r/relationshipproblems

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Hindu age 24 (mumbai)

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Her age 23

Tl;dr: My coach told me to break up with my girlfriend because her heavy drug use risks my amateur status and my dream of making the Olympics. I need advice on how to handle this situation.

For context, I’m an amateur open-weight boxer. My one and only dream all my life has been to make it to the Olympics and eventually transition to a professional career. I train incredibly hard for around 22 hours and 30 minutes a week not including road work outside the gym to make this happen.

The girl I am currently seeing does a lot of drugs. Recently, one of my head coaches sat me down and told me that being around her is a massive liability. He pointed out that if we ever get stopped and searched by the police and they find Class A or B drugs on her, my amateur career could be instantly destroyed. If I get a criminal record, my Olympic and professional dreams are completely over.
My coach told me he doesn’t want to risk my future and strongly advised that it’s best I cut her loose.

This is all I want in life and I’m willing to do anything to get it. I really care about her, but my career and my dream mean everything to me. How do I navigate this situation appropriately? I am looking for advice on whether I should try to talk to her about cleaning up, or is the safest move for my future is to end the relationship???

I 21f have been having thoughts on breaking up with my boyfriend since the beginning of our relationship. I love him but he just gives me the ick. In many ways we are not compatible, such as our views on money and wealth. I enjoy the more expensive things in life, and he is totally against indulging those things, like shopping for example, he also has old fashioned was that I don't subscribe to. Furthermore, I'm not attracted to him. I've tried really hard to put those differences behind us, but i still cannot bring myself to love him for who he is. He has always said that he loves me more, and Im starting to believe that's true.

I just don't know what to do. I love him, but I don't love him enough. It's been 5 months since we've started dating, and I don't want to break his heart.

My boyfriend is on a trip with some family. He called me yesterday morning to tell me they were thinking of going to a strip club. We had previously discussed it and I said that I suppose in the right situation it’s fine, but he can’t do anything (lap dance etc). But when he told me yesterday it made me feel really weird. This is the first time it’s ever actually been a scenario so I didn’t know how’d I’d feel in the moment. Throughout the day, I thought about it and ended up telling him it made me really uncomfortable and I did not want him to go. Well, I just woke up and he told me he went. He doesn’t see the issue as it was his first time and I had originally said he could (like 6 months ago). We’ve been dating for 2 years. What do I do

I (24F) live with my boyfriend (23M). I’m now 6 months pregnant and was a pretty heavy drinker before this, but once I found out I was pregnant I completely stopped. My boyfriend still continues to drink daily despite me telling him it bothers me. He wastes so much money on liquor we were barely able to pay rent this month. I do love him so much, but when he drinks he tells me he does not love me and to leave back to my mom’s. But when he is sober we are best friends. We’ve been together for about a year now, and were friends for a year before that. I’ve lost all my friends thanks to his behavior and he’s the only one I have. I even moved cities to be with him and feel completely alone. Does anyone have any advice, or been in the same situation before?

I’m ‘19F’ and my boyfriend ‘20M’ been dating a couple months and it hasn’t been going to well at all. I don’t understand him at all. He has told me nasty things how he felt about me, told me I’m slow as bricks and just stupid. I have really bad memory as well due to past experiences. Then there’s time we’re good because he just sees me as not me? So it’s easy to talk to me. I’m confused, I don’t get it, maybe I am stupid. I’m just scared, that maybe it is all my fault. That I’m not smart enough to understand and love people. I don’t talk about serious stuff all the time, I take the my time trying to figure out words to talk and it comes out in shambles, he expects me to change so quick with something I’m not experienced. Our emotional bracket isn’t the same, it sucks. Cause I really like this dude, I was hoping that we can have something together but he was telling me he’s getting tired and feeling like his time is being wasted. My boyfriend doesn’t work, he just came back to the city I live in a year ago, has no job, no money or anything. I tried my best by helping but nobody is hiring him while I the other hand go to school and work. But he had the time to process how he feels as a person. He constantly would mentioned if he had the stuff like I have right now, he would be gladly to take it, while I’m wasting a blessing/opportunity and would not be talking to me. Am I bad the person?? That I can’t understand him at all or anything? I think too simple, I feel like I’m going through a crisis, I thought I was okay before I met him. I wanna keep learning but he kept telling me I’ll die like this, simple and nothing with no emotional depth. He wants me to do something that will help him instead fun stuff, which I tried but he doesn’t want to take bus transportation at all. He applied to bunch of jobs near him as well, it’s annoying. Though I’m a horrible narrator he said and this is mostly of my perspective of this relationship. I just need to know, if there’s something that I am doing isn’t right?

