Who is considered average? i've seen numerous posts regarding someones life or being insecure about something one thing that remains constant is I AM A AVG LOOKING GUY. So who is considered an avg guy?
Physical traits
M21 been kinda insecure about myself lately i used to have a decent life till i was 19 but i got pretty fat for 1 year and now i am 60-70% back to my old self few more kg to go, but i don't think anyone will like me now. I feel that i am kinda unloveable atp so what sub better than this to ask about love life.
What more can i put into to become a guy that girls like to be with cuz i don't really like anyone right now so it's kinda safe to ask.
I am confused that is a long distance relationship even worth it. I've been in 2 serious relationships both of them were 2+ yrs and there were instances when we both didn't see each other for 3-4 months but it was still fine as we both were able to see each other majority of the time.
One of my friend is in a ldr for 5 yrs atp and they've met ig 9 times which is really low more like non existent as far as i think. Plus ldr hai 4 log khush rahenge and shi so what's ur take on this
So some basics about me i am 183cm tall, avg looking face and body and all is also fine. Now the thing is i do get attention from girls and i've been on dates but almost all of them didn't last like i go on a date i can get a hookup but not a relationship ya fir even if a girl does say that hey lets date it doesn't last.
Idk if this is because of my looks or my personality, i have had a good dating life 2 years ago when i was 18-19 but yk let myself go i was dating someone long term and got fat and ugly now been 5 months since i've cut most of my fat and ig i am 60-65% there and ig 7-8kg more to look like my past self. I am now very confused is it only cuz i don't look as good as i used to be and now my dating life is wrecked or idk cuz 2 yrs ago i had it good like getting approached and all but now it's like none. Personality also took a hit i can definitely say i saw much more confident back then vs now.
I now started seeing this girl and i do like her alot, i just don't wanna fumble her. I am trying my best to make things work but idk at the end it's my luck
So some basics about me i am 183cm tall, avg looking face and body and all is also fine. Now the thing is i do get attention from girls and i've been on dates but almost all of them didn't last like i go on a date i can get a hookup but not a relationship ya fir even if a girl does say that hey lets date it doesn't last.
Idk if this is because of my looks or my personality, i have had a good dating life 2 years ago when i was 18-19 but yk let myself go i was dating someone long term and got fat and ugly now been 5 months since i've cut most of my fat and ig i am 60-65% there and ig 7-8kg more to look like my past self. I am now very confused is it only cuz i don't look as good as i used to be and now my dating life is wrecked or idk cuz 2 yrs ago i had it good like getting approached and all but now it's like none. Personality also took a hit i can definitely say i saw much more confident back then vs now.
I now started seeing this girl and i do like her alot, i just don't wanna fumble her. I am trying my best to make things work but idk at the end it's my luck
M21 so been 7 months since i've been in my self improvement journey 103kg to 81kg, things did change for me like people treat me better and everything seems fine. The thing is after all this i finally considered dating cuz i was single for about a year and maybe now i am a loveable creature unlike a year ago. There's this girl who confessed that she likes me but there are shit ton of differences distance, communication gaps and my trauma too (what if she is bluffing or sm shit).
I am sure there are some guys who are on the same boat who did took the initiative to change themselves and now can't accept this new life which kinda feels overwhelming
I am a former fat guy used to be 30% bodyfat now around 18-19% bodyfat i did come a long way since dec 2025. During the last 6 months i used to cry like hell on some days when it used to hit me like no one loves me and all. In the past few months my face changed too thanks to fatloss but now the same people and girls who used to ignore me or the weird look some girls in my classes used to give me has changed to good looks.
Everyone is treating me better than they treated me few months ago, it's a nice feeling but overwhelming like i am still the same guy idk abh kya hai
I was talking to this girl not for too long and the thing is abhi since the start we both were sending each other those hearty reels and stuff. As days passed the energy stayed the same and it was obvious for me that there's something between us, kal idk i was so confident and maybe flirted too hard or smth and she confessed she likes me plus i do find her attractive (i like her).
The thing with me like say i start talking to a girl and everything with her goes smooth she's very much into me and all we talk for 1-2 months but out of the blue she looses interest. It's has happened with 3 girls till now. I was in a pretty bad shape for 2 yrs during that time i was obese and shi so dating was very out of the box but now i've lost significant amount of weight and way leaner like 18% bodyfat things have changed and i do get attention but it's not enough right i do want it to go somewhere and don't wanna jump from people to people every 2 months.
It's like i can get their attention easily but can't keep them for long, i even went on a date with the and things escalated with one too but they just ghost me afterwards or just stop talking like they do. Like is it my personality? is it looks? or anything else cuz i am just confused, anyone of you who is in the same boat
The thing with me like say i start talking to a girl and everything with her goes smooth she's very much into me and all we talk for 1-2 months but out of the blue she looses interest. It's has happened with 3 girls till now. I was in a pretty bad shape for 2 yrs during that time i was obese and shi so dating was very out of the box but now i've lost significant amount of weight and way leaner like 18% bodyfat things have changed and i do get attention but it's not enough right i do want it to go somewhere and don't wanna jump from people to people every 2 months.
