r/heartbreak

Broke up with my ex end of April, haven’t spoken for about a month then I begged for him back ( stupid I know). Anyways we started talking again and trying to work it out.
I have recently found out his tinder profile and he admitted to me with sleeping with girls.
Worst thing is he slept with them whilst he was sleeping with me which makes me feel so disgusted.
How can someone do that after 6 years??
Him still telling me he loves me loool

I cut all contact, don’t want anything to do with him but I couldn’t imagine already sleeping with other people straight after the break up, especially we was still living together at that time.

I’m finding it very hard to deal with this, maybe it hurt my ego a little bit.
How do I deal with this?
Anyone have any similar experiences?
Would love to hear them :)

I (22F) was dating this girl (28F) for 2 years. I never cheated or did anything bad ever I never gave her any type of issue . Back in February we started having some major problems because of her and they kept getting worse as time went on. She cheated on me multiple times and we finally broke up on May 9th. We went no contact for a week but we started talking again and we talked everyday and eventually talked about getting back together. she got cold and distant out of nowhere and ended up confessing she was talking to someone else so i let her be. She comes back saying she misses me and wants this to work and I stupidly took her back and we started talking about fixing things. I had moved to California in the time we separated and she convinced me coming home would be good for our relationship so I booked a flight home and the day before my flight she blocks me cause I “overstimulated” her. Anyways I started texting her as I’m going home and she said she don’t love me and she wishes me the best but it was already to late to back out. In the past month I have reached out trying to figure out what exactly happened ( I did get my answer) but every time I reached out she was so disgustingly mean . She said she’s fully moved on and She called me ugly, she said I’m not patient and this new girl is better than me in a lot of ways. She says she’s happier where she’s at and she’s not coming back and that I’m mental and need to move on with my life. It’s just so mean she’s even had her new gf message me telling me how they were sleeping together the whole time. I honestly don’t know why she’s would even respond if she’s “fully moved on “. But now I’ve now been home a full
Month by myself and I’m still so hurt and like I understand that it’s my fault for allowing her back so many times but this was my first adult relationship and I really wanted it to work. at this point I’m not mad she has a gf or anything because i genuinely do want her happy but i guess i just don’t understand why she’s so mean? Has anyone else experienced this type of treatment after a break up that really wasn’t your fault? Do people ever regret treating people like this? What could be the reason for her acting like that?

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I’m a 21-year-old guy, and this is the first time I’m opening up about this. For the last 15 months, I’ve basically locked myself away from the world, and I just need to get this off my chest.

To give some background, I’ve never been the type of guy who craved female attention. Even though I went to one of the best co-ed colleges in India, I never really interacted much with girls. I had plenty of close guy friends, but I went through 20 years of my life—and almost my entire 3 years of college—without ever talking to or touching a girl. I’m straight; it just wasn’t something I focused on.

But during my last semester, everything changed. I met a girl on Instagram. We started talking, and things clicked instantly. After a few months, we confessed that we liked each other. She told me she only had one ex (which I later found out was a massive lie).

Because this was the first time I had ever loved someone outside of my family, I fell hard. Honestly, I practically worshipped her. My love language is acts of service—I would feed her, tie her shoes in public, and do everything I could to make her happy. She used to come over to my flat, and we spent amazing quality time together. Our favorite thing was giving each other surprise visits. Everything felt perfect.

Then came my last semester exams. She came to my flat, and I had no idea it would be the last time I’d ever see her. She went back to her PG, and we talked normally for a few days. But suddenly, she started pulling away. A few days later, out of nowhere, she coldly told me, "It’s not working, I’m cutting you off."

I had never cried over anything like this before, but I broke down. I started getting severe panic and anxiety attacks. I begged her just to talk to me because I felt like I was losing my mind. One night, I was crying so hard I thought I was going to pass out. I called her, desperately needing her support, and found out she was out enjoying herself at a club. She completely brushed me off and made it clear she didn't care.

The aftermath absolutely destroyed me. In just 20 days during my exams, I lost 18 kg. I was so shattered that I packed up and left the city of my dreams because being there was haunting me. I moved back home.

Just 15 days after she left me, I found out she was already in a relationship with a new guy. It tore my heart to pieces. I called her from a friend's phone to ask her what was going on. She coldly said, "He’s just a friend," hung up, and blocked the number.

I couldn't let it go, so I did some digging. That’s when I discovered she actually had 7 exes. I was her 8th. She was my first, and right now, it feels like she will be my last.

I was completely shattered. I cut myself off from the entire world. Since that day, I haven’t talked to anyone. A constant, heavy feeling that everyone is eventually going to betray me haunts my every waking moment. I have been completely isolated for 15 months, and I don't know how to find myself again.

Dear….

