r/IndianRelationships

Confident, ambitious, and naturally dominant, I'm looking to meet a like-minded submissive woman who values trust, respect, and genuine chemistry. I believe a strong connection starts with honest communication, mutual understanding, and clear boundaries. Confidence is attractive, but respect and consent are what truly create a meaningful dynamic.

Outside of that, I'm easygoing, well-groomed, career-focused, and enjoy good food, fitness, travel, and quality conversations. I appreciate women who are feminine, emotionally mature, open-minded, and comfortable expressing what they want. Whether we're sharing laughs over coffee, exploring the city, or simply enjoying each other's company, I believe the best connections happen naturally.

I'm not interested in games, drama, or endless chatting without intention. I'm here to meet someone who enjoys a confident man taking the lead while feeling safe, appreciated, and respected. If you're curious about a balanced dynamic where trust comes first and chemistry grows with time, we'll probably get along well.

Discretion, maturity, and mutual respect are non-negotiable. I'm looking for one genuine connection rather than collecting conversations. If you're based in Bangalore, appreciate confidence with kindness, and are interested in seeing where a real connection can lead, I'd love to hear from you.

PS: I am Separated

Tl;Dr

So I am (28) female kind of amivert and tell everything which is in my head but my bf(31) doesn't share what is in his heart even though I ask many times he is introvert and reserved type and wants to figure out on my own. What can I do to make me feel special it's already been 9 months and I can't find new approach. Can please anyone help who have gone with similar kind of situation?? And also I am in long distance relationship.

All suggestions are welcome and I am really worried as this is creating problems these days , I have no idea what can I do new from so far when access are limited.

My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 1.6 years, and she truly loves me very much. We usually meet once or twice a month, and I often bring gifts or bouquets on our dates. However, the main problem is that she never brings anything, not even a KitKat. I'm not asking for too much.

When we started our relationship, she used to bring gifts when we met, like letters. The last thing she gifted me was two Hot Wheels bouquets and one letter on my birthday, and that was eight months ago. I'm not asking for a big gift.

So, my question is: Should I tell her this? And how should I tell her?

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I’m 25M, and my girlfriend is 23F. We’ve been in a serious relationship since March 2025.

We both worked at the same company. She joined the company as an intern in August 2024, and I met her in October 2024. We were working on the same project. She was beautiful, intelligent, smart, and very talkative. Eventually, I developed feelings for her.

In November 2024, I resigned from the company. I had a two-month notice period, and she wasn’t happy about my resignation because we had become close.

I eventually proposed to her, but she told me that she already had a boyfriend. So I stopped talking to her.

Then, out of nowhere, she asked me to go on a date with her.

After the date, she asked her boyfriend to pick her up. I met him that day, and honestly, he seemed like a good person.

But here comes the twist.

Two days later, she told me that she was no longer interested in her boyfriend. They had been together for only around four months.

My notice period eventually ended, and by that time, we had become extremely close. She literally cried because she couldn’t imagine going even a single day without talking to me.

Over the next couple of months, she broke up with her boyfriend and eventually proposed to me.

Then, about 15 days later, in February 2025, her ex called me.

This is where everything changed.

He told me:

"They had been living together for around six months. She got pregnant, and she had an abortion."

My mind went completely blank. I felt like my heart had been shattered into pieces.

I was a virgin, and this was my first serious relationship. I had never been with anyone before, so finding out that the girl I loved had already been sexually involved with someone else, had lived with him, had become pregnant, and had an abortion was extremely difficult for me to process.

Her ex explained everything to me.

Apparently, she had been living with him because she had become pregnant and didn’t know what to do. She wanted to have an abortion. His mother knew about the pregnancy and apparently insisted that they tell her parents and get married.

After my girlfriend proposed to me, she moved out of the relationship with her ex and started living in a PG.

There was another thing that really hurt me.

I had asked both of them where they were living. They both lied to me. She told me that she was living in a PG, but she was actually living with him.

Her ex even knew that she was planning to date me. He told me that he let her go because he wanted to "let her go and move on" with me.

About an hour after I spoke to her ex, my girlfriend called me. She knew that I had found out everything.

