u/Cytallet

Im 19F and my mom is exhausted 24/7 and doesn’t take hygiene or adulting i guess as seriously as she should. I gave up washing up after my parents a long time ago because they cant maintain it (its literally just us 3) so i leave their chores like laundry and dishes alone because its exhausting for the same mess to be back the next day. i basically live independently except for financially. i do my own laundry, dishes, cooking, general house cleaning, my own groceries, handle my own prescriptions and general healthcare and appointments. i cant move out because my country has a housing crisis and rents at an all time high, i wouldnt be able to sustain it.

since she doesnt do laundry especially her own, i’ve caught her using my underwear instead of washing hers. Ive deduced this easily because her discharge leaves bleach stains and mine doesnt. as well as stretched or torn elastic because shes not the same size as me.

Ive confronted her about this once. she didnt really take it seriously and she just said okay and that the topic was making her uncomfortable.

it obviously didnt stop and i honestly dont want to find out if just simply throwing them in the wash is doing enough but i cant afford to keep buying new underwear.

I also just found crab lice/scabies cream in a drawer. the box was empty and prescribed recently to her name. shes had a couple scabs and red spots around her chest and arms but i didnt think much of it.

ive had no itching down south but my god am i paranoid now. help please me lol i dont even know where to began handling this

TLDR: mom uses my underwear instead of washing her own, found scabies/crab lice cream prescribed to her, no genital crustaceans suspected currently but perhaps i should be on the safe side

I’ve (F19) been adhd diagnosed since 2024. I see my psychiatrist every 3 months to review my medication and just check in etc. standard procedure i think.

after receiving my diagnosis I got prescribed a low dose of Concerta XL and since beginning it, I violently shit and vomited every morning upon taking it (with food or without) for about month, so naturally, I called and I brought up these side effects to my psychiatrist and she told me to stop taking it.

Grand. Side effects gone. Happy out.

Next few appointments go over the course of maybe 6ish months, i spend those focusing on medicating my anxiety and depression since my mental state plummeted unexpectedly (unrelated to adhd meds) and needed an increased dose on my antidepressants.

Medicating my ADHD again was never brought up again until I asked at a recent appointment. She tells me that I seem to function fine without it and dont need it.

Bestie.

I didnt even finish school i dropped out at 17

Since 16 I havent been able to handle a job for longer than a month

cleaning, eating and sleeping especially is overwhelmingly difficult.

I feel like genuinely one of the most dysfunctional and behind in life person in the world.

I bring it up again, this time with my mom present and suddenly she tells this clinic doesn’t specialise in ADHD treatment.

Right. Fine. We ask for a referral to one that does.

She tells me to do my own research on private clinics because other places currently have year long waiting lists.

We call some clinics and with some ungodly luck, we got a virtual appointment within a couple weeks. Come the day of the appointment that we *specified* was for a medication consult. We talk to the consultant for less than 5 minutes before she tells us she can’t prescribe anything virtually since it’s a controlled substance.

big fucking sigh.