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Don’t get me wrong part of me loves the trend of women chosing to be single in record numbers because it takes pressure off society saying to find the ones but now I feel immense pressure cuz of the cultural shift of women screaming in TikTok insta videos that they are so so so happy being alone and decenter men etc and living alone and they’re never lonely and soooo happy and I’m like well sorry I love romantic close connection? Now I have to be super happy when I’m way happier in close connection even tho it’s biologically hardwired for humans to coregulate etc aka heart rates synch up etc… like now I feel guilty for not loving being single and YES i have friends hobbies and community I just love the euphoria of relationships and the prioritizing and physical aspect and someone Is there to talk to you everyday, I hate that now women have to live up to some thing to love single life . I get men are disappointing and dating pool is so so soo so limited but liking something because it’s a refrain form a painful experience I don’t think is a healthy reason to love something.

I’m allowed to feel lonely and want biology set me up to do… seek a Mate it’s natural. but all these decenter men I love single life videos I’m never lonely and people bragging about how happy they are alone makes me feel weird and wrong for feeling lonely like it’s a weakness or something. When in fact it’s healthy to value connection. Does any other women feel pressured by this kind of content ?! Thank you

One of the worst feelings of chronic illness is feeling like a burden but when you think about it you’re not because every single person on earth has something that involves a bit of labor wether they live far away their personality their emotional struggle their lifestyle… so many things that create not ideal conditions for relationships . So you needing a bit of help is no diff than the extra labor someone who is depressed or far away etc etc

You’re not a burden!

My fave part of love is blind when they go to Mexico or Cyprus or somewhere , and now they cut those episodes short why? We get to see the beautiful scenery and honeymoon phase. Instead they have way more pod episodes which are so god damn boring . Anyone else agree? I miss the older love is blind where they were on vaca longer

I’m almost done with my training to be a licensed clinical mental health counselor! Ask me anything about relationships, depression, neurodivergence, mental health, really anything! Happy to help anyone out

I keep seeing this in articles about big male comedians for years. “Philosopher of a generation” or “orator of our time” yea talking about your dick and 9/11 is not philosophy. I must have missed that day in philosophy class. Don’t remember Socrates saying that.

A lot of times it’s a guy just being cynical hating on society / the world. Being cynical doesn’t make you brilliant, it’s just a symptom of clinical depression. Join the club lol

Now if a woman says something slightly cynical of society , does she get lauded in the nytimes as “philosopher of our generation?”

No , the best she is gonna get , is unlikable.

Comedians are not philosophers .

Like, if you need five days to respond to a one-sentence message, by the time you answer me five days later, there's been two different presidents, three world wars, my hair's grey now. I don't care what your favorite chicken nugget is anymore, I’ve moved on. reply in a day or accept the consequences.

What is this the 1600s? Are you sending a message via ship? Communication is supposed to happen in real time. Not fragmented one off messages that over the course of five weeks equals 20 seconds of a normal convo. This isn’t words with friends Im not waiting three weeks for you to play your turn, that would never happen irl you say and someone like no I’m not gonna wait 5 days to say hey back.

We live in an instant gratification world. We watch 800 reels before breakfast.Fast moving. No one doesn’t have 5 seconds to answer a simple question within a 24 hour day. I don’t mind if it takes you ten hours to respond but after a day I’m like. Yea you’re rude and you dont give a f. It’s just bad manners.

Take two seconds in 24 hours or it disappears. the end.

Like, if you need five days to respond to a one-sentence message, by the time you answer me five days later, there's been two different presidents, three world wars, my hair's grey now. I don't care what your favorite chicken nugget is anymore, I’ve moved on. reply in a day or accept the consequences.

What is this the 1600s? Are you sending a message via ship? Communication is supposed to happen in real time. Not fragmented one off messages that over the course of five weeks equals 20 seconds of a normal convo. This isn’t words with friends Im not waiting three weeks for you to play your turn, that would never happen irl you say and someone like no I’m not gonna wait 5 days to say hey back.

We live in an instant gratification world. We watch 800 reels before breakfast.Fast moving. No one doesn’t have 5 seconds to answer a simple question within a 24 hour day. I don’t mind if it takes you ten hours to respond but after a day I’m like. Yea you’re rude and you dont give a f. It’s just bad manners.

Take two seconds in 24 hours or it disappears. the end.

Because so many girls have people pleased men and made themselves be poly to appease men, and now Enm is super popular that any woman who isn’t into poly seems not as chill or cool by comparison which sucks.. because this shit didn’t used to be rampant. Now the bar is way higher so you have to pretend I love you not giving me your full attention so you sleep with ten other people? Also I feel like polyamory is really giving into patriarchy because let’s be honest it’s mostly men pressuring women to do this and they just appease it and don’t have the same biological desire to eff everyone in sight. It seems hypocritical because usually they are the feminist types… ok…..

Bumble bff is full of bots so I had to delete it. I’m a woman in my later thirties I’m compassionate fun I love music , doing standup comedy, and psychology, would love to make some new friends even if it’s just chatting online. I work from home so not many opportunities to meet people at work and a bit more isolated due to health stuff. HMU if you could use a fun chatting buddy, female friends only

Infp here, I’m a comedian and musician.. have a chronic illness that requires isolation and the isolation while normally is ok, is getting to me and I could really use more people to have chats with online or whatever , cool artsy people , I’m very empathetic and fun … it’s just been really rough even as an introvert

So it seems like a lot of people have misophonia but then I go on Instagram and millions of people are watching good influencers bite and chew their food over and over again it’s super popular… and it makes no sense… do any of yall like those vids? Is it cuz it’s video not irl? I wonder

used to spend an Hour or more a day in apps
I’m a woman. In the last year there has been an EXPLOSION of bots. 9 out of ten convos I had were bots and they seemed real, you could not tell by pics or chatting, even fake YouTube’s fake bandcamp links fake instas

It is nowhuge labor to figure out if a person is even a real human being and I’m not going through the emotional torture of talking t someone thinking it’s a person only to be blindsighted it’s a robot

these apps for not getting rid of them

My fave genre is feel good escapist shows like Gilmore girls how I met your mother satc queer eye stuff the office that is aesthetically pleasing and uplifting but I am unpopular cuz most shows are drama or horror… and so I just rewatch stuff over and over because there’s sooo little fell goods content the only one that is popular is love on spectrum but I find that cringey too. Anyway I’m in the minority I just wish there were more lighthearted comedies but that isn’t what people want anymore I guess ? I don’t get it