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My boyfriend and I had an argument, and I genuinely want outside opinions.

We were talking about another couple, and I said " men don't understand they don't give attention to their wives and they are shocked when the relationship falls out " I apologise in advance- I tend to generalize men because of my own bad experiences. He obviously got angry and pissed at me for generalising. I know that's not fair, and I admitted that to him. But I also said that many women grow up constantly being careful around men because of the reality of harassment, assault, etc. If we are scared or if women are restricted bcs it's Men people fear.

He got upset and said I shouldn't generalize. I asked him, "If your niece grows up and wants to go out alone at midnight, would you stop her?" He said yes. I asked what he would actually be afraid of. He replied - The law and order is lacking in our city. I said - Or the fact that men are the ones most likely to harm her?

My point wasn’t that his niece specifically would be attacked. My point was that almost every woman is taught to be careful because we know who usually commits these crimes. I was trying to explain why many women end up becoming cautious or even fearful of men.

He got extremely angry and said I was disgusting for even bringing his niece into the example and that I was imagining horrible things happening to her. I kept telling him it was just an example to explain my point, not a wish or prediction about her.
So… AITA?

We women are constantly imaging the worse for us and the women around us - we always are in dear that we will be attacked somewhere. Thinking such comes naturally to me. Idk if guys think like this ? Was it wrong to use his niece as an example, or did he misunderstand what I was trying to say? I honestly want unbiased opinions.

I had a relationship in 2021 jan. It lasted till mid 2023. It was great, we were love dovey, so deep in love. Later our parents got to know about our situation. We had different religions. Not that we wanted but we broke up. None of us got into relationship upto 2025. In 2025, she was with a date. But then she broke up after 9 months. And even till now, she feels low she comes to me. I had to listen to her. Since I'm a medico, she even asked me about STDs (she had sex with him). It was really traumatizing to hear all that for me. And she's dumb when it comes to relationships and all. I feel like I have to be there, nhi toh uska kon sunega and all that. Although she realised that I'm getting affected, she apologized also. But she was crying over relationship and all.

As per as ik, she just has a soft corner for me, she isn't attached to me. I think I'm attached little bit. Help me out.

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I’m f , 18 , finally speaking up , my cousin touched me 2 years ago .. in an inappropriate way at first I did like it but looking back now I should have spoke up way before!

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\\- My wife and I have an 11-month-old baby.

\\- Before the baby was born, my wife told me she wanted to be independent in making decisions about the baby's early care and didn't want me or others deciding much. I agreed.

\\- We hired a nanny and a maid to help her. I also offered to help, but I work 10-hour days and couldn't take extended leave. My wife took a career break.

\\- For the first 3–5 months, the baby woke every 2 hours, so my wife slept in the baby's room with the nanny nearby for support.

\\- Once the baby started sleeping 4–5 hours at a stretch, my wife would put him to sleep, turn on the baby monitor, and then come sleep in our bedroom. She would go back whenever he woke up.

\\- Now our baby is 11 months old and sleeps about 10 hours at night without waking unless something disturbs him. He is a very light sleeper and even small noises can wake him.

\\- My wife still puts him to bed around 8 PM, turns on the monitor, and sleeps with me in our bedroom while checking the monitor multiple times during the night.

\\- We argue almost every day because I believe our baby should sleep in the same room as both parents instead of alone.

\\- My wife's reasons:

\\- She worked very hard to establish his sleep routine and doesn't want to disrupt it.

\\- The baby sleeps at 8 PM while we sleep around 11 PM.

\\- If we slept in the same room, going to the bathroom, talking, turning in bed, or even talking in our sleep (which she sometimes does) could wake him and she believes when she slept together then he would wake up whenever she would talk in sleep or go to washroom (she goes to washroom a lot of times)

\\- for emergency we have a nanny near baby room..like attached....the nanny have looked after her best friends daughter and is trusted according to her ..

\\- She believes uninterrupted sleep is better for his growth and development.

\\- She says babies often sleep better in their own room because adults unintentionally disturb them.

