r/RelationshipIndia

Me and my bf are in a long distance relationship and i used to send him letters after every time we used to meet so we will have the memories and he used to cry on vc while reading them.
i am a big fan of making art and giving and i made him such cute paintings ,doodles and clay figures and he had them in his hostel room.
When he came home he brought them in a big folder and i guess his parents snooped around and found all the letters and handmade things and asked him to bring a polythene and made him throw it all in the dustbin, we are sad and i told him that i would write more letters make more things for him but i cant bring myself to, whatever i make i compare it with the old art and it just makes me feel its not good enough and what do i write.
I get that his parents feel relationship is bad but throwing in the dustbin months of a relationship and i have zero photos of the letters and poems or anything, they could have just given it to me and i would happily taken it away.
They asked him to breakup he hasn’t yet, he is back in delhi and obviously we can’t meet.
What should i do to get over this writers block and about the us situation
ps: i discuss everything with my mumma and i told her about this and she was also sad.

I recently switched jobs, and during my last week at my previous company, one of my colleagues kind of confessed her feelings for me.

She told me that she had liked me from the very first day we met, but I was always the one who kept my distance and restricted any kind of personal communication. The thing is, I had a very bad past relationship. I admit that I made mistakes in it too, and I don’t blame the girl entirely. But things became so messy that she involved my parents in that, and eventually I had to change my job location because of everything that happened.

When I moved to the new location, only a small part of my team was working from new location. I mostly kept to myself and never really opened up to anyone. People showed interest in my life and tried to know me better, but at that point I was carrying so much shame and guilt that I always avoided such conversations.

Now, during my final week there, this girl told me that she had liked me since the beginning and had tried many times to make me show interest in her, but I never gave her a chance. I told her honestly about my past. She said that while what I did was wrong to an extent, she felt the other girl was more wrong. But I replied that it was never about who was more right or wrong. The truth is, after everything that happened, I stopped liking myself, and I never wanted to involve another person in my life again.

She is genuinely sweet, fun, and energetic. I told her that I do like her as a person and as a friend, but I don’t think I’m ready for a relationship yet. She said that was okay and that we could at least start fresh.

Since then, she has been sending me couple and relationship reels on Instagram. Last Sunday, she invited me out for a movie. Throughout the day she kept holding my hand, leaning on me, and towards the end, she even tried to kiss me towards the end of the day. I stopped her and told her honestly that I’m not ready for this.

The problem is, I don’t want to break her heart because she really is innocent and kind. But deep down, I think I don’t actually like her in a romantic way. I feel that my one statement — “I like you as a person and friend” — gave her too much hope.

I don’t want to repeat the mistakes from my past by staying silent about my feelings until it’s too late and making someone feel betrayed. The guilt of not telling her the truth is honestly crushing me day by day.

Just yesterday, she asked me why I sounded low on the phone. I wanted to tell her everything right then, but she sounded so happy talking to me that I couldn’t bring myself to hurt her.

I really need help figuring out how to tell her my feelings in a way that is honest, respectful, and clear, so she understands that I’m not trying to cheat or betray her emotionally. I know it will hurt her, but delaying it feels even more unfair.

My bf has come from office and y’ll know how hot the weather is these days and he came and slept. I want to wake him up cuz i wanna spend some time with him. But I’m sure he will get annoyed if i do. It’s been an hour though. Am i toxic for thinking to wake him from sleep to spend time with him although he got 9 hrs of sleep last night. /s

I'm 28m, was dating a 26f for almost a year in delhi ncr. I didn't know much about the caste relevance - I had grown up in Mumbai, US & Canada. It never really came up in my life. I was vaguely aware of my caste (kayastha) but never saw the importance of it.

Everything was going well until last night when she sent me a message saying that her chacha and other relatives strictly want a baniya for her. At first I thought she was looking for reassurance so I told her that my parents will be okay with it and I can have them reach out to hers, or that whatever happens I'll be with her but after a few hours of silence and a little bit of back and forth I came to realize that she is not strong enough to fight her family if it comes to it.

I feel sad and dumb because I should have researched this before blindly falling in love- I should have known that intercaste marriage is a rare phenomenon. Now, I don't know what to do, I feel emotionally overwhelmed, I feel like silently checking out. I don't want to project the emotional pain on my parents either but I'm unable to hide it. I'm not able to let go. It's not a good feeling.

