I loved her enough to accept her past, but now she says she doesn't want me anymore
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I’m 25M, and my girlfriend is 23F. We’ve been in a serious relationship since March 2025.
We both worked at the same company. She joined the company as an intern in August 2024, and I met her in October 2024. We were working on the same project. She was beautiful, intelligent, smart, and very talkative. Eventually, I developed feelings for her.
In November 2024, I resigned from the company. I had a two-month notice period, and she wasn’t happy about my resignation because we had become close.
I eventually proposed to her, but she told me that she already had a boyfriend. So I stopped talking to her.
Then, out of nowhere, she asked me to go on a date with her.
After the date, she asked her boyfriend to pick her up. I met him that day, and honestly, he seemed like a good person.
But here comes the twist.
Two days later, she told me that she was no longer interested in her boyfriend. They had been together for only around four months.
My notice period eventually ended, and by that time, we had become extremely close. She literally cried because she couldn’t imagine going even a single day without talking to me.
Over the next couple of months, she broke up with her boyfriend and eventually proposed to me.
Then, about 15 days later, in February 2025, her ex called me.
This is where everything changed.
He told me:
"They had been living together for around six months. She got pregnant, and she had an abortion."
My mind went completely blank. I felt like my heart had been shattered into pieces.
I was a virgin, and this was my first serious relationship. I had never been with anyone before, so finding out that the girl I loved had already been sexually involved with someone else, had lived with him, had become pregnant, and had an abortion was extremely difficult for me to process.
Her ex explained everything to me.
Apparently, she had been living with him because she had become pregnant and didn’t know what to do. She wanted to have an abortion. His mother knew about the pregnancy and apparently insisted that they tell her parents and get married.
After my girlfriend proposed to me, she moved out of the relationship with her ex and started living in a PG.
There was another thing that really hurt me.
I had asked both of them where they were living. They both lied to me. She told me that she was living in a PG, but she was actually living with him.
Her ex even knew that she was planning to date me. He told me that he let her go because he wanted to "let her go and move on" with me.
About an hour after I spoke to her ex, my girlfriend called me. She knew that I had found out everything.
She begged me to stay in the relationship and started crying.
I told her that I couldn't continue because knowing about her past was causing me severe mental distress. But she wouldn't accept my decision.
I blocked her everywhere, including WhatsApp, phone calls, PhonePe, and Google Pay.
She started calling me from her friends' numbers. She didn't sleep properly for almost two days and kept sending me emails and trying to contact me.
This continued for around 15 days.
At one point, she told me that she had been admitted to the hospital because her glucose levels had dropped and she needed an IV. She even video-called me from the hospital to show me.
I became scared that she might hurt herself.
Eventually, I thought, "Maybe I should give this relationship a chance for one year. If she cheats or does something wrong again, I will leave."
So I agreed to be in a relationship with her.
She told me that she would marry me even if her parents didn't accept me.
But even after getting back together, I continued to struggle with her past. Sometimes I would get extremely upset and start fights because I couldn't stop thinking about what had happened.
Whenever I brought up the past, she would cry.
Over time, she tried very hard to prove that she was serious about me. She shared all her social media passwords with me. She introduced me to her childhood friend, and I even spoke to her mother.
We've now been together for more than 1.5 years.
She still shares her live location with me, and I still have access to some of her social media accounts.
Whenever I meet her, she usually brings me something to eat. She even surprised me on my birthday, which honestly meant a lot to me.
During 2025 and early 2026, I was unemployed and doing freelance work. I finally got a job in April 2026.
She was happier about my job than I was. She wanted to tell her parents about me and seemed genuinely proud of me.
But after I got my job and after my birthday, something changed.
For the past few months, she has been acting completely differently.
She started saying things like:
"Why are you still here? If you want to stay, stay. If you want to leave, leave."
"I don't like you anymore."
"Find another girl."
"My family will never accept you."
Now we fight almost every day.
She says that she changed herself because of me. She used to be very talkative, but now she says that she has become an introvert because of me.
I'm deeply in love with her, so every time she says these things, I get extremely hurt.
Eventually, during one of our fights, I became frustrated and said, "Let's break up."
But now she doesn't want to break up.
She says she doesn't want to leave me and that she wants to keep fighting with me every day.
Honestly, I don't understand what is happening anymore.
There is one more thing she keeps bringing up during our fights.
About 15 days ago, it was her birthday. I wished her one hour late.
She still brings that up whenever we fight.
I'm completely confused.
I love this girl deeply, and I've accepted things about her past that were extremely difficult for me to accept. I stayed because I believed that she genuinely loved me and that we could build a future together.
But now I'm constantly fighting, constantly questioning the relationship, and constantly feeling like she doesn't want me anymore.
I don't know whether I'm holding on to something that is already broken or whether this relationship can still be saved.
What should I do?
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