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Hello everyone, I need to rant. Last week, I went to have two wisdom teeth removed and the doctor prescribed antibiotics and was really adamant in me completing the full box, so I don’t develop a bacterial infection.

I started taking them and 2 days later, yeast infection starts developing because antibiotics also eliminate good bacteria, including vaginal bacteria that prevent yeast from forming down there. This happens to me every time I have to take antibiotics and I just suffer for days, with extreme itching and gross, uncomfortable discharge.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m very pro-medicine and understand the need for antibiotics. But if women frequently develop yeast infections from antibiotics, maybe doctors should do something about it. For example, prescribing antifungal medicine every time they prescribe antibiotics, or just come up with a formula that includes antifungal in antibiotics (im not a medical researcher, but I’m sure a solution exists).

It’s so frustrating, cause I feel like this is yet another example of medicine being made for men and not taking women into account. I’m sure I’m not the only woman suffering from this and a solution must exist.

I’ve decided to take off my hijab after years of hesitation . I chose to wear it myself when I was in middle school, my parents never pressured me into it. They only ever encouraged dressing modestly. But now I’m 23, and I’ve reached a point where I genuinely hate wearing it. It feels like I’m only keeping it on for my parents, and I cry almost every day because I don’t feel like myself or confident in my own skin.

When I told my mom, she was disappointed but said it was my choice. Then I told my dad. At first he said, “You’re old enough to make your own decisions. That’s between you and God.” Even though he looked disappointed, I was so relieved that he wasn’t forcing me.

The next day, after thinking about it, he completely changed. He tried to convince me not to do it, saying it would protect me from harassment, that people would see me as a “decent” woman, and that people would judge him especially since I just got a job in our city and will be living with them again. Those reasons feel very misogynistic to me, but I didn’t want to argue, so I just listened and said okay.

The problem is, I still can’t take it anymore. I want to bring it up again, but I’m scared. He said he wouldn’t be proud to be seen with me if I took it off, and I’m afraid that if I tell him I’ve made up my mind, he’ll get angry or start shouting. I love my dad, and having a good relationship with him means everything to me.

What should i do?

I was out with a few coworkers this week and one of them pointed out something I had never noticed about myself. Every time I started talking about something I'd done, I'd immediately downplay it. I'd say things like it wasn't a big deal, I just got lucky or it was probably easier than it sounds before anyone had even reacted.

Once she said it, I couldn't stop noticing it. It's not just at work either. If someone compliments me, I immediately explain why I don't deserve it as much as they think. If I know the answer to something, I'll start with I could be wrong before I even say it. It's almost like I'm trying to make sure I don't come across as too confident.

The other night I was playing on my phone and scrolling through old messages, and I realized I even text like that. I soften opinions, apologize for things that don't need an apology, and add little qualifiers to almost everything I say. Nobody ever taught me to do that, at least not directly, but somewhere along the way it became automatic.

I'm trying to catch myself now, but it's surprising how deeply ingrained it is. I'm curious if anyone else has noticed themselves doing this, and if so, did you ever figure out where it came from?

Long time lurker, first time poster. I just want to hear from other women who feel like they constantly have to educate their bfs on female issues and experiences.

At the start of my relationship, I really enjoyed fiery discussions about abortions and why following 100’s of models on IG makes women uncomfortable. I am now feeling incredibly burnt out. It is insane and baffling why so few men grasp why a partner might be upset about him following hundreds of models and why it doesn’t cross their own minds. If you understand why it would upset me after I explain it, why is it so hard for you to think of this on your own?

I am always thinking of ways to adjust and stretch myself to make my partner’s life easier. Are men really from Mars and women from Venus? The older I get, the more tired I get, and when I look around at the women I know who are married with kids, they always look exhausted but never complain. I wonder if they are just eating their words. I have never known a married woman who doesn’t extend herself to the moon and a man who doesn’t just sit back and enjoy the ride. Women always just look so exhausted to me.

IDK my question is does anyone feel like their partner has already taken the steps to educate themselves, or do you feel like you are teaching them how women think and feel.