I was wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and what you did to get over it. Also, moving forward - should I just date within my caste for safety? I don't know how that even works. Thanks for the help 🙏

Please help me. I'm 20F in a relationship with 20M and I have an avoidant attachment style which is turning him anxious. I really love him and I want to spend my life with him, I really, really want this relationship to work because no one in the world is Him. But my avoidant personality is ruining our relationship of 8 months and is causing daily fights and a rift between us. I really want to heal so I can shower the love on him he truly deserves. Please tell me how I can fix myself before it is too late.

Same as title. So if you have done a court wedding or small intimate wedding less than 100 guests, how was everything managed?

Who paid for the wedding, were parents involved in paying for things or was it only you and your partner?

How did you choose a venue?

How was the actual experience?

What did your parents and family say about this? Were they strongly against it or did they support you?

How did you manage the guest list? What about those relatives who didn't make the cut? How is your relationship with them? Did it affect your parents relationship with them as well?

Did your relationship with family sour after going through with it if they were against it?

One month ago, he sent me a request on Instagram. We had mutual friends and his name seemed familiar. Once I accepted his request and saw his pic, I realized that he was my senior in school. We never spoke to each other back then and he didn't know that I existed. I just knew who he was. Anyway back to the story.... Soon enough he texted me. His first text was - "You have good dressing sense" I politely replied, "Thank you" He later asked my height, where I live, what I do and then went on to compliment me again. Finally he said, "We would look good together " I told him that I'm not looking for anything at the moment. He told me that neither is he, he was just flirting.

The next day, he changed the chat theme to 'Love'. I was taken aback. I told him it's too much and changed the theme to something else. From then on since 1 month, he would text me 'Good morning, good night' everyday, asked me if I ate in the afternoon when he was at work, sings for me through voice notes since he's a good singer.

We're in completely different fields, I'm preparing for an entrance exam and he's working. We grew up in the same city, but now he's working in a metro city and I still live in the same place. He is well built (gym rat) and he gets plenty of female attention in the metro city. When I asked why he didn't find someone there, he told me that he isn't attracted to the women who approach him there and he eventually told that he's attracted to my bodytype and he wants someone from the same hometown.

My issue with him is, our conversations never proceeded more into a more deeper level. He doesn't ask me any personal questions, nor does he share much about his life. Without him asking, I told him about my ex, my family, some stories about my college days.

I also made it a point to tell him that I never had s*x and wasn't willing to have it before marriage so that he understands that s*x is off the table and give him an opportunity to stop pursuing me if his intention was to hook up with me. He calls me sweet, innocent and attractive and says he can't wait to meet me in person. He told he likes me.

I will be traveling to his city after 4-5 months to meet my friends. My question is, why would a guy put efforts to text a girl in a different city when he can get any girl he wants nearby? How can he 'like' me so quickly? I don't feel any emotional connection with him yet. How will I figure out whether he just wants to sleep with me or wants to date me?

Some red flags-

I see his likes on women hate content and red pill posts on Instagram. When I confronted him about it he told that he neither believes in red pill content or modern feminism and is willing to discuss with me about when we meet.

He texts me late at night and replies late but gets impatient if I don't reply quickly. I wonder if he's texting other girls at the same time. When I asked him about it once he told how could I ask him that at this point when we have become close. I'm honestly confused about his intentions with me.

Tldr- Guy who lives a different city texted me on Instagram, showers me with compliments, texts me everyday since 1 month but our conversations don't go to deeper level. I'm wondering if he just wants to hookup or is seriously interested in me.

I’ve been thinking about this deeply because I feel like this situation is more common than people admit. Sometimes a guy becomes really emotionally attached to a girl, not immediately in a romantic way at first, but through constant talking, emotional comfort, understanding each other, and slowly becoming important in each other’s lives. Over time, he starts feeling connected to her so deeply that her happiness, attention, and presence begin to matter a lot to him emotionally.

But when she already has a boyfriend, something strange starts happening inside him. Even if he respects her relationship and doesn’t want to ruin it, he still feels sad sometimes. He starts comparing himself with the boyfriend without even wanting to. He keeps wondering why she trusts her boyfriend more, why she feels more comfortable with him, or why that person has a deeper emotional place in her life. Sometimes it feels painful because the boyfriend started as a stranger too, yet now he means everything to her while the best friend feels like he can never reach that level no matter how much he cares.

I think the painful part is not always romance itself. Sometimes the guy mainly wants to feel deeply valued, emotionally important, and irreplaceable to someone. He wants to feel like his presence truly matters in her life. But because there is already a boyfriend, he starts feeling “late,” like someone else already occupies the emotional position he secretly wishes he had. That can create jealousy, insecurity, sadness, overthinking, and emotional dependence even when the guy genuinely has good intentions.