\\- she checks through monitor many times and whenever the baby wakes up she goes to him and nanny is also there

\\- My view:

\\- I feel an 11-month-old should sleep in the same room as both parents. Afterall it's our baby not a strangers kid or pet right and what about safety

\\- We all slept with our parents growing up and turned out fine.

\\- Sometimes it feels like she simply prefers the baby sleeping in a separate room.

\\- She also rarely lets me sleep alone with the baby except occasionally on weekends, when we all sleep together.

\\- Our parents don't live with us and can't stay long-term, so that's not a factor.

Mya question - is it better for our kid to continue sleeping in separate room or my wife is unintentionally wrong here and he should sleep with me and her ?

I feel I'm right and she is being too western and i feel her idea of sleep training routine and baby waking up is just her excuses?

She have got hurt that i don't wanna let her raise the baby with a routine and she said she also thinks the best for the baby

Please no jokes....i need genuine advice

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Actually the thing is I am from Harayana, and i recently saw a girl looking so pretty to me, the charm in her smile, her beautiful eyes, i mean she was perfect I almost fell in love, but I knew that she is my bestfriend's cousin so I tried to forget it but recently I saw her again in a family function and i couldn't resist much to text her

So i DM'd her, she replied I confessed she listened, to my text obviously things started going smooth and it's been 2months that we are seeing each other, I am genuinely serious about her, and I can say she is serious too, but our caste is different, and there is some big big challenge than the caste one I can't disclose though, that's it I have just said it and I don't know what to do but i just wanted to share this

And m really serious for her I want things to go the right way

Love 💕

I'm in my early 20s and recently started getting to know a guy. We had a very honest conversation about boundaries, intimacy, and relationships.

He's interested in physical intimacy eventually, but he has also made it clear that he's happy to take things slowly and only when I'm comfortable. He says there's no pressure and that emotional connection comes first.

The confusing part is about me.

I do want physical intimacy someday. I'm curious about it and want to experience it with someone I trust. But whenever I think about actually being physically intimate, I suddenly feel guilty, almost like I'm doing something wrong, even though I'm single.

Another thing is that I have some past trauma related to physical intimacy. I don't really want to go into the details, but because of that, I honestly don't know how I would react if I were actually in that situation. Part of me wants it, but another part is scared that I might freeze, panic, or feel overwhelmed. I genuinely don't know because I've never been in a safe, consensual situation like that before.

I also don't develop romantic feelings very easily, so I'm wondering if all of these things are connected.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Wanting physical intimacy but feeling guilty or scared when it becomes real?

Not knowing how you'd react because of past trauma?

Did trust, time, therapy, or the right partner help you feel safer?

I'm not looking for judgment or to be told to "just do it" or "never do it." I'm just trying to understand whether what I'm feeling is something others have experienced and how they worked through it.

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I met a girl on Reddit a while ago. She had recently gone through a breakup, and we started talking. At first, I wasn't expecting anything—I was just being there for her. But somewhere along the way, I started developing feelings.

For some context, I was in a relationship years ago, and after that ended I stayed single for almost 3 years. During that time I've talked to hundreds of people online, but I never felt a connection like I did with her. She just felt... different.

Eventually, I told her how I felt. She rejected me, mainly because she's older than me and doesn't see me that way. She said she'd like to stay best friends.

The problem is that it's really hard for me to see her as "just a friend" because my feelings are genuine. What made me fall for her wasn't just her personality—it was how loyal she was. Seeing how committed she was in her previous relationship made me admire her even more. It made me feel that if she ever chose me, she'd be just as loyal, and honestly I wanted to treat her with all the love, respect, care, and consistency she deserves.

I know she doesn't owe me a relationship, and I completely respect her decision. I'm not trying to change her mind or convince her to choose me. I just can't switch my feelings off overnight.

I also don't want to lose her completely. If staying friends is the only place she sees for me in her life, I'm willing to try because she genuinely means a lot to me. If we ever have misunderstandings, I'd rather apologize and work things out than lose the connection completely. At the same time, I know a friendship should be healthy for both people, and I don't want to ignore my own feelings either.

