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Asking this question because I had a couple of very good friends. As long as we were in college they invited me and initiated plans themselves.

Then as we grew up, the connection was still strong as long as I was the one sending the first message. If I initiated the convos then they were very warm and genuinely interested in my life as well. However as soon as I stopped sending 1st message - they seem to forget that I even exist. Now I have cut them off (at least in my mind) and they are not even aware of it.

Moreover they got into other social circles and made new friends, and act like they all are so closely knit together, I find it amusing because once they behaved exactly the same with me as well.

I fail to understand that why be so lovey dovey and act excited to be with a group of people who you ll eventually don’t even give a fuck about.

Ps- not targeting all women, maybe just the ones who were my friends were narcissistic.

I feel its mostly for men. If women is fat they are constantly pushed to lose weight. I remember when i was at lowest body fat and got hollow cheeks. My parents used to think i was weak. Kek

Came back from a similar post in AIW so the opposite should be addressed too I guess?

Logically speaking, every human being is different, they have a different way of analysing things or making judgements, or expressing their emotions. So, to me, collectively dissing Indian Men/Indian Women feels like utter stupidity, no matter who does it.

Secondly, when we talk about relationships, everyone has their personal preference. Indian Men dating Indian or Foreign Women, or Indian women dating Indian or Foreign Men is also an individuals personal preference.

Indian women expressing about dating foreigners is fine, it's their own preference, but when an Indian guy addresses about dating someone outside India, his character gets butchered by chronically online keyboard warriors. Double standards?

Some people should be reminded that the Image of 'Indians' collectively is ruined outside the country. Instead of addressing the issues and improving our civic sense and character, all our people do is take sides and through dirt at each other, where is the Maturity?

Like what is the main issue? If the end point is indeed that slightly chubby not so good looking husband, then why appear to date only good looking or very rich guys in scl clg?

As a healthy ass late 20's lad . I never had any sexual encounters . Tho I've been in over a dozen relationships. Many with red flags .

Honestly FAP helped me from getting into serious false allegations because I never did it . the other parties went mad many times because they couldn't get me to do it .

Fap helped me regulate my high libido drive but rather than plugging wrong holes it helped he keeping me Outta trouble.

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My Instagram feed is full of women posting about how close they are to God and spirituality. Even among my own followers, I’ve noticed college and school friends who used to be atheists and never visited temples are now suddenly becoming very religious and spiritual.

I know it’s not my place to question people’s personal beliefs, but this sudden change feels confusing to me.

Are you guys observing this too?

Like how much importance should be given to past? How to get over a feeling that someone else might have shared the moments. That someone else was the centre of her life (for which she loved him so much that she was ready to do anything).

How to get over RJ? How to make sure it goes?

Because this creates a fear of marrying a non virgin wife (who has lied earlier) and a doubt.

I respect everyone. When it comes to me, I am (decided) like a one woman guy. I am not into hookups or anything, so this holds greater value for me.

Every other girl I am coming across has a thyroid , PCOS or ovarian cyst. What is going on .. My recent gf is having a period for the last 10 days . She is going to the doctor today . My sister in law could not have babies due to pcos and ovarian cyst . Even IVF done 2 times did not work probably because her prime age was gone .

It looks like it is better to freeze eggs when you are in early 20s when such symptoms arise ..

Everyone talks about red flags, but what’s an underrated green flag in dating?

I have heard the laptop price will go up . I want to buy laptop for basic use any i5 laptop under 45k. Should I buy now or in diwali.

While watching the bandar trailer , in my head I was getting angry about how Pink movie had played such a huge role in making society see all men as evil potential grapists and how society was more focused on topic of movie rather than the acting skills of the cast itself. And just then that dialogue "amitabh ne bola no means no" comes. And I feel sort of happy. Wasn't expecting anurag kashyap to make a movie on men's issues. Considering how he has always been leftist leaning. But still. What bugs me is how people care more about bobby deol's comeback and acting skills instead of what the movie is trying to talk about. I guarantee Indian men would be more interested in "hot scenes" between bobby's character and that girl's character which falsely accuses him of grape. I guarantee that youtube, X, instagram comments will be talking about how hot the girl is instead of how evil modern day indian women really are.

Where are we getting stuck? Is it the lack of communication skills and not knowing how to talk to girls? Is it something else?

Not disrespecting love ..... Just need POV.

Don't men resent having to take the entire financial burden or maybe think that they have worked hard to get to that position so they deserve an equally hardworking wife?

The comment section is more into degarding women than staying within context..... If you want to just rant, then don't comment...Thank you.

I will not only rant but give life experience to my younger brothers who are in their early 20s and might be thinking that they are in good relationship or someone might be situation where single guys think that they need relationship to feel complete.

Writing this with heavy heart. I have no one to share my feeling with. Today I saw post of my girlfriend on social media website. I saw her in wedding dress. It melt my heart in pieces. We stopped talking from 1 month due to major fight.

Long story short we meet online and shared very beautiful movement of life together and 6 months back we were planning to get married soon. Our bond was too deep she use to say me that no one can love her the way I can. And she trusted me.

Now I am coming to red flags which every guy should understand and maintain strong boundaries in a relationship.

