Alright so like, I feel I have a decent profile with nice pictures and what not. Not saying it's the best but it's decent, am I that Chopped or do these apps just not work. They definitely hide our profiles from those we've liked right?
Tried using bumble last year for a while and the guys i met are either too touchy or creepy. So i gave up.
Is it just me being too conservative, or why does everyone on dating apps take things so fast?
Im 24F
Something that makes me uncomfortable about dating app profiles is when people use photos of themselves that have children in them. I understand that parents typically have photos more with their kids and taking photos outside of that can be a challenge. Being a dedicated parent/family member is awesome!! But please don’t post them on sites like this.
A dude said he hasn’t officially seen my legs (because i always wear long pants), and keep sending me reels/post of girls with big boobs and long legs with shorts.
Edit : he was quite normal at first, but start being creepy after meeting him a few times idky, maybe he thought we were closer or frds lol. I ghosted him!
Hi. So I don’t really feel comfortable sharing this with a lot of people, I have with some close friends and they also can’t make sense of it, so I was hoping I would hear from you guys.
I (27M) have never been good at socializing, and therefore never actually had a partner or even been on a date. I would say I’m average looking, but I am on the shorter side (165cm). I am very well educated, funny, and generally a good time to be around if I say so myself. But the idea of approaching people, especially romantically, has always been a challenge for me.
Last year, I decided to give dating apps a chance. I have accounts on almost all the popular apps. I have never been the most confident person, but I must say the dating apps have damaged my self-esteem more than I ever thought was possible, because I am failing to get even a single like! A lot of people complain about not enough matches, or not enough compatibility in their matches, but I don’t even get to that stage. Anyone I tell this to seems to be dumbfounded by it, and I personally don’t understand it either. I have tried restructuring my profiles with different photos and prompts multiple times, but no use.
I know many of you might say “just go up to people and approach them,” and I am trying, but honestly at this point in my life I am very worried that I am just undatable. From what I see in other people, dating apps tend to make that easier for them, but for me it has honestly just made me more insecure and demotivated.
Has anyone else experienced something like this? I would appreciate any input.
After a few years off from dating apps I got back on them 6 months ago and it’s a MESS
Tinder: using all my swipes daily, results in 1-2 matches a month, most don’t reply at all but the ones that do are 1000s of miles away despite my discovery setting set to within 100 miles
Bumble: got no matches for 4 months of using all my swipes daily or stopping when it runs out of people, says 12 people like me so I give them $16 to see and it’s ALL gay men, I’m straight and have have my account set as such
Hinge: again, using all my swipes every day, averages 0-1 match a month, again more likely then not to not replay, haven’t had any matches since march 2nd
Coffee meets bagel: 6 months, all swipes every day 0 matches
Is there’s one of these that isn’t going to deliberately fuck me over?
I am a man 34y old and never had a serious relationship. For the last 2 years I am actively trying to match with females I like and try to be interesting enough to build things towards a date. However, after countless swiping and trying various dating apps I had just 2 or 3 matches per week with females I did not like. Then for the first time I got a discounted upgrade on Hinge for the HingeX tier that promised me to land dates 3x much faster and easier. So I gave it a try. I liked only girls I really like. The algorithm favors people who are selective and genuinely like someone, so I did exactly like that. After one month I just had 6 matches. From these 6 matches I just could start a conversation with 3 of them. One of these 3 matches actually was really responsive and asked questions about me. We chatted for 5 days and then she disappeared. The other matches also vanished like they never existed. What did I experience? Was it all scam? Now I am back to the free tier again and in 2 weeks I got 0 matches. What is Hinge doing anyway? Their promise is like a scam to earn more money? Anybody had the same XP with the HingeX tier??
I matched with a guy on Facebook Dating and we seemed to hit it off quickly. I asked fairly early on if he’d like to meet the following weekend because he seemed very much my type. I did make clear there was no pressure and that I was happy to chat more first if he preferred. He responded positively, said he appreciated me asking and was open to meeting, but wanted to chat more and asked for more photos because my profile only had one due to a Facebook Dating glitch.
We moved over to WhatsApp and I sent more photos. During the conversation he brought up sexual topics quite early on and asked if we could discuss turn-ons etc. I felt a bit uncomfortable because I normally only discuss that kind of thing once I know someone properly/in a relationship, but he said he just meant generally what I liked. A video call was then suggested as an easier way to talk.