He kept calling me things such as baby, angel, cutie, etc. It felt nice but I asked him how old he was to which he replied with "19 if thats okay. Ik ur younger but idm"

am i over dramatic for blocking him and feeling a bit sick? i havent had something so creepy online happen to me in years. is it a big age gap or am i just idk..weird???

(I am not including ages for a reason)

I am in 2 year relationship now. It is with a man I don't feel safe with. This might be chaotic because it is my first time talking about it and I don't even know where to start.

So uhm....I am not allowed to work. He is paying all my bills, all bills in fact. If I want to buy something, he has to approve first. I can't go to hairdresser or get my nails done because he said I don't need it. He is right....I don't. But Gods how I want to feel like a woman.

He doesn't help around the house. Like at all. I have to do everything and he is mostly playing video games. When I ask him for help, it ends up in argument and I have to apologize because he starts crying.

He dated a 16 year old gorl when he was 28 and NOBODY in his family sees how wrong that is. He still talks to her, they go to bar together and they call every single day. He even often tells me how he slept with her and how it felt good because she was young and energetic.

He has anger issues and guns. He has zero personal hygene and manners. Imagine a male Karen. His perfect world or solution is legalize unaliving people.

I can't have friends because "they might be bad influence" but constantly wants me to hang out with his mom which, based on HIS OWN WORDS, is a reason he loves me "Because you remind me so much of my mom". I hate that. I hate that so much.

Now....I can not leave because this is not considered domestic abuse and I would not be accepted to the shelter for women who suffer from abuse. I can't have my bank account because of high bills I got when I was homeless so I can't get a sevret job and I dont have any acsess to financial support from gouverment because I havent worked for minimum required months.

Till this day I am pretending. Till this day I accepted I will never have a good life I used to dream about when I was little. I failed myself and I hate it.

I just wanted to get this out of my chest since I don't have anyone to talk to. Thank you

I'm a college student researching women's jumpsuits for a design project.

From a survey of 60+ women, the biggest complaint by far was using the washroom while wearing a jumpsuit.

I'm curious:

What's your biggest frustration?

Have you ever avoided buying one because of it?

If you could change one thing about jumpsuits, what would it be?

I'm looking for honest experiences, not trying to sell anything.

I wish I could like men. I got some new male friends but they show signs of being just like the others. All men in this generation are porn addicted, view women poorly, and never take women seriously. I think porn is absolutely disgusting the few times I've watched it I was baffled I'm like how is this what men are into? I'm seriously losing all attraction to them. I know comments are gonna be like “not all men some are good” but tell me why I haven't met a single one. I really don't want to be a man hater but its disgusting looking at men and thinking about how the majority of them view women.

I really badly want kids but I need the husband first. Highly considering just having the kids and not having a husband but I feel that is not ideal for the kids.

I’m curious to hear your thoughts.

I absolutely hate bras. Specially finding ones that actually fit. I'm about a 28D. Does my mum believe me? No. Have I measured myself multiple times and used different calculators? Yes. All say I'm about a 28D. But where on earth sells a 28D that isn't a redicilous price. I have bra that range from a 2XS to a 34C. Everything from 30AA, 32B, 34C, 30B everything. Do they fit? Kinda. Are they comfortable? Not really. It's not like I can just stop wearing them. The sixth form that I'm gonna go to would probably murder me if I didn't wear a bra as it wouldn't be "professional". Let me just wear my ladies loose and free 😭

I’ll go first.

When I was getting ready to go abroad for six months for a work contract, my (now ex) boyfriend, got me a kit to make (I shit you not) a silicone replica of his penis.

I still don’t know why I didn’t leave him right there and then…

Does anyone else notice that they have the urge/impulse to spend/buy stuff during their fertile window? Or am I just the only freak? Hahaha

I started noticing recently since I logged my cycle on the health app. For me, it’s jewelry, perfumes, and cute handbags (usually from TJmaxx or kohls). Thankfully, I don’t live in a bigger city that has nicer stores.

The thing is, it’s not like all the stuff I buy I don’t like, they’re nice and I do like them, I even keep some of it, but then I end up returning most.