She begged me to stay in the relationship and started crying.

I told her that I couldn't continue because knowing about her past was causing me severe mental distress. But she wouldn't accept my decision.

I blocked her everywhere, including WhatsApp, phone calls, PhonePe, and Google Pay.

She started calling me from her friends' numbers. She didn't sleep properly for almost two days and kept sending me emails and trying to contact me.

This continued for around 15 days.

At one point, she told me that she had been admitted to the hospital because her glucose levels had dropped and she needed an IV. She even video-called me from the hospital to show me.

I became scared that she might hurt herself.

Eventually, I thought, "Maybe I should give this relationship a chance for one year. If she cheats or does something wrong again, I will leave."

So I agreed to be in a relationship with her.

She told me that she would marry me even if her parents didn't accept me.

But even after getting back together, I continued to struggle with her past. Sometimes I would get extremely upset and start fights because I couldn't stop thinking about what had happened.

Whenever I brought up the past, she would cry.

Over time, she tried very hard to prove that she was serious about me. She shared all her social media passwords with me. She introduced me to her childhood friend, and I even spoke to her mother.

We've now been together for more than 1.5 years.

She still shares her live location with me, and I still have access to some of her social media accounts.

Whenever I meet her, she usually brings me something to eat. She even surprised me on my birthday, which honestly meant a lot to me.

During 2025 and early 2026, I was unemployed and doing freelance work. I finally got a job in April 2026.

She was happier about my job than I was. She wanted to tell her parents about me and seemed genuinely proud of me.

But after I got my job and after my birthday, something changed.

For the past few months, she has been acting completely differently.

She started saying things like:

"Why are you still here? If you want to stay, stay. If you want to leave, leave."

"I don't like you anymore."

"Find another girl."

"My family will never accept you."

Now we fight almost every day.

She says that she changed herself because of me. She used to be very talkative, but now she says that she has become an introvert because of me.

I'm deeply in love with her, so every time she says these things, I get extremely hurt.

Eventually, during one of our fights, I became frustrated and said, "Let's break up."

But now she doesn't want to break up.

She says she doesn't want to leave me and that she wants to keep fighting with me every day.

Honestly, I don't understand what is happening anymore.

There is one more thing she keeps bringing up during our fights.

About 15 days ago, it was her birthday. I wished her one hour late.

She still brings that up whenever we fight.

I'm completely confused.

I love this girl deeply, and I've accepted things about her past that were extremely difficult for me to accept. I stayed because I believed that she genuinely loved me and that we could build a future together.

But now I'm constantly fighting, constantly questioning the relationship, and constantly feeling like she doesn't want me anymore.

I don't know whether I'm holding on to something that is already broken or whether this relationship can still be saved.

What should I do?

*Used AI to correct grammar*

I (28M) met her (26F) through AM set up, and we have been thinking of getting married in the next 2 years or so. I’m an investment banker, whereas she’s an Army Officer. Despite being polar opposites (I’m a nerd, like cooking, staying indoors, etc and she likes boxing, working out, mountaineering etc), we got along very well with each other. Her current posting is in a remote area where the network is poor. She has also been going on mountaineering expeditions because of which I’m not able to contact her often. I’m feeling separation anxiety at times, and get scared about whether she is okay. We try to talk every day but it’s become really difficult lately. I don’t know if I can or should ask her to put in more effort to keep the communication more regular because of the network and job related challenges. She tells me not be worried about her and that she’s well trained to adapt to challenges but I still feel extremely nervous and anxious about her.

