u/-SerenePetal

Hi Friends,

I’m a Marathi corporate woman living in Pune, and my boyfriend is based in Delhi. We’ve been doing long distance for a while, and honestly, I’m exhausted.

Every single day turns into a fight about when we can actually talk. Finding even 20-30 minutes of real conversation has become a battle. He’s always “busy,” yet somehow he still finds time for his office female friends. That part really stings the most.

I genuinely need attention, affection, and some emotional presence. What I get instead is half-hearted replies, delayed texts, and the constant feeling that I’m an afterthought.

He’s mentioned breaking up multiple times already. Each time it feels like a knife, but I really keep trying because I still want this to work. The emotional and mental connection we once had is almost completely gone.

We’re reduced to logistics and arguments.
He’s really close with his female colleagues, shares laughs and time with them, while I sit here overthinking every short reply. I put my whole heart into this relationship.

I genuinely make time despite my own hectic schedule. Yet it feels one-sided.
Why do some men behave like this?
Why do they get comfortable taking the effort for granted and still keep other women around for company while their girlfriend is left starving for basic connection?

I really don’t want to walk away, but staying is slowly draining me.
The distance is hard enough without feeling emotionally abandoned.

Has anyone else been in this exact place?
How do you deal when the person you love starts treating the relationship like an optional chore?

I’m genuinely tired of fighting for someone like this 🥹