I am (22F) , he is (22M)

We have been in relationship for 3 years

now LDR on and off .

Whenever we get into a little fight he goes away for some time but that break is very very difficult for me .

He says he needs some space to calm down himself and then come back to me ...but all I want is whenever we are getting into a fight why can't we just drop the topic why can't he just say leave this topic for now and he with me and comfort me. He will come back after 2 3 hours but I need him right then at that time present with me solving that fight. Why is it so difficult for him and also it's a really difficult moment for me when he goes away even though I know he will come back but It just makes me feel lonely and scared whenever he goes. I don't know what do I do in this situation.

My (27F) has been with my (26M) boyfriend for a little over a year now and within that time he has changed his phones passcode over 5 times. We e had a very eventful first year filled with a lot of ups and downs. Good and bad times, fights, celebrations, etc. I need to know if this is something I should be concerned about or if I’m overthinking. He doesn’t tell me, I usually find out when he opens his phone and I notice it’s different. A little back information too, I have concerns because he has a friend who in the past has tried to get him to cheat on me and I found out he was taking my bf to clubs; my bf never told me and I found out through his other friend. Please help me I’m not sure if I’m just being crazy or if I have something to worry about.

My boyfriend (27M) and I (26F) were on a call the other night, talking about our pasts and past relationships. I started thinking about some of his experiences before me, and I felt insecure.

I told him, "I really don't like your past." I wasn't name-calling or attacking him, but I was honest that it bothers me.

He got upset and said he doesn't feel supported or accepted by me. That hurt, because I've tried to accept almost everything about him. I supported his career, and when he was broke I often covered our bills and dates and let him do what he wanted. We argued, and the call ended with us breaking up.

Now I don't know what to do. His past happened before me and he can't change it, but I can't control how I feel. I don't want to lie and pretend I'm completely fine with it, but I also don't want to lose him over an insecurity I might be able to work through.

Is this something a relationship can recover from? If you've dealt with insecurity about a partner's past, how did you handle it, and how would you approach talking to him again?

Today I was just talking to him, casually like any other day and he said he watched a bunch of videos last night and I was like “oh? (He told me there’s was a power blackout in his area and his devices were low on charge and he wanted to save them, which I know is true) I thought there was no power” and then he proceeded to tell me what he was doing until the power came back in night followed by which he talked to a friend and went to sleep, and then I remembered that all of this happened day before, not yesterday.

But assuming he also got confused with the dates I just asked him, so when’d you watch the videos? And then clarified to him saying all of this was day before not yesterday oops haha, I accidentally gaslit you too. And was like “so what about the videos?”

But by then he got very serious and said are you open to relationship trust building exercises? I was taken back but I was like yeah sure. Then he suggested we go to couples therapy.

And this came out of nowhere (for me). The last few months with him have literally solidified him as my forever person in my head (we’ve been together for over a year now, and been best friends for 2 years before that). I felt like everything was happy and perfect, even when we argued once in a while it was great.

But I guess not. I don’t know, I feel like someone woke me up from some kind of daydream. I told him to schedule the session and everything, but I can’t shake the feeling that I’ve been missing someone important all along that’s a make or break.

And yes, I asked him what happened, why suddenly and all that. He just said it’s better to prevent than cure, but I know something else is up.