u/No-Joke-697

So I’m in a weird but right now.

I’m in a straight relationship. And I have been for 5 years. I’m going to start the process of a breakup soon because it’s not what a want any more. The relationship doesn’t fulfil me that way it used to.

I have known for some time that I am bisexual. However, I have never been with the same gender. It is something that I have thought about more and more over the years but have just tried to push it to the back of my mind.

But now I know I want to break up with my current partner. And from this I want to spend some actual time with myself, getting to know me.

Did anyone else experience this? And if you did, how did you feel after the process?

Thank you 🫶

So me F-26 and boyfriend M-26 have been together 5 years. We live together. And have 2 cats.

The relationship is annoying me now. I think it’s a mix of me doing everything, being the bread winner and feeling more like the responsible one in the relationship that’s caught up on me.

I want to break up. I start a new job that pays more in a few weeks. He got let go from a job that paid okish and now he does agency work. Doesn’t pay very good.

This in turn has left me paying for a lot more. This is just one thing.

I do all the cleaning. The planning. Everything.
He panics under pressure. Can’t really look after himself well.

There have been times i have had to say to him ‘ honestly take a shower please’. And then he only brushes his teeth for 20 seconds. So I’m also put off of kissing him.

I don’t want intimacy. We haven’t had a date night in YEARS. Nothing.

We haven’t been on holiday together. He’s had lads holidays and such, but nothing with me.

It’s stressing me out.

If anything I want to be single to get to know myself more. The whole relationship is weighing me down.

I’m such a morning person, and love to go on walks. If I ask him to come with me he kicks off and tells me no. We don’t do anything together.

I keep looking at flats. For me. To see what I can afford. And I can do it. But it’s addressing it to him. He loves an argument and I hate them.

We also have cats. I pay the insurance for them and do a lot of the caring for them. I know he loves them a lot. But I can afford to look after them by myself. He won’t be able to. I couldn’t live with myself if I didn’t take them with me.

How do I do this