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I’m 18 and I have an outie, i do watch porn and I’ve noticed that the stereotype with a larger labia is that it’s “loose” and the girl that has one is ran through, the comments shame the girl and I feel so insecure reading them, im a virgin and I do have a boyfriend and have avoided most sexual activities because I’m scared he’ll be disgusted over it like the porn media shows it to be, do guys care this much about it?

I'm 13 and I never learned how to clean my vagina, so I looked a bunch of stuff up online about cleaning it, but I don't know all the terminology (vulva, vagina, lips, etc). A bunch of people were saying to clean the outside, but does that mean the outside of my actual vaginal opening, or the skin around my vagina? I'm so sorry, I never learned any of this. The way I clean mine is, I use dial soap, lather it up, and put it between my outer lips, i think, but then I stop once i get to my inner lips. Is that how you clean it? I wish this stuff was taught

My boyfriend (19 FtM, not on testosterone) gets a UTI pretty much every time we have sex. I (20 FtM, on testosterone) don’t but more often have problems with BV.

We’ve tried all the necessary precautions that we know of. We both take nitrofurantoin (prescribed, 50 MG) after sex, we shower beforehand, we pee afterwards, we always clean the dildo and use a condom- so why does this keep happening? It’s been happening for months since we met.

We’ve tried no lube, different brands of lube, different brands of condoms (both latex and non-latex, lubricated and non-lubricated) and no condom. Even if his body doesn’t come into any contact with my own spit or slick, it still happens, and it happens the most often when he is on his period.

He has not seen a gynecologist. I have, and have been treated for BV before, plus was prescribed the nitrofurantoin after the first time I got a UTI, which has only happened once. I use boric acid suppositories which have helped reduce the frequency and severity of BV, but he hasn’t tried them yet. To my understanding they probably wouldn’t help prevent UTI’s anyways.

What else can we try?

Hi all, I would love any advice anyone can give on how to escape my current thrush cycle!

I would occasionally get thrush in the past from eg sex or sitting in wet bikini bottoms that sort of thing.

I got with my current partner about 4 months ago and after the first time we slept together I got thrush seemingly out of the blue. He then realised that he had has jock itch two weeks previously and didn’t think anything of it as he had treated for it and had no symptoms. So we put it down to that and both treated for thrush.

The following week I went on the mini pill and had the coil fitted, the coil then expelled a week later and I had to come off the mini pill as it gave me VERY high blood pressure. No thrush for a week or two then got it again and wasn’t really sure why. Me and my partner slept together just before this when I didn’t have symptoms and then he got symptoms too.

We have ping ponged between both treating, both being fine and having no symptoms to then both developing symptoms. I am now on suppressive treatment and have been for a month (fluconazole weekly). I never get any symptoms beyond thick lumpy discharge, no stinging or burning, my partner is much the same and gets red bumps and a white film.

Despite being on suppressive treatment I slept with my partner and he developed symptoms even though I had none, then I developed symptoms again. We are both very on it with personal hygiene, don’t use fragrances soaps or anything and eat very healthy.

We do both drink and he does drink a lot of beer (and me wine) but this is nothing new for either of us and we have never had these issues with other partners in the past.

The doctor has said that we might just be two people who have incompatible microbiology, and that we will continue to have these issues.

My assumption on why it’s only become and issue now is that my microbiome is off kilter from hormonal contraception (with I historically don’t react well too) and that our bodies are trying to get used to eachother, and that fact we are both quite boozey isn’t helping.

Any suggestions on how we can make adjustment and navigate would be greatly appreciated!

My partner and I tried fisting for the first time last night. It felt good at the time, but today I’m feeling a little uncomfortable while walking and moving around.

There’s no severe pain or heavy bleeding, but I’m wondering if mild soreness or discomfort the next day is normal, and how long it usually lasts. Is there anything I should do to help it heal or feel better?

Also, are there any warning signs that would mean I should see a doctor?

So my periods just finished 3 days ago nd since yesterday my both labia are itching a lot, they are so dry and they are swollen nd kinda became bigger than before. I sometimes have discharge which makes my labia stick to my underwear nd it hurts as hell. I don’t use any soaps, any medications, and I wear cotton underwear. It hurts to sit or walk as they rub into each other😭

Hey y’all! I have a question regarding some new symptoms I’ve been having over the last two months that are baffling me and leaving me feeling gaslit by my own body.

To start, I have been prone to UTIs in the past due to a birth defect that’s been fixed; went nearly 28 years without having another UTI until last year, when I had two. I had another one in April—all treated with antibiotics that I took the full course of.

Then in May, about 10 days before my period, I got those same symptoms again—burning, frequency, urgency, and what felt like bladder spasms when I peed. U/A came back negative & symptoms resolved without treatment after a day. Two days after that, I had what felt like yeast infection symptoms—internal & external vaginal/vulvular itching. Treated with OTC monistat, symptoms again resolved. Except when I started my period, and I had both UTI & yeast infection symptoms.