I’ve noticed my bored/general impulse spending and I do have control of it and or notice when I’m doing it. But as usual once you solve/start to correct one habit, you start noticing all the other ones.

From the beginning, this guy I really like has mostly talked to me sexually. He never asks much about me or seems interested in getting to know me as a person. Recently, he told me, “Either you strip and spread those legs wide for me or go away.” I left, but I still like him.

I’m starting to think he doesn’t actually like me and only sees me sexually. Is there anything I can do to make him genuinely like me and become interested in me as a person, or am I holding on to something that just isn’t there?

recently snooped and found something out. i kinda had an idea but it just confirmed it. idk how to feel? we’ve been together for a year. just want to know your thoughts and opinions on your partner watching porn or watching people on onlyfans.

That's what I have heard but just hurt when a guy did it and I couldn't really do it myself. What am I doing wrong?

I'm on my third day of ovulation (I think) and I'm extremely extremely horny and easily irritated and I have no idea if it's normal.

I've seen women online say that being more aroused during ovulation is just a myth and it's just so people can sexualize menstrual cycles or something and I have no idea.

I grew up in my mom's house before switching to my dad's house due to family issues in the midst of puberty so I've never been able to really talk about stuff like that even when I talked to or saw my mom because it just felt uncomfortable.

Sorry if this is weird, women of reddit, but I'm 18 and I still barely know my body, I barely passed high school for gods sake, and when I was in high school all they taught us in sex ed is stay celibate until marriage.

I don't know how to make this unwanted arousal stop. A guy opened a door for me at a café downtown in my city and I literally immediately felt throbbing in my gut and I just feel like I'm melting all the time and I'm not even sure if I'm ovulating or just randomly having a wave of arousal over the last few days or am I going crazy?

Seeking help from women of reddit in a sort of motherly way I guess because I've never been able to talk to my mom about this stuff and I'm kinda dumb and everything that shows up on ecosia is scaring me with big words I don't know how to read

Long story short, the ex planned a wedding with me 2 years ago but he ended the relationship because of practical reasons e.g. money, chores, family background etc. (he grew up in a family that had limited resources and he was insecure about it in our relationship)

I know he did love me and that’s why the engagement, meeting parents, wedding planning happened…he picked a ring, we were both shattered when it ended. I still remember how he used to look me in the eyes and the devastating moments at the end.
I thought I wasn’t good enough because of some of the hurtful things he said to me at the end like telling me what he wanted in a partner - on top of being pretty, educated, works well with his parents, to do more chores, do more overtime shifts, contribute more to his mortgage… I spent the last two years with self blame that i wasn’t enough/ do enough and i worked extremely hard to be better in every way i could, extra income, second job, extra chores, more cooking, gym, learned more new things etc.

We did no contact.
Fast forward yesterday, I saw him holding hand and walking with a pregnant woman who looked nothing like the standards he said he wanted(pretty, educated, rich), probably the chores part makes sense.
I went blank because that wasn’t something I anticipated. I thought he wanted someone who’s prettier, makes more money, has more education and qualifications, manages the household etc like to pursue the perfect girl he always wanted… but the reality is the opposite.
He also didn’t do the wedding he wanted (he didn’t even have a wedding reception that he always wanted to do for parents and colleagues).
I felt foolish for working extremely hard around his “standards” in the last 2 years.

I probably just wanted to get it off my chest…I thought I did my healing but it still felt weird after i saw it, probably worse that I realized I worked hard for the wrong reasons.

How can I shift the focus back to my life?
not for him anymore.. but for myself

Has anyone else found that despite their hrt being upped to a high dose it has stopped working?

My blood tests show I’m not even in peri-menopause yet (my gp didn’t do any tests, just started me on them, and I’ve just seen a hormone specialist who ran the tests and says that due to my symptoms she believes I’m in pm despite lack of serotology) but I’ve had extreme symptoms for 2 years and was on hrt for a year (which helped immediately but then started being less effective and I gave up after a high dose was useless)

For starters I am NOT a man. I am a lesbian! And I often see cishet women say how they want a man to lead them so that leads me to ask what does that mean. I'm genuinely confused on what women mean by that.

Or do I need to remind him ,tell him ?