u/Aggressive_Mango_339

I (22F) was dating this girl (28F) for 2 years. I never cheated or did anything bad ever I never gave her any type of issue . Back in February we started having some major problems because of her and they kept getting worse as time went on. She cheated on me multiple times and we finally broke up on May 9th. We went no contact for a week but we started talking again and we talked everyday and eventually talked about getting back together. she got cold and distant out of nowhere and ended up confessing she was talking to someone else so i let her be. She comes back saying she misses me and wants this to work and I stupidly took her back and we started talking about fixing things. I had moved to California in the time we separated and she convinced me coming home would be good for our relationship so I booked a flight home and the day before my flight she blocks me cause I “overstimulated” her. Anyways I started texting her as I’m going home and she said she don’t love me and she wishes me the best but it was already to late to back out. In the past month I have reached out trying to figure out what exactly happened ( I did get my answer) but every time I reached out she was so disgustingly mean . She said she’s fully moved on and She called me ugly, she said I’m not patient and this new girl is better than me in a lot of ways. She says she’s happier where she’s at and she’s not coming back and that I’m mental and need to move on with my life. It’s just so mean she’s even had her new gf message me telling me how they were sleeping together the whole time. I honestly don’t know why she’s would even respond if she’s “fully moved on “. But now I’ve now been home a full
Month by myself and I’m still so hurt and like I understand that it’s my fault for allowing her back so many times but this was my first adult relationship and I really wanted it to work. at this point I’m not mad she has a gf or anything because i genuinely do want her happy but i guess i just don’t understand why she’s so mean? Has anyone else experienced this type of treatment after a break up that really wasn’t your fault? Do people ever regret treating people like this? What could be the reason for her acting like that?

I (22f) and my now ex gf(27f) have been together for 2 years. We were long distance but would see each other frequently. My ex gf was extremely against me going to clubs/bars. Back in march she went ghost for 3 days and went to clubs during that time. She blamed her lying and going ghost on me by saying she wouldn’t have to lie if I would just be “normal” and not get upset. I really felt bad that she felt she couldn’t talk to me and i encouraged her to go to the club for her friend’s birthday the following weekend and just ask she communicated .She said she didn’t want problems and didn’t want to go all week and on the day of left work early and went to the club. She didn’t communicate at all and left me worried all night. The following day I saw she cheated on me at the club from a TikTok her sister posted . When I confronted her about it she laughed and then called me ugly. I left her and she refused to leave me alone. She continued to apologize saying she was drunk and she didn’t mean it and then said she called me ugly to destroy my confidence so I don’t move on. She swore she would never step into a club again so I stupidly took her back. Fast forward to April . I took a trip to go see my family and everything seemed so good between us it was kind of normal. The entire time I was out of state she sent me paragraphs everyday telling me how much she loved me but I didn’t want to come back home. I told her I wanted to stay out of state and that we should end the relationship since she mentioned she was unsure about it before and she begged me to go home and fix it with her. ( we are ldr but not that far apart) . 3 days after I came home she went back to a club and slept with someone. She blamed it on being drunk. She then later on told me that she planned this when I was seeing my family so she was talking to her the entire week I was gone. At this point I wasn’t surprised I was just hurt so I separated from her. She said she wasn’t ready for a relationship & She started telling me all these mean things again saying she don’t care about me and that I forced her here and that she wanted to leave me forever ago and every nice thing she said was because she felt bad for me. But she would tell me she’s unsure ab us and that she wants me and then would tell me things about us getting married. She calls me all day everyday / she calls me anytime she goes to the store and will even call me to sleep otp.but would lag for hours. Today I finally snapped and started crying because Its confusing me and she got super ugly and cold and said “ why are u confused I told u I don’t want this” (3 hrs earlier she called me and said she wanted to get married). She told me we need to go no contact and blocked me. I know I did this to myself by not leaving the first time but this is my first adult relationship and I really wanted it to work. This is the first time she ever blocked me and it’s been 12 hrs . I feel horrible and I feel like this is truly all my fault like this was all me . My mind just feels like mush and I keep crying & I feel used. I feel like it’s really over and it makes me extremely sad even though I know I never deserved anything she put me through. Any advice on how to get better?