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Im f 33 and have been married for 8 years . My husband is m 38 . We hardly have sex . 90% of the time I intiate sex . Ive spoken to him multiple times about how this affects me but he jst points out my faults . Idk what to do . Currently its been 3 months without sex. I even do the things he likes even thought i hate them to the corr jst so that we can have sex . I dont wanna cheat but right now its just getting hard . Ive asked him to workout hoping that myb itll increase his libido but he wont do tht he wont even consider gng to the doctor to get himself checked . Im getting sexually frustrated and i dont know what to do anymore . Should i ask for divorce ?

My gf just went to thailand w her college friend(25m) , n I didn't liked that she went with him.

After that she posted 1st post

N now she posted 3rd post in which there were 10 pics some revealing pics of her which I told her to delete only those specific pics not the whole post.

But first she said there is internet speed issue

N then she started arguing that she feels confident from those post n shitt.

I doesn't feel good that she's posting revealing pics tho I'm not against posting trip pics but I don't know

Does all the guys feel the same

We have been together for 1.5 years. Initially things were very intense but after the new relationship energy faded the fights started getting bad. My partner comes from an toxic household and no matter how much I try to defuse the situation, things keep getting worse. she has said a lot of things to me which have hurt me a lot and recently in the middle of a fight she threw a plate at me. Thankfully it missed and I'm ok but I don't know what to do and I don't know if this counts as abuse. Would appreciate any advice to figure out what to do next. I'm so shaken. I really love her and i dont want to break up. i feel so stupid

So we've been a relationship for almost 6 months now. We're in same college. He hasn't said I love you because he thinks it is something deep and he thinks love is when we're sure that we wanna marry that person. I understand that. He told his parents (they found a bracelet in his jacket) when our relationship was about 2 months old. I had initially told him to not tell his parents but he was confident from the start that nothing's gonna happen. Then after that when he told them, it became the biggest drama. He's a sikh and I'm a hindu. His mother raised problem...he came back college we had semester exams it became a whole drama. The biggest of my life. His parents pressured him into breaking up with me. His mum crying and his father scolding him. Then he decided to continue and hide it. We're home for vacations...been more than a month and this guy has rarely said he misses me. We also have to chat very secretly so his parents don't see. Now I've anxiety issues and...family problems which I told him when he had asked me out. These days, whenever I tell him my family drama or something related to the family that is troubling me, he doesn't wanna listen. And ik I can be too much sometimes but it's literally when I told him priorly that I'm at a stage in life where my emotional health is fucked up. Earlier he used to listen now he doesn't. Maybe he got tired, understandable. He says he never liked gossip..but sometimes what I'm telling him is not gossip and he still doesn't wanna listen. Due to this I haven't been opening up to him lately, because I feel like I can't. Once I was telling him about something about my experience and he was giving dry reply so I stopped. This man, it's been like 15 days like that, still isn't able to figure out that my behaviour is changing. That I'm not telling him about my day all exciteedly like I used to. Today when we were talking I was getting anxious, idk why and I told him I'm tired and exhausted and that I feel anxious for some reason idk. He was like okay, do you need me time this that. He before asked what I did in the day and I just said nothing, just studied and stuff and he didn't feel odd or anything. About anxious thing... after asking if I want me time, i said idk. He was like...."wanna talk dirty?"(Jokingly ofc) And I said "byee" then "me time"

And he was like "okay okay", "when do I check" like...idk man maybe I'm over reacting due to PMS but I've been feeling a slight pain in my chest and my heartbeat is up and I've been crying.

TL;DR: My boyfriend (Sikh) and I (Hindu) have been dating for 6 months, but his parents found out and forced us to hide our relationship.

Since going home for college vacation, he has been emotionally distant and dismisses things I want to share and family drama as "gossip." When I finally confessed today that I was feeling exhausted and anxious, he jokingly asked, "wanna talk dirty?" instead of comforting me. Now I'm crying with chest pain, wondering if I'm just overreacting due to PMS or if this is a major breaking point.

Is it normal ? Does anyone feel the same. ?

