so, if i stand up and usually lose my erection lile that decently quickly, but stimulate it with my hand and it stays/goes back up, is it still venous leak? or would it go down regardless of stimulation?
Background:
I am 26M. I was addicted to Porn and masterbation for 9 years, never thought of quitting it. I used to watch 4-5 hours of Porn regularly and masterbate at least once everyday. Instead of trying to masterbate on erected penis, I would do it on flaccid penis. I literally had no morning wood for the last 2-3 years, no wet dream, no random erection etc. The main reason of my addiction was to escape from reality, not extreme lust. I used porn and masterbation as coping mechanism.
However in the last year, I stopped for 3 months but then fell again into the pit. The frequency reduced to once per week, but the addiction remained.
This year I got married, and for the first month erection was very good but there were some problems. Like we did not have penetrative sex as wife was afraid, my precum would come very quickly, as day passed erection started to become weaker (maybe brain was seeking novelty). Remember for the first month, I saw porn only once, that too out of frustration. Then I thought of stopping porn totally.
Recovery:
As I realized I was having some problem due to porn & masterbation, I totally stopped these. But the main problem appeared then. I was going through a flatline for exactly 90 days. In these days, I had zero libido, erection. My wife used to blame herself thinking I have Performance Anxiety and cry many times. These made me feel guilty even more.
Near 70-80th day, I went to a doctor. He prescribed me Tadalafil which did not work actually. He said I was having performance anxiety.
After 90 days, I saw the light of hope for the first time. Had very good erection- that lasted only for two- three days. Then fell again on flatline.
The second flatline stayed for 1 month, after this erection and libido returned again. I went to the doctor for the second time ( he would listen my problems carefully and was very friendly). He prescribed me regular 2.5mg Tadalafil and Verdanafil while needed.
As time was going (5-7 days after the second flatline ended) erection became much more stable. I started getting regular morning wood. I knew I don't need regular medications, so I stopped these.
140 days after abstaining from PMO, finally I was able to have sex with verdanafil. The next day, the effect of medicine was no more but I was able to have sex again without any medicine.
Suggestions:
If you have PIED, no medicines work. There is only ond thing you can do- that is abstain from porn. Flatline period is insanely hard to deal but trust on the process. Please if someone is involved in PMO, leave these.
If you have any questions, feel free to ask.
You might have seen my post about how 10mg per day was a game changer for me. Well I’m doing it this weekend as well and it doesn’t seem to work as good. Not getting solid morning wood etc. That being said I have been drinking a bit more.
Anyone have similar experiences? Is it possible to build up a tolerance? Am I overthinking this? ;)
Gone Through Blood Tests:
T.Testosterone = 298 ng/dL
F.Testosterone = 21.48 pg/mL
Vitamin D = 98.66 nmol/L
Vitamin B12 = 221 pg/mL
Lot of brain fog n fatigue I don't drink nor smoke , not even masterbate like i do is rub my dick very excessively to porn n soft porn and stop at point of ejaculation.
Feels i hv low semen too
Nd i m virgin tried sex got soft before penetration.
So my (f41) fwb (m48) started taking daily tadalafil a month ago, and it has done wonders! He's dealt with ED since long before we met, and was looking for a new treatment and got a script online he used Good rx. He says it's made his dick 20 years younger. And I can attest that it has made our encounters a lot of fun. I'm cool with being as patient as we need to be, but lately he's had more of a "hairpin trigger". We hang out a lot ok?
It's good stuff! I'm a very satisfied girl, he's a very happy dude. Give it a try, maybe it'll do you like it did him. 🥜
Hello everyone,
For seven years, starting from the very beginning of my (M26) sex life, I struggled with erectile dysfunction.
I can't even count how many failed sexual experiences I had. Dozens and dozens. Every failure hurt me, and I at a certain point I genuinely believed I would never have a normal sex life.
I tried pretty much every ED medication available. Some helped a little, most didn't make a real difference. I saw three urologists and around ten different doctors looking for answers. I did a Doppler scan. At one point, I became so desperate that I seriously considered getting a penile implant (you can maybe find some of my older posts about this on this subreddit). One of the urologists told me last year that I was a reasonable candidate and gave me the green light if I wanted to go through with it.
On top of that, I spent years trying to optimize every aspect of my lifestyle. I exercised regularly, cleaned up my diet, experimented with different vitamins and supplements, tried to reduce my exposure to endocrine disruptors, improved my sleep, and made countless other changes that I hoped would help. I honestly couldn't list everything I've tried over the years. The point is that I wasn't sitting around waiting for things to magically improve, I spent years actively searching for solutions.
Five months ago, everything changed.
I met my girlfriend.
From the very beginning, after our first intercourse, I was completely honest with her about my ED. Instead of judging me or making me feel embarrassed, she made me feel safe and reassured me that we would figure it out together. There was never any pressure to perform, and we approached it as a team, trying different things and finding what worked for us.
