u/AngryMcYeti

Hey, I got the CommBank Low Rate credit card with the $70/month cashback offer. I spent about $709 last month, so I should be over the $500 eligible spend requirement, and I’ve already paid the statement in full. The app says “Last statement paid in full,” but it’s now 26 June and I still haven’t received the $70 cashback or seen anything marked “CASHBACK” in transactions.

I know the terms say it can take up to 90 days after the eligible statement period ends, but just wondering if this timing is normal or if I should contact CommBank.

God damn women are complicated creatures.

So I [23M] recently moved interstate by myself and felt a bit lonely, so I hopped on Hinge. This was my first time signing up for any online dating platform and I haven’t had much luck in my dating life recently.

This girl [23F], the same age as me, matched with me. We hit it off from the start. She was really bold and straightforward and actually asked me to take her out on a date. So I did. She was one of the sweetest girls I had ever met and we had such a nice, chill first date where we just got to know each other. She told me she was blunt and straightforward, which I appreciated. She had never been in a relationship, didn’t use social media, and was very career-oriented. Honestly, she felt like a dream girl to me.

Then the second date came around. I took her out for dinner and everything went well again. By the end of the date she told me she had something she wanted to say. She got nervous, teary-eyed, and told me she really liked me and wanted to see where things went, but that she wanted to take things slow. She also told me she wasn’t seeing anyone else. I told her I felt the same way.

I always try not to catch feelings too early because I know how these things usually end. Even though I told her I liked her, I was still being cautious.

The third date comes around and things are still going great. We’re talking every day and now I’m slowly starting to catch feelings. Before the date I noticed she had updated her Hinge photos and prompts. It didn’t bother me much because we weren’t exclusive, so I kept my expectations low. I still bought her flowers because I thought it was a nice gesture.

The date went really well. I never tried to get physical with her because she said she wanted to take things slow. She actually told me she liked that I hadn’t tried to hold her hand or push anything physical. Honestly, getting to know her was my main priority. She seemed like such a genuine person.

I don’t usually open up to people, but I slowly started opening up to her. She listened, reassured me, and told me she wasn’t in a rush. She was saying all the things I wanted to hear and becoming exactly the type of girl I had always hoped to find. Even then, I still kept my expectations low.

As time went on we talked more and more every day. We called each other, got closer, and eventually set up a fourth date.

Before the date I wrote her a short note telling her all the things I appreciated about her. Nothing over the top, no “I love you” or anything like that. I just sometimes struggle to put my feelings into words, so writing felt easier.

That fourth date was easily the best one we’d had. We started holding hands and were much more comfortable physically. She even started taking photos of us to show her friends. That was the moment I genuinely thought she might be someone special.

For the first time, I let myself catch feelings.

At the end of the date we talked about how things were going between us. I said I was happy and she said she was happy too. I asked her again to be honest with me if anything changed, and she repeated that she was a blunt person and would tell me directly if she wasn’t feeling it.

I gave her the note and told her to open it later.

As we were saying goodbye, I wanted to kiss her forehead. When I went in for the hug, I think she thought I was going for her lips because she quickly turned her head and I ended up kissing her hair instead. It was awkward as hell.

Later that night she texted me thanking me for everything. She told me I was sweet, that I deserved good things in life, and that she appreciated everything I’d done for her. At the time it felt strangely final, almost like she was preparing to say goodbye.

The next day she didn’t text me at all.

Then I noticed she was still updating her Hinge profile.

The day after that she told me we couldn’t meet up this week because she had a lot going on. She told me to take care of myself and thanked me again for everything.

That’s when my stomach dropped.

I asked her to be honest with me. She told me it was family problems.

Being the idiot that I am, I told her I cared about her and that if she needed anything, I was there for her.

She never replied.

She left me on delivered.

I tried calling her later that day and she didn’t pick up.

Then she unmatched me on Hinge and erased our entire conversation like none of it had ever happened.

Now it’s been days.

What hurts isn’t even that she might not be interested anymore. I can accept that. Not everyone is going to like me back.

What hurts is that she kept telling me she was blunt. She kept telling me she’d be honest if something changed. I gave her multiple opportunities to tell me the truth. At the end of the date. Over text. Every door was open.

All she had to do was send one message:

“Hey, I’m sorry, but I’m not feeling it anymore.”

That’s it.

I would’ve respected it.

I would’ve thanked her for being honest.

I would’ve wished her the best and moved on with my life.

Instead I’m left here replaying every conversation, every date, every moment in my head, trying to figure out what changed.

