r/heartbreak

I’m in my early 20s and just got out of a 6-year relationship with someone I’ve loved since we were teenagers.

we are of dif religions, so marriage was always complicated. We were long distance during university and had rough patches, but recently he had become much more serious about us. He worked on things that hurt me, reassured me constantly, and was always extremely loyal.

Then he started acting distant. At first he said it was stress from university and work, but eventually he told me his mom had started talking about marriage and he finally told his family he wanted to marry me. Apparently it caused a huge problem because of our religious differences, and he told me there was basically no convincing them.

I’m devastated. I’m already in therapy for other stress-related issues, and now I can barely study, focus, or distract myself because he’s been part of my life since high school and was also my best friend.

What scares me most is feeling like I lost someone rare. I keep thinking I’ll never find someone as loyal, reassuring, understanding, and willing to work on things with me again. I know that’s probably catastrophizing, but it genuinely feels that way.

It’s also harder because neither of us stopped loving each other and there was no cheating or betrayal.

For anyone who has lost a long-term relationship like this, how did you actually detach and rebuild your life? And how do you stop believing you’ll never find those good qualities in someone else?

So me 26f broke up with my partner 30m

3 weeks ago

Ive regretted it since

Ive tried talk about it and he is avoidant about it

I dont know you hurt me

Which i did 0 denying that

But now his asked to sleep together

I want to because I want him close

I want to because I think itll open the connection

His always been very sex forward and emotions after

Most emotional connections with us happened after sex

Am I just hopeless if I do this

Im not sure what to do

Hoping someone's had a similar experience

Do some people go through life breaking other people’s hearts and then find the one and never have to go through heartbreak?

My ex is on his fourth girlfriend and has left every single one of them, but he told me he left me cause he didn’t love me enough and that it wasn’t right after leading me on for 10 months (see my last post). He loved his previous ex more than me and claims he only left cause she was toxic.

For some reason now I genuinely feel like he’s found the one. Idk why I think that but I can just kind of feel it because the new girl is exactly his type and his mom texted me a few months after we broke up that she hopes I find my perfect match and that everyone deserves that. At that point I didn’t know he was with someone else but I kind of suspected.

Everyone keeps telling me that he will get his karma but I just don’t think so idk.

My bf once accidentally sent me a voice note that was obviously meant for another woman. He was being really sweet in it, telling her not to worry and that she would do great with her presentation. I remember thinking... what presentation? I didn't have one that day. When I asked him, he told me he was sleep talking and somehow sent the voice note to me by accident. I wanted to believe him, so I let it go. The strange part is that shortly after that, he completely changed. He became distant, started acting cold, picking arguments and suddenly seemed to have a hundred reasons why our relationship wasn't working. Maybe it's all a coincidence, I don't know... but am I really supposed to believe that someone can sleep talk a specific, affectionate message to another woman about something that wasn't even happening? At this point I'm wondering if I'm being incredibly naive for still questioning it, or if I'm just refusing to accept what was probably obvious from the beginning. What would you honestly think?

My heart is still reaching her for 4 years, this is obviously an obsession... We didn't even have a proper label on the relationship in the first place, I didn't get her to be my girlfriend but I still can't move on. Every girl I meet feels so dull and I don't know why, my brain keeps saying to move on but my heart is still pounding for her it feels like I'm lost in a labyrinth that has no exit, the cycle keeps going on every year, I yearn and yearn without any benefits nor approval.

The loml left in a horrific way, choosing himself and his severe mental health issues leaving me as collateral damage. I was with him for years.

We lived together. I just can't get over him. He is on my mind all the time.

I've tried to move on, gone on a few dates, tried to get over him by getting under and nothing is working. Aside from the WAY he left, he is a great-intentioned, sweet, gentle person who I wish the very best for. But he has a hold on my heart that won't loosen.

So my boyfriend just broke up with me two weeks ago. We loved each other so much. We were so good together even during the break up there was immense. But he didn’t like some of my characters which I was working on. He attempted to break up with me once but hours later didn’t cause we talked it out. This time we had a bad weekend Friday night up until Monday and Tuesday we were supposed to spend together he broke up with me. He said he didn’t like how he felt during arguments or he anticipated them all the time. The arguments are mostly me saying he misunderstands or takes in a certain but in me trying to maybe explain myself it turns into a back and forth and sometimes I do genuinely say stupid stuff I probably shouldn’t have. He said he cuts off friends for that and he didn’t want it in his relationship. I’m so sad because everything else was so good. He said it too. I don’t know. I do want him back. The break up is still fresh but I don’t know how to make him see that the problem we had wasn’t something that wasn’t fixable. It was in the works he just didn’t have the patience to see it through. I feel sad that my actions hurt him but at the same time I want to work on it with him. He’s not perfect either but it didn’t make me want to leave. I don’t know. How do I get him back is the real question. I want him back because we were so good together but maybe with things different and better.

Most breakups I’ve been through are mutual. This time felt very different. I didn’t even see it coming, no signs or anything. I truly thought he was the one, I love him with all my heart and everything seemed wonderful. He dumped me at 04:00 knowing I had a busy day the next day. “It’s not you, it’s me.” I couldn’t sleep, had to call out of work, classes, everything. Turns out he is galavanting around with friends and I’m stuck in bed. It hurts because it makes me feel like I meant nothing to him. And the worst part is, I can’t even be mad at him. Glad to see him doing so well without me.

Hello guys.. my ex left me almost 2 months ago.. tried to beg once, and cry a week after, but she said thats it, she dont see whats more there. Anyway im radio silence and no contact since then. On the last conversation she told me that she have my passport, and i need to take it back, but i was not in town. Since then month and a half i didnt reached out to take it and so on.. a month ago she unfollowed me and removed me from her followers.. today i saw she unfollowed me on tiktok, that was the last place we were connected somehow. She didnt blocked me though.. i feel really painfull, becouse all the time i think she felt like i felt, and she crave for me.. i really dont know how to explain it.. i know how to manage no contact, it was enough time for a small relationship (4months) to try to erase the mistakes and bad feelings, and i was about to reach out, thinking we may have a normal conversation, but she unfollowed me today .. plus she is a real stubborn! sorry if its stupid to post that here..