r/Healthyhooha

So my bf lasts too long as i said. Like i'm not talking about 30mins or something he can last 2 hours and more maybe and it's really making me insecure. I always ask him if he enjoys it or not cuz how can he last that long always? Yes there were moments where he came in 15/30mins but it was only when he said that he was gonna cum fast cuz he wants to?? Like he does it on command almost . He always says that "its okay" or that he enjoys it but like shouldn't dont take that long?

Besides that most of the times i get so wet so he usually pulls out cuz he becomes soft it really fucks up my confidence idk what to do, or what am i doing cuz its not in my hands that i get so wet it just happens.. like whenever we do it we do it for hours so he can cum and idk what to do. Is it normal for me to get so wet everytime?? And for him to lasts too long??

Hello everyone I am currently seeing a guy and he is amazing in every way but we are struggling with sex and I need advice

So he is kinda inexperienced and I guess I am the more experienced one but not really because I have never actually had great sex either. Even with past partners who had bigger penises it was never amazing. I have never orgasmed from penetrative sex or oral, only ever from strong vibration. So in a way we are both figuring this out together.

He doesn’t have the biggest member and it’s on the thinner side so it slips out a lot, I think because I get really wet. The position that works best is legs on his shoulders, feels really good but always hits a plateau. When I added vibration in that position he actually came inside me for the first time which was a big deal. But I had to use it after with just him inside not thrusting because my brain genuinely cannot process two stimulations at once.

Right now I use my vibrator while he jerks off because he likes seeing me feel good and honestly same. But he feels like this isn’t sustainable and worries he can’t satisfy me long term. I really like him and don’t want to lose him over this.

Oral feels nice but never enough to finish. When he uses the toy on me, it’s a curved vibrating one and he uses it on me properly and everything builds and feels REALLY good or like I need to pee but I just cannot get there. So frustrating. I have squirted before with a past partner who had a bigger penis so I know something works somewhere lol.

I also think I might have a really small clitoris, like no visible tip the way most people seem to have. Thinking of getting a wand since it might be more powerful and easier to hold.

My actual questions:

Has anyone who has only ever cum from a vibrator managed to cum from oral or with a smaller penis? Is it even possible or is that just not how some people are built? Did I desensitize myself from vibrators or is that a myth? Does anyone else have a really small clit and what helped? When everything builds but you just cannot cross the finish line has anyone overcome that? Do I get a WAND?

TLDR: I can only cum from strong vibration, my brain shuts down with too much stimulation, penetration feels good but plateaus, and my partner worries he can’t satisfy me long term. Is any of this normal and can it get better?

i finished my 7 days antibiotics for bv.
still 2 days later, i still feel a slight discomfort, it still feel a little bit itchy:(( (not as much as before)
is it okay to take the otc single dose pill for a yeast infection? i cant deal with this anymore its making me feel disgusting.
thanks!!

Hi this is like one of my first Reddit posts but it’s late and I’m struggling and upset. 19f (almost 20).

I think I hate my labia. I wish I didn’t, I used to not hate them. I hear such awful things said about labia and vulvas that look similar to mine.

I opened Reddit and was doing some googling to see if anyone could relate or if I could find anyone saying anything comforting. I was even looking at pictures of real diverse vulvas (not the porn kind) and I feel like it just made me feel worse because mine is darker on the edges and I miss when it wasn’t.

In the comments of posts talking about similar struggles, all people had to say was “I like roast beef” or “embrace the beef curtains” and things like that and it all just made me feel so much worse. I hate that comparison. I don’t want to think of my vulva like that.

Im also in a WLW relationship and I love my partners vulva… she would never judge mine and knows Im insecure about it and has nothing but good things to say. I know she is attracted to me but she doesn’t get it because she doesn’t really have the same issues. I’m ashamed to admit it but I’m almost a little jealous sometimes.