One minute we’re holding hands, laughing together, talking about the future, and the next minute it’s like I never existed.

So I [23M] recently moved interstate by myself and felt a bit lonely, so I hopped on Hinge. This was my first time signing up for any online dating platform and I haven’t had much luck in my dating life recently.

This girl [23F], the same age as me, matched with me. We hit it off from the start. She was really bold and straightforward and actually asked me to take her out on a date. So I did. She was one of the sweetest girls I had ever met and we had such a nice, chill first date where we just got to know each other. She told me she was blunt and straightforward, which I appreciated. She had never been in a relationship, didn’t use social media, and was very career-oriented. Honestly, she felt like a dream girl to me.

Then the second date came around. I took her out for dinner and everything went well again. By the end of the date she told me she had something she wanted to say. She got nervous, teary-eyed, and told me she really liked me and wanted to see where things went, but that she wanted to take things slow. She also told me she wasn’t seeing anyone else. I told her I felt the same way.

I always try not to catch feelings too early because I know how these things usually end. Even though I told her I liked her, I was still being cautious.

The third date comes around and things are still going great. We’re talking every day and now I’m slowly starting to catch feelings. Before the date I noticed she had updated her Hinge photos and prompts. It didn’t bother me much because we weren’t exclusive, so I kept my expectations low. I still bought her flowers because I thought it was a nice gesture.

The date went really well. I never tried to get physical with her because she said she wanted to take things slow. She actually told me she liked that I hadn’t tried to hold her hand or push anything physical. Honestly, getting to know her was my main priority. She seemed like such a genuine person.

I don’t usually open up to people, but I slowly started opening up to her. She listened, reassured me, and told me she wasn’t in a rush. She was saying all the things I wanted to hear and becoming exactly the type of girl I had always hoped to find. Even then, I still kept my expectations low.

As time went on we talked more and more every day. We called each other, got closer, and eventually set up a fourth date.

Before the date I wrote her a short note telling her all the things I appreciated about her. Nothing over the top, no “I love you” or anything like that. I just sometimes struggle to put my feelings into words, so writing felt easier.

That fourth date was easily the best one we’d had. We started holding hands and were much more comfortable physically. She even started taking photos of us to show her friends. That was the moment I genuinely thought she might be someone special.

For the first time, I let myself catch feelings.

At the end of the date we talked about how things were going between us. I said I was happy and she said she was happy too. I asked her again to be honest with me if anything changed, and she repeated that she was a blunt person and would tell me directly if she wasn’t feeling it.

I gave her the note and told her to open it later.

As we were saying goodbye, I wanted to kiss her forehead. When I went in for the hug, I think she thought I was going for her lips because she quickly turned her head and I ended up kissing her hair instead. It was awkward as hell.

Later that night she texted me thanking me for everything. She told me I was sweet, that I deserved good things in life, and that she appreciated everything I’d done for her. At the time it felt strangely final, almost like she was preparing to say goodbye.

The next day she didn’t text me at all.

Then I noticed she was still updating her Hinge profile.

The day after that she told me we couldn’t meet up this week because she had a lot going on. She told me to take care of myself and thanked me again for everything.

That’s when my stomach dropped.

I asked her to be honest with me. She told me it was family problems.

Being the idiot that I am, I told her I cared about her and that if she needed anything, I was there for her.

She never replied.

She left me on delivered.

I tried calling her later that day and she didn’t pick up.

Then she unmatched me on Hinge and erased our entire conversation like none of it had ever happened.

Now it’s been days.

What hurts isn’t even that she might not be interested anymore. I can accept that. Not everyone is going to like me back.

What hurts is that she kept telling me she was blunt. She kept telling me she’d be honest if something changed. I gave her multiple opportunities to tell me the truth. At the end of the date. Over text. Every door was open.

All she had to do was send one message:

“Hey, I’m sorry, but I’m not feeling it anymore.”

That’s it.

I would’ve respected it.

I would’ve thanked her for being honest.

I would’ve wished her the best and moved on with my life.

Instead I’m left here replaying every conversation, every date, every moment in my head, trying to figure out what changed.

One minute we’re holding hands, laughing together, talking about the future, and the next minute it’s like I never existed.

\[M23\] Need advice on how you’d interpret this situation.

I met a \[F23\] on Hinge a few weeks ago and we’ve been on 4 dates. Things seemed to be going really well. We talked every day, had phone calls, she was affectionate, made future plans with me, and after our last date I wrote her a short handwritten note telling her I appreciated getting to know her.

