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I don't know how I am going to be okay with a man.I don't know how I am going to be okay with a man. And I don't understand how females all around in the world are completely okay with it.I am not disrespecting the men who are attached to it. But yeah this is what I think.I am completely straight woman.

I don't know how I am going to be okay with a man. And I don't understand how females all around in the world are completely okay with it.I am not disrespecting the men who are attached to it. But yeah this is what I think. Edit: Guys please stop saying I am lesbian.I am completely straight woman. And Yes I found Some Men attractive but not this

I asked him to meet me at a cafe because I had a gift to give him which I bought for him by saving money. I love him, but he is in love with someone else(his ex). We both remained friends after my confession to him. At first, he kept making excuses when I requested him to meet me. I requested him again and again, saying, “Please meet me, I have something to give you.” He asked me what I wanted to give him. I told him it was a gift. At first he was like, “No, no, I don't want it.” But me, who was madly in love with him, kept requesting him. Eventually, he agreed.

When he came to meet me, he shook my hand and his first question was, “How much cream do you apply? Ew?” I had done good makeup that day. It wasn't too much. Of course, I was going to meet someone I love, so I wanted to look presentable. I handed him the gift, and we went inside the cafe. We both sat down. The first thing he said was, “I have given your number to my hostel mate. Go and talk to him.” I was like, “No way, I will not.” Then he said, “I am not going to order food. I am a guy.” I felt angry inside, but I still said okay.

By this point, I already had tears in my eyes, but I controlled myself because I didn't want to make a drama in a public place. Then he said, “Look at the waiters. They will come and take your order.” So I started looking at the waiters. One waiter noticed and came over. He asked me, “What's your order?” I said, “Noodles?” The waiter left. Then he made another statement, “Does your father fly aeroplanes or what?” I was angry and replied, “Does yours?” Then he said, “Even if he does, I will not order what you ordered.” I was like, okay. I had done my nails that day too. He looked at my nails and said, “Eww, what rubbish is this?” I still stayed silent, but deep down I was getting hurt. I ordered French fries. We both shared them.

Then he started saying, “I don't know why women don't care about me or why they run away from me? What kind of guys do females like? You have female friends, right? Tell me what kind of guys they like.” I told him, “It depends. Every female has their own type. I can't say.” He insisted, “Tell me, please. Tell me.” Then he asked, “What's your type?” I said, “Someone who is a good person.” He replied, “Every girl says the same thing.” Then he told me that he would date someone who is academically good or plays sports very well. At the end, he was holding the gift I had given him and said, “I'm going to give this to someone else.” Then he laughed and said, “No, I'm not that bad of a person.”

By the time it was time to pay the bill, he was sitting there as if he were some kind of king. But I thought that since I had invited him, it was my responsibility to pay, so I didn't even ask him to split the bill. Then, as soon as the waiter came, I took out my purse from my sling bag. He said, “What kind of purse are you using? It looks like a man's purse.” The waiter also looked at him in shock after hearing him say that. He asked me to shake hands. We shook hands and left the place.

I came home and cried so much because I felt incredibly hurt. I felt insecure. I wasn't able to get out of my bed for three days except to drink water or go to the washroom. I am feeling really, really insecure now. Please tell me what should I do?

Was I supposed to throw water in his face and walk out of the cafe while he was saying all this rubbish? But I was scared that he might get angry and physically attack me.

Also,

He is in love with his ex . He broken up 3years ago.And he was the one who first came to me, made me attached to him by saying things like I have my eyes for you and when I confessed to him that I love him . He was like I am not moved on from my past relationship but please you don't go away. Please stay friends.And the rest is history.

