u/Frequent-Song4003

On friday i went out to a rave and ended up basically black out drunk. I went with my bestfriend and this other friend ive only met at 2 raves before i will call him bob for now.

I was pretty drunk by the time i had met bob inside the venue but from 12 onwards my memory is blurred, all i know is that he was buying us both drinks after drinks which i definitely didn’t need but i will admit once i start drinking i won’t turn down anything (this couod be a problem but anyway).

Around 3am everyone started leaving and i can’t remember why but i agreed to let bob stay at my house because he lives far sway. The problem is i don’t remember even leaving the venue and informing my parents he was staying round ect.

I was so drunk it took us hours to get home as i was so gone i forgot how to so we got to mine around 5am i think. I have no recollection of how we got home.

Then we where both in my living room and i dont know how it happened but we ended up having sex. I know he was also drunk but i know he was probably more aware than me… i have no idea how we ended up having sex ect and he didn’t use protection.

The next morning he left and i felt confused on how it happened, i texted him asking if he finished inside me as theres a chance of pregnancy and he said yes. This made me freak out because i know if i was sober i would have never slept with him, let him finish without protection especially so i felt disgusted and upset.

I then took plan b and now im waiting it out in hopes im not pregnant. Im wondering if this is SA or not because both of us where drunk but i was black out and have no memory of consenting or atleast being able to properly (i could have said yes but i don’t remember ect) and i just don’t know what to do.

I was absolutely wasted yesterday to a point im not sure i could really consent properly. That being said i had sex with this boy with no protection and this is only my second time ever having sex (im 18). I just asked him if he came inside me because i dont even know and he said he thinks he did, so he definitely did… i dont know what to do im new to all this stuff and it was such a stupid mistake and i cannot let my parents know about this. I live in the uk, do i go get a morning after pill? its been almost a day, i haven’t got alot of money either. Any help appreciated.

2 days ago i had sex for the first time, is it normal that it hurt quite bad? we didn't use lube or anything which might be why it was painful but i powered through and got used to it until it became comfortable. As it was happening i hadn't noticed how much i was bleeding which was another concern. There was quite a lot of blood during and after. The next day i was still bleeding quite a bit until mid day, then it was either spotting or just a pinkish shade when wiping. My vagina also still hurts, sitting down ect it feels very sensitive and painful as well as pink shade when wiping. Could this just be a tear or was i too tight? Let me know.

+Also my scent is off, it smells fishy and not nice at all as well as still bleeding inside

I have identified as lesbian for 6 years, inbetween then there has been instances when i have gotten drunk and kissed guys but i have always felt disgusted or uncomfortable with it afterwards.

A couple weeks ago i was drunk and made out with a man and he ended up fngering me, i enjoyed it which made me spiral because i have never enjoyed kissing a man like that.

We have been talking since which has made me think i could be bisexual but i am very confused still because i have yet to experience anything with a man sober.

I am questioning being bi-homoromantic as i feel like maybe i could be sexually involved with a man but i cannot see myself dating one properly and definitely never marrying a man!

It is freaking me out because when i think about getting with him if i had a chance i feel a bit uneasy and i still don’t fully know if i would actually enjoy sex with a man. Could this even be just comphet as a lesbian or maybe im just bi-curious?! I have felt insane the last couple weeks!