r/DatingApps

Something I’ve noticed on Bumble and Hinge is that it almost feels like it’s so easy for guys to find a nice girl. When I scroll through women’s profiles, I see so many gorgeous, smart, accomplished women who seem to have their lives together. But when I scroll through men’s profiles, I genuinely struggle to find even one person I’d want to go on a date with. It’s not that I’m expecting someone perfect, but it’s rare to come across someone I’m genuinely attracted to or whose profile makes me curious enough to want to know more about them.

It’s honestly becoming so draining. Every time I open these apps, I end up closing them within a few minutes, feeling disappointed and wondering why I’m even wasting my time. I keep hoping I’ll come across someone interesting, but the experience is almost always the same. It’s frustrating because I do want to meet someone, but the process itself feels so exhausting that I don’t even feel like trying anymore. Dating apps have started feeling less like an opportunity to find a connection and more like a repetitive cycle of opening the app, scrolling through profiles, feeling nothing, and giving up.

Title says it all.
What's the worst "ice breaker" you've been approached with on a dating app?

One of mine must be:
"hey, you looked sort-of cute in this picture"

(implying my other photos were godawful? idk)

Hi all! I've downloaded Hinge and i'm new with the datingapps. I'm still figure out how it works and i've started to make a good profile and still working on it. Now my real question is it worth a subscription on datingapps? It helps you to get a chance to receive matches or better not to pay? Tell me your experience and I'll write em all.

So no screen shots because the convo disappears immediately after being unmatched so I guess it's up to you to believe me or not but ...

After what I thought was actually a decent and interesting hour or two long back and forth conversation she asked me what I do for work.. that's where it went off the rails..

I told her I work for a furniture manufacturer that specializes in Murphy Beds. Maybe she had some bad experience previously with a Murphy bed idk, but she then described it as furniture that murders people, as in she literally used the word "murder". To me that was a weird reaction so I kind of assumed she was trying to be funny or sarcastic or something and I said that bringing up "murder" was quite an escalation and stated that you could definitely hurt your fingers if you're not careful.

She then claimed that because I brought up something "dangerous" and I am also being "nonchalant" about the dangers of it that it would be dangerous for her to be around me. Again, I didn't think she could be serious but as I was typing a response she unmatched me.

Does this actually somehow make me a dangerous person? Is there some sort of extreme negative view of Murphy beds that I am unaware of?

Should I not tell people what I do for work when asked? Or was she likely just reaching for some (unnecessary) excuse to give prior to unmatching me instead of just saying she wasn't interested or just silently unmatching?

Not a big deal because obviously there seems to be some sort of issue there that I just dodged, but I just can't help laughing while also being confused about how strange it is to seemingly feel that threatened over a piece of furniture.

edit: if age makes the context any different we're both in our 40s

Look up dateing app algorithm on your web browser.

Those words are super coated.

If you want to find love

If you beleive you dont have a chance finding someone outside Just know your chances on a dateing app are lowered significantly by a wooping 50%.

Just by the fact they use there own curated form of natural selection.

Which is worse then the real thing.

So

Do you want to be more disjointed and lonelier then ever

Or

Do you want to find someone the right way..

You have self confidence

You are putting yourself on an app for more people to see then youd see in 1 month of walking outside.

So

Drop the app and start to act.

Social skills are learnt not given or born.

Do it you got this!

Its not you its the dateing apps.