I have been using dating apps (unfortunately) but I am not looking for something casual from the get go. Not comfortable with going directly to someone's home before seeing them outside, so I get a few msgs from guys asking to come over but ofc I wanna say politely that I would rather see them outside first. How do you guys say it? I just don't wanna be rude or come as closed off.
Hi chat! I live in nyc and whenever I go outside, I constantly get stared at by men. I just hate it so much and I swear any time I pass them they just stare super hard until I completely pass them like:
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Also, it doesn’t matter if I’m wearing baggy sweatpants or a short sleeve shirt, it just happens every time and I’m so tired of it and get ANNOYED AF
So does anyone have tips on how to get men to stop staring??? Idk how well mean mugging can work and I’m tired of keeping an RBF everywhere i go
WOMEN please respond.
Just curious if you ladies like sex and the city?
I heard it was a good girl show, and it’s been around and still prevalent to this day so I thought it was a classic…
But I’m on season three now and the more the show goes on the more I loathe carrie. She is very much a pick me, is a horrible friend and I’d say she’s even a horrible woman (I got a spoiler and saw she ruined Natasha’s marriage). She also super annoying!!! where I’m at now she’s dating the furniture maker and she’s complaining he’s “too available” so she’s sabotaging and it pissed me off!
Is this the point of the show or am I missing something. I love the three other woman but Carrie being the lead is pissing me off 🤣
Every day I get a number of posts where OP is saying they are new to periods or masturbation and asking for in depth tutorials on how to do it. The way they articulate themselves mixed with a hidden profile history makes me think it’s probably men getting off on it.
I'm a teenager, I just posted about this, but it got taken down for "doxxing" even though I was just trying to warn ppl in my area abt this creep. Either way, I was in the mall with my friends, and on the escalator I just saw some guy running, and my friend realized he was standing right behind me, with his phone out and angled under my skirt. We ran up to him and told him to show us his phone, he acted confused and like nothing happened, yet while we tried to get a pic of him for security, he literally ran away from us, and turned a corner every time he saw us. We never found out if he got in trouble, doubt he did. But all I get when I come out about this situation, is go to the police, and don't wear such a short skirt next time if your gonna complain. Which just makes me feel like shit, I hate that somebody has such an intimate photo of me without my consent. I keep wondering what he did with it.
So just to preface this, i do know there's always a possibility but I CANNOT be pregnant right now.
So I'm 17 and I've been missing my period for about 12 days which isn't unheard of for me since my period is irregular and highly susceptible to stress (which I've had a lot of given the circumstances).
The thing is, before i missed my period i gave my partner oral, then about 15 minutes later there was genital contact/grinding but 0 penetration and according to him no pre c either (he also reassured me the area was dry by that point). There was also some finger action after that.
Just typing this i know this paranoia is illogical but I'm SO SCARED I'm somehow one of those "medical miracles" that somehow defies statistical probability. Just my luck haha..
Ive been debating on whether I should make this post or not but time goes on and I haven’t told anyone i know about my pregnancy and not planning to. I have limited amount of time to have a legal abortion and I need advice. I feel like the most awful person in the world right now,but I never wanted a son and to be fair Im terrified to death at the thought of being a boy mom,everything about it scares me-the possibility of him becoming a misogynist,of him killing me,killing or raping someone else,Im scared to birth a future criminal a porn addict a violent man an abuser an angry alcoholic a drug addict I feel like I’m in a lot of danger and I can’t help myself Im terrified to death and ever since I found out it’s a boy Ive been bawling my eyes out and suffering from insomnia. This not my first pregnancy,at 14 years old I got pregnant from a rape and I miscarried,no one ever found out and I will never tell a soul it happened but even back then,i had paranoid thoughts about it being a boy that will grow up to be like his biological “father”. I don’t feel safe and I never did,i first started having these thoughts when I was 6 and my aunt was murdered by my cousin,apparently because she refused to keep giving him money he used to buy meth or so I was told I remember thinking “ I will only have daughters” not realizing the choice wouldn’t be up to me. But now I’m not sure if I should I have any kids at all,if I can’t imagine being a mother to a son because I know for a fact I’ll be terribly scared and won’t find it in me to love him-do I deserve to be a mother at all? Im 19 and I live alone in my own apartment,I make good money. I broke up with a guy Ive been dating for 2 years,we wanted to get married and start a family in our mid 20s but I never really liked him that much and was in because I desperately needed partnership,we broke up two days before I found out I was pregnant and I still haven’t contacted him.
