u/Eldenringop

So I am 24M. I only recently started putting myself out there and dating because I had a lot of self esteem issues and wanted to work on myself and stuff. I have been dating for around 18 months or so, and I have been on dates and talked to people, but nothing relationship wise has happened.

I recently found an older woman(36F) who is also a single mother of one kid(7M). At first we were just friends, but quickly started talking after meeting at a cooking class I was taking. We have so many interests and so many things in common. I have taken her out on 2-3 dates, all restaurant and dinner ones, and one was a movie and then dinner. I’ve been talking to her for around 7-8 weeks and we met up 2-3 times in the process for aforementioned dates.

She knows about my inexperience in all facets, and said she does not really care. I made sure to be very open about that at first.

Anyway, she is the first woman I have met that I actually feel like super crazy about. I would love to wake up next to her every morning and building a life with her.

I really want to take it to the next step with her. She said she doesn’t mind the age gap thankfully. She said anyone who is dating her needs to understand that they will be second to her child, and her being a girlfriend/wife will always be second to her being a mother. I totally understand, and respect his. Part of the reason we have only met up 2-3 times over this long course is because of this, and I totally respect it and get it. I even offered to pay for the babysitter and she refused saying since we are not officially exclusive or dating yet she does not want that. But I did meet her son once(kid is a sweetheart and has good taste and loves transformers, just like me fr).

I really like this lady and we have so many things in common! Play the same games, have the same interests, like the same movies and shows, we both like cars, etc. I could go on and on. The only thing we don’t really share in common is career, and that’s also awesome, I don’t think I could date anyone doing the same thing as me, because coming home would just prompt work discussion. When I talk with her, I just feel like I could listen to her talk all day long, and she is so talkative, but I really like that and like seeing her get all passionate and talk. She is also super smart and I have learned a lot from simple discussions with her!

How do I bring up asking to take it to the next step and become official and exclusive? This is the first woman I have felt this way about and I have no idea what to do. I have no idea how to even approach it, and how to have that conversation.

I really want her to see my sincerity, but also that I am willing to take it slow at her pace. But I would like for us to seriously see each other.

Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/s/QX3niZsV6A

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