking at me smiling. I just smiled back at him and kept looking at it. He said “it’s ok to touch it if you want to.” I remember thinking I wanted him to think I was cool so I did it. At first I just touched it with my finger tips, but he took my hand and wrapped it around so that I was grabbing it. He started looking around to make sure no one was around, and he started moving my hand up and down to masturbate him. I kind of froze and let him do it, and he kept doing it until he came. I had never seen that happen and I didn’t even know it was a thing at first. I thought he peed. He said “thanks” and we left.
If I tell everything, the story will be forever long. It got to where he would have me masturbate him. He started fingering me. We did oral on each other. And then he took my virginity. This all took the span of about a month. After that we would go into the woods to have sex several times.
Over the years after that, I was really promiscuous. I had sex with other boys when I was 11 and 12. Some of them were my age and some were way older. When I was 11 I had sex with a 19 year old. This all made me feel cool and grown up. I left my parents house and moved in with my 24 year old boyfriend when I was 16. My parents tried to have him arrested for statutory rape but the age of consent in my state is 16.
That boyfriend would let his friends have sex with me. He even had a friend who was 33, was married, and had kids. He would come over and have sex with me a lot. I let it all happen because I wanted him to love me.
Now I’m going through therapy and dealing with all my shit. Sometimes I wonder if none of this would have happened if I hadn’t started doing that stuff on the bus. Or maybe I was already that way and I would have found another way to start. I don’t know but I just want to stop being so broken
I am 16f. It’s hard to explain. I like things that girls my age shouldn’t like. It makes it hard for me to actually connect with anyone and make friends because I can’t relate.
How does one person single handedly steal my childhood and make me an adult early?
Super sad
When I was in 8th grade (I'm in 11th now) my old best friend sexually assaulted me she grabbed my breast she had groped me in front of the class she smiled at me even when I told her to stop and let go I had to grab her hand I went to the counselor and we went to the office where the priceable said he'll do what he can when I got home my mom wasn't called I had to tell my mom myself and her parents weren't called because I begged my mom not to since the school probably did but news flash nothing happened I saw her the next day had to sit next to her I wanted to cry it sucked I know I cant do anything now but I hate that she's still effecting me I cant go anywhere not even around my own home without covering my chest she went its been worst after one of our mutual friends told me I was holding a grudge said it wasn't assault I cant even take off my bra in my room to sleep some nights I feel exposed I want it to go away I hate going to school because she's there I have to see her I wanna throw up it makes me uncomfortable
Hi, i had a bf for about half a year.
He is the first one i had reletions with. We had a good relationship, we were the power couple of our groups of friends.
My bf always talked about threesomes and doing stuff like that, i said im not closing off to the idea but im not there yet...
Following a grousome month of my bf begging, nagging me and even saying he might brake up with me if i wouldn't "open my mind", he was talking about a threesome.
Eventually i caved, and he called his friend. It was embarrassing and i wasn't really into it. But it happened.
A week later he broke up with me and broke my heart.
Is this sexual assault? I feel so stupid and embarrassed for doing it and i dont know how to deal with it.