r/misophonia

Hey there guys, I am just here to vent. Because I fucking hate this stupid condition. I am visiting my Dad right now and he is a horrible eater. He loves to eat crunchy food and he always starts eating something when I enter the kitchen because oh damn, how can we be in the kitchen without eating something?! He chews so loudly, he talks while eating and oh god he eats so much and so slow that he takes hours to finish...

I don't know how I survived this before moving out, because it is killing me. I want to scream or cry, or both. And I already told my family about my problem, but nobody gets it. I am the only one sitting there and suffering, and I hate it, because I love eating and I love eating with others. I want it to stop, it doesn't even make sense to me, why I hate those sounds so much <.<

Basically. As I’ve gotten older it’s got so much worse.

I can’t stand the noise of people eating.
Especially cereal. Oh my god.
Clearing throats just angers me now.
Lip smacking.
Constant scrapping of a cutlery on a plate/bowl when people are so desperately trying to get the last bit of food.
Heavy breathers.
Sniffling.

I don’t know how it’s gotten to this stage. But it just angers me. I can’t explain it.

Has anyone else had it get to this point?

all of these obnoxious fkn influencers who will take a drink of something and they MUST be purposely making the gulping, swallowing and lip smacking louder in post. and like... why?! who is that for?! who is out there watching someone take a sip of a drink and says ,,I couldn't even hear it, boost the audio'' anyway??? why is this a trend?

it's actually insane how quickly that shit triggers my fight or flight only it's accompanied by the burning rage of a thousand suns.

I (36F) am a companion Provider and I have one client that absolutely refuses to wear her dentures. Most of the time I can deal with the noises she makes. Some reason today I cannot stand her at all. This makes me feel like the worst person in the world. Due to her disability she cannot stand them so she cannot help this. Misophonia is making it harder and harder to be around her.

Anyway today she decides to order soup, coffee, and a roast beef sandwich. All of which she is slurping, humming and smacking. I am trying really hard to not just go with my gut reaction here. Which if you jave misophonia you know this can be either leave the area or IYKYK.

Not only does it make my skin crawl and instantly angry, I am getting to the point of wanting to quit this client. Please any advise would be great.

But it's somehow my fault for pointing it out twice (she literally did it a second time right after I pointed it out) Both parents are now mad at me

I (22f) just threw my phone across the room so hard (literally scared myself) after hanging up the call with my mum because she would not stop coughing and clearing her throat. I am using this as a safe space to be a total bitch for a sec because I know you guys prob understand that I love my mum and appreciate her and know my feelings aren’t logical. She has what seems like this chronic cough all the time and I hate it so so much. It makes me actually feel depressed because I love her and feel like I need her in my life and want to be a good daughter but I can’t handle it when she has that cough which is all the time. Constantly clears her throat as well. The angry insane illogical side of my brain tells me she’s doing it on purpose. I’m really not an angry person apart from when misophonia makes me angry. I’m ill rn and my mum was being really nice and trying to help but the combination of how sick and nauseous I feel and my mums coughing/throat clearing makes me want to scream/do things to myself I’m not sure I’m allowed to say on here. I’m going away with her at the weekend and sharing a room, I don’t know how I’m going to cope. I just feel really sad and hopeless about it tbh, I’m worried it’s only going to get worse as I get older.

I genuinely don't know what to do anymore. My misophonia has been getting steadily worse over the past couple of months, and it's getting to the point where I don't even wanna live in my own house anymore. I wanna run away into a quiet section of the woods where no one is gonna be crinkling a bag or chewing loudly on chips or slurping coffee or clicking on keyboards. I can't even watch some of my favorite shows anymore because they eat during it a lot, and that triggers me. I've been having panic attacks left and right. I can't go to restaurants. I can't watch people eat. I can't do anything that's even slightly related to any of my triggers. I don't know what to do. I have an amazing family, and for the most part, they're really supportive of me, but even with that, my life is getting too hard. I don't know how to handle this anymore. I'm just constantly suffering, and there's nothing to help with it. Does anyone have any suggestions or comfort to give?

its something I noticed recently -- EVERY man I've eaten with does this. like they breathe SO HARD while eating and it makes me wanna S C R E A M

like even if they chew quietly, they still breathe hella hard??

has anyone else noticed this?

(repost bc original was removed bc I made a JOKE¿? is this really how this subreddit is run? Jesus.)​

I’m 24 and for a long time I thought my only triggers were sniffling and coughing. But about 9 months ago, I started noticing sibilance when people talk in real life. Since then, it’s turned into this annoying feedback loop where I unconsciously keep focusing on it more and more.
Now I even get stressed when I hear it in my own voice, even though I don’t have a particularly “whistling S.” I can barely listen to podcasts anymore either.

Does anyone else experience something similar?

Unless it's like overcome with true love, or catching breath in excitement, sighing always comes across as negative to everyone.