Okay one question I have that : there’s one thing I don’t understand: why does this guy behave so sweetly over chats? His actions aren’t nearly as sweet—he blocks me, he ghosts me—but whenever you literally chat with him on WhatsApp or any other platform, he is as sweet as hell. You would think you were talking to one of the most gentlemanly guys ever. When I confronted him and told him that the things he said and the way he behaved with me at the café really hurt me, these were literally his replies:

1. I roast my best friend X like this too, just for fun. If you don’t believe me, you can ask him.

2. We didn’t have anything to talk about at that time, so I thought roasting you was the right thing to do.

3. Take care.

4. Jai Shree Krishna.

Am I wrong here like even he said no but I requested him to meet me? That's why he behaved this way.

TL;DR: I met the guy I love to give him a gift, but he spent the whole meeting mocking my appearance, nails, purse, and choices while making me feel unwanted and embarrassed. He loves his ex and had previously asked me to stay in his life despite not being over her. I came home devastated and now feel extremely insecure.

I asked him to meet me at a cafe because I had a gift to give him which I bought for him by saving money. I love him, but he is in love with someone else(his ex). We both remained friends after my confession to him. At first, he kept making excuses when I requested him to meet me. I requested him again and again, saying, “Please meet me, I have something to give you.” He asked me what I wanted to give him. I told him it was a gift. At first he was like, “No, no, I don't want it.” But me, who was madly in love with him, kept requesting him. Eventually, he agreed.

When he came to meet me, he shook my hand and his first question was, “How much cream do you apply? Ew?” I had done good makeup that day. It wasn't too much. Of course, I was going to meet someone I love, so I wanted to look presentable. I handed him the gift, and we went inside the cafe. We both sat down. The first thing he said was, “I have given your number to my hostel mate. Go and talk to him.” I was like, “No way, I will not.” Then he said, “I am not going to order food. I am a guy.” I felt angry inside, but I still said okay.

By this point, I already had tears in my eyes, but I controlled myself because I didn't want to make a drama in a public place. Then he said, “Look at the waiters. They will come and take your order.” So I started looking at the waiters. One waiter noticed and came over. He asked me, “What's your order?” I said, “Noodles?” The waiter left. Then he made another statement, “Does your father fly aeroplanes or what?” I was angry and replied, “Does yours?” Then he said, “Even if he does, I will not order what you ordered.” I was like, okay. I had done my nails that day too. He looked at my nails and said, “Eww, what rubbish is this?” I still stayed silent, but deep down I was getting hurt. I ordered French fries. We both shared them.

Then he started saying, “I don't know why women don't care about me or why they run away from me? What kind of guys do females like? You have female friends, right? Tell me what kind of guys they like.” I told him, “It depends. Every female has their own type. I can't say.” He insisted, “Tell me, please. Tell me.” Then he asked, “What's your type?” I said, “Someone who is a good person.” He replied, “Every girl says the same thing.” Then he told me that he would date someone who is academically good or plays sports very well. At the end, he was holding the gift I had given him and said, “I'm going to give this to someone else.” Then he laughed and said, “No, I'm not that bad of a person.”

By the time it was time to pay the bill, he was sitting there as if he were some kind of king. But I thought that since I had invited him, it was my responsibility to pay, so I didn't even ask him to split the bill. Then, as soon as the waiter came, I took out my purse from my sling bag. He said, “What kind of purse are you using? It looks like a man's purse.” The waiter also looked at him in shock after hearing him say that. He asked me to shake hands. We shook hands and left the place.

I came home and cried so much because I felt incredibly hurt. I felt insecure. I wasn't able to get out of my bed for three days except to drink water or go to the washroom. I am feeling really, really insecure now. Please tell me what should I do?

Was I supposed to throw water in his face and walk out of the cafe while he was saying all this rubbish? But I was scared that he might get angry and physically attack me.

Also,

He is in love with his ex . He broken up 3years ago.And he was the one who first came to me, made me attached to him by saying things like I have my eyes for you and when I confessed to him that I love him . He was like I am not moved on from my past relationship but please you don't go away. Please stay friends.And the rest is history.