Im kind of just ranting but I wanted to see if anybody else understands because it’s hard to just embrace the “beef curtains” when thats a disgusting term and it makes me feel awful about my anatomy. I don’t know what to do to start loving myself down there again. Would love to know if anybody here has had or overcome the same struggles or just has any insights at all because self love is really important to me but for some reason I feel so ugly down there.

I personally think I am attractive everywhere else so it’s just weird to feel shame about such an important part of my body.

so i went to an OB earlier this month and last month and complained about me not having a period. (i have pcos apparently)

and she went and gave me a pap smear and not only did i have a yeast infection but i also have genital warts apparently. which confuses me because how is that possible when i haven’t had sex or anyone touch me down there. i only use toys but i also threw them away out of fear that it caused the infection.

i’m lowk worried bc i can’t even look at my hooha anymore bc i feel disgusted by myself.

Had a UTI in end of 2024, beginning of 2025, and right now as I'm writing this. I'm only scared that my body might grow used to the antibiotics. I know the main cause of my UTIs which is that I hold my pee in far too long and clench my lower abdomen 24h even when I should pee/ relax (don't be like me guys) but yh, just wondering if I should be concerned or not (will see doctor later today)

Me (m20) and my gf (f20) have been dating for 6 months, and I lover her to death and she is so amazing. The only bad thing I’ve noticed is that her vag smells so bad. I can’t really deeply describe the stench, but it isn’t good, and it lingers on my fingers and lips whenever we have relations. The best way I could describe is it smells like pee and sweat. She is an avid runner, so maybe that has something to do with it. I’ve heard that diet plays into the smell of one’s vag, and I’ll say that her diet is not very good. A lot of proteins and grains and not many fruits and vegetables. I know she takes showers and I know she cleans everywhere when she showers, but the smell comes back after like 1 hour. Please tell me what to do as it turns me off in almost all of our sexual encounters

My partner (32M) and I (28F) use condom always whenever we have sex. I pee and wash after the sex.

But recently, my vagina have unusual scent and my discharge was also different. I am reading some topics like BV, Yeast Infection and UTI. Planning to visit gynecologist soon.

Is it possible to have infection eventhough we are using protection?

I have always used body soap and cleaned the outside (never the inside) but I heard other people saying using soap can throw off your ph balance so im wondering if only water is best and if most people use just water or soap.

Hello! Im 16 and ive just started having boyfriends, my mother never told me anything about hygiene other than shower and put deodorant on. I've been getting really nervous about my smell down there and shaving down there. I was wondering if maybe any of you could share what you know or what you've been taught?

I dont have money so I cant go out and buy fancy products to make everything perfect. How am I supposed to smell, taste, look, feel?? What do I use? How do I use it? I trust my boyfriend to never judge me or push me into doing something but I just want to be my very best for him!

TLDR : 23(F), never had a yeast infection before moving to melbourne 3 months ago. had 3 in the past month, self treated with canesten 3 day cream for the first two, now on fluconazole pill for 2 weeks for my current third.

I’d never had a yeast infection before this month, and now I feel like I’m stuck in a cycle and I’m scared this is just my life now.

My first infection started with INTENSE itching and thick clumpy discharge. I self-treated with a 3 day canesten cream and it seemed to go away completely.

Then maybe 1–2 weeks later, after a lot of unprotected sex/being finished in, I got symptoms again. The second time was weirder — less itching (or almost none), just clumpy discharge and that yeasty smell. self treated with 3 day canesten cream again. symptoms disappeared

my partner left the country and suddenly, 3-4 days after that, i had really heavy watery/milky discharge. At one point it was literally dripping down my thighs. I also developed tiny “paper cut” fissures at the bottom of the vaginal opening that sting when touched.

I thought maybe it was BV because my partner once noticed a fishy smell, but we just shrugged it off as old semen as we were intimate 4-5 times a day.

I went to Melbourne Sexual Health Centre and they said they saw “tons of yeast” on microscopy. My vaginal pH was 3.8 which they said was normal/healthy and more consistent with yeast than BV.

