r/misophonia

hi all! I searched through this sub but couldn't find anything like this so if anyone has a similar experience??

I have misophonia with only ONE person. I swear to God you could surround me with 100 old people eating with their mouths open and I would be disgusted sure, but fine. I listen to ASMR regularly, not particularly fond of mouth sounds but whatever.

But this one person, my (not bio) mom drives me completely insane. If she starts sniffling I have to leave the room. I sit on the farthest side of the table from her whenever we have meals. If I'm eating and she starts to sit down at the same table at this point I just make an excuse and leave. She usually gets offended and then confronts me about 'not wanting to spend time with her' no matter what I tell her.

She chews with her mouth wide open and constantly smacks her lips. I can't even think about her talking while eating without getting goosebumps because it just gets so much worse. She constantly tries to make conversation while she's eating and just talks with food in her mouth, smacks her lips loudly, and just makes all sorts of noises. I have 7 siblings and each of us tell her to eat with her mouth closed (politely ofc) at least once a week for the last million years. She's in complete denial, she doesn't believe us at all and usually stalks off and refuses to talk to us because she gets so offended.

She has some breathing problem which (I acknowledge its a medical condition and not her fault but God it makes me angry) means she's constantly huffing and breathing loudly, like obnoxiously loud. Like I'm studying on my computer and in the same room, I can hear her breathing over my thoughts.

The same breathing problem means she's constantly congested. Her doctor gave her nasal spray but she refuses to use it because of "dangerous chemicals". Just constant sniffing. Any time of year, hour, whatever. I feel this intense almost loathing when she walks past and I'm just studying and though I feel bad, it drives me insane. Just sitting in a chair, and then I hear her enter the room and I'm already mad, just constant *shuffle, shuffle* *sniffling* *snorts* *smacks lips* *loud breathing*.

Even though my dad and one of my brothers act similarly, I'm not affected at all. The misophonia I have with her is more disgust and rage. I think maybe her general struggle with hygiene could be making it worse for me, she didn't use deodorant or shampoo for years and her lack of cleanliness or decorum maybe makes it worse?

Anyway, thanks for the reading the rant, sorry it got long! If you have any suggestions, please, its really affecting my relationship with her

My coworker has been coughing at least once an hour (but usually more) every day for 4 months, and it’s driving me crazy. I am trying to ignore it and not obsess over it, but it’s the equivalent of trying to ignore and not obsess over an ice pick being stabbed into your skull over and over.

He is older. He’s always coughing or clearing his throat. I asked him not too long ago if he was going to the doctor. He said “what for?” so clearly it’s not an issue to him.

I cannot wear earbuds. I don’t know what to do other than grind my teeth into nubs and suffer.

If you have any tips, please share. It makes me dread coming to work, and my job would already be highly stressful without having to hear this all the time.

I feel like the worst person in the fucking world after typing that title. My partner has been nothing but incredibly supportive. We're best friends. Or were?

I flinch every time he talks. It's just his voice. I feel like I want to throw myself against the wall. It's the way he is, and he can't help it.

He is on online calls for his work, so I have to hear his voice a lot. I have Bose headphones, we put up a sound blocking curtain, and I already leave the apartment pretty often. I still feel like I'm on the verge of tears and like I'm not safe in my own home. We barely get by, so he can't afford to go do his computer work in another space.

I can't look at him. I feel so much rage and resentment. Sometimes I will want to be intimate with him, but as soon as we start, I have to end it because I'm on the verge of lashing out at him.

God, what a fucking life this is. I am depressed as hell because of it.

Last night at a movie theater, the girl next to me kept eating chips and it affected me "intensely". the repetitive cycle of hand going into the packet (crinkle for 5 seconds), pulling chips out (more crinkle for 5 seconds), chewing sounds, pause for 10 seconds and repeating crinkle again for almost an hour made me unbelievably irritated and restless.I couldn’t focus on the movie anymore and eventually left.

 So part of me keeps wondering why the burden feels entirely on me to “control my reaction” rather than questioning why environments like movie theaters normalize constant loud snack packaging and eating sounds in the first place?

How do you all deal with situations like these at the movies? 

I wasn't sure where to post this but I want to see whether anyone else here has had this experience. I can usually keep my reactions to invasive sounds (e.g. chewing, tapping, breathing noisily) fairly under control, without any problems in day-to-day life. I've been noticing recently though that I'm developing a strong aversion to specific accents. I live in a very diverse british town with many representatives of various uk regions. and when I'm speaking to someone from the north, for example, the way they pronounce the "o" in "done" sets my teeth on edge like hearing someone snoring would. Does anyone else experience this? Is it a reaction to a specific way of saying things? I thought this community might be more understanding than most others, thank you in advance.