I feel we don't need to be in a relationship really for love

Porn satisfies all my desires

Hi

My partner M19 and me F18

We are in a long distance realtionship and just came together for the summer, I saw on his phone on the date of our anniversary he was speaking to an online female friend whos existence I wasnt even aware about back then. I know her now but I had no idea she even existed back then. Their call lasted for about 50 minutes. We always wish each other past 12, the last texts I sent him were around 10pm where he fell asleep and I kept calling him, then he woke up around 1am and didnt wish we. I didnt think much of it but now after 2 months I saw he was on a call with his female friend. Im lost on how to feel I feel like my trust is broken but if I bring this up to him, he would call out my insecurities and tell me how that girl is just a friend which she actually is. I have spoken to her to but I feel really really weird about it. He has deep empathy towards this girl which I completely understand since shes going through a lot and I fear something like that must be happening to her thats why they were talking but I still cant help but feel really insecure. We have been together for an year and half as of now. what do i do

So basically I had a one sided situation with a guy where I had deep feelings for him but he didn't. We stayed friends for a while then kinda made out on and off for a few times. And i have moved on from the whole thing but i still feel really angry about the fact that he told about the makeouts to a friend of his who he clearly knew would slutshame me in front of others(which is what happened actually). And that just really angers me. I keep dreaming about it every night. And keep wanting him to text me so that I can have some closure or idk what? But this is really annoying, i don't like it and really wanna be concentrated in my current life. My dreams keep revolving around him apologising

I’m a 26-year-old woman and I’ve been actively using dating apps for the past two years. Been on some really weird dates, some genuinely beautiful ones too, but I’m still single.

A little about me: I run my own small business while trying to figure out my next big idea. I’d say I look decent, I’m fit, and yes, I’ve definitely benefited from pretty privilege at times. I’m a tech grad who used to work in branding, so communication has never really been an issue for me. I don’t drink and smoke if it matters. By nature I’m slightly kaleshi (I know that), but if I genuinely like someone, I’ll go out of my way to support them and make them happy. I’m also practical as hell. I’m not someone who lives in a delusion when it comes to career or life decisions. Weirdly enough, I’ve been compared to Dakota Johnson’s character from Materialists multiple times.

What I’m looking for is someone who’s ambitious and wants to build a life, not just live one. I’m very attracted to men who are intelligently smart, passionate, and think beyond just hookups. Honestly, that feels incredibly rare on dating apps.
One thing I’ve noticed is that a lot of men get uncomfortable when career conversations come up. I’m not trying to test or impress anyone, but my ambition seems to intimidate some people. Maybe I’m wrong, but that’s been my experience.

I’ve met two men at different points in my life who genuinely matched what I was looking for. Unfortunately, timing was the issue both times.

People often say ambitious people who are building something don’t have time for relationships. Even I agree that life gets busy. But I’ve also seen some of the most ambitious people make time for the person they love, take trips together, and build a relationship alongside their work. So I still believe that if someone genuinely wants to, they’ll make time.

So my question is: apart from dating apps, where do you actually meet people and build a genuine connection?

I’m not looking for hookups or speed dating. I’m talking about places where something meaningful can naturally grow.

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I've been thinking about something that genuinely confuses me, and I'd like to hear different perspectives.

I've mostly had female friends throughout my life, so I've seen many relationships from their side. I also had more than one relationship myself. In every relationship, I was loyal and genuinely wanted love and commitment, but none of my partners gave me a real commitment.

What confuses me is what I've observed in some of my friends' relationships.

One of my close female friends has been with her boyfriend for about four years. During the first year of their relationship, she physically cheated on him. He never found out. Despite that, he has always loved her, stayed committed, and treated her well.

Now, after four years, she wants to break up simply because she's "bored." On top of that, she's already talking to another guy and sexting with him while still in the relationship. At first, I encouraged her to think carefully because her boyfriend genuinely loves her. But after seeing this repeated pattern of cheating and emotional involvement with someone else, I honestly feel it's better if she ends the relationship. Her boyfriend deserves someone who truly loves and respects him.

What leaves me wondering is this: why does it sometimes seem like people who cheat or betray their partners still end up finding loving, committed partners, while people who stay loyal struggle to find someone who genuinely commits to them?

I'm not trying to judge anyone. I'm just trying to understand if others have noticed something similar or if there's another way to look at this.

I'm 26M, and I'm going through what is probably the hardest phase of my life. I genuinely don't know how to deal with it, so I'm hoping people here who have experienced something similar can share their perspective.

The girl I'm talking about is somehow related to me and that's the reason, we can't marry. Before anyone judges, I want to clarify that we come from a background where our relationship developed naturally over the years. We grew up close, became best friends, and eventually fell in love. We were together for around eight years, and for the last four years we were in a committed relationship.