Therefore it makes sense that for more advanced thinkers, for deep thinkers, for empathic and sensitive people, for folks who are super perceptive - that sighing would invoke a negative reaction.

Personally I find it ruins a calm atmosphere and positive focus / optimistic thoughts.

You could be meditating or taking time to "be bored" unplugged and find creativity, or opening your thoughts and focus to options and ideas - then it's shattered by some sighing sound , causing you to feel the fatigue, anger, or that you have to do something.

Fecking hate the sound of it, that I make sure to not do it myself. Takes effort, especially as I'm 39 and get sore etc , but I refuse to sigh audibly , and instead take time to breathe or slow my heart rate down or take an extra few seconds after doing something sudden. If angry and get up and walk away or go be alone... No one hears my noises. It's called common courtesy.

I think they're all pretty awful, but I hate those little water globe things that they vibrate together. it makes my teeth itch and sets off my fight or flight so bad

then again I've never seen ASMR that I liked so it isn't like a seek it out by any means

My husband used to work night shift so I guess I simply didn't notice it as much but the last 3 years he is now on the same schedule as me and we eat dinner at the same time and weekend meals. I do not ever want to eat a meal with him. He puts so much in his mouth and the noise is beyond what I can deal with. He also snorts, clears throat and blows his nose at every meal now. We've been together for 38 years and like mostly happy bit He gets enraged when I bring this up like I'm condemning something he can't control or at least that's what he says. Car rides are also intolerable for the same types of reasons to the point I was using mile markers and counting how many times he cleared his throat or snorted (he says sniff) each mile to where I about wanted to get out and walk home. Any time I bring it up he gets so insulted and almost brings him to tears and shuts down and says I'm so critical of him with this. I honestly don't know what to do. Any advice and please don't recommend eating at different times as I have brought this up and he thinks this suggestion is so mean

I've been dealing with recurring noise from my neighbors late at night, often around midnight or later. It's not necessarily extremely loud, but it's persistent enough that I can hear music throughout my apartment everywhere around me in every room.

I woke up at 3 am angry... i don't know what to do anymore.. called the cops checked on them for nothing: they weren't the right neighbors, idk where the noise comes from... came out to excuse myself, the neighbor dismissed and the cops blamed me for the trouble, convicted them to come in my apartment to listen to the noise and they heard it, but said that that's not loud enough... to even consider it a disturbance... well it disturbs me... my heart is exploding...

The biggest problem now is the psychological effect. I've started becoming tense and irritated when I hear it, constantly anticipating the next noise, and finding it difficult to properly relax in my own home. It feels like my brain is constantly listening for it.

Has anyone else experienced this? Did the constant nighttime noise eventually cause anxiety, sleep problems, or a feeling of being unable to feel comfortable in your own home? How did you deal with it?

What can I do?

Lowkey curious, but do any of you guys also have a vitamin D deficiency ?
Apparently my misophonia this past year has become severe, and my anxiety was spiking.
Started taking meds, however i also found out i lack vitamin D (for good..) which very likely reinforces the anxiety that comes with misophonia.

I've had misophonia since I was around 7 and spent much of my life just suffering through it. But over the past few months I've found great success in just forcing myself to believe that I'm not bothered by my triggers and that maybe I can enjoy them.

For the first time in my life I've been able to eat with friends and family without crying or have growing resentment towards them. Obviously, I'm not cured, when I'm not prepared sounds still bother me, but with a little bit of time to change my mindset and prepare before these types of interactions I can tolerate them with little to no discomfort for a decent amount of time. Usually enough time for the interaction to have ended.

I'd love to hear if there is any science/research about this or if anyone else has experienced something similar!

I only started experiencing this with my luteal phase and pmdd. The rest of the month I can tolerate noise better. It doesn’t feel so invasive the way it does before my period.

The number of times I’ve snapped and had to flee my house in my car screaming broke me.

Idk if this is the right form for this (please ignore grammar mistakes)

I struggle with really intense misophonia with chewing and slurping. Normally I counter this by eating alone after everyone else but when I go out to eat, my dad (I want to note with this, he is incredibly stubborn and considering all his other traits i wouldn't be shocked if he has some type of narcissistic disorder. I won't elaborate on it but please keep that noted with advice as I can't just talk with him) eats disgustingly. Not only are his manners extremely bad but he also eats super fast and super super loud, and whenever I'm dragged out the house to eat I have to endure it

Its getting to points nothing is helping and my anxiety and anger is causing issues that involve skin picking and due to being a minor still (13-15) I can't get therapy myself (plus insurance can't cover it and my family can't afford 500 dollars for each session, and my school lacks a professional) or avoid him

I expressed this however he refuses to listen and dismisses me and genuinely does not care

It is also severe enough where even THINKING about the noises causes me intense anxiety and being on verges of tears

Does anyone have advice? I tried everything and nothing really helps and I can't really talk to him :p