I think I might say yes to him.
Not forever just a date.
A drink, a laugh, an evening spent
testing what exists beyond old fate.
But I’d be lying if I claimed
your memory had completely disappeared. Some feelings don’t obey commands; they simply grow quieter with the years.
So maybe I’ll sit beside someone new while a little piece still aches for you. That doesn’t mean I’m going backward. It only means the feeling once was true.
Perhaps I’ll like him.
Perhaps I won’t.
Perhaps my heart will finally surprise me.
Because missing somebody from the past doesn’t mean the future has to pass me by.

—
KK

I want to reach out to him so bad. It’s been 4 months since we stopped talking. I miss him every day. All i think about is him. I hate it.

I want to apologize. I want to tell him I know my behavior was wrong. I want to tell him this situation made me realize I have work to do and get closer to God. I want to tell him I’ll be better.

I have CPTSD and it’s caused me to be so hyper vigilant that I self sabotage good things. I am mad at myself. I’m mad at my trauma. I’m mad that healing is so hard. I’m mad that he didn’t give me the understanding I deserve. I’m mad that I fucked this up. I want to talk to him so bad. I want to have a conversation. I want to discuss what happened. I want to fix things. I can’t go on like this.

I am only three days in, and I am aware that the pain wont magically disappear in a few days. But when can i truly start to expect some change? Its so hard as of right now. I feel so depleted, and just so empty. I need something to look forward to. He was my first. I have never been through something like this before.

Is there even suck thing as a loyal women anymore? Everytime I date and fully commit to someone and the relationship soon afterwards I find out that they weren’t loyal at some point or when they get caught give it the “oh I’m a open relationship person” without ever talking about it

I wish I were different, a man reborn,
Met you where I stood, scars from battles sworn.
Thought I’d healed, yet the journey’s not done,
Growing through pain, beneath the setting sun.

To be able to match your grace,
Saw your courage, your strength, your embrace.
Met you halfway, yet stumbled and fell,
In your eyes, I saw a story to tell.

unmasked and bare,
You met me there, in a moment so rare.
Excited, happy, yet fear took its hold,
My shortcomings, a tale left untold.

love grew with time,
But so did my fears, a haunting rhyme.
You were right, words can’t change the past,
Yet in my heart, your memory will last.

your words your lustful choices made clear,
To know you, to love you, is all I hold dear.
A mirror, a partner, a friend so true,
Yet I self-sabotaged, the dynamic askew.

I wish I were better and richer for you , but u and I can’t turn back,
Committed to change, on a different track.
Not for you, but for me, to show you my heart,
In your presence, I found a brand new start.

I wish I were different, know this, my sweet&sourpatch baby my honeybun my favorite ex I ever experienced
You are loved, you are worthy, your future is clear.
In my corner, I’ll always remain,
I wish I were different, and in this, I gain.

Happened earlier today. My heart is shattered.

I’ve always struggled with breakups, but this time it was more brutal than anything I’ve ever felt before. I met someone and the connection was instant. It was the best first date of my life—best kiss, best sex, best chemistry. We both said we were in love. Within a month, he turned into a different person; when I asked if he still wanted to see me, he told me he’d been thinking for a while about not getting involved with anyone and said it was best to call it quits. I had never felt such an instant, profound emptiness as I did when I read that message. Everyone keeps telling me that since it all happened in less two months I should just get over it and move on, but I’m in love with someone who probably doesn't even remember I exist. I think about him everyday all day long and no one else exists. I try getting on the apps again but no one is cute or handsome... No one else is him. I’m in my thirties and have been through plenty of trauma but I’ve never gotten so deeply involved with someone in such a short time—to the point of losing my head and peace over it. All my other relationships ended with me crying and devastated. Not this time. It’s been 15 days and I still haven’t cried. The only thing left is the deepest emptiness I’ve ever felt. I want to find someone and have always believed in love but I’m afraid this has broken me for good. I don't even know if I should try dating again now or if I should wait. I’m afraid I’ve become the very thing I despise: someone who avoids getting attached.

I don't expect anyone to reply to this. I just wanted to put my feelings somewhere...

it'll be a week tomorrow since he broke up with me which was also the last time we had any contact. im hurting so much. im so angry at him. and i want him to come back so bad. how do i even get over this feeling

I have nothing left to build on. Me 28M gf 28F dated in highschool and college. Took a few years apart and she moved back home, moved in with me i bought a house. Even 10 years ish together I still cant get a read. We were young in love smoking weed happy friends etc, now i feel like she looks at her mother and stepfather - they have njce cars big house etc etc but really no more than that and actually do not want her to be with me after a rough year of drinking and shaky employment. Well shes back living with them, wants to go out all the time but also wants the boyfriend with the house and to have kids?? Her back and forth has been impossible, when im great i still feel like she needs more more more. More travel, better house this that - i think she is going to jump ship and just move and find a guy her parents approve and that fit her mold of a perfect life only to be left unfulfilled in the long run. Any advice how I can be a better man? How to repair or move on?

