r/HonestHotTakes

First of all, how is incel an insult? I mean I also don’t think there’s any man that can’t have sex but that’s beside the point. How is a man not having sex a bad thing or an insult? Unless you solely view a man’s worth on how successful he is with women then I don’t see how saying he hasn’t had sex is an insult. I mean if you are an adult and you still view sex as some social status boost then you have the mentality of a high schooler.

Secondly, it’s often times used in situations where it doesn’t make sense. Women will call married men incels because they don’t agree with them. I saw a guy say a woman was bad at his job and the woman called him an incel. Now it’s impossible for her to know who he’s had sex with but even if he hasn’t. How is that relevant to her being bad at her job? Do you think in court you could say “Your honor, I know the plaintiff has presented their argument but they have never had sex so their argument is invalid” no it wouldn’t make sense. If a woman was debating a man about taxes. It would be stupid and illogical if she accused him of never having sex. So whenever I hear people use the term incel especially when it has nothing to do with sex, I don’t take them seriously.

Now to address my slut shaming point. Women get upset for being slut shamed for having too much sex. I agree this is bad but explain to me how these same women then shame a man for not having any sex. So it’s okay for you to shame a man for the lack of sex he has but he can’t shame you for having too much sex? Explain to me how this is logical? It isn’t. Furthermore, why does it seem like anytime a woman insults a man it always goes back to sex. I mean if women hate being used for only sex. Why do they always bring it back to sex when they insult a man. Again it’s saying that they solely base a man’s worth on the amount of sex he has. Indirectly they’re also saying sex is the only thing they have to offer. I don’t think these women think these things through when they say them.

This may not be a hot take but people are too whiny about this

​I need to vent about the absolute state of subreddits, social media, and internet regulations right now. It has reached a level of total hysteria, and honestly, it’s fucking insane. There is no other word for it.

​Every single day we see parents and online puritans panicking over the most normal shit. If a 16-year-old is dating or even just friends with a 19-year-old, people act like it’s a literal crime. I’ve seen posts of parents losing their minds because their kid is hanging out with someone two years older. I’ve seen schools banning 12-year-old boys and girls from sharing the same floor or hotel rooms on school trips because "what if they breathe the same air?".

This isn't protection. It's mass paranoia.

​And the worst part? Big Tech and governments are using this fake panic to build a digital prison. They call it "protecting minors", but what they actually do is:

- ​Forcing facial recognition scans and biometrics just to use regular apps.

- ​Blocking older teens from messaging slightly younger teens, destroying normal friendships and social circles.

- ​Moving AI platforms and creative spaces to strict 18+ locks just because they are too lazy to moderate properly.

​Let's call it what it actually is: ADULTISM.

​Stop calling this ageism—ageism is usually aimed at the elderly. This is adultism in its purest, most toxic form. It’s the deep-seated belief that young people are subhuman, brainless animals who cannot think for themselves, cannot make their own medical choices, cannot work, and cannot handle any responsibility.

​Instead of treating minors like human beings and allowing them to learn how to navigate the world, the system chooses to completely lobotomize their freedom and padlock the internet. They treat 16 and 17-year-olds like toddlers while expecting them to magically become fully functioning, perfect citizens the second they turn 18.

​Even my own mom—who doesn't even know half the crazy shit that goes on in these internet circles—was completely horrified when I showed her what's happening. Even older generations can see that this is an unhealthy, authoritarian dystopia. Minors should have the right to work, the right to medical privacy without their parents breathing down their necks, and the right to live their lives without being tracked by facial scans at every step.

​"Protection" without rights is just incarceration. I'm sick of this adultist bullshit.

As joining one wrong Reddit you can get you downvoted into Oblivion over dumb issue people make like your gender and sexuality the age of an account is a better verification method for subreddits in my opinion

I get excited and joyful around people, and sometimes they make feel bad about being Happy! I can meet people where they are at, but I won't be stressed out / upset about the current state of things, to appease anyone.

Btw, i'm an optimist, for better or worse, but why not be Happy? we alive bb

As a man and also one child out of 7 on my dad’s side. I immensely lack any sort of sympathy for any person on child support. YALL clearly love it.

Especially coworkers, dude has 4 kids never married with 3 different women and then one guy literally told me he got with the girl just to have a home.

Every single time, without fail, without missing a beat these people willingly put themselves in compromised positions and then upset they have to pay for a whole human being they made????

Yes some people can be manipulative but you letting someone manipulate you out of a condom is crazy work ngl.

Maybe actually show up to court and present a case and not just vibes.

I’m just so over hearing about people complaining about child support, CHOOSE BETTER PARTNERS AND CLOSE YOUR DAMN LEGS!

I don’t see this as a gendered issue but most complaints come from a specific gendered group and it’s infuriating.

Look, I know the millenial gray is overused and boring, but if I had to choose between that and an asylum white interior… I’m picking gray.

All white houses are just TOO BRIGHT. Please get out of my face.