My PCP did an exam, said it looked like a yeast infection, collected & sent a vaginal swab, and gave me a 1x dose of fluconazole. The swab came back negative for BV and yeast infection, but she had me take the medication anyway since clinically it appeared like I had one. Either way after taking the pill my symptoms resolved and that was that.

Until I started my period last week, and the same symptoms came back. A day of UTI symptoms that resolved after taking a dose of AZO, then two days symptom free, a day of vulvular itching resolved with monistat, and then a day with all of the symptoms + nausea/vomiting. I went to the walk-in that day (this last Friday), and had a U/A & vaginal swab. Swab was again negative for BV/yeast/trich, and U/A had mild leukocytes but not much bacteria. The doctor thinks it may be an atypical UTI and started me on a week of an antibiotic based off the urine culture from my UTI in April, thinking I may be colonized with the bacteria that caused it then. My symptoms yesterday & today are: mild burning when i pee, peeing small amounts, and intermittent urethral pain.

I made an appt with my PCP for the 17th to see if i can get a referral to a uro-gynecologist per the walk-in doctor’s recommendation, but i am curious if anyone here has had these symptoms/symptom patterns before? I have never experienced urinary issues with my period before May, and I’m worried that this will be a new normal for me. It is also affecting my sex life as my boyfriend is worried that if we have sex on a symptom-free day that I’ll experience them the next day. I love him for that, but I also don’t want to live with something that will impact my sex life so significantly, and I’m hoping that maybe I can get some advice on how to manage that aspect?

Anyone ever experience tears during sex? Specifically at the 6 o clock entrance on the posterio8r fourchette? I am wondering if anyone else has gone through this and it NOT be lichen sclerosis. Did it ever heal?

I have been getting tears during sex for the last 2 years, but not every time. Ive been married a long time and it never happened in the past that I am aware of. The tear does not hurt but it feels like a hair is poking me and i can feel the skin being pulled. Afterwards i check and there is a small tear or rather rug burn looking area. Rarely, does it spot a tiny amount of blood. It only happens in certain positions and not every time. it will be healed within 1 or 2 days. by day 3 its usually totally gone. doesnt hurt to pee or wipe or anything else. its so weird!

We have started uberlube and its been helping but im scared to try a different position from what has been working for us.

I saw my obgyn when it started and she said lube and aquaohor. I didnt start lube but did do the aquaphor. It kept happening from time to time so at my next annual she prescribed estrogen topical cream. I am terrified to use it. She said she does not see signs of LS and she did a thorough exam both times.

Ugh im at a loss. I am scared its LS. i just need to get over my fear and start the estrogen. Just wanted to hear from others if anyone else has experienced this.

TIA!

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My partner and I haven’t had oral sex very often, but after a long time he finally told me he stopped doing it because the taste was really strong. I honestly didn’t know what he meant. I thought that if I showered beforehand, it wasn’t supposed to taste like anything specific.

Recently I was alone masturbating and I got curious and decided to see what I taste like myself… and he was right. The taste is pretty strong, but I don’t even know how to describe it. Maybe kind of like onion? It even stayed in my mouth until I brushed my teeth.

Does anyone know if pineapple or certain foods actually help make the taste less strong?

Long post but hoping someone has any advice or has dealt with similar issues.

September 2024
Noticed a small tear at the bottom of my vagina after having sex. No pain and didn’t realize it until I went to pee and it stung. Little bit of blood. Honestly didn’t think much of it, just assumed I had some irritation and the tear healed quickly.

Late October 2024
Had sex again since there were no visible signs of the tear still being there. Checked afterwards and noticed I tore again but also had some swelling.

Late November/early December
Assumed I was healed but this time I had to actually tell my boyfriend to stop because it was uncomfortable, I almost felt dried up. Checked and there was another tear and more swelling, almost bulb-like near the upper area.

December 2024
Saw a Gyno ARNP and also had a Pap smear. She prescribed estradiol for two weeks for the tearing. Pap came back abnormal with LSIL (low grade lesions).

January 2025
Had a colposcopy/cervical biopsy and everything came back clear. Also had a full STD panel, BV test, yeast test, and all came back clear.

February & March 2025
Abstained up until Feb and tried coconut oil as lube. Still tore. Waited until March and tried water based lube and still tore. Messaged ARBP and she referred me to a specialist.

May 2025
Saw specialist for possible vulvodynia and vestibulitis. Said pelvic exam looked normal and prescribed a compound of estradiol and testosterone. I think I used that for two weeks or so. Said to follow up in 8 weeks but I never did. Honestly I thought his office would contact me but I think I was supposed to initiate and never got around to it. I was just feeling defeated.

