r/MyEx

I 19m, Ex, 19F and the guy 26m

I made a different post like a day ago about the same girl so I guess this is like an update? I asked her not to go because I wanted to work things out, but she drove 3 hours to meet a guy and she’s on a date with him. I am on call right now listening and I don’t know what to do. She is going to stay at a hotel with him tonight

I don't really know where to start, but I need to let my heart speak. I met her on November 10th 2024 in Japan we dated in South Korea for a few months and she even came in France to see me (I am french).

We broke up 1 year 3 month and 7 days ago and there is not a single day I don't think of her.

I was the type of guy who didn't believe in love at first sight but when I saw her, I knew it was different. I remember perfectly the day I fall in love with her. We were both playing games and eating fried chicken and she was sitting there smiling and lauching and I just stop for a second and hope that this second would last forever.

She is smart, funny, always had something to say, and her beauty was on another level. Even things that people generally don't think about make me fall even more in love with her, for example I love perfum (this is a hobby I have) and she has an extremely well-developed sense of smell, all her senses where more developped than usual. She had that smile that would make me forget my name or what I am talkingabout and those eyes that looked like the sky during a beautiful summer night with the full moon (the kind that make you at ease and forgot all your problem). I don't like rating women or men because it made us feel like object and I don't like that but so you understand, in all my life, and even after she broke up with me, all the women I met where 9/10 maximum, I could never meet someone that was 10/10, but her... You know we all have in mind a woman or man of our dream, someone who ticks all the boxes, and for me it was her.

The thing is I know we didn't date for a long time but the love I felt was stronger than anything I have felt and I can't feel that again, I feel like I will never find anything like this again. I love her so much. The worst part is, she doesn't care about me at all, she completly move on and 3 days ago she posted a story with her new boyfriend I just can't stand it. Seeing her happy in all those dates that I dreamed of doing with her, made me sick, not being able to eat anything and cry because I realized that its too late for me. It is the reason why I am writing down today because I need to let my heart and brain and soul understand that I need to move on just as she did.

And you know what even though I am crying, even though I can't stand the fact that she is with somebody else, I hope that she is happy and hope he treat her as she deserve to be treated because she is the most precious woman in his life.

I could have probably wrote this down better but I just needed to relieve my heart from this.

So I didn’t wanna have to do this but she’s done more stuff and it’s bad. So mind u this girl dated me and my hb multiple times so she texted him about a week or 2 ago saying I SA’d her, keep in mind I didn’t even really wanna do it with her and she was the main one who wanted it.

Idk why she did this but my hb told me and all thanks too him ik I can’t trust her anymore and I’m just going though it being 14m and not having anyone match me in freakiness or anything just like me especially in my area.

DM if u can help with anything containing this

My ex lied about her age just to date me but I actually dodged a bullet in the end.

So Im a 25 years old man, a freelancer and I do home tutor too , whenever I came back from work there was always this teenage girl who was always looking at me and her house was just 10 houses away from mine . One day she saw me going inside one of my neighbor house as I teach their daughter so she is my student which was a 12 years old girl.The next day she started hanging out with my student, I dint think of anything and call her in to start the tuition but on the next day my student told me that girl liked me alot and so I was kinda confused as that girl look abit young so I asked my student what was her age to which my student replied she is 18 . At first I dint really believe but I also know some girls who are 18 but looks younger . So we met up the next day as a date ,we sat at a local cafe and start chatting ,she seem so nice and she looked at me with such obsession that I could not resist saying no to her so I became her boyfriend . We dated for around 7 months and she was so obsessed with me that she cut her wrist and wrote my name with a razor , wrote my name all over her dairy and even on her handkerchief , she also waited for me everyday as I came back from work , she always calls me out to hang out , even paid for date and gave me money when I forget my wallet , kisses and hugs , a little intimacy but I never had sex or intercourse with her although she wanted it something in my head kept telling me not to, she even show her whole body on video calls to convince me but I told her maybe After some times , things were going well and we exchange gifts for valentines day and for my birthday but things got abit suspecion on her birthday I gifted her alot of chocolates and other stuff but she told me not to come on her birthday but to give her just the gifts . She Explained her relatives are coming and she is insecure about showing me to them so I agree .