One thing that also made a surprisingly big difference was eventually stopping the use of condoms. I know that's not an option for everyone and it should only be done safely, but in our case it noticeably improved things.
Being with someone I trust, someone who doesn't judge me, and someone with whom I feel completely comfortable has completely changed my sex life. I won't pretend I'm exactly like every other guy. Even today, I still have occasional issues getting fully hard, probably around one out of every four times we have sex. But it absolutely doesn't stop us from having a satisfying sex life. Overall, my sex life is now genuinely fulfilling.
I'm writing this because I know there are people here who are in the same situation I was.
If you're stuck in a cycle of one-night stands, hookups, or constantly trying with new partners and it never works, don't automatically assume your situation is hopeless.
In my case, I don't think it was ever 100% psychological or 100% physical. It was probably a combination of both. Some physical factors made erections more difficult, I did prone masturbation for many years when I was young (don't do that or stop it now). Once I found the right partner and took away the pressure, everything was vetter, but not because the physical side suddenly vanished overnight.
Before making irreversible decisions like getting a penile implant or loosing hope, make sure you've also given yourself the chance to experience sex with someone who makes you feel safe, accepted, and genuinely comfortable. For me, that made all the difference.
I know this won't be everyone's story, and I'm not saying this is a cure for ED. But if my experience gives even one person a little hope before making a life-changing decision, then it's worth sharing.
I thought it was important to notice you of a success story, I think many folks that postes on this sub don't have any problem anymore but don't take the time to testify.
Good luck to you all, don't lose hope.
Since Erection requires more of Nitric oxide and less of PDE5, is there a blood test for these?
Meds like Viagara/Cialis work by reducing PDE5 (aka PDE5-inhibitors), thereby increasing the effect of Nitric-oxide.
So measuring these in the body seems to make common sense, before one uses pills.
Are there tests like that? Can docs order it?
(post got deleted idk why) m20 started using daily cialis a couple days ago and got morning wood the first day, its just i notice when i stand up it starts going down in like 10-15 seconds idk if its cus of anxiety or what. this morning i could get a full erection without porn or my hands tho just with my imagination. also there was a thing with my gf a couple days ago where i was giving her head but when i went to put the condom on i noticed my penis started going down pretty fast and was pretty soft but i was still able to penetrate somehow, and i got harder inside idk if it was fully hard or not tho i think it was. also just wanna say im not overweight cus somebody said something about that before my post got deleted
I’m wondering how men with ED handle sleeping with someone that they’re really interested in for the first time. Do you do anything beforehand to make yourself feel more ready for it? Does it affect who you date, whether you date at all? Have you had bad experiences or been rejected for it? Or do you think you would be rejected for it?
Looking for some advice from this wonderful community.
I’m 32, and have had ED for as long as I can remember.
As a teenager, I can’t recall having spontaneous erections or morning wood.
Even now, I rarely have morning wood.
I’m gay and I’ve never successfully had an erection in the presence of a partner. It’s creating a vicious cycle for me.
When I masturbate, I can get hard but never as hard as I would like, and my erections disappear very quickly without stimulation. For most of my life, I masturbated prone as it was the only way to get off without having an erection.
I’ve tried Viagra and Cialis…neither seems to work for me.
I’ve been to see a urologist and he wants me to have a Doppler ultrasound on my penis, pelvis/perineum as well as a pelvic angiogram. He didn’t say anything about checking nerves or erectile reflexes. He has suggested I speak to a sex therapy as well. He has dissuaded me from using injections as I am so young.
Please help me, as the urologist said the only probable option moving forward is an implant if sex therapy does not help.
Age 35 generally healthy
Loss of morning wood. Low libido , weak erection, premature ejaculation....
Is this from all the porn I've been watching ?
Can I fix this issue ? HELP PLZ
I didn't know about ED until about late 2024 and frankly I didn't care. Masturbation was for me mainly as stress reliever, quick rub and move on with life. So between my age 12-29 I did it almost daily multiple times.
Then around late 2024 I had experience and realized my dick wouldn't even move from touch of a woman. I would feel nothing when inside vagina. Condom / no condom. Forget cumming or anything.
Tried noFap, tried excercise, lowered masturbation to weekly or 0. Still doing running and swimming. Testosterone levels seem normal also. I did a test in early 2025 and hit middle of each range what that lab measured.
I have weak erection, usualy lost after few minutes of sex, or no erection at all. No sensations to cum during PIV or handjob or anything.
What worked
Viagra / Cialis - great for get things going
L-Ctiruline - morning woods become more frequent, erections stronger.
L-Arginine - same same but I feel like my dick is pulsing after or something.
Less alcohol - only that I feel better overall, don't know.
Frequent running / swimming - better frequency of morning woods
Zinc/magnesium - yeah kinda improves mood
What didn't work
noFap - nope, no improvements beyond slightly more cum after long break. Not enough to cum during sex.