We loved each other deeply. There was no cheating, no abuse, no loss of feelings, and no major fight that ended our relationship. If it had been only up to us, we would have chosen each other.

The problem is our families and social expectations. In our community, marrying each other is not accepted, so we both knew that getting married would create huge problems for everyone involved. Eventually, we had to accept that our relationship couldn't have the future we dreamed of.

Now her marriage has been arranged, and she'll be getting married.

I don't know if she's actually okay or if she's just hiding her emotions, but from my perspective she has already entered the next phase of her life. She has a fiancé now, wedding preparations, and responsibilities that probably don't leave much room to process everything.

I'm still stuck.

My mind keeps replaying the last eight years over and over again. Every memory feels precious and painful at the same time.

I keep thinking about all the things we planned but never got to do. We had dreams about traveling together, celebrating milestones together, and building a future together. None of that will happen now.

What hurts me the most is that I don't just feel like I'm losing my girlfriend—I feel like I'm losing my best friend, my future, and a part of my identity.

There are four thoughts that constantly haunt me:

Knowing that she'll become someone else's wife. I know she has every right to move on with her life, but imagining her sharing her life, love, and intimacy with someone else breaks me.

Knowing that I'll never be able to talk to her the way I used to. She was the first person I wanted to tell everything to, and that connection is disappearing.

Feeling guilty. Even though I know the circumstances were beyond our control, I still keep wondering if I could have done something differently to make things work.

Feeling like I'll never love anyone the way I loved her. Eight years is a huge part of my life, and I can't imagine ever feeling this deeply for someone else.

The worst part is that I don't hate her. I don't blame her. I understand why things are happening, and I genuinely want her to have a good life. But accepting that reality and emotionally surviving it are two very different things.

I've tried distracting myself with work, friends, and hobbies, but every quiet moment brings me back to the same thoughts.

If you've ever had to let go of someone you still loved—not because the love ended, but because life made it impossible—how did you cope?

How long did it take before the pain became manageable?

How do you stop imagining the life that could have been?

And if you eventually moved on, what actually helped you get there?

I'd really appreciate honest advice from people who've been through something similar. Right now, I feel completely lost.

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I have meet  a girl around 8 years ago ,as we both had joined the same compamy in banglore.For the initial few months i was deeply in love with her and we used to spend a lot of time together. After 4 months i proposed her and got a very bad reaction from her ,she stating that she is in love with a guy whom she has met around 3-4 years ago and the guy is not her life right now but she will always love him. I was heartbroken and for the next one year we were still used to spend time together but i always used to feel heartbroken during that time. Eventually we had a fight because at a friends place as she was again discussing that boy with other people and  i could not resisit it (as i and her  was drunk ) but she told that i am not her boyfriend and stopped speaking with each other for next 6 months. Eventually we again got into contact after a few months. We used have fights due to one or the other reason during  the span of rest of 6.5 years we has spoken with each other for around 2 years(in diffent times) and for rest of the time we were totally out of contact but when ever we were in contact we speak to each other all day ,everyday.From past 6 months we are again talking with each other all day. She has been searching for an arrange marriage setup from past 2 years now but she is not finding a match. I have not met her phiscally since covid. In the past 6 years i have told her once or twice that i had a soft corner for her but she has never ackowleged it. Recently we have been speaking with each other from past 6 months and she is asking me all the arranged marriage setup kind of questions(she may be asking ot generally but i cant  figure it out). I have also supressed my feeling feeling for her but as we are talking all day everyday, i am getting carried away. In the past times i have seen a lot of situations in my family that my trust on arranged marriage setup has gone now .i feel that if i dont get this girl,i will never find any other girl.

 Should i ask her once that whats in her mind and has she ever seen me with a romantic sight  but it will hamper my talks with her or should i keep talking her as she is my escape for me for my other problems and i am hers. I am going through some other problem and needs a distraction.

What should i do ?