But I was always having a feeling that something was not right but the way she treat me , loves and care about me and all The support I kinda started ignoring all her red flags , she really spoiled me . Some red flags were like she dint let me check her phone one day and the next day she allowed me to check and I think she kinda erase Something, I hear her typing on her phone keyboard while we were on call to which I asked who was she texting while on call with me but she kept denying she dint. So after 6 months, I dropped my phone in a puddle and stop working, I thought of buying new phone but I thought I kinda need to stay away from internet and phone and wanted to live with the nature abit , we stop texting or call for just one month but her house is just 10 houses away from mine and I thought I could just meet her , she was angry that I dint text or call her but I wanted to relax myself staying away from phone and internet , we met up 3 times and almost saw each other everyday like I said house is near but on the last meet up her face kinda looked cold and uninterested and by this point she spoiled me with her love and all the convincing things she did and I was fallen for her now and thats where most girl show their true colour of whether they really loved you or was just seeking attention .I was so worried of losing her I bought a new phone and started texting and calling she dint pick up and replied my text with just few words to nothing and delayed too. I met her on the street and I asked her what happen but she just said Nothing and turn away and left. That night I texted her but she broke up with me and said I lost her . I kinda knew this Type of cheap validation seeking girl existed and realised she started texting other guys and she has a high ego friends circle . I replied her " No , you lost me ." and then she blocked me , I was sad and tears ran down my face , I was confused and puzzled why she changed or was she always like this and played with me but all that love and her angelic behavior and trying her best to make me fall for her made me perplexed , she was the one who was obsessed with me and now she is leaving me . I went back to my daily works and teaching my student and I told my student about the break up to which she revealed something that made my skin crawl and I almost puke right on the spot. My student told me that she is not 18 but was 14 and turned 15 the recent birthday . I was so shocked and scared and shaking , I knew she look too young to be 18 but at the same time her body was like 17 or 18 . She also revealed that she is cut her wrist Before for her ex too , she has a friend circle of ego filled girls who think dating other man and having multiple boyfriends were cool. I scolded my student why dint she told me before and why she betrayed me as I taught her education and Help in her life to be a better student .She was scared Because my ex used to bully her and not to tell the truth and also revealed they study in the same school too.

I was so disgusted and was scared That she turned out to be a minor and played a masked game Just to date me. I could not eat or sleep that night I gag and felt like throwing up as I kept thinking about it, few days after the break up I never texted her and avoided her too , if I see her on street I ignore her ,I went completely silence . But one day she texted my student that she missed me and want me back And will never leave me , she sent my student a picture of her cutting her wrist And told her to show me so I can text her or call her. I called her that night not to get back together or give her chance but to ask alot of question why she lied about her age and even why used her body , self harm and lies to keep me but just as I texted her she started the ego game of replying late or delay and she never replied me. So I thought she is an immature drama driven teenage child and glad she left but oh boy I was wrong , the next day she started uploading edited pictures of her and other boys (two Different boys) on insta And even told my student that a guy proposed her at school and she will say yes , she is doing this so my student deliver the message to me. She even started to insult my student whenever they meet each other at school Because my student supported me this time . I was worried and told my student to complain to principle if she ever do something crazy to her but fortunately she never did anything to my student . when she finally realised She cannot manipulate me or my student she started sending hate messages and insulted me alot . My silence made her angry and her game of seeking my attention was failing too. I realised she never loved me it was just a game she played to lool cool among her friends . It broke my heart that the girl who used to love me so much has change and that she lied about her age to date me. I thought to myself that I dodged a Bullet by not having sex with her and glad she was the one who actually left me . It was all a game played by a 15 years old teenager with unstable mind and bad environment where she grew up that shows the lack of discipline and I also heard she always bunk classes and fails in exams alot , the peer she is associated with and the mindset of thinking all this was cool .

This was a hell of a journey And I am thankful that she came , played and left . The social media has made the young ones of this generation messed up too. Now she stop seeking my attention , I ignore her if I see her and gave her no validation and she evn left my student alone too. I heard she has alot of boyfriends at school and even online .She thought she played me but I escaped , I am finally free and from now on I will do some research about Who ever I will be dating , definitely never dating someone who looks young and want to play chase game fantasy .what do you guys thing what was she thinking on her mind doing all this.? Is it just a game a teenage girl with bad circle like doing seeking validation , jumping from one boy to one man or did she really like me to the point she lied about her age just to date me and she changed later on Because of her circle and the validation from other boys made her not scared to loose me?, The way she treated me and love me almost made me convince the later is true but it does not change the fact that she was 15 and I was played but I dodge the bullet by not reacting when she broke up.

What do u guys think?

I'll try and make this short.. A guy I have history with, (we dated before lockdown) reconnected with me about a month ago. As it originally ended because of lockdown, there are a lot of unresolved feelings, familiarity, and a connection between us. When we started speaking again, these feelings I had for him came rushing back. We spoke everyday for over a month, he remembered details of my life, we reminded each other of times we spent together, and he engaged in conversation asking me questions and getting to know me at this stage in my life.

We arranged a date, he actually suggested we meet up again, and it was really nice a familiar, we got on like no time had passed. During and after the date, he mentioned that we needed to arrange another one. We decided we would do something a couple of weeks later, as we were both busy before then, but we didn't have a set plan.