June 2025
Saw a my primary for a regular checkup and told her all that was happening. She recommended Sliquid but I never got around to buying any. She also tested me for Ureaplasma. Positive. She said she wasn’t sure if this was the cause of the pain and tearing but prescribed me doxycycline. My partner was 100% willing to get tested and treated as well. I thought that would be best so we didn’t pass it back and forth. He called his doctor who actually also works with my doctor, and he told my partner that he didn’t need to be tested and he didn’t need to be on antibiotics. Tell me how that makes sense!!!! I was so irritated that I threw away the doxycycline and didn’t even bother with it.

September 2025
Tried having sex. Didn’t have any lube at the time. I was aroused but was actually in so much pain that my partner had to stop. I tore again but the pain of penetration was new.

July 2026
Yeah. It’s been that long. I was very much in the mood and so was my partner so we tried. I used a ton of Good Clean Love after I felt “warmed up” enough. TEAR. And honestly, I think I started tearing before he even tried penetrating (like during foreplay) because when I used the lube, it stung where I usually tear. He couldn’t even get halfway before I started writhing in pain and had to stop. It almost felt like I was losing my virginity all over again but 10x worse. I had him take a look and there was a tear and blood. I sobbed for a good half hour afterwards. #1 due to the pain and #2 I thought enough time had passed and I was really looking forward to that part of intimacy we’ve been missing out on.

It’s been a very long almost two years and I don’t know what to do. I’m going to try to follow up with the specialist I saw last year to see what’s next and ask if he will retest for the Ureaplasma then I’m making my partner find another doctor to test him. I really don’t even know if that’s the issue but I know it can cause many symptoms.

If you made it this far, thank you for reading. Please comment or dm me if you’ve dealt with something similar.

I had unprotected sex with someone 2 weeks ago and because I’ve been paranoid, I noticed these spots on my labia. I notice I have them on both sides, so I think it’s fordyce spots after LOTS of research, but I have an appointment tomorrow and am just riddled with anxiety. I did get basic STD/STI testing and I have BV which I’m on my 3rd day of medication. I had no pain in the area up until today but it feels like tender pain not sharp, maybe due to BV or touching the area. I’ve attached pictures. I’m SO SCARED that it’s herpes, that’s why I have an appointment tomorrow for a swab and test. But please let me know what you guys think…

I added a link in the comments for the photos

I’m a 16-year-old girl and I’ve had a burning sensation in my vaginal area since I was a child. It only used to happen when I didn’t drink enough water and then faded after a few minutes when I drank a lot, but now it comes and goes without a clear reason. Sometimes it’s worse after I pee or it starts burning out of nowhere, but other days it’s barely noticeable . During a recent 5-day trip, I didn’t have it at all, but it came back afterwards.
I think the burning feels more internal than external. I don’t have severe pain, it’s mainly just burning.I’ve never had sex, so I don’t think it’s related to an STI. I also don’t think it’s a UTI because I don’t have blood in my urine, I don’t have burning while peeing, and I don’t have to pee unusually often.
Has anyone experienced something similar or have any idea what this could be?

Hi! I got a Brazilian wax at a new place 4 days ago. I tested negative for STD’s/STI’s, BV, yeast the week prior with no sexual activity. However, after getting waxed, a few hours after I noticed a negative change in my scent. My cycle is due in less than a week though and I know my scent can change with that.

The place I went to for the wax had glowing reviews with no one reporting anything out of sorts. I’m hoping I didn’t pick up any infections. Is it possible to have a ph imbalance after waxing?

Note: I do deal with health anxiety, and I am hyper vigilant about sensations, smells, etc.. so I could be blowing this out of proportion.

Hi all. In the last 12 months I have had BV 4 times, and thrush a couple of times. Each time I take the recommended treatment and it clears up, but always comes back. I’m now on my 4th bout of BV and it burns when I pee, which I haven’t experienced before outside of full blown UTIs in the past.

I took a private microbiome test recently which has detected Ureaplasma. I suspect my ex gave it to me early last year - I discovered he’d cheated on me twice.

I feel relieved that I finally know what is causing all my infections and discomfort but the road to recovery feels really daunting. I’m in the UK and don’t think the NHS take ureaplasma very seriously so I may order doxycycline online privately. Does anyone have any probiotic recommendations while I go down this route or any words of wisdom/hope? I’m really scared that because it’s been a year I’ve caused myself unreversible damage to my fertility, pelvic floor etc. thank you

ever since puberty, i feel like i’ve had a stronger smell. it’s not bad, but it has lingered on underwear at times that I’ve had to throw away. i drink so much water, eat relatively healthy, shower everyday, and wash the area with water only. i was beginning to accept that maybe i was overreacting and it was normal, but recently my bf mentioned that it also tastes off. what can i do to fix this????? i’m genuinely at a loss. my discharge is normal and everything!

