u/Budget-Regular-3696

Hi chat! I live in nyc and whenever I go outside, I constantly get stared at by men. I just hate it so much and I swear any time I pass them they just stare super hard until I completely pass them like:
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Also, it doesn’t matter if I’m wearing baggy sweatpants or a short sleeve shirt, it just happens every time and I’m so tired of it and get ANNOYED AF

So does anyone have tips on how to get men to stop staring??? Idk how well mean mugging can work and I’m tired of keeping an RBF everywhere i go

WOMEN please respond.

hi everyoneee. i was accepted as a transfer this summer for fall 2026 as a communication studies major. it's something i'm definitely interested in studying and i'd be excited to pick a concentration and whatnot.

i know temple is a very diverse school which is what drew me to it, and it's also in philly and i'd really love the chance to explore it. the main issue ofc is financial aid. i'm from New York so it costs +$40k a year, which i feel like is not really worth it, but my reasonings for going are:

1. i don't like my current school. i finished two years at Stony Brook and really cannot connect with it. every time i'm on campus i never feel like myself and don't feel like i can grow as a person. as i walk around, i always feel miserable despite having friends and being active.

2. i cannot major in communication at stony brook. the scholarship i have here is contingent on me majoring in STEM (which i have tried for 2 years and know i cannot continue). funny enough, i've gotten great grades in my stem courses and good relationships with professors, but know that this is not where I want to pursue my career in.

3. stony brook (long island) is not a great space to grow as a young adult (especially who was born and raised in nyc). the whole point of me going to college was to push myself out of my norm and discover a new place to develop as a young adult. there is literally nothing to explore on long island except for the mall and the beach (if you have a car). but, being in philly gives you access to its city, which means more internship and job opportunities (which are harder to get where i am now since the only available jobs are for work-study students).

the only thing holding me back from temple are the finances. hopefully i'd only have to do 2 years there since most of my credits were taken, but i would have to take out a lot of loans, and having that kind of debt weighing on me is obviously not ideal. but on the other hand, i could stay at stony brook and be miserable but walk out debt free (with a degree i have no interest or use for).

yes, i could double major (but there are no course overlaps with STEM and Comm so i'd have to stay longer). yes, I am already involved on campus (i attend events and am very involved in clubs). and yes, i have friends there.

so can anyone give me advice on what to do? whether it's attending temple and taking out loans or REALLY finding a way to make stony brook bearable w/o the degree i want.