These are some of mistakes guys do and they fall in this trap they think that they are in good relationship but that is not true

1. Talking late nights is not sign that she will see a life with you.

2. Putting efforts doesn't mean that she will love you.

3. Giving her time and your energy will not make you hero of her life.

4. Seeing your life with her and doing all sweet things doesn't mean that she will marry you.

5. Even getting physical doesn't mean that she will see her life with you.

6. Mark my words women have NO STANDARDS. They never have any morals and principle in life. As a men you can never relay on women. Females are hypocrite in nature.

7. Never leave your male friends to give more time to your girl. Sitting with your quality male friends and meeting productive mens will boost your self esteem and make your network stronger life.

8. If you actually want to stay in healthy relationship make sure you put efforts from girl on you from day one and never do things without her efforts. Always see her efforts and put less efforts than her. That is platform were you can have non platonic relationship.

9. She can have both sides, it depends on person she talking with. With a random stranger she can be playful. With nice guy she will behave feminist. With powerfull and guy who is above she can be misogynistic.

10. Don't seek emotional support from female ever, more you depend on her, she will manipulated you every day and control you.

As a guy never ever fall in emotional words of female that comfort and the way she relay on you is like Licking honey on sharp blade.

Most important thing is never give her your time before any serious commitment like meeting her friends, parents. Even then, never give her time. She will loss interest As girl. Bcoz female nature to to chase men. When men chase her, women lost her feminine energy.

My young brother who are in their early 20s, center of your life should be your career nothing else. No one love you without a reason. Mark my word. Best deed you can do is to love your own parents who sacrificed their own life.

A good relationship never build by putting time, energy and your efforts. But if you work on yourself and become a successful person, you will get love. Love is paid for men.

I’m a 29M working abroad and living mostly alone. No real friends (online or offline). Grew up bullied, pretty introverted, and I think I never really learned how to build close connections.

Lately I’ve noticed a pattern I can’t break:

• I get hit with strong loneliness + need for physical touch
• I start craving intimacy badly (not just sex—more like closeness/being held)
• I end up on Bumble or looking for casual hookups
• It happens occasionally (maybe 3 hookups total)
• Temporary relief… then back to the same loop

I’m Christian, so this also comes with a layer of internal conflict/guilt.

It honestly feels like my body has learned to “expect” physical touch sometimes, and when I don’t get it, it goes into overdrive.

I already know the usual advice (gym, get hobbies, just date, etc.)—that’s not what I’m looking for here.

What I want to understand is:

• What is this pattern actually called psychologically?
• How do people break cycles like this without relying on hookups or forcing relationships?
• Has anyone actually gotten out of this loop for good?

I read Chetan Bhagat’s novel The 3 Mistakes of My Life almost ten years ago. At that time, it felt like just another interesting story. But looking at today’s world, especially the way relationships, trust, emotional manipulation, and scams have become so complicated, it now feels like the novel was written far ahead of its time. What once seemed like fiction now feels much closer to reality.

Although she is divorced she looks very good and young. She has a kid who studies in some boarding school. So I thought marriage could work out.

I had feelings for her but couldn't gather the courage to express my feelings because I used to fear rejection, I used to think she also likes me because she was very friendly with me... So one fine day i told her that I have feelings for her and said that I want to marry her... But she told let's spend some time and let's see how things pan out .. to which I agreed..

A few days later, I accidentally read the whatsapp chat of another male colleague, which hinted there is something between them. As he used to give her lift in his car somedays so I thought let's follow both of them..

After following for a while, i found they picked up another guy and went into a hotel... It was an oyo in some residential area.. not a mainstream hotel, and from the guest list i confirmed that all three went together...

I stopped talking and started avoiding her, when she confronted, i told that I know her secret and what she's doing is not good..and I am not interested in any form of relationship...

So what she said blew my mind, she told that

1- she has her physical needs esp once one is into these sxeual acts, it's very diffcult to stop.

2- the third person was a guy who she met in some dating app, and since she wanted safety so she took the office colleague with her, with whom she had become physical occasionally..

3- she told it's not cheating as she hasn't committed to me, if she had given me commitment she would never cheat on me. And now she wants me to go to dates with her to explore the possibility of relationship and she saying it was a mistake as she also started liking me more since the time I proposed to her..

4- she is now saying it's my fault as I followed her ... It's illegal unethical immoral and unlawful... And wants me to apologise to her for this..

She said I understand nothing about women's safety and her needs... Although I care for womens safety but I don't find engaging in orgies is a good idea but she told all her friends and girl these days are into this for only reason: safety

Me coming from a middle class background and tier4-5 town, this is very new for me and I don't know how common these things are in metros...

I am very confused, although I am getting the girl I used to like, she is still in my mind, also she has a great caring nature and great dressing sense.. but should I continue with this...

Sometimes I think if she is so caring then why she's not keeping the child with herself..

Sorry for the long post and my poor English.

Edit : please respect women, this is not the stone age this is 2026. A woman can make her choices, and don't slut shame her for this. People can have their needs and safety too is important at the same time.

I just want to give a good life to her. I came to know she was in a very difficult marriage and was tortured by her in-laws. As a result, her husband and in-laws all were jailed. Cant you guys have sympathy with such people who had to go through so much in life ...