They tested me for STIs too:

- HIV negative

- waiting on chlamydia/syphilis (not likely as my partner just got tested, all negative)

- not pregnant

The doctor said I may be one of the ~5% of women who get recurrent yeast infections. She prescribed:

- fluconazole once daily for 2 weeks

- then once weekly for another few weeks after that

- follow-up appointment in 6 weeks

I’m only on day 3 right now. The watery discharge has decreased and now it’s more thick/clumpy and pale yellow/musty smelling.

I’m also not having sex again until late June so I’m hoping giving everything time to heal helps.

I know this sounds dramatic but I genuinely feel devastated because I’ve never dealt with vaginal issues before and suddenly having multiple infections in one month has made me terrified that my body is permanently “ruined” or I’ll never go back to normal.

Did anyone here actually recover from recurrent yeast infections and eventually stop getting them?

Hello. I’m 16f (obviously) and i just did a thorough inspection of my vagina recently after feeling so off about it and i’m disgusted. I hate the way my vagina smells and the way it looks. It makes me so depressed walking around with it there. It makes me feel so depressed looking at it i feel so disgusting. One flap is longer than the other, while the other is tucked and attached to my outer labia(?), and my smegma smells so weird. On top of this, i think i have bv but my mother won’t take me to the doctor because i need a gyno for vaginal health and “i haven’t had sex yet”. I feel so depressed whenever i start my period and whenever it ends. I feel depressed during my follicular phase and literal, and especially during ovulation when my discharge get thicker and all that stupid crap. I hate hate my vagina so much, and i just want to die thinking about how i have one. I hate everything about it, including the way it works. I don’t know why i feel this way, and it’s made me so insecure because no all i can think about is how im disgusting for having a weird vagina, or just a vagina in general. I wish i could take a piece of skin and cover the hole, and leave the NECESSARY holes open. I hate my vagina, and i feel so alone thinking maybe im the only one

hi there,
i had anal sex 5 days ago and just today i noticed quite a bit of blood when i went to the bathroom. i looked with a mirror and saw i have a tear about an inch long. i’ve bender experienced this before. will it go away with self care or is it something i should go in for?

as the header says, I’ve been having excessive milky white discharge, watery consistency for the past week. I get it multiple times a day, gushes out, and when I’m not wearing panties it runs down my legs. It has no smell for the most part. It started after my period ended. Also, no itchiness or irritation.

For context, I used vaginal clindamycin to treat my BV around 3 weeks back. When I completed the treatment I did have some general irritation and frequent urination for a couple of days but it went away. Now, it’s just the discharge and it’s bothering me a lot because of the quantity of it. Would appreciate any advice

i’ve gotten BV 4 times now, from 3 different partners. This most recent time, I am currently with a partner and we are exclusive so I had him take antibiotics as well. My only trigger is sex, but i’ve also changed the following to try to prevent a recurrence
- ive installed a removable shower head so i can clean as thoroughly as possible afterwards
- we will not be doing any activities involving my or his saliva down there for some time. when we do, i have a hydrogen peroxide mouthwash to use beforehand
- when i treated with antibiotics this last time i used boric acid alongside it to try and break down biofilm.
- he never had and will not be finishing inside me
- after discussing with my doctor, we opted for no condoms since my partner has been treated and i’ve gotten it with condoms before since i’m sensitive to them
- i changed his soap to the same one i use
- i will be skipping the placebo week of my birth control to avoid pH changes as much as possible and stabilize estrogen levels

after sex routine now:
- immediate pee and shower (i already did this before as well)
- boric acid insert with lactic acid gel night of
- probiotic suppository the night after (vitanica)

does this sound like it might do the trick? i’m willing to do anything. My chief and only BV symptom is burning on the vulva and vaginal vestibule that sets in 10 days after intercourse.

situation -

I woke up in the morning on day 2 of my period

I decided not to bathe.