I (27M) am in a 4 year relationship with my woman(25F)..
the thing is in the past i haven’t been quite loyal to her a few times… (micro cheating- texting/flirting with girls online) which she found out. We had huge fights. And luckily she forgave me for everything and chose to save the relationship. I have been drowned in my guilt for a very long time.. i decided to be a better partner to her.. took therapy to understand myself better and come out of my guilt. I grab every opportunity to make her feel special make her smile.. and build the trust again.. but it is too tough to build that same trust.
Now about her.. she comes from a privileged background.. but never made me feel any less. The only thing is her anger issues which are there since her childhood. I get shit scared of her anger and i have never been able to handle it well. She has problems with my mother as well. I agree that my mother is a difficult woman but i can’t disrespect her after a point. I can only stand by my gf. Which i do but that is never enough for her.
Things are now getting better between us. She seems to be happier with me and even wants to marry me. Her parents hate me to the core. So convincing them is a huge uphill battle.
My dad is chill he treats her as his own kid. My mom also accepts her but she is a possessive mother so thats why the friction is there.
Now coming to the point.. after all the history.. the good and bad moments of our relationship.. i don’t feel 100% sure of marriage.. i don’t know if i am really happy with her or not. I love her a lot but i don’t feel happy.. most of the times i am scared of her.
I am even scared to discuss this with her because i tried doing it before and we did breakup for a few days and she was miserable during that time.. so much that her sleep food work everything was affected a lot. I can’t put her through all that again. I am worried for her and scared of her as well.
I love her but i am confused about the future.

TLDR: I love my gf a lot.. but i am also scared of her anger issues. I don’t feel happy.. and i am worried about her health and career if i speak about breaking up with her.

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To Aaj mai 2 weeks k bad apni gf se milne gaya uske pg room pr. meri gf ka phone mere saamne rakha tha aur uske ex ka message aa gaya, "shaam ko free ho?”. Uske ex ka usse 1.5 sal pahle breakup ho gya tha, maine messages dekha toh pata chala ki dono abhi bhi contact mein hain aur 2 mahine se baat kar rahe hain, main baat ye hai ki usne mujhe kabhi nahi bataya ki woh usse baat karti hai.

Maine usse directly poocha toh usne bola ki bas normal baatein hoti hai, Maine jyada bahas nahi ki aur wahan se chala aaya. But ek message mein ex ne clearly bola tha ki "I still think about you", aur uska reply tha "accha ok". Pata nhi ajeeb sa feel ho Raha h

Problem sirf ex nahi hai, Agar sab innocent tha toh usne mujhe pehle kyun nahi bataya? Dinbhar se mera dimaag kharab hai.

I'm 20M and till now i had zero to no female interaction, however I'm joining college this year and got one of newer iiit. The concern is gender ratio is very low there and i fear that I'll be single forever. Im very shy and all this feeling is making me very sad.

Please someone who's been there or in similar situation, help me.

One day I was using my ex's phone and I saw porn videos in which only women were visible, and also naked women teasing videos. I kinda felt disgusted. When I confronted him, he said his friend sent him and he didn't watch it. I was kinda upset and he became defensive as half of the month we used to do long distance. He said I need it there to watch. You don't send me anything so I had to do something. I was kinda shocked but later on he apologized that only naked women videos to have on his phone is not a good thing, so I got convinced as he told me he won't keep it. But after a few months I found the videos again. And he smirked and said the same shit again and told me not to overreact. Like I don't have any issue if you are watching porn but having naked women on your phone felt kinda weird to me. Now I don't know if my reaction was valid or if I overreacted.

Though he's my ex now :)

There was a girl in our BPO in Malad, Mumbai who was on PIP. Her performance was poor and the company was ready to let her go. She looked stressed every day.

One evening, while leaving office, my friend and I saw her in the manager’s car. From a distance it was clear she was giving him oral sex.

After that incident she was not fired. Within a few days she got transferred to another department and continued working. Her job is safe now.

She is married with two children at home.

I’m curious — do similar things happen in your workplace?
Have you ever seen a colleague keep their job in this manner?
What is your honest reaction to such situations?

Hello. I am male in central North Carolina. I recently was involved with a Indian man for almost a year. He introduced himself as a twenty-six year old male when we had first met. After a few weeks, his age had increased to thirty. Because I had feelings for him, I did not even may much attention to the discrepancy. At the seven month mark things started to get weird and I started to pay more attention. He had mentioned he may need to go away for a little while because he may need a lung transplant....when I asked him what for, his stories ranged form asthma to bronchitis, cystic fibrosis and then to "I have trust issues and do not like talking about it." This became a point of argument for us that lead to us breaking up. He was unable to answer honestly and that caused me great concern.

