Hi fellow bats,
I’m organizing a picnic to celebrate World Misophonia Awareness Day together. Everyone is welcome, whether you’re a New Yorker or just visiting the city. Come join us!
🧺 Free to attend.
📍 RSVPs are appreciated.
⛅️ Forecast: Mostly cloudy, 85°F.
⏰ Come for 10 minutes or stay all evening.
👋 Friends, partners, and family are welcome.
does anyone have any recommendations for long, loud, multilayered songs/playlists with those kinds of songs? it's been getting worse recently and my usual music to have in at dinner has started to not be enough. any genre is welcome! thanks :)
I've been married for 6 years now. I love my husband, he has never judged me for having misophonia. The problem is that his voice is one of my misophonia triggers. It usually isn't much of a problem on a regular day when we're doing regular activities, but it starts to affect me when it's constant talking. There is a lot of talking in tabletop gaming, especially since he is the game master. I start to feel panic within 15 minutes and then after an hour, it's so unbearable that I have to leave.
I feel so embarrassed. I honestly might just delete this. but I really want to play dungeons and dragons with my husband, and I'm so sad that I can't because of misophonia:(
I can't even eat with family and friends, I can't concentrate on studying if I hear one of my triggers, I don't like sitting with anyone, especially my mother, and she never understands me and thinks I'm overreacting!
I'm really struggling, can't keep living like that.
I have ADHD and Misophonia and my mother is autistic and has some other degree of neurodivergence. She acts like a child when overstimulated, blurts out random information, and giggles and skips. All of this is perfectly fine with me, but the voice that she used when engaging with the behavior is absolutely nerves reaching
I love her and with all the trauma that she has been through it’s ok for her to feel this way, but this seruously bothers my ears and I feel guilty
What to do
I honestly don’t know where to start, but I really need advice from people who actually understand misophonia because I feel like my life revolves around it now.
I’m a teenager and I’ve had misophonia for years, but it has become progressively worse. The biggest trigger is sniffing, but there are other sounds too. When I’m triggered, it isn’t just irritation. It feels like my entire nervous system goes into panic mode. My heart races, I become overwhelmed, I can’t think straight, and all I want is for the sound to stop. It’s like my brain treats the noise as an emergency even though I know logically it isn’t.
The hardest part is that everyone around me hears “just a sound.” They genuinely cannot understand what it feels like because, to them, it’s nothing. To me, it feels unbearable.
My little brother is my biggest trigger. He sniffs constantly, and I’ve asked him so many times to stop. I’ve explained it calmly, I’ve begged him, I’ve gotten frustrated, and eventually I end up shouting because I feel completely overwhelmed. I know he isn’t always doing it on purpose, but sometimes he’ll respond in a mocking tone like, “What?!” as if I’m overreacting or being dramatic. Whether he means it that way or not, it makes everything so much worse because I already feel guilty for reacting.
My parents are exhausted by it too. They get frustrated because they don’t know what to do anymore.
My dad actually has been supportive in many ways. He knows this isn’t me choosing to be difficult, and he has helped me through it a lot in the past. But sometimes he still expects me to block the sounds out or cope better because, from his perspective, they’re tiny noises. I don’t think he fully understands that my brain simply doesn’t process them the way his does.
My mum is more complicated. Sometimes she’s incredibly understanding and tries to comfort me or help me avoid triggers. Other times she loses her patience completely. She’ll tell me to calm down, tell me I’m overreacting, or get angry because everyone else has to adjust around me. I know she’s probably exhausted too, but when I’m already overwhelmed, that reaction makes me feel even more alone.
The worst part is that everyone thinks I’m improving. I’m honestly not. If anything, I feel like it’s getting worse. I think I’ve just become better at hiding how distressed I actually am because I know people are tired of hearing about it.
This has affected my mental health massively. I constantly dread family gatherings, holidays, meals, car journeys, or simply being in the same room as certain people because I know I’ll probably be triggered. Instead of looking forward to things, I spend my time wondering what sounds I’ll have to deal with and whether I’ll be able to escape.