TL;DR: I met the guy I love to give him a gift, but he spent the whole meeting mocking my appearance, nails, purse, and choices while making me feel unwanted and embarrassed. He loves his ex and had previously asked me to stay in his life despite not being over her. I came home devastated and now feel extremely insecure.

I asked him to meet me at a cafe because I had a gift to give him which I bought by saving money. I love him, but he is in love with someone else(his ex). We both remained friends after my confession to him. At first, he kept making excuses when I requested him to meet me. I requested him again and again, saying, “Please meet me, I have something to give you.” He asked me what I wanted to give him. I told him it was a gift. At first he was like, “No, no, I don't want it.” But me, who was madly in love with him, kept requesting him. Eventually, he agreed. When he came to meet me, he shook my hand and his first question was, “How much cream do you apply? Ew?” I had done good makeup that day. It wasn't too much. Of course, I was going to meet someone I love, so I wanted to look presentable. I handed him the gift, and we went inside the cafe. We both sat down. The first thing he said was, “I have given your number to my hostel mate. Go and talk to him.” I was like, “No way, I will not.” Then he said, “I am not going to order food. I am a guy.” I felt angry inside, but I still said okay. By this point, I already had tears in my eyes, but I controlled myself because I didn't want to make a drama in a public place. Then he said, “Look at the waiters. They will come and take your order.” So I started looking at the waiters. One waiter noticed and came over. He asked me, “What's your order?” I said, “Noodles?” The waiter left. Then he made another statement, “Does your father fly aeroplanes or what?” I was angry and replied, “Does yours?” Then he said, “Even if he does, I will not order what you ordered.” I was like, okay. I had done my nails that day too. He looked at my nails and said, “Eww, what rubbish is this?” I still stayed silent, but deep down I was getting hurt. I ordered French fries. We both shared them. Then he started saying, “I don't know why women don't care about me or why they run away from me? What kind of guys do females like? You have female friends, right? Tell me what kind of guys they like.” I told him, “It depends. Every female has their own type. I can't say.” He insisted, “Tell me, please. Tell me.” Then he asked, “What's your type?” I said, “Someone who is a good person.” He replied, “Every girl says the same thing.” Then he told me that he would date someone who is academically good or plays sports very well. At the end, he was holding the gift I had given him and said, “I'm going to give this to someone else.” Then he laughed and said, “No, I'm not that bad of a person.”By the time it was time to pay the bill, he was sitting there as if he were some kind of king. But I thought that since I had invited him, it was my responsibility to pay, so I didn't even ask him to split the bill. Then, as soon as the waiter came, I took out my purse from my sling bag. He said, “What kind of purse are you using? It looks like a man's purse.” The waiter also looked at him in shock after hearing him say that. He asked me to shake hands. We shook hands and left the place. I came home and cried so much because I felt incredibly hurt. I felt insecure. I wasn't able to get out of my bed for three days except to drink water or go to the washroom. I am feeling really, really insecure now. Please tell me what should I do?

Also, He is in love with his ex . He broken up 3years ago.And he was the one who first came to me, made me attached to him by saying things like I have my eyes for you and when I confessed to him that I love him . He was like I am not moved on from my past relationship but please you don't go away. Please stay friends.And the rest is history.