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Why do I keep hearing about 'male loneliness' as if everyone isn't lonely?
Not trying to downplay that some guys have had bad situations happen that have left them lonely but I really can't stand this victim mentality that men have going on right now. Besides that fact that loneliness is a big thing nowadays due to many factors of modern life, a lot of mens loneliness is self inflicted.
Having been lonely myself I have tried making friends with a lot of guys and this has been my experience:
-They pretend they want friendship but are actually looking for a relationship. Then get mad when I say I'm not interested despite making it clear in the beginning I'm looking for friendship.
-They have zero social skills and it's like talking to a wall. The lack of effort just to make basic conversation.
-They don't try to make friends with other guys.
-They use you as emotional support and will only vent about their problems, then when you suggest ways of solving their issues they shoot down every solution. Like they enjoy being a victim.
-When you vent about your problems they invalidate every experience you have as a woman. Telling us we have it easy as if the world isn't built to cater to men 🙄
I could go on and on but you get the point. It's crazy how they can't see their own privilege, they'll never have to worry about their rights being taken away, etc. Loneliness is an issue that can be fixed with a bit of effort.
Saw a misogynistic post of a man saying women in their 40s have to compete with women in their 20s because real men don’t want older women because of “baggage” and all this other weird stuff. I’m 27…. Never been in relationships before….. please tell me majority of men don’t think like this or at least they’re men out there don’t think like this….. I’ve been already feeling like my life is over and then I saw that post.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve experienced this. I feel this is an incredibly normalized experience most of us have had this happen at least once. But now that I’m an adult I realize how seriously messed up it is. Been talking to this guy from a dating app and pretty quickly off the bat I made it clear, “I’m not really looking for a hook up, if you are that’s completely fine just tell me”. I do this often and guys usually seem taken aback by it so early on. But I like to put it out there because it happens EVERY time. Well this guy was pretty insistent on hanging out. So I kind of thought it was a red flag.(but I also don’t want to assume every guy is like this and want to give a fair chance) Well, he reassured me while he obviously finds be attractive he really just wants to take me out and get to know me and see what happens. I love that! I like casual. Guys often assume that because I don’t want to sleep with them 30 seconds after meeting them that I’m waiting until we are happily married and expect a ring by next week lol. No, just give it a little time. Well few days later I’m in bed casually say how I couldn’t sleep. BAM. He sends me a pic.
It’s just disappointing because I really want to give people the benefit of the doubt but this happens EVERY time. I know this happens to a lot of people. But 1. I have NOTHING wrong with just wanting someone for sex!!!! Completely fine, just be honest! I can’t imagine knowingly leading someone on, especially someone who said how they arnt ready yet, and the entire date just plotting how to get in their pants. When I was young I accepted this as the norm as an adult I find it genuinely creepy. If you decide to casually start conversations with girls knowing your real intent is to get in their pants please just tell them. It’s the nice thing to do.
I hope this is allowed. I’ve just wanted to express this but other places have not responded well to this post…. I’m not sure why or what I’m doing wrong. If not allowed please just help me understand why..
Hello, I think I need some advice. I’m 25, pregnant with my first child, and got married in the spring to the love of my life. We’d been dating over a year when we got married, and I’m literally about to pop. We live together, have two cats, etc etc.
I found out recently, after we got married/pregnant; that he’d cheated on his ex. A lot. And he’d lied about it to me. I have no evidence that he cheated on me, but I still feel like I’ve been stripped of my autonomy. Like he stole the choice from me by with holding information.
I found out yesterday, that a month into us officially seeing each other he was using dating apps. No messaging, no meeting, just for sexual gratification. That being said, it crosses my boundaries and I consider this cheating. Again, i was stripped of my autonomy.
He’s been very apologetic, understanding (bare minimum I know) and has made me feel seen, heard, reassured me he’s not that person anymore… but how can I trust him?
I’d like some genuine, useful advice on what to do. Thank you
Hi girls! I have a situation with some longtime female friends, and I’m curious to hear how you would see it.
I’ve known two of my friends since high school. Back then, I was much more shy and reserved, and honestly, I didn’t put much emphasis on clothes, makeup, beauty, etc. I also didn’t grow up with a mother who was very focused on those things. My mom worked all the time and simply didn’t have much time to spend on herself, go to salons, or teach me much about beauty and fashion.
In our friend group, these two girls would often point out that I didn’t dress well, didn’t do my makeup properly, or that I should do this or that differently. At the time, I probably was less experienced with those things, and I think I somehow accepted that role within the group.