The confusing part is that the guy may not even want to be toxic or possessive. He may genuinely care about her comfort and happiness, but internally he still feels hurt whenever he realizes there are emotional boundaries with him that don’t exist with the boyfriend. Then he starts questioning himself, wondering if he is not enough, if he is too emotionally attached, or if he is just seeking validation and importance from one person too much.

I want to understand why this happens psychologically. Is this emotional attachment? Loneliness? Validation seeking? Insecurity? Or is this just a normal human reaction when someone becomes emotionally important to you? And how does someone handle these feelings in a healthy way without becoming emotionally overwhelming or hurting themselves emotionally?

Note: I know it's hard to read this much but please can anyone give me clarity why it's happening like this and what should i do in this???
Thank you very much for your guidance and response. Have a very nice day.

I (31F) am engaged to a really nice guy( 33M) . However….

I didn’t start dating him because we had something in common or because I was attracted to him or really admired him.I did this because I was under immense pressure to get married ( by my family, society etc etc).
Somewhere along though, I knew that it has to be a loving relationship, because we should strive for these things, right? So, I learned to care for him and love him.
But here’s the catch
As he’s not really someone I would have loved, we don’t have anything in common, no interests or likes or anything, he can’t be the guy I can have all those romantic moments I imagined as a teenager or young adult. It’s a very “ can do” kind of relationship.

The relationship is easy, no big red flags, small fights here and there. But neither do I have any butterflies nor any real passion about this guy.

Should I break the engagement and walk away?

I am 20m i am like a 7.5-8 looking guy(chatgpt told idk)

I never had female interaction mostly becoz of my school now i am into uni but i lack of communicating skills

So the story is a junior girl is looking at me frequently in exam

We also matched dress today coincidently

I saw her pointing at me showing to her friends

Should i talk to her? Or just me imagining everything

28F got out of a decade long abusive relationship last year. I have severe trust issues, anxiety and ptsd. And yet I am finding myself fall for a guy who is extremely calm and caring. I can't trust him because of my trauma but I am not able to stop myself from falling for him. Either way, I have to be honest. How do I go about my past with him?

I m 19F in 3rd yr of engg. I don't even know how to start this. I'm writing this after crying for almost 2 days straight and I just need to get this out somewhere.

We were together for 1.5 years. The first 7-8 months felt like everything I ever wanted. he was so present, so loving, no big fights, no red flags. I genuinely thought we were solid. But somewhere after that I started feeling little things shifting. He seemed a bit distant, less initiated, something felt slightly off. I told myself I was overthinking. I didn't want to be "that girl" who creates problems where there are none. So I ignored it.

Yesterday he told me he doesn't feel it anymore. That we have no future together so it's better to end it now than drag it out later. He also said he tried that he genuinely tried to bring the feelings back but couldn't.

And I just... didn't see it coming. Not like this.

What's messing with my head the most is that he's already fine. Like genuinely fine. We're in the same college and still on Instagram and he texted me today just casually, like a friend. Said he's been keeping himself busy with work so it's not hitting him that hard. Meanwhile I can barely function.

How do you grieve someone who's already moved on before the relationship even ended? Did he fall out of love slowly while I was still completely in it? Was I the only one who was really there towards the end?

I have this constant urge to text him. To just hear his voice or see him once. We're in the same college but different departments and on mon we hv our last exam and after that clg will be closed for a month. I don't know how to face him. Do I meet him and talk it out on mon? Do I maintain distance? Do I just pretend everything's normal when nothing feels normal?

I know I need to heal. I know. But I don't even know where to begin when the person who hurt you is also the person you'd normally go to when you're hurting.

Has anyone been through something like this? How did you cope when the other person seemed completely unbothered? Please i really need ur perspective and advices

Hi, so me (23F) and my bf (24M) are dating from past 3 years i.e since college and now we’re working in corporate since like 1 year now. Just to let you know my bf is very humble and down to earth and even tho he earns a lot more than me never shows it off or anything.

So the story is throughout our clg life I was a better student and kinda more sincere than him because obv being a girl lol. But during the clg placements a lot of things happened and I couldn’t land a good job due to extreme pressure of placements (although I did get a job in the last semester of clg) whereas he landed a job in like a very nice company and earn a hell lot more than me and even got placed before me. I am not jealous of him even a little bit infact I am super happy for him and is always proud of what he has achieved. But the fact that I struggled to do good in clg throughout 4 yrs only to land a job of much lower expectations was depressing for me and sometimes still hit me.

