r/20sIndiaRelationships

I’ve been in a situationship with this guy for around six months. In the beginning, it was genuinely really nice. We talked a lot, stayed up talking, sent each other coupley coupley reels and I genuinely felt like I had someone who was there for me.
He had always been honest that he didn’t want a relationship because he told he needs to heal from his previous relationship and needed space. I knew that, and I wasn’t doing things for him because I thought eventually he’d magically choose me. I did them because I genuinely liked him and that’s how I show up for people who matter to me.

Over time, though, I started feeling a distance. He wasn’t as enthusiastic or communicative as he used to be, and I found myself constantly analyzing his texts and wondering what he was thinking.

Then his ex came back into the picture. He unblocked her, they followed each other again, and he wanted to talk to her because they had been important to each other for years. I was actually there when he spoke to her, and afterwards he took pictures with her. I know technically I wasn’t his girlfriend, but it still hurt, especially because of how differently he’d spoken about her before.

I had also been planning his birthday and had ordered him a gift. Not because I thought it would make him choose me, but because I genuinely wanted to make his birthday meaningful.

Eventually he told me that he felt I was getting very attached and that it scared him, and that he was sure he didn’t want to date anyone for a long time.
That made me realize something about myself too: I can’t do this casually. I get emotionally attached, and staying in something undefined while hoping it might eventually become more was going to hurt me.
So I ended it.
He told me I wasn’t the problem, that I was one of the best people he’d met, that I had everything he looked for in someone, and that it felt like the right person, wrong time.

I cried a lot, but I also felt relieved because I didn’t have to constantly analyze everything anymore.
We tried talking normally afterwards, but I realized I couldn’t just become friends with someone I still liked that much. Every half-conversation made me feel like I was getting pulled back into the same cycle of needing him, waiting for his texts and wondering why he wasn’t talking to me like before.

So I told him I think we need to take a proper break because I need to get out of this constant loop of needing him.
He understood and respected it.
I’ve now deactivated Instagram and uninstalled snap too because I know I need the distance.
I still love him. I still miss him. Part of me still wishes this could have worked.
But I also know I can’t spend my life waiting for someone to eventually choose me.

Did I do the right thing by walking away, even though a part of me still wants him back?

by me. ❤️

I am 22m, i have posted few time in this sub and have gotten few responses as well and i have relaised some thing the vibe isnt there idk if its because of pre forced label or anything. so i want to try something new i would like to list my qualties as friend and if you think that we would be good friends then to best friends...

I am very avid watcher anime, movies, book i love all of that if you are someone who enjoys watching anime, marvel dc main stream content i think we would most defintly vibe well. i might be a bit low talker at first, it takes time to open up and get comfortable so if you are someone with very good communication or yapper type personality it would be great plus,

I'm a hardcore old school romantic. I don't really know how to describe myself, but if there's one thing I'm sure about, it's that I love deeply. I'm the kind of guy people would probably call clingy, but for me, it's just loving someone with my whole heart.I've never liked casual relationships. I've always wanted one person. One love. Someone to build a life with.

I'm not perfect, and I don't know everything. But if there's something that matters to you, teach me. I'll happily learn. I'd rather improve myself than make the person I love feel unheard or unhappy.

I don't have every luxury in life right now. I'm still building my career and trying to become the kind of man I want to be. But whatever I have today, and whatever I achieve tomorrow, I'd want to share it with the right person. I want to be your safe place.

On your worst days, I want you to know you can come to me without thinking twice. You don't have to pretend to be okay around me. Cry if you need to. Complain about your day. Stay silent if you don't feel like talking. I'll still be there.

I want to celebrate your smallest achievements like they're my own and hold your hand through your biggest fears. I'm the kind of person who remembers little things. Your favorite chocolate. How you like your tea or coffee. The random story you told me weeks ago. The song that reminds you of home. I notice those things because that's how I love.

I don't dream about luxury dates or expensive gifts. I'd rather cook together, go on late-night walks, watch sunsets, send each other random reels, make playlists, have endless phone calls, laugh over silly things, and slowly build a love that feels like home.

I want the kind of relationship where we're still excited to tell each other about our day even after years. I think long distances are truest form of love. it shows patience and love for each other.

what do i expect from you- loyalty please, caring and understanding a bit, bit emotionally available, i hope you are yapper typa person or even if you are not just being able to put same efforts would be nice, i hope you can flirt i am zero in that department. thats all

if any of the points above resonates with you

Ohh, I’m so in love with this couple 😭😭 I genuinely can’t believe an arranged marriage can turn out this beautiful 😭. They feel so raw and real, just like most couples in India, without trying to make everything look performative like other influencers. The guy is also sooo simple, and the way he looks at her 😭😭… such a proper gentleman. 😭💗