But many years have passed since then. From my perspective, I’ve changed and grown a lot. I’m much more confident, I take care of myself, I’ve developed my own style and preferences, and overall I’m happy with the woman I’ve become.
The problem is that they still seem to talk to me as if I’m that same insecure, inexperienced girl from high school.
Almost every piece of “advice” comes across as condescending. What I wear isn’t right, something I choose isn’t right, and if I say I like something, they’ll sometimes explain why it’s actually not a good choice. It’s not the fact that they give me advice that bothers me. I’m completely fine with people having different opinions or telling me when they genuinely think something could be better. It’s the tone and the constant feeling that they position themselves as the ones who “know better,” while I’m still the one who needs to be taught.
It’s starting to make me wonder whether some friendships get stuck in an old version of who we used to be. No matter how much you grow or change, people who knew you during a certain period of your life may continue to see you through that same lens.
Have you ever experienced this with longtime friends? And how do you tell the difference between a friend genuinely trying to help you and someone using “advice” as a way to feel superior or keep you in a certain role?
I work at a gas station and our bathrooms are down a long hallway where I have to go and input a code for the customer. I’ve been getting this random paranoid feeling when opening the door for men because I feel them behind me and I know how easy it would be for them to push me in and do something horrible. I haven’t ever had any creepy experiences but I just need to know that others feel it too.
First of all im not saying men cant be gynaecologists i just personally would feel more comfortable talking with a woman.
I couldnt decide if i was seeing a male or female dr as this was a referral.
Due to what ive been referred to its unlikely he will want to exam me internally, but if he asks i am going to question it, eg "is this absolutely necessary" and also explain to him that i am not comfortable with a man examining me internally, my mum will be there with me (outside the room) as i am only 16 so i will get her involved if necessary.
And he pushes for it im just going to refuse because what im seeing gyne for isnt an emergency and can wsit and if i have to i will wait for a female dr.
I know this sounds stupid but this is my first ever gyne appointment and i am a bit scared and this is something that i just find easier discussing with female dr.
BUT i have never met this dr so i may feel comfortable i dont know yet but i do not what to be examined internally by a man.
My sister is a very serious feminist. But at the same time she entertains men/enjoys flirting with men who are in relationships. I can't help but find this hypocritical.
Don’t get me wrong part of me loves the trend of women chosing to be single in record numbers because it takes pressure off society saying to find the ones but now I feel immense pressure cuz of the cultural shift of women screaming in TikTok insta videos that they are so so so happy being alone and decenter men etc and living alone and they’re never lonely and soooo happy and I’m like well sorry I love romantic close connection? Now I have to be super happy when I’m way happier in close connection even tho it’s biologically hardwired for humans to coregulate etc aka heart rates synch up etc… like now I feel guilty for not loving being single and YES i have friends hobbies and community I just love the euphoria of relationships and the prioritizing and physical aspect and someone Is there to talk to you everyday, I hate that now women have to live up to some thing to love single life . I get men are disappointing and dating pool is so so soo so limited but liking something because it’s a refrain form a painful experience I don’t think is a healthy reason to love something.
I’m allowed to feel lonely and want biology set me up to do… seek a Mate it’s natural. but all these decenter men I love single life videos I’m never lonely and people bragging about how happy they are alone makes me feel weird and wrong for feeling lonely like it’s a weakness or something. When in fact it’s healthy to value connection. Does any other women feel pressured by this kind of content ?! Thank you
I am wondering if people actually care or not. I have been with my husband for 8 years, we never talked about porn much, I felt I didn’t want to be controlling, plus society conditioned me to see it as normal. Last year, he asked me to help him not watch porn anymore. I was very confused, our sex life wasn’t that good, I assumed he just had low libido.
When he asked me, I faced how I really felt about porn and the idea that porn for me (I used to watch it a few times a YeAR) was purely because I liked to imagine the sensation of pleasure the woman was feeling. For him, it was different, he was watching the women, wishing to be with them. He was looking at only fans girls on instagram and I honestly felt so hurt. I realised I had been in denial due to a fear of seeming insecure or being controlling.
I guess I’m wondering what your thoughts are? How do you approach it? Do you think it should be normal??
Man, I hate bras. I’ve been rocking nipple covers for some time but they remain visible under certain lighting & look like giant nips in a way. So should I abandon it and rock shirt-ified nude? Thing is I hate people looking there, and I worry that going full nips on a tight shirt will attract unwanted attention. Or maybe people here know a good alter to the covers, such as some sort of tape?