I had breakfast, ate a bit, but I couldn't eat because of pain and stuff, so then the pain was much

I decided to bathe with hot water. Currently, summer is there, so

I went to bathe, I peed, then bathed like I spent more time there. I sat on the stool in a way that the shower droplets fell on my tummy, and did the same for my lower back. In between, I felt the need to shit and pee

I did, but due to cramps, I didn't get the satisfaction of shitting, and then while I was kinda sitting, a spider crawled up to my private area

I panicked, thank god it didn't bite, and then I got it off me quickly and killed it after some more time in the bathroom

I felt dizzy and low energy, and even small moments felt heavy

I didn't know what to do. I still had to dress up; I couldn't be nude to come out in the house

, so I forced myself to put on underwear, pants and a t-shirt, and then I ran to the room and lay on my back on the bed, my stomach hurt like crazy

Literally, I felt I was feeling cramps and shit pressure at the same time. It hurt a lot

I had literally no energy to go to the bathroom, so like i rested for a bit. Then I drank this med, then after 15 mins approx I drank glucose.

My cramps were there.

Then I put a hot water bag on my tummy and changed the position of sleeping, it didn't help, but after sometime cramps died down. Later, cramps vanished. I peed when there was a lot of blood along with tiny clots, but peeing a bit hurt, but better with low energy in the body, but somehow better earlier.

Hi everyone. I’ve been really anxious and wanted some honest opinions about my risk level here.

A few days ago, my partner and I mainly did outercourse. We dry humped without protection, but there was no penetration or actual sex. We also did mutual masturbation, and I’m worried about the possibility of precum getting on fingers/hands and then somehow getting into me. Also im on Opill but was only on a week prior to this event.

Later, he finished on my stomach/thigh area while I was underneath him. Afterward, I rinsed off in the bathroom, and now I’m scared about “cross-contamination” from washing/rinsing the area and whether semen could somehow have traveled into my vagina that way.

There was no direct ejaculation inside me, but I keep overthinking whether precum, fingers, or rinsing afterward could realistically cause pregnancy.

How likely is pregnancy from situations like this? Has anyone else dealt with this kind of anxiety afterward?

I don’t like the way birth control makes me feel. The only method I didn’t mind as much was the pill, but the pill isn’t easy to keep up with.

I decided to try the ring and I have been moody and have been feeling discomfort in my pelvic area. It had only been a week or two.

I took it out today because I think it was causing a yeast infection and I’m just over it. It’s been three hours and I feel better already. Maybe it’s a mental thing but I feel a decompression in my womb.

What are some better options for me ?? Is there any pill that doesn’t require you to take it at the same time daily ?

I’d really like some advice please.

My 12 year olds period blood (she first started them 9
Months ago) smells horrendous. I can smell it through the house when she changes her pad and I can smell it off her by the end of the day. It’s unbearable.
It’s not fishy it’s more of a smell of … I don’t even know to be honest.
She’s not amazing at hygiene frustratingly but I am on her as much as I can be but she does change her pads every few hours as the bleeding is heavy

We’ve been to the docs twice and her bloods were “normal” other than low iron so given iron tablets which my daughter takes from time to time but I don’t think it’s the cause.

Does anyone know what it could be? I’m unsure of BV type as the smell is only when she’s on her period. I have tablets from my BV and I’m tempted to give her them to see if it helps as the doctors don’t seem to be helping when I’ve asked. I will go back with her though as it really can’t be healthy.

Has anyone experienced this and can help? It’s been months now and the smell is honestly terrible and I’m
Worried for her health.

Thanks

Hello all,

I had posted on here about my experience and I recently saw a new gyno for my recurring BV and Yeast infections.

He’s starting me on 7 day terconazole + 5 day metronidazole.

Suppression therapy involves once a week metrogel, once a week boric acid, + probiotic everyday.

Does anyone have any advice on this or concerns?? I read that metrogel can trigger a yeast infection. Any comments are appreciated!