I specifically get misophonia, rage and disgust, from older people’s eating noises and lip licking. I don’t know if it’s their mouth being more dry or producing more saliva - or maybe their loss of control over their lips / mouth muscles - but they often make the wettest, sloppiest most visceral macaroni noises with their mouths and I truly can’t take it. I’ve worked with two older bosses - over 75 - and it’s been the WORST

I’m currently going through a stressful period and I feel like my sensitivity to triggers has become nonexistent overnight. I wish I could explain the instantaneous feeling of rage in a way that means something to others. But of course it’s embarrassing, and I don’t expect anyone to take me seriously. Normal triggers such as chewing sounds are of course causing me to spiral, but recently I feel the trigger sounds are blending into atmospheric sounds quicker and more intensely than usual. Just all overwhelming me and crushing me into insanity. I’m sure it’s because I’ve been stressed everyday for months now. Can anyone relate to their condition worsening with the presence of stress?

33 UK F

My bungalow is surrounded by high densely packed hedges.

Sparrows have each year become increasingly more populated and during nesting and mating season, its all I hear from 3am - 8pm.

Sparrows are mean and have bullied all other birds away. So its just them.

I saw someone else in the sub equate the noise to a dog squeak toy. So its like having 500 dog squeak toys infuse my house all day.

I work from home and I live paycheck to paycheck.

The windows and doors are old and I can't afford to replace them.

The Sparrows only used to be a trigger when I was inside my home. I was ok outside.

Its now got so severe as a trigger that anywhere I hear it (they are everywhere), it's basically sending me into a panic attack. I feel like i can't breath.

Sparrows are something I'm never going to be able to avoid.

What do i do?

Please be kind to me as I'm very low at the moment and feel helpless as to how I will continue on.

I've cut the hedges down as much as possible. I can't afford to replace them with fences right now, or possibly ever because its a huge garden.

I can't afford to move house.

I play white noise, have earplugs, noise cancelling headphones (yesterday I found blood in my ear after all day use)

I work from home so I'm here all day.

it’s mostly when i’m in a situation where im being irritated constantly body just starts to crawl and i become itchy because of how much the sound is annoying me.

I'm 17, and diagnosed autistic and add, however I rarely have any sensory issues and it's a very weak diagnosis since I rarely showed many traits. I am also suspected ocd by a professional. I am very high masking and high functioning.

ever since I was small, I hated when people cough. i despised it,if someone coughed more then twice I got so angry I had to leave. my brother is autistic,ADHD and tourrets. (i spelt that wrong I know) and the opposite to me, and he used to always fidget, tap the table, hit me by accident, beep, all sorts. I got used to it and I knew not to mention it, even tho in reality it drove me insane. I love him alot but I can not stand repetitive sounds. tapping, coughing, clearing throats, scratching, someone rocking, singing, tapping their feet, even when someone brushes their teeth or picks at them. but coughing is my main trigger. my whole life I got dismissed when I mentioned it because my brother was higher needs.

some days it's worse, I can't listen to someone chew. currently my father has a really bad cough, and I have been so angry and had to leave the room, despite still hearing him. he called me rude and selfish because he can't help coughing. i have never felt so angry in my life, and the guilt is horrible.

I have always felt incredibly guilty and nervous because I don't know why I get so irritated. when people in my college tap their pen, burp alot (they are immature) and cough, I can't stand it. it feels like someone is prodding me non stop. I'm not a angry person, I've never yelled or been rude, but when people cough non stop, I have never been so angry. headphones don't always help because if they cough like my father (full force) I can still hear it. I am in no way self diagnosing this or saying it is this, I only discovered it and wanted to know more about it because it sounds so similar.

so I just need some advice. what is misophonia in a more detailed way? can it be linked to autism? can you get tests for it? how can I deal with all of this?

apologies for spelling, I'm dyslexic.

I’ve noticed many situations in which speakers are micd up live (in a variety of contexts, whether it be for government, news, or other speaking engagements) where in the settings for the mic seem to indiscriminately favor very high levels of compression and fidelity, inevitably amplifying all those typical triggers (smacking, lip/mouth separation “peeling” sound 🤮 etc). My question is, do you think there's ANY hope of standard micing practices in live settings being more geared to avoid misophonia triggers? I don’t really see this happening out of sympathy for sufferers of misophonia sadly- but I could see there being someday a gradual push to refine the audio coming from these mics just for the sake of general appeal. My feeling is surely it’s not JUST people with misophonia who would prefer this- however I often underestimate the lack of perception that many people seem to possess of these triggers (not to imply guilt or responsibility on their part, just genuinely shocking to me sometimes). Curious to know your thoughts on this!

Just a thought experiment. I always try my best to look on the bright side of things. Im trying my hardest to think of any possible scenario when we could possibly benefit from having misophonia but nothing comes to mind. Maybe since we are hypersensitive to sounds we could identify leaks in pipes before people without misophonia? Lol. Maybe we can better identify if someone is having a stroke or is drunk by how they speak? Idk, just a random thought.