As a bonus mini hot take, here’s how I feel about the scale of boring house color schemes:

Beige > gray > white

like i know its supposed to stop evil takes but i cant even say anything i ACTUALLY need a space to talk about

I’ve never understood the hatred for white chocolate until I bite into a Hershey’s cookies and cream bar.
Honestly cookies and cream is MID in general

If you don’t like chocolate, sure, I can see it. But hate it? You can’t *hate* it, you’re just trying to be a contrarian, go against the grain because you can

Edit: yeah I’m kind of being a jerk here mb

If you don’t have standards for yourself, you don’t have standards for how other people should treat you, and that includes exes, family, in laws, friends and colleagues. Before you date, you should at least have an inkling of knowing your identity, whether it’s your sexuality, trauma, political beliefs, religion, etc. It’s not your partner’s job to navigate *your* confusion.

Yes I've had alcohol and it didn't taste like anything. I just don't like it. No I'm not religious or anything like that. Also I'm not health nut either.

She's attractive. But people are absolutely obsessed with this woman, to the extent that she has ridden this hype to A-list, household name status. But she is simply not that attractive.

I think it's just the boobs. They're big and she shows them a lot. Multiple movies with topless scenes, and she's always showing them off in outfits with low cut, pushup, side boob, etc... If you gave her average boobs, she'd be an average woman, and you probably wouldn't even know her name.

No hate on Sydney. She's pretty and seems like a cool person. I just don't think she's the 12/10 meta human goddess that everybody is acting like she is.

Yeah yeah yeah “I don’t have time to keep up with shit” literally take 15 minutes to connect some dots or look at the news. Yes, it’s sometimes stressful, but it’s necessary to be informed.

I’m tired of the village idiots having opinions on topics they spent 30 seconds watching on TIK TOK, Twitter, IG reels, Facebook ETC without any effort into going in depth on said topic.

It highlights laziness, apathy, and a general “don’t care unless it affects me” attitude.

i was my moms first child, so she dressed me up in all sorts of cute little dresses as a child

she gave me freedom to wear what i wanted once i was able to dress myself, and while i wore the most random pieces of clothing known to man, i never touched jeans

i wear them occasionally now, but i wear dresses nine times out of ten

Let me be clear that I do hope brands have good intentions on when they’re being charitable, but in all honesty they most likely aren’t. But I don’t care. I recently watched a TikTok where Uber had given someone a few hundred dollars in credits that renewed monthly. I’ve seen others get a new car or technology, etc. I genuinely don’t care if companies only do that to keep a good public image. I think from the outside it can be easy to look in and judge a company for its true intentions, but don’t consider the outcome.
I’m also not saying we should praise every company who
does this… but I think we still need to consider the fact that at least they helped someone out.

In my opinion, if you let your husband sleep with another woman through an open marriage and then he leaves you for said woman, you 100% welcomed that. The victim mentality in open relationships is hilarious to me. You agree to let your partner sleep with another woman or man. The agreement usually is tied with no emotional attachment. But men being men and they think more with their dicks, so they think the grass is greener.

I honestly think this is why I don’t have many friends, because I actually hold people accountable for their actions instead of being like “oh no, it wasn’t your fault”.

Girl, if you agree to be an open relationship with your man and he leaves you for someone else it is 100% your fault. Because you open that can of worms and you agreed to it. It’s almost like a full sentence. He’s bringing it up to you that he wants to be an open relationship then he’s already cheating on you. If you as the girl bring up an open relationship, you’re insecure about your relationship and you feel the need to bring someone else so that you can seem more attractive but in reality you’re just opening a can of worms for him to want someone else and he’s gonna see what you’re not offering.

The title is a blanket statement for brevity’s sake. Obviously, there are many, MANY cases where someone says or does something wrong or questionable, they get backlash, and they only apologize for optics. But the idea that every time someone apologizes after being called out is only sorry “because they got caught” is kind of unfair. Are they just supposed to double down forever if they don’t immediately walk it back before getting backlash? Sometimes people do something stupid that they didn’t realize was bad, people tell them what they did was bad, and they apologize because they genuinely didn’t think about it.

Again, not all apologies are sincere, but I think an apology should be judged by the person giving it, the words used, future behavior, and the general context, rather than whether they were called out of not.

Anyway, not sure if this is a hot take or not, so apologies if this doesn’t belong here

I love free stuff on the internet. I’m cheap, and I would never pay for an online app or game. Whenever I see an ad, I’m happy because it means the site is making money and probably will stay free for consumers.

I’m fine with all kinds of ads as long as they’re not unskippable. I just ignore them if they’re on my screen beside my content. YouTube ads do not annoy me at all; I just press skip. The only kind I dislike are the ones that take up my full screen for more than 30 seconds and are unskippable.

I don’t understand why people get adblockers. Again, I’m cheap, so the content of ads doesn’t affect me at all. I’ve never bought something because of an advertisement. However, sometimes I get targeted ads for things I actually need that I was previously shopping for and forgot about (I have ADHD lol), and the ad reminds me to finish shopping, which is a good thing!

Anyway, I’ve never gotten all the fuss about “ad-free” things. I’m cool with my ads.