My boyfriend break my heart today

I’ve been with my boyfriend almost 12 years. We have a 5 year old together. Our entire lives are built around each other.

He has had mental issues since our child was born and there isn’t a single thing I can do to help or make the situation better, but at the end of the day, I am always wrong and he is always right.

He abuses me mentally and verbally.
I’ve always tried supporting him in hopes one day things will get better.

Whilst planning out our date for our 12 year he told me he isn’t happy anymore because all we do is fight (which is him getting upset at me for not saying or doing the right thing like I read his mind or something and then he yells and calls me names over it)

He told me this through text. Then said he needs to be honest, that he isn’t attracted to me physically, mentally or emotionally anymore.

So I left work crying told him that I would do anything. He told me I need to make some major life changes and that I’m fat and ugly and he doesn’t find me attractive anymore and that my chin touches my collar bones.

This comes after I made the effort to lose 50lbs whilst unemployed. Then I got a job, started sitting at a desk all day and never have a single moment to myself.

I’ve always been fat. I was fat when we met, I was fat when we started dating, I’ve been fat for the entire relationship. I’m not even at my biggest size now.

None of it was fake. I have been doing nothing but praying for your healing, peace, and well being. I never meant to do you any harm and I never would. We were placed in a difficult situation. I have acknowledged and taken responsibility for my wrong doing to the best of my ability. If you can think about it you can understand why I had to put distance between us.

I hope you can forgive me.

Im still here, only in mind and spirit now. I hope you choose healing, I hope you choose love instead of hate. I hope you find the peace that is always available to you. You could still reach me if you really wanted to, and I wouldn’t ignore you - the real you- that pure heart behind your eyes you showed me on many occasions. THAT is what drew me in, not your body.

I’m hoping you can put aside your anger and allow something new to take hold in your life. I want more than anything to know the best version of you. I meant everything I said, and I know none of it was ever hateful.

With Love that hasn’t faltered, despite the distance.

Caught My Boyfriend of 2.5 Years on a Dating App

We’ve been in a long-distance relationship, and things had reached a pretty serious stage. We were planning to involve our parents in January 2027 and eventually get married.

We met after a long time during the first week of August. We went out for coffee, and while we were sitting together, I happened to see him swiping on Tinder. When I confronted him, he gave me a very unconvincing excuse, which obviously didn’t sit right with me.

So, with the help of a friend, I decided to find out what was actually going on. We created a fake profile using my friend’s pictures. I matched with him—and, ironically, he was also using a fake name and AI-generated pictures.

We exchanged numbers and ended up having a conversation that lasted through the night. Eventually, I managed to convince him to video call.

And then when he called… boom. I was on the other side of the screen.

, his face was PRICELESS. 😭

This literally happened last night, and by morning, the entire truth was out in the open.

But what hurts the most is that even after everything came out, there was no remorse. Instead, he blamed me. Apparently, I was “too insecure,” “psychotic,” and had somehow “pushed him to cheat.”

The irony is almost unbelievable. This is a 31-year-old man I am 28. We were about to introduce our families for marriage. We had spent two and a half years together, and I genuinely thought we were building a future.

My heart is breaking a little more every minute, but somewhere between the heartbreak and disbelief, I’m also oddly proud of my investigative skills. 😭😎

Right now I am taking it well. I haven't even cried once. May be the feeling hasn't sunk in yet. I am just scared that I might break down completely in the coming days.

Any advice? I feel so hopeless

It’s been nearly a year now since my ex (27M) broke up with me (27F). We had a four and a half year relationship, we bought a house together obviously now sold, went engagement ring shopping, spoke about kids, marriage and a future. He broke up with me 16th Sept 2025, 5th Sept 2025 we had just come back from a romantic week long holiday.

It’s been nearly a year and I have no contact with my ex now, our house sold, our shared bills all closed, he lives 30 mins away so I haven’t bumped into him, our lives are completely separate now. I used to wait for the day my ex came back and said he regretted it but he never has, I stopped feeling like that once I knew it was fully over. For some reason as time is moving on and I am now dating again, I can’t help but wonder if once he starts dating and realises its not the same, and after a year etc would he message me and check in, and express he hasn’t stopped thinking of me and wants to meet up. I don’t know why I am just fantasising about this all the time even though I’m dating someone new who I really like.

Is this normal has anyone else experienced this? How do I stop waiting for a message like this? Because I am really happy with my new life now, I think I just always wanted him to fight for me and realise I was special and a message would validate that