From the first date she told me she likes to take things slow, so I respected that and never tried to rush anything physically.

Just before the end of our last date we were talking about how things were going between us. I asked if she was genuinely enjoying getting to know me and she said yes. She also said she’s a blunt person and if something was bothering her or she wasn’t feeling it, she would tell me directly. I told her I felt the same way.

The only awkward moment was at the very end when I went for a forehead kiss during a hug. I think she may have thought I was going for a kiss on the lips because she quickly turned her head and I ended up kissing her hair instead. I’ve got a feeling she may have been rattled by that moment, but I honestly don’t know.

The next day she cancelled our plans for this week and said she has family stuff going on that she needs to deal with and that it might take a while. In that same message she told me I was sweet, that I deserve good things in life, thanked me for everything, and said “please take care of yourself.” I asked directly if anything had changed between us and she said no, it’s just family stuff.

Since then the communication has completely changed. No good morning texts, no random photos, no checking in like before, and she didn’t answer when I called. I’ve also noticed that she has now unmatched me on Hinge.

What makes this hard is that I normally try not to catch feelings early, but after that last date I genuinely started falling for her and opened up more than I normally would.

I’m finding it hard to reconcile how positive things felt on the last date with how different things feel now. Does this sound like someone dealing with personal issues, or does it sound more like she’s trying to end things? How would you handle it from here?

[M23] Need advice on how you’d interpret this situation.

I met a [F23] on Hinge a few weeks ago and we’ve been on 4 dates. Things seemed to be going really well. We talked every day, had phone calls, she was affectionate, made future plans with me, and I even gave her a short handwritten note on our last date telling her I appreciated getting to know her.

From the first date she told me she likes to take things slow, so I respected that and never tried to rush anything physically.

Just before the end of our last date we were talking about how things were going between us. I asked if she was genuinely enjoying getting to know me and she said yes. She also said she’s a blunt person and if something was bothering her or she wasn’t feeling it, she would tell me directly. I told her I felt the same way.

The only awkward moment was at the very end when I went for a forehead kiss during a hug. I think she may have thought I was going for a kiss on the lips because she quickly turned her head and I ended up kissing her hair instead. I’ve got a feeling she may have been rattled by that moment, but I honestly don’t know.

The next day she cancelled our plans for this week and said she has family stuff going on that she needs to deal with and that it might take a while. In that same message she told me I was sweet, that I deserve good things in life, thanked me for everything, and said “please take care of yourself.” I asked directly if anything had changed between us and she said no, it’s just family stuff.

Since then the communication has completely changed. No good morning texts, no random photos, no checking in like before, and she didn’t answer when I called. I’ve also noticed that she has now unmatched me on Hinge.

What makes this hard is that I normally try not to catch feelings early, but after that last date I genuinely started falling for her and opened up more than I normally would.

I’m finding it hard to reconcile how positive things felt on the last date with how different things feel now. Does this sound like someone dealing with personal issues, or does it sound more like she’s trying to end things? How would you handle it from here?

Need some outside opinions because this is really messing with my head.

23M. Met a girl through hinge a couple of weeks ago and we’ve been on 4 dates. Things seemed to be going really well. We talked every day, had phone calls, she was affectionate, made future plans with me, and after our last date she sent me a really sweet message saying she appreciated me and enjoyed spending time with me.

From the first date she told me she likes to take things slow, so I respected that and never tried to rush anything physically.

The only awkward thing was at the end of our last date where I went for a forehead kiss during a hug. I think she may have thought I was going for a kiss on the lips because she quickly turned her head and I ended up kissing her hair instead. It was a pretty awkward moment and I’ve been wondering if that rattled her.

The next day she went quiet, cancelled the plans we had for this week, and said she has a lot going on in her life right now. In that same message she told me I was sweet, that I deserve good things in life, thanked me for everything, and told me to take care of myself. I asked directly if anything had changed between us and she said no, it’s family stuff she has to deal with and it might take a while.

Since then the communication has completely changed. No good morning texts, no random photos, no checking in on each other like before. I tried calling tonight and she didn’t answer.

The thing that hurts most is that I genuinely started to care about her over the last few days. I hadn’t felt this strongly about someone in a long time and I opened up to her more than I normally would. Now it feels like she’s suddenly become distant. How would you handle it from here?

Need some outside opinions because this is really messing with my head.