I’m currently on holiday visiting family, and instead of enjoying it, I’m spending so much of my energy trying not to get triggered. There are lots of people around, lots of noise, and very little space to get away when I need a break. I genuinely dreaded this trip before it even started.
I’m waiting to access therapy, but it’s taking a long time to arrange.
I also struggle with depression alongside all of this, and they make each other worse. When I’m triggered repeatedly, I don’t just become angry. I become emotionally exhausted. It feels like everything piles on top of each other until I start wondering how I’m supposed to keep living like this. I’m safe, and I’m not actively suicidal, but I often find myself wishing I could just disappear from this situation or start my life over somewhere quiet where my brain could finally rest.
I’ve also struggled with self-harm, and I’ve realised that my misophonia is one of the biggest factors behind it. When I’m triggered over and over again with no escape, my brain reaches a point where it feels completely overloaded. It’s never about the sound itself anymore—it’s about the hopelessness that comes from feeling trapped in my own environment. There have been times where the constant triggering has left me feeling so overwhelmed that I’ve had passive suicidal thoughts. Not because I truly want to die, but because I desperately want the pain, the panic, and the constant state of alertness to stop. I don’t have plans or intent to end my life, but living with this every day has genuinely made me question how people cope with it long-term.
One thing that hurts is that I don’t think people realise how much energy it takes to deal with this every single day. By the time I react outwardly, I’ve usually spent ages trying to ignore it first. People only see the frustration, not the internal battle beforehand.
Does anyone else have family members who simply don’t understand, even if they genuinely care about you? Has anyone found ways to explain misophonia that actually helped their family understand it better? And if your misophonia has progressively worsened over time, did anything help stop that cycle?
I feel incredibly alone with this, and I’d really appreciate hearing from people who actually understand what it’s like.
It’s Saturday and they’re still going at 1am. Do these people just purchase an endless supply??? My poor dog hates life also. Just a rant. I can’t wait until Monday. I’m sure they’ll have leftovers on Sunday.
My neighbors of 13 years are moving next week. They are kind and respectful people. We have never had any issues with them at all.
I am happy that they are moving into their brand new retirement home but I am so anxious about what my new neighbors will be like.
I have had bad neighbors in the past and I think those experiences gave me PTSD. All I can think about is worst case scenarios with loud neighbors that trigger my misophonia.
The constant anxiety that I am experiencing is making me feel such dark feelings.
I wish I could be a normal person that could deal with this situation in an emotional healthy way.
I just feel so low right now. I wish I could be more optimistic instead of so negative about the situation.
Has anyone had a situation like this where it turned out fine or even better than expected?
I really need help moving away my my negative thoughts.
Why in the world do these brands (specifically cereal) think that the sound of crunching is pleasurable? The crunch/bite/munch and “satisfying” face are all so triggering to me.
Is there not a single person on these teams that can bring up this perspective? Specifically will not support the business if their marketing involves anything of this sort.
My roommate is a pianist and organist. I’m not going to tell him to stop playing because it’s his house, and it’s what he loves doing.
That being said, I cannot be home if he is playing piano. He has a 3 day weekend because of the 4th. He was playing piano yesterday so I couldn’t be home and do stuff then. I just hung out at my sister’s place. I worked this morning, now I can’t be home because he’s playing. I have chores to do, I guess I’ll do them all tomorrow if he’s not playing piano.
It’s just so loud, there is no place quiet in the house if he’s playing piano. You can literally hear it from the sidewalk, and he goes for hours and hours at a time
I agree with his Subway Takes video 100%. He can't stand seeing people eat on screen, and hates the phrase "how's everything tasting" in a restaurant. I'm the same way about both of those things, and it's because they're misophonia triggers for me.
I've always liked John C. Reilly, but I like him even more for this.
does anyone get so overwhelmed by the noises that they just freeze up and can’t speak anymore? I’ll be struggling with a hard environment and freeze up completely. How do you explain these episodes to someone???
I'm talking about the first game, I've played it before when sounds didn't bother me, but I don't remember anything. I'm worrying about coughing, sniffing, snoring, etc. These sounds are my biggest triggers.