I asked him to meet me at a cafe because I had a gift to give him which I bought for him by saving money. I love him, but he is in love with someone else(his ex). We both remained friends after my confession to him. At first, he kept making excuses when I requested him to meet me. I requested him again and again, saying, “Please meet me, I have something to give you.” He asked me what I wanted to give him. I told him it was a gift. At first he was like, “No, no, I don't want it.” But me, who was madly in love with him, kept requesting him. Eventually, he agreed. When he came to meet me, he shook my hand and his first question was, “How much cream do you apply? Ew?” I had done good makeup that day. It wasn't too much. Of course, I was going to meet someone I love, so I wanted to look presentable. I handed him the gift, and we went inside the cafe. We both sat down. The first thing he said was, “I have given your number to my hostel mate. Go and talk to him.” I was like, “No way, I will not.” Then he said, “I am not going to order food. I am a guy.” I felt angry inside, but I still said okay. By this point, I already had tears in my eyes, but I controlled myself because I didn't want to make a drama in a public place. Then he said, “Look at the waiters. They will come and take your order.” So I started looking at the waiters. One waiter noticed and came over. He asked me, “What's your order?” I said, “Noodles?” The waiter left. Then he made another statement, “Does your father fly aeroplanes or what?” I was angry and replied, “Does yours?” Then he said, “Even if he does, I will not order what you ordered.” I was like, okay. I had done my nails that day too. He looked at my nails and said, “Eww, what rubbish is this?” I still stayed silent, but deep down I was getting hurt. I ordered French fries. We both shared them. Then he started saying, “I don't know why women don't care about me or why they run away from me? What kind of guys do females like? You have female friends, right? Tell me what kind of guys they like.” I told him, “It depends. Every female has their own type. I can't say.” He insisted, “Tell me, please. Tell me.” Then he asked, “What's your type?” I said, “Someone who is a good person.” He replied, “Every girl says the same thing.” Then he told me that he would date someone who is academically good or plays sports very well. At the end, he was holding the gift I had given him and said, “I'm going to give this to someone else.” Then he laughed and said, “No, I'm not that bad of a person.” He asked me to shake hands. We shook hands and left the place. I came home and cried so much because I felt incredibly hurt. I felt insecure. I wasn't able to get out of my bed for three days except to drink water or go to the washroom. I am feeling really, really insecure now. Please tell me what should I do?

Also,

He is in love with his ex . He broken up 3years ago.And he was the one who first came to me, made me attached to him by saying things like I have my eyes for you and when I confessed to him that I love him . He was like I am not moved on from my past relationship but please you don't go away. Please stay friends.And the rest is history.

I asked him to meet me at a cafe because I had a gift to give him. I love him, but he is in love with someone else. We both remained friends after my confession to him. At first, he kept making excuses when I requested him to meet me. I requested him again and again, saying, “Please meet me, I have something to give you.” He asked me what I wanted to give him. I told him it was a gift. At first he was like, “No, no, I don't want it.” But me, who was madly in love with him, kept requesting him. Eventually, he agreed. When he came to meet me, he shook my hand and his first question was, “How much cream do you apply? Ew?” I had done good makeup that day. It wasn't too much. Of course, I was going to meet someone I love, so I wanted to look presentable. I handed him the gift, and we went inside the cafe. We both sat down. The first thing he said was, “I have given your number to my hostel mate. Go and talk to him.” I was like, “No way, I will not.” Then he said, “I am not going to order food. I am a guy.” I felt angry inside, but I still said okay. By this point, I already had tears in my eyes, but I controlled myself because I didn't want to make a drama in a public place. Then he said, “Look at the waiters. They will come and take your order.” So I started looking at the waiters. One waiter noticed and came over. He asked me, “What's your order?” I said, “Noodles?” The waiter left. Then he made another statement, “Does your father fly aeroplanes or what?” I was angry and replied, “Does yours?” Then he said, “Even if he does, I will not order what you ordered.” I was like, okay. I had done my nails that day too. He looked at my nails and said, “Eww, what rubbish is this?” I still stayed silent, but deep down I was getting hurt. I ordered French fries. We both shared them. Then he started saying, “I don't know why women don't care about me or why they run away from me? What kind of guys do females like? You have female friends, right? Tell me what kind of guys they like.” I told him, “It depends. Every female has their own type. I can't say.” He insisted, “Tell me, please. Tell me.” Then he asked, “What's your type?” I said, “Someone who is a good person.” He replied, “Every girl says the same thing.” Then he told me that he would date someone who is academically good or plays sports very well. At the end, he was holding the gift I had given him and said, “I'm going to give this to someone else.” Then he laughed and said, “No, I'm not that bad of a person.” He asked me to shake hands. We shook hands and left the place. I came home and cried so much because I felt incredibly hurt. I felt insecure. I wasn't able to get out of my bed for three days except to drink water or go to the washroom. I am feeling really, really insecure now. Please tell me what should I do?