My husbands dog will not stop lip licking. Even when absolutely nothing is going on he will do it. His teeth are fine, checked by the vet and we brush them pretty much everyday. I'm at a loss. And I feel like I'm going crazy when I'm alone at the house and it's the most prominent noise.

How did you guys cope with misophonia and your dogs if you had similar situations? Is there some kind of supplement I can use for him that isn't harmful? I really just need support. Sometimes it truly makes me want to rage unfortunately.

I have been in my job a couple of months now and unknowingly ate a mint quite loudly. I have this disease so I understand what noise does to a person but my male boss got so annoyed he said he wants to punch me in the face. Why couldn’t he walk away and say something like the noise is a trigger. As someone with it, of course I understand and I said that but his comment still took me by surprise and shocked and upset me. I guess even with having this disease we aren’t always aware of the noises we make. People with this disease aren’t automatically quiet but I still think saying that to your female employee is taking things too far.

I have the usual triggers, tea/coffee slurping, yawning, lip smacking, crunchy foods, and some other sensory issues as well (getting fingers/finger nails touched, repeated stroking, smells, sounds...).

I didn't notice this about my boyfriend when we first met, but these days, it is a torture to have a meal with him. I don't see a future between us for this reason, otherwise he is a wonderful human who is patient, generous, and loving. I have lost all sexual desires. Every slurp erodes the love I have for him little bit at a time.

I had to ask him the other day, at this point I had already walked away from dining table because he was slurping his coffee but he followed me and sat next to me, "is your coffee still hot?" He said "No, why?" And I said "because you are drinking it like it is still hot"

He got mad that I ruined his peaceful moment in the morning. What about my peaceful moment? Why is it his right to make noise come before my right for silence?

Why is asking for basic manners considered mean? No lip smacking, no slurping... If it is too hot, don't drink it or blow lightly? I also hate the sound people make as they drink out of a cup or a water bottle, a bit of air inhaling in anticipation of the incoming water. Why, why, are we toddlers learning to drink out of a cup still??

We talked about moving in together. I may have been okay early on in the relationship when I hadn't caught onto it all, but I couldn't move in with him or marry him for that matter. I couldn't sign myself up for a life long torture 😰

I am currently on day seven of an eight day vacation with him. I have gradually lost all my appetite. I got zero breaks this week, every meal is together, he is constantly yawning in the hotel room with the extra yawing noise that is a add on beyond just some natural sound 😰

I don't think i am meant to live with someone 😵‍💫

for my whole life, i can’t STAND the sound of chewing, crunchy sounds when eating, people biting their utensils, the gulping of water. i can’t fucking stand it, i can’t even put it into words how much anger and rage this shit causes me bro. my whole family is aware i have this feeling but they never ever have the fucking awareness to not do it near me no matter how nicely i ask. my brain literally fights against every bite with so much rage it drives me crazy. i don’t know how i survive family dinner every night, because hearing my dad chew is up there with pain. can someone please suggest a way to fix this. it’s ruining my basic life and i just want to be able to live normally.

I realize that I'm triggered by just watching animals eat - squirrels, bunnies, deer. Watching them chew elicits so much rage inside of me, even if I can't hear them. Especially squirrels - watching their stupid cheeks puff out while they gorge.

What are some of your "irrational" triggers?

I get sooo extremely irritated when people make noise especially when it’s something unnecessary like talking on the phone way too loud or watching videos on their phone with the volume all the damn way up. Now, whenever I see people, I just automatically get pissed off, even if they don’t make noise. I just hate all people now and always try to avoid them. Maybe because I’m automatically assuming they will make noise? Idk

I don't understand how people make sounds like they don't care. I wanted to eat an apple during class, and the girl next to me was like just eat it and I was like no it's loud and the class is quiet. I don't want to do that, it's annoying. Then she says it's not, then proceeds to incredibily nad horrendously chew like she's biting some steel ball. Like, do people just not understand? I'm confused. Same with yawning, and it pisses me off so badly I can't even do work in that class, or it like hurts my head so badly. Are there just some obnoxiously loud people, or am I being dramatic?

More of a vent, but it really irks me when people slam their mugs or tumblers down

It's not so much the actual sound of the noise itself, more of the jarring abruptness of it that makes me jump. You can't hear it coming, as it's mostly just silence while they're drinking....then BANG

I have a particular coworker who's mug must be made of lead, because despite setting it down ON A NAPKIN, onto his laminate desk, it makes the loudest metallic CLANG possible.

I tried to replicate it with my metal bottom 20 ounce yeti, it's completely full of water, dropping it two inches onto a napkin, and while it makes a loud and obnoxious noise, it still cannot physically replicate the 'metallic bang' that their mug makes, from over 6 feet away