I need a straight answer, please.
Not a fan of fireworks.
They should come with a mute button!
Hey guys, has anyone cured their fixation on people noise at night?
I can’t pinpoint when it started. I haven’t always had this, but at some point in early adulthood, the sounds of people talking even at a reasonable volume, the sound of a tv even if objectively quiet, or someone talking on the phone have become intolerable specifically when I’m trying to fall asleep.
It’s something other people don’t seem to hear or be bothered by, but if I can hear it I can’t sleep and I get really distressed.
I know I’m being unreasonable… and you can’t control your housemates. I can’t afford to live alone, but even if I did… I’d probably be stressed out by my neighbors!
Like if someone is awake past 11 pm, I’m conscious of it and it is stressing me out.
I completely understand this is my own problem and I don’t want to live in the middle of nowhere, ironically I really enjoy busy city life and fun activities.
Does anyone else here deal with this? Has anyone been able to overcome, if so, how? Any therapies that cured you?
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Hi everyone! I'm 15 years old, and I've been wondering for a long time if anyone else experiences this. Is there a sound that just feels unbearable and makes your brain want to shut down?
I'll tell you about my experience. The sound of someone rubbing or scraping a carpet gives me really unpleasant chills, whether I hear it in real life or on TV.
There's also another problem I deal with almost every day: singing. My mom loves to sing, and so does my grandma, along with some other relatives. I really can't stand it when people suddenly start singing. I immediately feel overwhelmed, sometimes hit myself, and have a silent meltdown because I know my mom might think I'm pretending or trying to imply that her singing is bad.
One time I asked my grandma to stop singing. She kept going, so I explained, "I'm sensitive to singing," but instead of understanding, she yelled at me.
What should I do? Is there anyone else who can't tolerate certain sounds like this?
I feel like I’m going absolutely insane! I moved into the sweetest little home in the mountains outside of town in a quiet neighborhood. My landlords live on the property they are both super sweet and kind. They take care of my dog when I’m out of town! They will let him out if I work long hours. They are super nice people. The cabin is lovely. Their house isn’t super near to mine.
However, he has a garage/ shop that is very close to the cabin. I’m assuming the wife had him build his shop further away from their house. And they’re both retired. And he does projects as his daily work schedule where he saws and drills and literally does metal work sawing all the time!! I can hear it in my house, I can hear it when I sit outside in the beautiful nature of this cabin. I’m starting to feel like a prisoner. I’m going insane that I can’t get off work and just sit outside without feeling like a full on construction project.
I mean this is his hobby and what keeps him busy as being retired. I know even if I moved I can’t control what could happen a possible neighbor with a dog barking nonstop or something like that. But I’m starting to feel like I’m loosing my mind and my peaceful home purposely away from town in nature is just constantly loud and I feel like they should have told me oh the shop next to the house is for his hobbies which include sawing metal for hours at a time for restoring old cars. Sometimes on a Sunday from 9 am to 5 pm like a full time job.
Idk what to do 😭 he’s just always around tinkering and sawing and doing loud projects
He's a friend with benefits. I'm NOT clingy at all and we're not too affectionate, Im used to sleeping alone and hate sharing the bed.
We've slept together before and he snores, not too loud, but constantly. I always go through hell when he stays over (happened a few times) so eventually I kindly asked him to not stay anymore.
It makes me feel irate when I'm sleeping and BOOM he does like one loud, single snore and I IT MAKES MY BLOOD BOIL, I will move him, shoosh him, and so neither does he or I sleep well ALL NIGHT LONG.
Well we had a week long vacation planned and he booked everything months ago because I was way too busy with something big.
A few days before the trip I realized that I was going to be sleeping in a foreign bed with this person for a WHOLE WEEK.
Glad to report, I brought some cheap disposable ear plugs, the ones that feel like a marshmallow. I shoved those all the way to my brain and slept perfectly from night 2 to the rest of the days. (Night 1 was trial and indeed neither slept).
Just wanted to share that those thingies work wonders.
Also, how do you deal with uneducated family/friends about misophonia?