I have fibroids that were detected with a pelvic ultrasound years ago. I remember being asked whether I was a virgin because, based on my answer, the doctor would order either a pelvic or a transvaginal ultrasound.

Now I'm 27, and over the years I've done more research and matured a bit. I've realized I don't really care about the idea that virginity is tied to an intact hymen. It seems like a misconception to me. I'm still a virgin for religious reasons, but I think virginity has to do with whether you've had sex, not the state of your hymen.

Anyway, I read that transvaginal ultrasounds are more accurate and can provide a better picture of what's going on, so I asked my GP to refer me for one. I also wanted to confirm that it would be the better option. She asked if I was a virgin, and I said yes. I also told her I didn't mind having something inserted (sorry if that sounds crude) as long as it wouldn't be painful.

There was a bit of awkwardness, and she seemed reluctant to explain further. She basically said that if I wanted the transvaginal ultrasound, there was no problem, but since I was a virgin they were going to "smash down" my hymen.

That surprised me. I looked up the probe used for the exam, and it doesn't seem very large, I felt it definitely wouldn't hurt. I also use menstrual discs regularly, and to position them I often have to insert my fingers without any issues. I asked my GP because I assumed she'd have more anatomical knowledge, but it almost felt like she thought a virgin's vagina is completely sealed by the hymen, which doesn't make sense to me.

Is a transvaginal ultrasound really that rough for people who have never had sex? Why do doctors seem to not be aware that not every virgin person has a fully intact and "sealed" hymen? I'd bet most don't but that's my personal supposition.

For the love of God, please help.36yo I've been dealing with vaginal issues for 4 months. I've been tested for B. V. Yeast and have gone through 2 cycles of antibiotics and a cycle for yeast. My culture's negative, so I don't have bv or yeast.And all my stds are negative. Original symptoms were burning and some discharge that gets worse or slightly better. Last cycle it thought maybe its the pad? Immediately switched and had some realief but still really inflammed down there. Went to the gyno and told her. She did an exam and went its probably lichen sclerosus (i look nothing like the picture!) She did a biopsy, 0/10 recommend. I think its just contact dermatitis. Anyone else experience this with flexfoam pads? How long after chronically using an irritant, did it take to heal?

I got back with an ex in February and its been downhill since. It started with light green light yellow discharge and what felt like the beginning of a UTI but then it didnt develop. Ive had extra long periods since and very heavy, I also have hormone issues so I thought it was related.

Since feburary ive been full panel tested 4 times. Ive gone to my primary, ob, emergency room, urgent care, and planned parenthood. Everything kept getting worse, burning pain in my lower stomach into my pelvic area but since everything came up negative they kept dismissing me. Fast forward to this last month ive had very yellow discharge every time I wipe and on my underwear and all last week I went to three separate doctors. Sent home.

But everything came back negative so my partner and I had sex. We'll idk if that turned everything up 10 notches but Now im in the emergency room cause its so painful, my vagina is completely red and inflamed and theyre finally gonna do an ultra sound that my ob tried to make me wait until the end of july to get.

Im so medically exhausted I asked for them to start me on trich anti biotics just incase and to give me a uti med and they finally are.

Idk what the point of this is except i have had the worst experiences medically and im exhausted.

Im so nervous to talk to the man. When we had sex there was noticeable yellow discharge and im mortified. But i havent had sex with anyone else since october. I clearly got it from him but I dont even know how to say this to him.

I called it off in January and we've been really good since March and now this. I think he had sex in the month and half we were apart and he just doesnt have any symptoms

I don’t know what to do, or even how to explain my situation. If anyone has ANY information on this would be greatly appreciated, because there isn’t much on the internet I can find.

So basically about a year ago i had a UTI and my only symptom was this weird arousal but uncomfortable feeling down there. The sort of feeling that makes u want to crawl up in a ball in the darkness alone, it’s a horrible sensation that can’t be explained. Anyways I took antibiotics and the said UTI apparently went away but this uncomfortable feeling stayed there it would show up some days and then disappear. About two months later it never came back I suspected PGAD or hypertonic pelvic floor but never knew I started taking magnesium and it just never came back.

Fast forward to about a week ago I was having UTI symptoms (burning pee, just feeling weird etc) and the WEIRD arousal feeling came back. I started taking antibiotics and it went away. Until today I’m on my final day of antibiotics and it’s back and BAD. I just want to understand why this is happening, and what I should do.

Side note also because of the antibiotics I’m having bad symptoms show up like watery diarrhoea 15 times a day, lower back pain, cold and hot flushes etc. Been going THROUGH it. Anyways, I don’t know if I show go to the doctors or if they will even understand what I’m talking about. Should I get tested for UTI, ureaplasma or mycoplasma? Or just go to a pelvic floor specialist? I don’t know, it’s just the worst feeling ever.