I asked him to meet me at a cafe because I had a gift to give him. I love him, but he is in love with someone else. We both remained friends after my confession to him. At first, he kept making excuses when I requested him to meet me. I requested him again and again, saying, “Please meet me, I have something to give you.” He asked me what I wanted to give him. I told him it was a gift. At first he was like, “No, no, I don't want it.” But me, who was madly in love with him, kept requesting him. Eventually, he agreed. When he came to meet me, he shook my hand and his first question was, “How much cream do you apply? Ew?” I had done good makeup that day. It wasn't too much. Of course, I was going to meet someone I love, so I wanted to look presentable. I handed him the gift, and we went inside the cafe. We both sat down. The first thing he said was, “I have given your number to my hostel mate. Go and talk to him.” I was like, “No way, I will not.” Then he said, “I am not going to order food. I am a guy.” I felt angry inside, but I still said okay. By this point, I already had tears in my eyes, but I controlled myself because I didn't want to make a drama in a public place. Then he said, “Look at the waiters. They will come and take your order.” So I started looking at the waiters. One waiter noticed and came over. He asked me, “What's your order?” I said, “Noodles?” The waiter left. Then he made another statement, “Does your father fly aeroplanes or what?” I was angry and replied, “Does yours?” Then he said, “Even if he does, I will not order what you ordered.” I was like, okay. I had done my nails that day too. He looked at my nails and said, “Eww, what rubbish is this?” I still stayed silent, but deep down I was getting hurt. I ordered French fries. We both shared them. Then he started saying, “I don't know why women don't care about me or why they run away from me? What kind of guys do females like? You have female friends, right? Tell me what kind of guys they like.” I told him, “It depends. Every female has their own type. I can't say.” He insisted, “Tell me, please. Tell me.” Then he asked, “What's your type?” I said, “Someone who is a good person.” He replied, “Every girl says the same thing.” Then he told me that he would date someone who is academically good or plays sports very well. At the end, he was holding the gift I had given him and said, “I'm going to give this to someone else.” Then he laughed and said, “No, I'm not that bad of a person.”By the time it was time to pay the bill, he was sitting there as if he were some kind of king. But I thought that since I had invited him, it was my responsibility to pay, so I didn't even ask him to split the bill. Then, as soon as the waiter came, I took out my purse from my sling bag. He said, “What kind of purse are you using? It looks like a man's purse.” The waiter also looked at him in shock after hearing him say that. He asked me to shake hands. We shook hands and left the place. I came home and cried so much because I felt incredibly hurt. I felt insecure. I wasn't able to get out of my bed for three days except to drink water or go to the washroom. I am feeling really, really insecure now.

Also,

He is in love with his ex . He broken up 3years ago.And he was the one who first came to me, made me attached to him by saying things like I have my eyes for you and when I confessed to him that I love him . He was like I am not moved on from my past relationship but please you don't go away. Please stay friends.And the rest is history