Hi, so my ex and I dated for a little more than a year and it ended because both of us were toxic but I was the Mai initiator of the issues. So during our end days it was an on and off kind of situations. I said no matter what we do we are not committed rn and he had a flat at that time. My friend and I needed a place to stay as we had an event and he offered it to us and I told him that we are still friends only and he can’t stay with my friend and I to which he agreed. My friend told me that she won’t stay as she wanted to go Back to her place and I did not want to spend the night with my bf at that time.
I had hinge during our break and met a guy from there and we hooked up. The next day I told him wtv happened and he was not ready to believe me but he eventually did when he saw the chats. This is how it basically ended.
I had then drunk called or texted him sometimes and basically in may we hooked up again. He told this thing to a classmate of his. Now this girl has been an everlasting problem in our relationship. He says he has no feelings for her but he needs her help as they are In Same dept and everything. I have seen his chats and calls but I have never seen any signs of cheating. He’s always been like I don’t like her but have to talk to her because of wtv course or something.
But why he is telling her all this so comfortably as he always said that he doesn’t consider her a friend or anything. They work together only.
I dong feel for my ex now but we talked today and he told me that he told her about when we hooked up after the break up and I don’t get why can’t i let that girl go. I don’t have this many issues With his exes but I can’t let that girl go and I feel more irritated because I don’t really have this issue of being insecure regarding women.
Ik I have done my own share of bad things but I just want to know how to let that girl when it comes to my ex.

I value independence a lot. Also I am very touchy and affectionate with my partner so its very uncomfortable if either of our parents are living with us and my dynamic with my parents is not that good and also they are too codependent but my partners dynamics with his parents is pretty good. I haven't discussed with them, that what will happen if one of our parents pass away. I always thought to buy a flat nearby so that parents can live there but I don't know how to come up with this. Anyone who thought about it or discussed about it with your partner, how did the conversation go??

29M here. I've been on dating apps for a while now and have gone on quite a few dates. I've talked to a lot of people, but I just haven't been able to find someone I can see myself marrying. Just typical dating app things. I've also tried matrimonial apps, but I didn't really find any good matches there either. My parents aren't actively looking for an arranged marriage setup for me because I have a couple of cousins who are still unmarried.

Recently, I was talking to a friend, and she suggested that I observe the Monday fasts for Lord Shiva during Sawan (Sawan ke Somwar). The thing is, I'm not a very religious person. I believe in God, but I haven't actively worshipped for the past 12–13 years. I used to be very religious. I used to pray regularly and ask God for things. But over time, based on my own experiences, I came to feel that asking for things in prayer wasn't changing anything, so I gradually stopped. These days, if I visit a temple, I'll fold my hands, bow my head, and that's about it. I don't really pray or ask for anything anymore.

She asked me to consider keeping the Monday fasts, but I'm not completely sure if I should go ahead with it because it feels like it goes against the way I've viewed and practiced my faith for the past 12 years. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Did you decide to do something like this even if you weren't particularly religious? I'd love to hear your thoughts.

TL;DR: 29M struggling to find a life partner through dating and matrimonial apps. A friend suggested observing Sawan Monday fasts for Lord Shiva, but I haven't actively practiced my faith in over a decade and stopped praying after feeling that asking God for things wasn't helping. I'm unsure if doing the fast now would be genuine or just transactional.

PS: Used chatgpt for formatting and grammar correction.

girls, this is a lesson every time you think that this guy is 100% green flag. He would not do anything bad. Just just stop that thinking in your brain because guys will always be selfish. They can never love like women. They never think about you first over themselves or their parents at all, like women do, but they expect that from women, and if a woman just speaks out the truth or her real opinion, they would say that she is being disrespectful to their loved ones, and would go against their girl, even if you think that your guys is not doing it now, he would at one point of time ! it’s just you and you all alone .only you will be there for yourself .

and they’d just go for some weaker woman who’d sacrifice that and then try to show that oh better girls exist that are not problematic , like dickhead you’re just taking advantage of the patriarchy u live in instead of being an actual mard and changing things for better fir your own daughter .

I (25M) met a 24F online, and over time we became very close friends. We started talking every day, both through texts and phone calls. She matched my energy and sense of humor, and I always tried to make sure she didn't feel alone since she lives by herself. She's from Delhi, and I'm from Karnataka.

We both work full-time, but despite our busy schedules, we still found time to talk throughout the day. We became a part of each other's daily routines. It got to the point where I would often stay on calls with her until she fell asleep.

After a few months, we had our first disagreement. It was over something pretty minor, but we talked it through, cleared up the misunderstanding, and moved on. After that, things continued as normal, and I felt like our friendship had become even stronger.

I would order chocolates or small gifts for her when she was on her period or having a rough day. We'd constantly send each other reels, memes, and updates about our lives. I genuinely cared about her and valued the connection we had built.

Later, we had another disagreement, and this time I was at fault. We resolved it, but after that, things slowly started changing. She became more distant, and eventually she told me that she wanted to focus on her mental health and personal goals.