We did the video call but it only lasted around 5 minutes because from the start he said he had to go help a friend soon. We mostly just talked about our days, jobs and holidays. Afterwards I noticed he’d unmatched me on Facebook Dating. I asked him if everything was okay and he said that "from the video call, the physical attraction wasn't there for him." He also said the helping a friend thing was genuine. He then blocked me on WhatsApp before I could really reply further.
I’m feeling quite upset and blindsided by it because I thought we’d already built a decent rapport and that the video call was just part of getting to know each other, not a make-or-break moment. I also keep overthinking whether I came on too strong by suggesting meeting fairly early, whether I said something wrong on the call, or whether discussing sexual topics so soon should have been a warning sign for incompatibility anyway.
I’d genuinely appreciate honest opinions from other people who use dating apps. I'd also wonder if anyone can help me to feel better about this as I'm still new to the dating app world and it's knocked me a bit.
I’m 18F, graduating high school in 2 months, never dated or kissed, and I got hinge a couple days ago for fun—just to look at profiles with my friends and see what we find. I do want genuine connection and the experience of liking someone, it’s just that I have no idea what I’m doing and I’m not sure what to expect.
The first relevant guy I matched up with asked for a date the same day. He first commented on a fictional character from my profile, then we talked about our interests and shared some playful jokes without any heavy flirting and no mention of physical appearance. I was a bit nervous when he asked for a date because I assumed meet ups were typically suggested after at least a few days of talking (based on my friend’s experience). Overall however, I’m pretty excited.
The second guy is the cause of my stress right now. His opening line was a compliment to my appearance, and after exactly 3 messages:
Me: “actually my weekend is spent rotting on video games.”
Him: “awesome, when are we doing that?”
Unsure how to interpret his reply, I continued a different branch of the conversation until he popped a question similar to the one above. I assume he wants to meet up, but we literally know nothing about each other. Our conversation was going well, but it purely consisted of flirty banter and appearance-based compliments. I don’t know what his intentions are and my major worry is that his goal is to hook up. I understand that meeting in person ASAP is a common ideal for many people with perfectly good intentions, but I hope you can imagine the whiplash I felt going from the first guy to this. Unlike the first guy (who actually described what we are going to do on our date), I don’t feel any excitement to meet up with this second guy because I have no idea what to expect.
I’m sure I’ll be told to just ask the guy what his intentions are. I bet I’ll also be told that I’m too young for this and my worries are stupid and I need to get a journal. However, I’m posting this because I realized I have no idea how these interactions are supposed to go, I don’t know if there are any unspoken rules that I need to understand, and I’m hoping for some advice from people who have more experience on these apps. Please and thank you.
I THOUGHT I was maybe considered pretty and then I went on FIVE different dating apps and my experience is this: I swipe right on someone I think is cute, they view my profile and then swipe left immediately 😭, lowkey about to give up cuz I’m not trying to completely destroy my self esteem. I guess it’s just not meant for me 🤷🏾♀️
Genuinely think this would help society. Thoughts?
(23 M) So I've been using hinge pretty consistently since 2025 to now and I've gotten around 30 matches. Some I talk to and some we just don't vibe, but out of all my matches I've only managed to get 1 date out of it. Is that a pretty bad ratio for hinge? Just wondering since this app is meant for meeting and deleting, and I'd figure more dates would come out of it by now. (To the girls I do talk to my intention is usually to meet up eventually)
To start off, nothing against the hookup part! You do you! But, I’ve been seeing this trend of matching with guys on tinder who were in the “Long term partner” or “Serious relationship” group or they have a profile tag saying Long term relationship and the minute they match they ask for a hookup.
There are so many people who want the same thing. So why match or go for the women who want something long term when you clearly aren’t there? I am new to the whole apps thing so I just want to know what’s the thought process here.
Again no hate or nothing against hookups! They are just not my thing.
Hello, Reddit. I wanna ask you about a sketchy Tinder encounter. Obviously, this profile seemed pretty questionable, but I knew there was a risk involved. Out of genuine curiosity, I actually wanted to see what would happen.
They gave me their address. It was this sketchy Hispanic person. I’ve been with Hispanic girls that don’t speak much English before, but this one seemed off. Still, out of pure curiosity, I drove over to the location. I didn’t park or do anything — I just drove around in circles.
Then I saw this old truck with its headlights turned off pull up behind me. I made a turn, and he turned behind me too. Then he turned on his headlights, and I started feeling like I was being followed. So I made a very quick right turn into a gas station, and he turned in too and kept following me.
At that point, I sped away really fast. Then I got a phone call from a different number than the one I had been texting, and I didn’t answer. I blocked it immediately.
Does this sound gang-related? Was I about to get robbed? I’m genuinely wondering what was going on.