Now, my bf’s company takes their employees to off site in different countries. Last year they went and even this year they’re planning to go. I love it for him I love that he’s exploring the world and going out and experiencing all this but at the same time I feel so so bad and depressing that I don’t even have a chance like this exploring the world or going out of the country with colleagues. I feel pity for myself. To be clear my current company is not bad it’s a big MNC and also my colleagues are like super nice but the kinda culture and things he’s experiencing I am nowhere near that and it makes me very sad and bad for myself. I feel when will be the time when I get to achieve things like that like he does. I know I shouldn’t feel like this but I can’t help.

Can someone please tell me how to control these feelings or what to do? It’s killing me!!!

Posting this on behalf of my male friend.

"My gf 24 F is in the mental hospital for the last 2 months. She has a lot of mental health issues, for which she is on medication. I spoke to her brother recently and found out she had lied to me. She told me she was in a relationship with this man for the last 4 years, before me. She was the one who asked me out and I had said yes to her because I felt really bad for her and wanted to be her friend. I found out she had this one sided crush on a man who wanted nothing to do with her. He had visited her house as her friend and told her brother that I don't want anything with her because I want to focus on my career and I can't give my time to all this. She even lied to me about how this man cheated on her, which was simply untrue as confirmed by her brother and father.

She had lied about being in a 4 year relationship with him when nothing ever happened. She also lied about our mutual friend having a big crush on her, which isn't true when I asked him about it.

She has lied to me about a lot. I only found out when I spoke to her brother and father when she had a panic attack in the hospital and called me.

She was really insistent she wants to date me and I felt too much pressurized to say yes because she wouldn't stop and I am not too experienced when it comes to daring. She is not very bright, she doesn't read books, she doesn't earn, she doesn't talk about anything interesting like having hobbies or passions. I don't blame her as she seems to be dealing with her mental health problems.

I am unemployed due to my own family and health problems. So I never judged her harshly. She posts me on all her social media like I'm some trophy, on her instagram, on her whatsapp DP, everywhere, eventhough I told her to please not to.

Now after I found out about her lies. I decided I don't want to date her. I didn't love her, I was dating her out of pure guilt. Her family told me not to tell her any of this and break up with her because she is in a very vulnerable state.

But I did inform her family and started liking someone else, and so I did breakup with her and started pursuing other people.

She will be released in sometime and her friends have told me that she is about to have a massive panic attack when she finds out as I'm the only thing that matters in her life. But now I'm very happily seeing other people, because I'm not putting my life at a pause just for her sake, and I had no info on the time it might take for her to come out. I had been planning to break up with her for the last 6 months but I kept waiting for her to stabalize mentally which she wasn't. She tried taking her life too. I told her family I'll be friends with her no matter what, but I can't just afford to date her anymore.

How to approach this?"

Me 18F had a fights 2 days ago with my BF 26M and he was extremely rude and said I'm not studying well I should focus on my career more and stuff like that. I had my ego issues so I was like then don't marry me if I don't get successful and he was like then how will u eat and yada yada
and then he slut shamed me so I was like no it's not just this and I asked him the real issue and guess what he was jealous of being on discord with a male friend and playing roblox for hours but I could have been with him too he is just busy and my that male friend usually takes his side when I vent our fights to him so I don't think it should be threat to him. But it's ok male ego and shit so I took his casual sounding sorry.
Today we were sexting and he was using a disrespectful word so I would not cum at the end but pretended to then after it was done I told him don't use that word and he was like "so u didn't cum?, why didn't u stop me? it feels like fucking a dead body" and got pissed
Am I in the wrong or overreacting should I have not pretended to cum to make him cum?? and then confront?

I am in immense pain right now and feel like no one around me can truly understand the weight of what I'm going through. I desperately need some advice.

I just finished my pre-final year semester exams and came home two days ago. I got an internship offer, and my joining date is in exactly one week. I’ve already been told by the company that this is going to be a very rigorous and demanding role.

The heartbreaking part is my girlfriend. We are in a long-distance relationship and haven't been able to meet in the last 3 months. She is currently trapped in a highly abusive family situation. She has no mother; her dad remarried, and her stepmother and father actively torture her. She lives with her grandparents, but her grandfather constantly makes her feel like a burden. The only person on her side is her grandmother.