I asked him to meet me at a cafe because I had a gift to give him which I bought for him by saving money. I love him, but he is in love with someone else(his ex). We both remained friends after my confession to him. At first, he kept making excuses when I requested him to meet me. I requested him again and again, saying, “Please meet me, I have something to give you.” He asked me what I wanted to give him. I told him it was a gift. At first he was like, “No, no, I don't want it.” But me, who was madly in love with him, kept requesting him. Eventually, he agreed. When he came to meet me, he shook my hand and his first question was, “How much cream do you apply? Ew?” I had done good makeup that day. It wasn't too much. Of course, I was going to meet someone I love, so I wanted to look presentable. I handed him the gift, and we went inside the cafe. We both sat down. The first thing he said was, “I have given your number to my hostel mate. Go and talk to him.” I was like, “No way, I will not.” Then he said, “I am not going to order food. I am a guy.” I felt angry inside, but I still said okay. By this point, I already had tears in my eyes, but I controlled myself because I didn't want to make a drama in a public place. Then he said, “Look at the waiters. They will come and take your order.” So I started looking at the waiters. One waiter noticed and came over. He asked me, “What's your order?” I said, “Noodles?” The waiter left. Then he made another statement, “Does your father fly aeroplanes or what?” I was angry and replied, “Does yours?” Then he said, “Even if he does, I will not order what you ordered.” I was like, okay. I had done my nails that day too. He looked at my nails and said, “Eww, what rubbish is this?” I still stayed silent, but deep down I was getting hurt. I ordered French fries. We both shared them. Then he started saying, “I don't know why women don't care about me or why they run away from me? What kind of guys do females like? You have female friends, right? Tell me what kind of guys they like.” I told him, “It depends. Every female has their own type. I can't say.” He insisted, “Tell me, please. Tell me.” Then he asked, “What's your type?” I said, “Someone who is a good person.” He replied, “Every girl says the same thing.” Then he told me that he would date someone who is academically good or plays sports very well. At the end, he was holding the gift I had given him and said, “I'm going to give this to someone else.” Then he laughed and said, “No, I'm not that bad of a person.”By the time it was time to pay the bill, he was sitting there as if he were some kind of king. But I thought that since I had invited him, it was my responsibility to pay, so I didn't even ask him to split the bill. Then, as soon as the waiter came, I took out my purse from my sling bag. He said, “What kind of purse are you using? It looks like a man's purse.” The waiter also looked at him in shock after hearing him say that. He asked me to shake hands. We shook hands and left the place. I came home and cried so much because I felt incredibly hurt. I felt insecure. I wasn't able to get out of my bed for three days except to drink water or go to the washroom. I am feeling really, really insecure now. Please tell me what should I do?

Also,

He is in love with his ex . He broken up 3years ago.And he was the one who first came to me, made me attached to him by saying things like I have my eyes for you and when I confessed to him that I love him . He was like I am not moved on from my past relationship but please you don't go away. Please stay friends.And the rest is history.

I don't get it why people come in relationship when they are so risky. There is a guy I believed him so much He just broken my heart for his ex because all of sudden he started missing his ex. Is it necessary to come in relationship? They are just so risky you never know what kind of person you are going to be in relationship like when that person will back stabbed you.

What kind of drawbacks I could face if I never come in relationship and stay single for my life?

I think at least I would be saved from red flags.

I don't get it why people come in relationship when they are so risky. There is a guy I believed him so much He just broken my heart for his ex because all of sudden he started missing his ex. Is it necessary to come in relationship? They are just so risky you never know what kind of person you are going to be in relationship like when that person will back stabbed you.

What kind of drawbacks I could face if I never come in relationship and stay single for my life?

I think at least I would be saved from red flags.

One more problem is that I think I am asexual. Like I fear sex and I found it disgusting. I don't want to have any sexual things with my partner. I like romance and cute cute things like kiss on cheeks , hugs. I don't like sexual touches too.

So there is a guy like he used to be my very good school friend. So he met Tia through me cause she used to be my very good friend too . Tia and I used to study in same coaching so. They both started dating but one day he just ghosted her without any explanation and blocked her. Now he met me recently somewhere . Now he just started messaging me on WhatsApp like Good morning with a red heart telling me I look so beautiful. Suddenly he just giving me so much attention and caring about me so much I didn't get it why? And he also telling he is very sorry about what he did to Tia. When I told this to Tia she said she don't give a fuck. And he just asked me out ? What should I do now?