Fleshlight - it's nice, got the loosest one I could find. Not much of a difference.
Excersie in general - it's good but not for my dick
Low dose Cialis daily - morning hardness is great, fails terribly during sex. Feels like I'm building resistance to it.
Kegels - nope, and I don't know if I need those or reverse one
I kinda have GF now, which even puts more pressure on me. And it kills me that I can't perform reliably. Forget that I'm even enjoying sex. I'm not. It's mostly fear if I can stay hard.
So yeah don't goon all your life I guess.
Honestly struggled to find a tag for this.
I've been having issues in the bedroom lately. lack of libido, anxiety over getting it up. I'm in a two year relationship with a girl that I love, and we usually have great sex. Early in the relationship I struggled with ED, I don't always finish, and that makes me feel bad, but when I do i feel like king of the world.
Things were honestly fine until may. I fell in deep with porn, masturbation- i've always had a problem but saw that I REALLY had a problem and managed to quit for the last two weeks. No porn, no touching myself. We had sex, it felt great, but i was out of condoms so we had to call it. Next day i fell of the wagon hard and it was crazy, I felt like I was an addict. Heated, giggly, ect. Fast forward to today, the day after, and I couldn't perform. It's crushing. I know it's all in my head, I'm attacted to this girl and love her, but it feels like a billion other factors come together to make it all worse.
I take cialis morning and night, my doctor has suggested damiana tea, urologist advised me to stop porn and stop masturbation, and people suggest all sorts of things. I just want to be confident in the bedroom like I was for that amount of time before.
I added this morning
I usually do 20 m.g. Tadalafil in the evening, and 6 grams of L-citrulline, and 2,400 m.g. of Sunflower Lecithin, and Juice Performer (beet juice).
With all that I wasn't staying hard enough. I could start and not finish.
Proud to say, I finished even with a position change today, after taking the Korean Panax Ginseng.
The recommended dosage is 2 capsules.
I took the first 2 and broke them up in my mouth.
Then I swallowed the next 2 capsules.
Then I started to feel a little sensation in my face, and knew it was go time.
Tried and was very successful for once!!!
Will remember to add the Korean Panax Ginseng on game day.
I’m a 24M, I’ve been lifting for 5–6 years, natural lifter and built a decent physique. I’ve also had a pretty heavy porn and masturbation habit for years(still having ngl).
About 3 years ago, I was in a relationship and tried having sex for the first time, but I couldn’t maintain an erection long enough. I assumed it was just first-time nerves.
Fast forward 3 years, I recently hooked up with a casual fling. I got a natural erection, we were able to start having sex, but as soon as we stopped to switch positions, I lost my erection completely. We tried again on another occasion, and the same thing happened. I even tried 50 mg sildenafil once, but it didn’t really help. The confusing part is that I have no problem getting and maintaining a full erection while watching porn.
I’m honestly frustrated. Has anyone dealt with something similar? Could this be porn induced ED, performance anxiety, or something else? Any advice on what I should do next would really help.
I have only used it a couple times and it expires in a coupe days. Do I have to get rid of it all? Seems like a big waste. Has anyone used it past the expiration date? Thanks.
I'm 23yo, used to rub my dick daily watching soft porn nd imagination, it doesn't includes no ejaculation only dry rub.
Low Testosterone, Low Energy everything is weak af.
I'm virgin i tried sex w my gf like she asked i ate an ayurvedic medicine for long erection i got that i had erection for 10-20 min we had foreplay n bj but when i was penetrating i got soft nd till now i m depressed like i can't even show my dick to her, she cheated on me for nd humiliated me for my shrinked dick.
Hi All,
I have good erections most of the time and only have issues occasionally, usually when exhausted.
Anyway, I took 10mg tadalafil from HIMS and it made me hard as a rock for 3+ days as needed. Also I noticed a substantial walking around increase in penile volume.
Two questions:
Thanks in advance and may you all have nail-driving erections.
28M - Lost my erection during penetration twice over 4 years apart. Looking for advice.
I'm 28 years old, and this has been bothering me for years.
The first time it happened I was 24. At that time I was drinking a lot, smoking cigarettes and weed, and watching porn almost every day.
The first time I had sex everything went fine. The second time, I lost my erection when we were having sex. I assumed it was because of the drinking, smoking, weed, or porn, so I decided to completely change my lifestyle.
Over the next few years I:
I thought I had fixed whatever the issue was.
When I was 27, I had another opportunity to have sex. Everything was completely normal during kissing, touching, and foreplay. I had a strong erection the entire time.
But the moment I was about to put my penis inside, I suddenly lost my erection again.
That really confused me because I was healthy by then and had removed all the habits I thought were causing the problem.
Now I'm wondering if this is psychological, physical, or a combination of both.
Some questions I have:
I know Reddit can't diagnose me, but I'd really appreciate hearing from people who have gone through this before.