She desperately needs someone safe around her just to survive and do basic things, like taking her to the doctor. Last night, she cried the entire night begging me not to go to this internship. It escalated to the point where she attempted self-harm. She is very weak right now, and she was screaming so much that her whole body is in physical pain today.

She wants someone who can either be physically present with her or constantly on call to help her feel safe. Because of how demanding my upcoming internship is, I literally cannot do either.

Walking away or breaking up feels impossible and terrifying. She is the type who cannot handle breakups. She was in a toxic relationship with an ex for 3 years, and when he dumped her, she completely lost her mental peace and overdosed on high-dose medicines.

I don't know what to do. If I take the internship, I can't be there for her the way she needs, and I'm terrified for her life and safety. But I also know I need to build my future, and I can't be physically present anyway. I feel so helpless. Please, if anyone has an outside perspective, what do I do?

TL;DR: I start a highly rigorous internship in a week. My LDR girlfriend lives in a severely abusive home, attempted self-harm last night begging me not to go, and needs me constantly on call/present, which I won't be able to do. She has a history of overdosing after a past breakup. I am lost, terrified, and in pain.

So this begins when I was in Allen kota class 12 (2025) batch , there I met a girl , she used to stay to ask doubts from our teacher and sometimes only she and I would remain. It began with small talks and study related conversations then we exchanged numbers and talked frequently Even after the classes she and I used to live close her hostel was in the same colony (Indra Vihar)

I got to know she is from my city it was not uncommon because many people from my state go to kota every year to study you know which state

With passage of time I realised I am falling for her , she talks like really sweet and looks adorable especially when she wear glasses and tie her hair in simple pony tail, but I couldn't muster up courage to ask thinking it would ruin our friendship so I found excuses to call her to doubt counter where you can ask your doubts to any teachers , she would come often and I thought this was my hint but still didn't ask her , on her birthday she treated me ice-cream from naturals it was really expensive I had never tried that( I come from a middle class family these things are expensive for me I tried to act nonchalant so as to not embarrass myself in front of her) , I gave her a diary to her as a gift , she thanked me and was happy with it and I saw her use it to write homework record in.

Fast forward to January our Jee Mains came my exam didn't go as I planned and neither did hers..we met and discussed about what we can do to improve in second attempt which was scheduled in April

One 8th Feb I called her , and asked "kaha par ho tum"

She : "Bas yahi room par"

I asked her to come luckily she agreed and I confessed to her, she said yes...I was this happy after several years of my life ...the same evening we went on a small date and promised each other we will get good colleges this year

Then result came on 16th Feb

I looked at my result expecting 96-97 percentile with the marks I got at response sheet but it was 99.6 percentile (Around 6k out of 1.6 million) , I immediately called her she was already busy I thought she might be talking at her parents...after some minutes I called again she said she got 94 percentile ( Around 90k rank)..when I told her mine she said it good and hung up I didn't push I knew she would be sad about her score she had worked hard...I tried to light her mood but she started to maintain distance...I thought maybe I am pushing so I sent chocolates to her through blinkit, she called crying saying she was sorry for the way she behaved I felt heavy In my chest for judging her

Then she left kota for 12th boards because her dummy school was in Patna , I said we will meet in Jee advanced she nodded

Then I focused on boards and Advanced she called very few times even when I did she said her parents will scold her I understood

My boards went well (my friend had a bike after exam we used to just wander kota for a few hours, ah good ol days)

After main 2, I returned to patna for advanced

Then came the Advanced day 17 may I called her a night before and asked her if I can come to meet at her centre she agreed

I gave exam and and went to her centre then called her but she didn't pick up , after two calls she picked up saying she went home because she waited and I didn't come

I said I came as fast as possible and her centre was not that far away too

She said a friend of her's was at the centre and she told her to go and she went after she was done waiting for me

I was really disappointed and even angry I said "yaar aisa thode hi hota mein aa hi Raha tha tha na agar tum chali gyi to call kar deti and a few more"...I returned home..by the night answer key from my coaching came I matched and I am scorin 140's/360 which will get me in old IIT core branch , I was happy I wanted to share with her but after what she did , I was hurt

Next She called again and asked me if I was free I said yes then I went on a date with her , everything was going good she apologized for the the centre thing I did too I shouldn't have crashed out..but then when I told her I am scoring given marks...she said good for you...and she was no longer invested in the talks...and asked if they could meet another day after half an hour of walking in the park

When I reached home , I asked her how was our date and she left me on seen

I am not sure what's happening..why is she behaving like this

Please tell me , am I wrong.....I didn't brag or anything

I really like her...it hurts to see she is treating me like this

I'm a single guy ,28M, never been in a relationship or even really talked much to girls in life– super awkward/introverted, desi family pressures, all that usual stuff. While traveling in Southeast Asia , I ended up doing things I'm really ashamed of now.

