r/TwentiesIndiaLove

Sometimes I love my loneliness, how good it is to live alone just be yourself, but at times it eats me.

Sometimes I wish I had someone, when I come from 4 day trip, and feel it's all just by myself, I have someone of my own, I can call and smile and feel home.

We define love by so many types, but one the part is presence, just there presence and existence.

When the waves of loneliness hits you, you just know someone is by your side, existing, and sometimes that matters more than anything.

The basic question kuch khaya, how are you, sometimes feels a lot when it's from your person.

Maybe love for me will be, someone by my side, who feels like home, comfort, who don't change, but exist, complain, hate me, yet love me enough to stay, to accept, to admire, to find beauty in my flaws.

Love is a choice, someone choose me everyday, every bit, with every imperfections, with the bad parts.

That will be love for me, the comfort, the escape to my loneliness, to hating of my life.

A part of this love ma khud khudko kar sakti, but the comfort of other person, your person, is a thing too.

Idk if that will ever be a part of my life or not, but atleast ik how it should feel like.

Like a tree in the burning sun,

Like a roof in soul drenching rain,

Like a calm to my chaos.

Like a breath to my anxiousness.

Like a person existing just for me.

Like someone just of myself.

Like a comfort in my loneliness.

Like a home to my house.

See, whether it’s an arranged marriage or a love marriage, both can be beautiful in their own ways.

Both are simply ways of finding an ideal partner. It only becomes wrong when there is force, manipulation, or dishonesty involved.

We’ve all seen extreme examples from both sides. Some people are forced into arranged marriages, but does that mean every arranged marriage is forced? No.

People have different priorities. Some want to focus on their careers or work on themselves, while others may belong to a particular ethnic or cultural group and live away from their hometown. For them, an arranged marriage can be a good way to find someone with similar interests and a similar background.

Or they simply want a partner who is ready for marriage and commitment, rather than dating someone who backs out when it’s time to get married, leaving you emotionally drained.

The same goes for love marriages. I’ve heard extreme examples where someone manipulated their partner into marriage, groomed them, or lied about their lifestyle and background. But does that mean all love marriages are bad? Absolutely not. There are countless examples of happy love marriages and healthy families.

So, don’t judge either based on extreme examples presented by biased people. Both are simply different ways of finding an ideal partner.

hey so I've been thinking about this for a while now basically me and a friend had kind of falling off after a fight we kinda had, after that we didn't speak for about a month or so and between that my friend said some pretty hurtful stuff to me and later when we started to talk a bit and i confronted then they said that they didn't mean that, and I did forgive them thought i had not quite forgotten everything that was said but then I was like it's okay friends do say things to each other but then I sense a kind of change in their attitude now also they started hanging out with a bunch of new people and suddenly I feel like maybe they don't need me as much and it's not just me but also like other people in our friend group think the same about the changed attitude of the said person,even when we hangout sometimes now (way less than we used to before)they constantly speak about the new people that they're hanging out with about how they're cool and the different things they do and how we don't do anything or how rich they are and also constantly taunting us about not doing the stuff that they do or also once they said something really awful like kind of humiliating us for not having a vehicle when I later confronted then they said that isn't what they meant but maybe that is true maybe they didn't mean that but u sure can feel the change in someone's attitude and not just me all the other friends see this change in the persons attitude as well.

Me and the said person were really close friends and now since the new people have arrived I feel a change in the persons attitude as if talking to me now feels like a chore,and they never do that to anyone else but to me and a few old friends but mainly to mee.

i really wanted things to be fixed and wanted to know what exactly caused the change in their attitude because I thought maybe we should talk it out and sort things but whenever I do that they just deny having any fault and start telling about how they are the victim and also when Ive tried to talk to them they just seen bored and uninterested and irritated when ever i start speaking but when it's the new people they suddenly have a lot of energy and will go out even in the middle of the night, the said person has also kept us hanging when we already had something planned like 3 days before they without telling us just left with their new friends and theve done this multiple times,

but

, again I still wish to not lose them as a friend and I would love to stay close friends but saying this I also understand that I don't want to be constantly humiliated and beg for someone to stay in my life all the other friends of mine are like fuck it if that is the way the other person is acting which is how we'll act to to somehow I feel difficult to do this maybe because I guess I was really close to this person and because of which I am finding it difficult and I also after repeated taunts from my friends have tried fixing things or reaching out to this person but they never seen to reciprocate and i don't understand whether I should stop or not let a friendship be ruined?

Which is why I asked when do we stop reaching out should I stop messaging or sending reels or calling them but somewhere I feel like the old person is still there I really don't know what to do.Pleas help me out