It's like i can get their attention easily but can't keep them for long, i even went on a date with the and things escalated with one too but they just ghost me afterwards or just stop talking like they do. Like is it my personality? is it looks? or anything else cuz i am just confused, anyone of you who is in the same boat
M21 so there's this weird thing happening with me for the last 4 years that i can pull women easily but can't them for long. Like there was this girl who used to approach me in college almost everyday but things ended 4 months after we started dating. This is getting irritating cuz i can't seem to sustain a relationship cuz they end up loosing interest in me, is this cuz of the way I look or my communication skills or anything
This is something that kinda bothers me is that i can't keep any women in my life for long, like say i meet someone new and that person is very very into me but after a 2-3 months they just loose interest in me. Idk why is that so like i am still the same guy i was few months ago
So there's this girl who used to study with me during high school rn we started talking again like a month ago, for the past few days she's been sending me couple reels, date reels and many more. It feels kinda overwhelming and weird at the same time cuz we never interacted during school and she used to ignore me to the fullest but now things have changed she even complimented on all my gym highlights.
Either too good to be true ya idk
So there's this girl i've been talking to like she's my old classmate we used to study in same school but now i'm in delhi and she's in gujarat. So coming to the point we have been talking only for a few days and she's that man hater kinda girl who hates everyone including her dad or siblings. Since last week she's sending me love or couple reels and this is kinda weird for me like why are you even sending me all that plus she got a problem with me going out at night ya smoking or anything i do on a daily basis.
Like matlab kya hai ye sabh krne ka showing me her pictures, asking for daily updates, scolding me and blah blah
pata hai aaj kya hua, So i was dating a girl and things ended with her in oct 2025 after 2.5yrs of dating during our time we both spent money equally on each other. Now out of the blue she texted and started asking for money like tf we spent almost equal amount of money moreover i never took a single gift from her as i don't like taking gifts from others even if i am dating them, I only accept gifts from my cousins or bua wgra cuz they are my family but i never take anything from friends or anyone. She is saying i used her for money like bro u still have all the shi i gifted u and sm of them were expensive too but all of a sudden u think u wasted ur money on me guess what i wasted mine on you too.
I mean shit is kinda funny mene apne dost ko bhi bataya wo bhi hass ra hai and i am laughing aswell ajeeb log hai bhai jb i don't owe u any money why will i give u back but fir bhi thought it was worth posting baaki don't bash me with cuss words i did nothing wrong
I went with my friends on a dayout and in a small shop i saw this girl she's a staff member there, i just fell for her instantly yk love at first sight. So i did use my stalking skills at peak and found her insta account and got a fw back from her. Now i am just so much into her and how do i talk to her i just can't find a way to text her like how.
But your guy finally moved on from his ex and found sm he can try his luck on
So yesterday i went out with my friends and went to a store and there was this girl working there and she was demure kinda attractive. I just couldn't stop thinking about her honestly like she was ethereal. I just wanna talk to her idk what's going on with me but i don't wanna let it go like this on the same time i don't wanna make things weird and awkward for her.
So please enlighten me with your advice guys i just don't wanna miss out on this and i've never done it in the past sure i did it online or on dating apps it worked in my favour but i've never approached a girl irl
So yesterday i went out with my friends and went to a store and there was this girl working there and she was demure kinda attractive. I just couldn't stop thinking about her honestly like she was ethereal. I just wanna talk to her idk what's going on with me but i don't wanna let it go like this on the same time i don't wanna make things weird and awkward for her.
So please enlighten me with your advice guys i just don't wanna miss out on this
So my priye nani ji has been trying to set me up in AM and it's been about 5 months since my masi ji and nani ji have been trying that i say yes and shi about the marriage thing. My reasons to say no was i just got done with my college and i turned 21 barely 3 months ago plus all the marriage thing is so damn scary in todays world.
I went to a function in my mom's side and nani ji was like idhar aa and inse mil and all that. I just said namaste and went to my brother after everything was done i was just chilling nani ji said babu rishta aya hai haan krde which was just out of the blue. Isn't it weird that all the AM thing happens in a click and you got no idea about the other person's character, who knows their values and character. I was just like why are you so fixated that i should marry sm and i even told her ki apko toh pata hai na abhi abhi mera breakup hua hai and i am not able to see anything past my ex but she was like koi ni nayi ladki ayegi bhul jayega.
But she know's about my trauma and i am not even earning anything then she is like papa ka business hai na chal office jana shuru kr. The reason's she gave me were she is very beautiful, her dad has a good business like ours and bas i mean these aren't any good reasons to sign a marriage agreement.
Yesterday u told them again that this thing isn't something i really wanna do rn maybe after 27-28 but not rn idk they are just superfixated that i should get married fast. It's not the first time i got a rishta but earlier it was like okay tera mann ni hai chodh but this time they aren't listening at all. Idk what to do
pata hai aaj kya hua, So my priye nani ji has been trying to set me up in AM and it's been about 5 months since my masi ji and nani ji have been trying that i say yes and shi about the marriage thing. My reasons to say no was i just got done with my college and i turned 21 barely 3 months ago plus all the marriage thing is so damn scary in todays world.
I went to a function in my mom's side and nani ji was like idhar aa and inse mil and all that. I just said namaste and went to my brother after everything was done i was just chilling nani ji said babu rishta aya hai haan krde which was just out of the blue. Isn't it weird that all the AM thing happens in a click and you got no idea about the other person's character, who knows their values and character. I was just like why are you so fixated that i should marry sm and i even told her ki apko toh pata hai na abhi abhi mera breakup hua hai and i am not able to see anything past my ex but she was like koi ni nayi ladki ayegi bhul jayega.
But she know's about my trauma and i am not even earning anything then she is like papa ka business hai na chal office jana shuru kr. The reason's she gave me were she is very beautiful, her dad has a good business like ours and bas i mean these aren't any good reasons to sign a marriage agreement