It was at this point I did what I should have done from the start...I googled him. That is when I had learned that every single detail he had given me about himself was a lie. He was not 26/30...but 39....he was not US-born, but born in India...His mother had not abandoned him as a youth, his parents have been married since the early 1980s....but the most revealing thing I had learned was that he was married with two young sons.

After learning this revealing information, I then asked other men within the gay community if they had known him. He had told me he had limited experience with men and that I was "special." Well, it turns out that not only before me, but also during and immediately after, he has been involved with many other men.

I confronted him with this information and he continued to lie to my face, continue to gaslight and manipulate me. It was very hurtful and upsetting to me. I had fallen in love with this man and everything he had said to me a lie. A story....a complete fabrication.

Now I am left wondering if I should approach his wife with this information so she is aware of the type of man she had married in addition to the risks he is clearly and constantly subjecting her to without her knowledge.

I would appreciate any advice.

I (25M) just lost the most mature, beautiful relationship I’ve ever had, and the way it happened feels like a nightmare I can’t wake up from. I need to get this out because I am completely shattered.
For context, we both are from Varanasi. We both work in IT and were living in Delhi. We poured so much effort, energy, and raw emotion into each other, and it was always reciprocated. (There were some earlier complications, but I’ll save those for another time—this is about how it all crashed down).

While we loved each other deeply, our backgrounds were a ticking time bomb. I am General category; she is OBC. Her family comes from generational wealth; I am entirely self-made and still building. More importantly, her family is fiercely traditional. She respected her father immensely but was terrified of the temper and furiousness of her uncles and brothers.
Six months into our relationship, the inevitable happened: her father started forwarding her marriage proposals.
She was terrified. She wanted us to expose our relationship to our parents right then and there. But I hesitated. Honestly, I had three massive weights holding me back:
- Based on the stories she told me, I knew how aggressive and furious her relatives could get.
- Because of some things in her past, I needed just a little more time to be 100% sure before making a lifelong commitment.
- I earn well, but I have zero savings. I had just spent everything on my sister’s wedding, and my older brother is about to get married too. I simply wasn't financially capable of taking a stand yet.
So, I asked her for the only thing I could: Time. I told her to hold them off for as long as she could.

A month later, her father forced her hand. He ordered her to come home and meet a prospective boy.
We came up with a desperate plan. We decided she would go home, meet the guy privately, confess that she loves someone else, and beg him to call off the marriage from his end. I made absolutely sure she wasn't doing this under pressure from me. She assured me, "Even if it weren't for you, I would never say yes to this person."
She went home. For an entire day, her phone was switched off.
I was pacing in pure agony. Did she tell him? Did she confront her dad? Was she safe? The silence was suffocating. Finally, late that night, I didn't hear from her—I got a call from her best friend.
According to her best friend: My girlfriend did tell the guy everything. But instead of acting like a decent human being and backing out, this independent, well-earning man did the most cowardly thing imaginable. He went straight to her strict father and snitched on our entire relationship.
And the worst part? After exposing her, he looked at her furious father and said: "Sort it out between you people. I have no concerns from my side."

I am completely shattered. What kind of man is so ego-driven or so desperate that he’s perfectly fine marrying a girl who just handed him her heart on a platter and told him it belongs to another guy?
Her father completely lost it. He verbally destroyed her for humiliating him in front of strangers and mentally broke her down until she agreed to marry the guy.
She said yes to him. Their Roka just happened.
And now, I am sitting here in Delhi, staring at my phone, realizing she is engaged to the man who betrayed her.

Heyy!

Just need a POV. While talking to a few of my female friends—not many, just 2–3—I realised most of them have been cheated on, ditched, ghosted, or simply used in their relationships.

And then I started wondering: why does this happen so often? I know a few guys who genuinely want to be that one guy for a girl—the one who’ll never cheat, always be there, and actually wants something serious. But somehow, the girl they like doesn’t choose them. Even when she knows he likes her and knows he’d treat her right, he still ends up getting friend-zoned. 😭

Maybe there’s some truth to that saying

“Jo aapse pyaar karta hai, woh aapko mandap tak le jaayega; jisse aap pyaar karte ho, woh nahi.” 😆

Anyway, just wanted a POV on this. What do you guys think?