I have for a long time, tried to go to meetups, only am able to talk to the men. I get intimidated by women and so have able been able to bond with women in any way possible. I tried getting on dating apps and marriage apps but there generally got very few matches with girls and got rejected by girls when I told them about the experiences below.

Lost my virginity in Thailand (paid service). It wasn't that I had gone to Thailand for sex. I was exploring Thailand and had landed upon a strip club, there I had taken a liking to a stripper and then she invited me and her friend for a threesome paid sex and drunk me obliged. There, I could only have sex for 10 seconds with condom and after that blood started coming from my foreskin, so had to stop after 10 seconds and had applied cream to heal the wound. I think it was somehow due to friction between foreskin and condom. So, it was a traumatic experience for me.

Had sex once in a massage parlor in Vietnam. Like above, it was not planned, I was just there for chilling, was just tired and had gone to maasage parlour, and they asked for boom boom and I couldn't say no.

For over a year, on an average of twice a month, I went to various massage places in Bangalore for handjobs or body-to-body rubs(basically making out but only kissing shoulder and boobs) – no penetrations or bjs, but still paid services.

Everything was with consenting adults (as far as I could tell), I was single the whole time, no cheating on anyone. I never went looking for underage stuff or anything violent/forced. But now that I'm back in India, the guilt is eating me up – cultural shame, family values, wondering if I'm "damaged goods" or a bad person.

I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

Could this come back to bite me somehow (like if it gets out)?

More importantly, women, How would you feel if a guy you're considering for dating/marriage/arranged setup admitted this? Is it a dealbreaker forever? Does it make me seem like I objectify women, or just lonely and pathetic? Would you advise total honesty in AM setups, or bury it and move on? Has anyone dealt with similar regrets from guys in their circle?

I know that what I have done is shameful and have quit it. I also want to know whether there is some redemption for me. Also, I did ask each masseuse or stripper whether they were below 20 or trafficked , they did say no to both. Still, I know what I did is shameful and ick and disgusting and doesn't make anything right, but maybe could anyone please how can I help any victims of abuse from my side for the same?

I am truly sorry—for reducing anyone to a transaction, for any unseen burden or discomfort caused, and to every woman (affected or not) who feels disgust, anger, or disappointment because of choices like mine. You deserve respect and full humanity, not this.

TL; DR : Took handjobs for a year in India. had sex once in Thailand and once in Vietnam, all above at massage parlours. Filled with regret now, how would this impact my future chances of marriage? What can I do to redeem myself from this ? I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

So me and my bf were talking a week ago how we'll meet soon or maybe plan to go out tues ko so i texted him ki

"Tum Ghar par ho?"

And he replied - "mai kahi bhi hu koi dikkat?"

And I was confused so i said- "are?" "Okay"

And after 20 mins he texted- "Never ask me ki mai kaha hu mai kahi bhi hu it's none of ur business "

And I reacted with a thumbs up

and honestly this is not the first time he behaved like this like sometimes just so good with talks and the next moment wtf is this he asked me to respect him and this is how he reply when I ask something let's give a fair chance ki past trauma ki vajah se aisa behaviour hai but it's hurting me and one time i told him Abt how this guy is following me everywhere then I showed him photo toh bolta he is my friend ka dost so mera bhi bhai i was like okay crazy then he goes like kyu affair chalra hai kya isse wtff mtlb uski ex ne cheat kiya toh isko lagra hai mai bhi karungi wow i feel so disrespected and feel like I m constantly looked down on Jab uska man kare baat karega jab nhi hoga toh literally tu hai kon like dude btw a grown ass man what should I do?? he haven't said sorry or anything like aajtak kabhi bhi and iss msg ke baad baat bhi nhi Hui idk should I block or wait???

So I am quite lost. Lately I've been feeling kinda hopeless when it comes to dating and I thought I would talk it out here. Dating has started to feel like a timewaste because I can't find a decent person to save my life. Every time I think I have I end up getting hurt or I find out a deal breaker.

Anyways, trying this out to see if other younger girls are feeling the same way and if you all have any advice on how to tackle this.