Lately, though, I've noticed she's not talking to me the way she used to. Maybe she's creating some distance, or maybe I'm just overthinking it. Either way, I can feel myself slowly trying to let go of my feelings because I know I can't force someone to love me.

Deep down, I think I already know the answer: accept the friendship if I genuinely can, without expecting her feelings to change. If I can't do that, then maybe I need to step back and move on.

So I wanted to ask people who have been through something similar:

Should I accept the friendship and move on, or should I keep hoping that maybe one day things change? Have any of you ever stayed friends with someone you loved, and did it actually work out?

We're both interns at a company in Gurgaon. In the beginning, I didn't have any feelings for her. However, over the past couple of months, we've become good friends. We also worked together on a project, which helped us get to know each other better.

I genuinely like her, and I honestly feel she has the qualities I'd look for in a life partner.

What should I do? Should I tell her how I feel now, or should I wait and let our friendship become stronger first?

I’m a bit confused right now and could really use some guidance.

I am a **38M** currently dating a **21F**. Initially, I thought this would just be a casual thing that wouldn't last a month, but somehow we've been seeing each other for almost 3 months now.

Over this time, I have developed strong feelings for her and can even picture marrying her. I have clearly expressed my intentions to her. However, she told me she isn't sure at the moment and wants to "see how things go later"—which makes sense, given that she is only 21.

# The Core Issue

I am struggling to understand what she feels or how she feels about me. I am quite emotional and expressive, whereas she comes across as a bit cold. I always assumed Gen Z was a highly expressive generation, so I expected her to be more open, but she isn't.

Because of this wall, I can't figure out if she has genuine feelings for me. I want a long-term commitment and need to know if her feelings are real (whether she expresses them openly or not). This constant confusion has me living in doubt, and I find it hard to act naturally when I'm around her.

# Key Data Points:

1. **Looks:** She is beautiful, while I am a very average-looking guy.

2. **Career:** I am well-settled with a decent income, while she has just graduated from college.

3. **Language & Culture:** She is from a different state, so she doesn’t know my mother tongue or cultural background.

4. **Physical Intimacy:** We have **not** been physically intimate at all—we’ve only gone out for coffee dates. I don't intend to take things further physically until I know she has genuine feelings for me or we are moving toward marriage. I know it sounds old-school, but it is what it is.

P.S : I have never been to relationship before

I (24F) have been dating my boyfriend (23M) for almost 3 years. We're serious about a future together. For some context, we're both Indians so the culture here makes things really hard when it comes to dating. We've been discussing our future together and our biggest issue is that ever since his parents have been aware of our relationship, they've been against it. Thing is, they don't even know me as a person, but his parents, especially his father, wants him to marry rich. Which is something I'm not. I don't have familial wealth. My father never graduated and hasn't been working for the last 8 years. The house runs on money pitched in by relatives and some money that my mother makes from taking tuition for kids. His father has a small scale architecture/construction firm and wants my boyfriend to take over after him. My boyfriend and I are both architects. We're graduating architecture school this August. But his father wants him to marry into a wealthy family so that it helps him with networking and getting contacts to further the business. His parents will never agree to our relationship simply because I don't come from money. My boyfriend's only choice is to choose between his family and me. And it's not just his parents, but the whole extended family gets involved because for some crazy reason, that's just how his family functions. Anyway, the only way that this ends is if he chooses between the two of us, and I'm not even entirely sure if he'll choose me, although he says he will, but even if he does, I'm afraid he'll come to despise me sometime in the future for being the reason why he lost his family. I really don't want to end this relationship with him, but each day is getting harder and I just don't know what to do. I don't know if I'm seeking advice or comfort. I just don't have anybody to talk to about this and.. hopefully someone can help me through this? I don't know. I'm sorry, I'm just really hurt, confused and feel like I'm worthless. This isn't something I can change. This isn't something I control. I'm not trying to put my boyfriend down or brag about myself, but I've studied in better schools than him, we went to the same college and it's the best in the city. My CGPA is more than a whole point greater than his, I have better communication and conversational skills, and yet, it all just comes down to the money I have or the money my family has. It's just very frustrating. I feel lost.