Before the weekend when we were meant to meet again, he completely withdrew. I didn't understand as the conversation before then seemed to be the same, his responses were still warm and engaged. I left it a few days, and contacted him to ask if he was okay. He was deeply apologetic, and explained that he'd handled the situation immaturely and he should have just told me that he wasn't over his ex yet or ready to move on yet.

This upset me. As it's not just a guy I've had 1 date with, it's a guy I've known and thought about for years, it's someone I have feelings for. I appreciate that he was honest with me, and he obviously withdrew because he was conflicted by the situation and didn't know how to handle it. I do believe he has feelings for me, and he had every intention to see where this goes this time, because otherwise he wouldn't have continued to engage and see me. I just think that the idea of the second date probably made him realise that he wasn't as ready as he thought. It just hurts so much. And I hope when he has healed he can find his way back

So, I’m honestly baffled and in need of advice whether to get rid of this person or just distance myself and continue a friendship.

For background, my ex and I split up last year - she wasnt over her previous partner and I had just came out of a very traumatic abusive relationship myself, so we ended things. When we recently got back in contact, I was only supposed to check in on her and then I’d be gone, but she ended up telling me she’d missed me and wanted to stay at least friends with me rather than me disappearing again.

Long story short, she is currently seeing someone which I only found out a few weeks into talking to her, at which point we’d been flirting a lot and she admitted she was confused about her feelings for me, she said she still really felt things for me but obviously she now has a partner. With this in mind, I decided for her partners interests It was best I put a stop to it and if she was confused, she needed to think about what she really wanted.

Since putting a stop to it, I made it clear that when she’s single again, I’ll be more than open to trying again. She still kept trying to flirt with me, however the past few days since cutting it out, she’s been quite off with me. She’s started talking non stop about her and her girlfriends sex life, rubbing their relationship in my face etc…even showing me love bites her girlfriends given her.

This is confusing for me because one minute she’s all over me, to the point I literally told her she needs to think about what she wants, now she’s acting like the perfect girlfriend as if a few weeks ago she wasn’t all over me…it has really hurt me because how can she act so cold and treat me and her Mrs like that? It doesn’t help that when I drew a line and stopped the flirting, she got upset and said she didn’t want me to stop and didn’t want me to leave..

I don’t want to give her the satisfaction of seeing that I’m upset about her being with someone else because even a close friend of mine has said she’s clearly upset I drew a line and wants to bring out that jealous side and how horrible it is for her partner who has no idea this has been going on, however it has really confused me not only for my own reasons, but because she’s been going behind her girlfriends back and is now acting like she’s all over her?

I’m thinking about just leaving it how it is because she’s clearly happy elsewhere and it’s obvious nothing is gonna happen between us, however it’s just confusing how she switches up so much. Did she really expect me to continue being her piece on the side while she’s in a whole relationship??

Sorry if this sounds like rambling, I’m pretty upset and my thoughts are racing. My now ex boyfriend has a friend that he met like 5 years into our relationship. This friend is a female and of course at the beginning I was promised that I had nothing to worry about with him and her being friends. blah blah blah bullshit. Well, turns out that was a lie because about a year ago I found messages between the two of them and although my ex didn’t shut her down, she was definitely the aggressor in the situation and the shit she was saying about me was untrue and fucking cruel. After finding that and confronting her, she initially tried to deny everything - literally told me she was a lesbian and not into my boyfriend which was yet another lie because around that time I always found out she was actually in a long term relationship with her boyfriend of 5+ years whom she also lived with. Eventually she admitted the relationship between her and my boyfriend was wrong and said she’d disappear from our lives and I’d never have to worry about her again. Well, that was a lie and she’d go on to say that a handful more times only to never actually disappear and continue to cause issues between my boyfriend and me. There’s so much more to this story as far as things she’s done and said and lied about honestly it’s just exhausting to even type it all out - just know that she’s tried to sabotage my boyfriend and I’s relationship for since she met him, she’s tried ti sleep with him, she’s lied about me and completely made up shit in an attempt to get him to hate me, and the list goes on and on. Well, fast forward to last night, my boyfriend and I call it quits over something unrelated and where is he tonight? At her house. I want to fucking vomit. I want to hurt her but I also want to vomit. I’m not going to hurt her but I do want to get major revenge just to make her life hell and put her through a fraction of the pain she’s put me through. She runs a dog grooming business and I’d really love to fuck with that just to make her wish she’s never fucked with me. Of course I need my revenge to be well planned so that she knows it’s me of course, but can’t prove it sorta thing. I really want her to regret every fucking time she disrespected my relationship and wish she’d had done what she said she would and gone the fuck away.