While I was trying to process that, I came across something on Reddit that really hurt me. I found a post where she talked about flirting with her gym crush. What surprised me was that this had happened before our first disagreement.

When I asked her about it, she said she had already told me. However, the only thing she had ever mentioned was that she had a gym crush. She never told me that she had actually been flirting with him. She also told me that he had asked her out and that she had rejected him.

Finding this out left me feeling confused and hurt. Looking back, I had invested a lot of time, effort, and emotional energy into our friendship. Discovering that there was a part of her life she never shared with me made me question whether I had misunderstood the nature of our connection.

To be clear, we were never officially in a relationship, and I'm not claiming that she owed me exclusivity. What I'm struggling with is whether it's reasonable to feel hurt by this situation. Part of me feels like I built up an idea of what our connection meant, while another part of me feels like important context was withheld from me.

Am I overreacting, or is it understandable to feel this way?

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TL;DR: I (25M) became very close friends with a 24F. We talked every day, called regularly, and became a big part of each other's daily routines. I cared about her a lot and invested significant time and effort into the friendship. Later, she told me she wanted to focus on her mental health and personal goals. Afterward, I discovered through a Reddit post that she had been flirting with her gym crush before our first disagreement. She had mentioned having a gym crush before, but never mentioned the flirting. We were never in a relationship, but finding this out left me feeling hurt and confused about what our connection actually meant. Am I overreacting, or are my feelings understandable?

Caught my wife cheating on me behind my back 2 years ago. World instantly turned upside down. Consciously stayed away from home that day to not create a scene in front of my daughters and mom. My initial and instant decision was to stay in the marriage for the kids sake. Didn't want my wife's image go down in front of the kids as moms are supposed to be the person who can do no wrong from the kid's perspectives. Revealing it to them would scar them for life. Revealing it to my elder mom was not what she deserves to know at 80. It would traumatise her too. Wife begged for forgiveness and we had our initial months of turbulence. Made a conscious decision to not remind her of it regularly, this resulted in me silently imploding. In 2 years she is back to her ways of ranting, threatening to walk out of the house for trivial issues with my mom (who is also tough nut at 80). She doesn't acknowledge that I am still in the same shitty hole she pushed me into, only that I am not expressing but have become a smoking addict. She has locked her phone which again doesn't give me any reassuring signal. She has slowly made herself and the kids as 1 unit, who would move out together. Says dont rake up old things(affair), which for me definitely not "old things" and infact is fresh in my mind. The table turning in this 2 years where she begged me to being a dictator threatening me to of walk outs- is disheartening. I feel like being betrayed twice over. Is it that I am a fool to stay in the marriage? I am that typical guy who built his life with family as supporting pillars. Seeing everything including me crumbling. Wanted ladies perspective in this

I was in the train on my way home, catching a nap, suddenly i get a call from my ex, i picked it up and she told me she was drunk, i asked her where she is so she told me shes at a bar near her college. I asked her if shes okay, she said yes and then she started asking if i was with some other girl. I denied and i told her im in train going home. I told her that ill book a cab for her but she refused repeatedly, then her friend called her, so she told me she will call later, while cutting the call she said i love you multiple times.

So the context is that, me and her met on hinge, we were dating for 6 months but then we broke up because she didn’t trust me enough and i had hurt her. I tried my best to reconcile, gave gifts, photo frames, made a sketch of her. But she told me she cant be with someone she cant trust. Its been like 3 weeks since we last talked until this call. I feel like calling her many times but i hesitate, i dont wanna get blocked. I stalk her all the time even though she has removed me from her socials. Although its not healthy behaviour, im trying to keep myself busy.

But this call made me feel that she misses me. Her college just started and its been a week. Later after the call, i texted her if she reached home safely and i asked hows college and all, she said that shes all alone and she doesnt like people there. I told her that she can call or text me anytime. I think she just feels embarrassed but im not really sure

All the reddit people, i really want your advice over this issue and i just wanna have a rough idea over what she might be exactly feeling. I still do love her and even though slowly, i do want to fix things. All kinds of help would be appreciated 🙏🏼

Post update: the reason we broke up because back when we just started talking, one of my classmate used to flirt with me on texts and she saw those texts. Although i ghosted that classmate back then but she felt i betrayed her. Mind you guys, we had just started talking from hinge and even she used to talk to another guy from hinge, but i never paid attention to it because we weren’t even dating.