u/booksandstrings

I'm 23F. I've been on dating apps for almost 2-3 years on and off. Two most bothersome trends that I've observed are:

1. Guys don't want to date to marry

2. Everybody seems to be smoking& drinking.

I have a good job, I'm done with my masters degree. I don't drink, I don't smoke. I do gym 3x a week, go for walks 3x a week, do yoga everyday in addition to eating healthy.I think I'm ready to build something with a genuine person. I haven't been in a relationship ever so someone please educate.

I know there's no risk of pregnancy. But I'm wondering if there's possibility of oral herpes or stuff like that and whether y'all use protection. If yes, what do y'all use?

How many pairs of footwear do you own? What are all the different purposes that they serve?

I have 2 sports shoes, 2 pairs of formal footwear, 1 pair of sneakers and 2 pairs of flats. That makes it 7 pairs of footwear. Each one has a comfort pair & beauty pair except shoes - I use one for gym, one for regular use.

People in Bavdhan in their 20s, let's plan a meetup?

Bumble talking stage trying to reconnect

I 23F had a talking stage with 24M for about 4 months from December to April. He said he wanted to end the talking stage because "he wanted to be single for a while and get to know himself" and because he "became too vulnerable" with me so he needed the distance.

I suggested trying to work it through the first time he brought it up. But the following day when he mentioned it again, I was like cool, bye. I was emotionally involved but not desperate.

I had unfollowed his personal account on Instagram and removed it from my followers but I still follow his work account.

This week, by mistake, I replied to his story and we got talking. It seems he's again putting efforts to reconnect. He says he missed me. He sent a photo of the restaurant we went to on our first date. He's sent me a sup.

I want to give this another try but I will feel stupid if he does the exact same thing again in a few months. How do I communicate all this? I don't want to go back to sup-ping and chatting without putting up my expectations.

He seemed like a really genuine guy and I liked him back then. I had uninstalled all dating apps because of how much it affects my self image. He seems slightly avoidant as a person and I want to still make it work but I also want to put up expectations and communication boundaries.

For context, he had come out of a 5 year long relationship in May 2025.

What is soft tissue rheumatism? How is it different from any other autoimmune condition? Does soft tissue rheumatism with hypermobility mean Ehler Danlos ?

After 9 months of useless visits to orthopedic doctors, I saw a rheumatologist. She told me I have hypermobility and soft tissue rheumatism. How is that two together even different than EDS?

What even is soft tissue rheumatism 😭

I might be wrong but Mangalagaur is a marathi tradition. One of our family friend's daughter is going to have her Mangalagaur soon. I want to know what do GenZ marathis think of it?

I personally admire the physical fitness the women have in Mangalagaur. But I'm not sure how I'd feel inviting my non-marathi friends to it simply because I wouldn't know how to explain it to them. Some of it is also just funny?

I want to shape my perspective on this so I'm open to everything.

I'm curious to know how is your social life? Do you work? How old are you? How often do you call your school friends/college friends? Are you friends with your colleagues?

I'm 23. Currently between jobs. I meet my undergrad friends once a month. Most school friends went abroad but I chat with them almost every day. Call masters friends once a month. Have a few professors whom I meet once in 6 months. No friends at the gym, no friends in society. I had a lot of friends whom I used to meet in my music class but I cannot promise performance and practice just to have a social life. No family friends or relatives.

I wish to be more social. And I'm wondering how frequently people my age socialize.

There's a Hindustani Classical vocal concert in kothrud right now. Koni ala asel tar baher bhetu.

I am a 23F who has

- BA Psychology (university topper)

- MBA HR

- C2 in Foreign Language

- have basic python, workflow automation, SQL, powerbi skills

I have a job in SAP. But I'm struggling to position myself in the market outside of SAP.

How do I overcome this?

A friend(40F) of mine (23F) has started a book discussion club. She sent me her instagram post saying I'd love you to join it. So, I said sure, I'd love to join. I thought I was showing support (I even said I love how creative you're getting etc etc). She's starting her Masters in a few months and we're usually supportive of each other.

Now, she's added me to the group. The introductory message said it will have a fee.

I went back to the original post and re-checked. Nowhere had it said that it would be a paid event.

For context, she lives abroad and has quit a corporate job to engage in slow living. I am an unemployed student raised by a single mother in extremely financially stressful situation in India who is awaiting offer letter.

I hadn't given much thought to it since I thought it was a free, low commitment thing. I don't even know how I'll procure the books to read. I have been delaying my essential medical checkups for finances.

I feel blind-sided that

1. It didn't mention it was paid.

2. She added me to the WhatsApp group & then mentioned it has a fee. If she had sent the invite on personal chat with the fee, I would've had the space to say something. I'm already added to the group - now it is even more awkward.

What can I do or say to preserve this friendship without feeling forced to pay and join?

I'll live without a book club y'all.

Edit: told her. She understood. :->

Got calls for switching roles and re-appearing for interviews.

Does anyone know what is up?

To all those who are sliding into chats with Fs from this sub, please stop being creepy.

Stop sliding without writing the context/reason for DMing. I commented on a meetup saying I'm an F and would like to join, and some of y'all got into my DMs right away without any context.

It gives the ick and makes us feel like this sub is NOT a safe place. That actually reduces chances of us joining meetups and reduces your chances of meeting new people, let alone liking them or them setting you up with their friends.

Your creepy behaviour is discouraging women from participating in the sub and meetups.

EDIT: I have interacted with some really nice Ms from this sub. They know how to introduce themselves properly, can hold conversations without being AHs and make things meetup friendly. This post is not for them. It's for the people who are spamming my requests and those of other Fs.

I'm looking to find feminist comedians who actually make you laugh without degrading women. .

I 23F got diagnosed for hypermobility and I'm being tested for more autoimmune disorders.

I have to start my corporate life next month and I'm looking at products that can make my corporate life better.

I have already made a list/purchased the following items:

1. Ergonomic sitting pillow

2. Ergonomic sleeping pillow

3. Laptop stand

4. Portable keyboard & mouse

5. Mousepad

6. Ice packs

7. Wrist straps to lift heavy

8.Fanny pack/bum bags to distribute weight

9. Backpack

10. Monitor to use instead of laptop screen

11. Mobile stand

12. Neck brace

13. Arch support shoes

What other products do you use that help? I have significant weakness in my wrist, shoulders. Pain in my shoulders, arms, neck, knees. I have a flat foot in addition to hypermobility.

EDIT: Thank you to each one of you who responded to this thread. I hope this post can serve as a one-stop place for everyone to find products.

I had made a SAP learning hub account after I got a campus placement in the ESAP unit as a SAP Associate Consultant. There is a universal SAP Id & a linked SAP ID to my learning hub account - one is my university mail id which was needed to get student account benefits & the other is my personal gmail account.

Should I delete both the email IDs before Infosys onboards & starts training me on SAP? Will having an existing SAP Universal ID cause issues? I will have to join training in Hyderabad soon so I wanted to clear this out.

I had made it to learn and get certified in SAP.

Recently got into coding & techy things. Already have:

Docker

Git

MySQL

Python

VS code

Thinking of getting

Draw.io

Notepad++

Where does this end?

What all softwares do you have that make building projects better?

I'm yearning for the gentle femininity whose grace and spark made me discover and experience my sexuality. I don't know if I'll have another intimate moment ever again.

F23 here. I'm looking for friends around Bavdhan to hang out with. Looking for teetotalers to hang out with. Can talk music, books and Corporate majdoori.