Hello. I am a resident doctor and recently has broken up with my boyfriend. We were in a happy live-in relationship and everything was going well including academics. All of a sudden he broke up with me and his so called new friends has barged into his room and doing weeding and all. I have been shattered by the way he broke up with me. But i still am concerned about his health and life! These people are staying in his room , living off his money and feeding him marijuana.. i went to visit him today and found him puking at the basin. Which i have never witnessed in the past one year of our relationship. I want to save his life. Please help!! His friends are jobless and are leeches. They aren’t even allowing me to meet him. Please help or suggest me what should i do

i (15f) broke up with my ex (15m) in around december/january, we ended on bad terms and had some dodgey moments during the week of the breakup. It ended because of the fact that he has different opinions on how you should live a life, with him constantly speaking about “wanting to get addicted to weed someday” or just him shoplifting whenever we would go out.

we went no contact for around 2 weeks afterwards (january 2026) and then i suddenly get a text from him. it was the worst apology i had seen in my short lifetime. “i’m sorry i did all of this to you, i dont wish to be on bad terms” after he literally said he wanted me dead two weeks prior. I accepted his apology and had assumed that we would just be civil and leave it at that.

the next day we were talking about a mutual friend and how i was planning to hangout with him in a few weeks time. I then get this abrupt paragraph, clearly written by chatgpt (considering he couldn’t spell my name right on his own). It mentioned how he loved me too much to continue talking to me and how he thought it was best to go no contact again. I check my phone, blocked on snapchat, check my phone again, blocked on instagram, i was even blocked on roblox.

By the time school had gone back it had been a month after that had happened, i decided to confront him about the ai paragraph and figure out who wrote it myself. I will admit i was a bit aggressive with it but i was so mad at that point that it made sense to me. Eventually i found out it was his cousin (12-13f), who i was also close with.

Later that week he goes on to tell me about how that cousin wants to bash me and calls me all these insults, how his how family thought i was ugly and how he himself wanted me dead.

My regret everything about my ex. I don't miss him and I really don't think I loved him. Now I see everything. He had me under his control. Now that I took it back poor cheater is upset because I replaced him. Mind you I didn't do wrong he did LMAO. I'm thankful I never married him dodged a big one there. I pray never to see or hear him again. He makes my stomach turn he's not that attractive and is with way to many women.

I (19NB) dated my ex (19M) last year, Aug 2024-Mar 2025 and broke up with him after he r*ped me again and boundary’s surrounding sex were murky throughout the relationship because I didn’t feel entirely safe and comfortable. I never went to the police as the incidents were too traumatic and I didn’t want to be re-traumatized through the court system but I have proof of him admitting to this over text. Every so often I online snoop to see if he has a new partner to warm them, I feel guilty everyday I wasn’t strong enough to go to the police. So my question is, would I be a “petty ex” to PM this girl (19F) about his past or should I move on? Morally, I want to warn her, but I’m worried about any potential fall back or if this is the wrong thing to do.

Sorry about the censoring, I’m not sure if I should do that in this sub so I did just incase. Feel free to ask any clarifying questions. I’ll update if this helps.

Edit: I’ve messaged her but no reply, should I reach back out? I feel horrible.

You're the one that ended the relationship. You're the one that moved on immediately, with the guy you kept telling me was "just a friend". You're the one that lied throughout the entire relationship. You're the one that broke the trust between us, over and over again. You're the one that clearly didn't love me as much as I loved you. You're the one that ruined everything. You're the one that needs to just finish the job. You're the one that wants no contact. You're the one that needs to send me my stuff, so I won't have anything to contact you about anymore.

Unless that's our plan? Keeping my stuff so I still have to talk to you? But then why the fuck are you not talking to me? I understand that you're full of guilt and regrets, but you're gonna have to get over that and either send me my stuff or talk to me. I don't wanna have to fly all the way back and forth just to come get it myself. I want to be civil about this, and just move on, but you're making it way harder than it needs to be.

You're right that breaking up was the right decision for both of us. Long distance was never gonna work after you broke the trust so many times. It was causing us both more stress than anything else. It's sad, because I really did love you more than anything. I loved you so much that I abandoned my friends, family, career, country and mental health just to be with you. You repaid me by lying, cheating, going behind my back and gaslighting me into thinking I was the problem.

All I ever did was love you and ask to be treated with respect. You were incapable of that. I was having to beg for phone calls with you, and then actually never even getting them, because I was not a priority for you and you didn't respect me. Sleeping with him a week after the breakup definitively proved that you never really gave a shit about me. I was just a toy for you to play with and then cast aside when you had finished breaking me completely.

I need to get my life back together, but I can't do that while we still have unfinished business. Let me move on, like you have already done. Send me my stuff so we can finish this awful chapter of our lives.