I don't know why I'm writing this today. Maybe I just want to hear different perspectives.

We were together from Class 9. We grew up together. From school kids to adults, we spent 7 years in a relationship. I genuinely thought we'd end up together.

When she was 22, her family found a match for her. She got married to someone else.

I begged her to fight for us, but she didn't. That hurt more than the breakup itself. It felt like I was watching the future we had imagined disappear overnight.

After everything ended, I asked her something that had been bothering me.

I asked, "If we had been physically intimate, would you still have left me?"

She replied, "No, I wouldn't have."

That answer has stayed with me for years.

It made me question so many things. Was physical intimacy really that important? Would it have created a stronger emotional bond? Or was she simply trying to comfort me with an answer she thought I wanted to hear?

Even today, I don't know what to believe.

I don't regret not crossing my own boundaries at that age, but I sometimes wonder if that one decision changed the course of my life.

Has anyone else been through something similar?

Do you think physical intimacy truly changes the strength of a relationship, or was my relationship already over for reasons that had nothing to do with it?

I'd genuinely like to hear different perspectives.

I [24F] am too poor to marry my boyfriend [23M]

I (24F) have been dating my boyfriend (23M) for almost 3 years. We're serious about a future together. For some context, we're both Indians so the culture here makes things really hard when it comes to dating. We've been discussing our future together and our biggest issue is that ever since his parents have been aware of our relationship, they've been against it. Thing is, they don't even know me as a person, but his parents, especially his father, wants him to marry rich. Which is something I'm not. I don't have familial wealth. My father never graduated and hasn't been working for the last 8 years. The house runs on money pitched in by relatives and some money that my mother makes from taking tuition for kids. His father has a small scale architecture/construction firm and wants my boyfriend to take over after him. My boyfriend and I are both architects. We're graduating architecture school this August. But his father wants him to marry into a wealthy family so that it helps him with networking and getting contacts to further the business. His parents will never agree to our relationship simply because I don't come from money. My boyfriend's only choice is to choose between his family and me. And it's not just his parents, but the whole extended family gets involved because for some crazy reason, that's just how his family functions. Anyway, the only way that this ends is if he chooses between the two of us, and I'm not even entirely sure if he'll choose me, although he says he will, but even if he does, I'm afraid he'll come to despise me sometime in the future for being the reason why he lost his family. I really don't want to end this relationship with him, but each day is getting harder and I just don't know what to do. I don't know if I'm seeking advice or comfort. I just don't have anybody to talk to about this and.. hopefully someone can help me through this? I don't know. I'm sorry, I'm just really hurt, confused and feel like I'm worthless. This isn't something I can change. This isn't something I control. I'm not trying to put my boyfriend down or brag about myself, but I've studied in better schools than him, we went to the same college and it's the best in the city. My CGPA is more than a whole point greater than his, I have better communication and conversational skills, and yet, it all just comes down to the money I have or the money my family has. It's just very frustrating. I feel lost.

TLDR; Boyfriend's family thinks I'm not wealthy enough to marry him irrespective of my character and qualifications

I had already posted about how a new friend (30M) asked for a movie date and I (24F) was not sure about it. We have been texting for some time and it was good. So after some deep thinking, I decided to catch a movie date. I agreed and he made plans. We went for a movie and he took care of the tickets and food. It was nice and the vibe was good. I don't know how this will proceed further. But for now it is good.

I like a girl at the gym, and we've been talking. I don't know if she knows I like her or not, though she probably does. She also tells me that she comes to the gym to see other guys. We leave the gym together most of the time, but I'm always the one texting her first. If our conversation ends on a laughing note, she never texts again to restart it. What should I do?
(she is 2 years older than me)