23M. Met a girl through hinge a couple of weeks ago and we’ve been on 4 dates. Things seemed to be going really well. We talked every day, had phone calls, she was affectionate, made future plans with me, and after our last date she sent me a really sweet message saying she appreciated me and enjoyed spending time with me.

From the first date she told me she likes to take things slow, so I respected that and never tried to rush anything physically.

The only awkward thing was at the end of our last date where I went for a forehead kiss during a hug. I think she may have thought I was going for a kiss on the lips because she quickly turned her head and I ended up kissing her hair instead. It was a pretty awkward moment and I’ve been wondering if that rattled her.

The next day she went quiet, cancelled the plans we had for this week, and said she has a lot going on in her life right now. In that same message she told me I was sweet, that I deserve good things in life, thanked me for everything, and told me to take care of myself. I asked directly if anything had changed between us and she said no, it’s family stuff she has to deal with and it might take a while.

Since then the communication has completely changed. No good morning texts, no random photos, no checking in on each other like before. I tried calling tonight and she didn’t answer.

The thing that hurts most is that I genuinely started to care about her over the last few days. I hadn’t felt this strongly about someone in a long time and I opened up to her more than I normally would. Now it feels like she’s suddenly become distant. How would you handle it from here?

23M. Met a girl through online dating and we’ve been on 4 dates. Things seemed to be going really well — daily texts, phone calls, future plans, and she told me she appreciated me after our last date. She always said she likes to take things slow, so I respected that. The only awkward thing was at the end of the last date when I went for a forehead kiss during a hug and I think she may have thought I was going for her lips because she quickly turned away. The next day she went quiet, cancelled our plans for this week, and said she has family stuff going on. Since then the communication has completely changed and she didn’t answer when I called tonight. I genuinely started to care about her and opened up more than I normally would. Am I overthinking this or does it sound like she’s pulling away?

Need some outside opinions because this is really messing with my head.

23M. Met a girl through online dating a couple of weeks ago and we’ve been on 4 dates. Things seemed to be going really well. We talked every day, had phone calls, she was affectionate, made future plans with me, and after our last date she sent me a really sweet message saying she appreciated me and enjoyed spending time with me.

From the first date she told me she likes to take things slow, so I respected that and never tried to rush anything physically.

The only awkward thing was at the end of our last date where I went for a forehead kiss during a hug. I think she may have thought I was going for a kiss on the lips because she quickly turned her head and I ended up kissing her hair instead. It was a pretty awkward moment and I’ve been wondering if that rattled her.

The next day she went quiet, cancelled the plans we had for this week, and said she has a lot going on in her life right now. In that same message she told me I was sweet, that I deserve good things in life, thanked me for everything, and told me to take care of myself. I asked directly if anything had changed between us and she said no, it’s family stuff she has to deal with and it might take a while.

Since then the communication has completely changed. No good morning texts, no random photos, no checking in on each other like before. I tried calling tonight and she didn’t answer.

The thing that hurts most is that I genuinely started to care about her over the last few days. I hadn’t felt this strongly about someone in a long time and I opened up to her more than I normally would. Now it feels like she’s suddenly become distant. How would you handle it from here?

I (23M) have been on 3 dates with a girl (23F), and things have been going really well. On our second date, she said she liked what we had, wanted to see where things went, wasn’t seeing anyone else, and wanted to take things slow. Before our third date, I noticed she updated her dating profile, but I brushed it off since we weren’t exclusive. On the third date, she said she was too busy to see other people and asked how I’d feel if she did, and I said I’d be disappointed. Since then, we’ve been talking regularly, and she says things like “I really want us to work out,” but also “whatever happens will happen.” We have another date coming up, but I noticed she updated her profile again. I’ve started to really like her and haven’t been interested in anyone else, so seeing her still active on the apps has left me feeling disappointed. Am I overthinking this, or is that a reasonable reaction?

So Im a bit bummed out. I [23M] have been on 3 dates with this girl [23F] and we have been having a good time. On our second date she told me I like what we have and I wanna see where things go and Im not seeing anyone rn. She also said she wants to take things slow along with that. I said the same that Im not seeing anyone rn. Then before the third date I saw that she updated her profile and I didnt think much of it because we didn’t officially make it exclusive yet. We had a great time in the third date and I still asked if shes seeing other people. But this time she said shes too busy to see other people and how I would feel if she did. I just said I would be disappointed but it is what it is. We still kept talking after that going on phone calls. She keeps saying I really want us to work out then goes onto say whatever happens will happen. Now we have our next date coming up and I saw that she updated her profile again. The thing is I have started to really like her and have not been interested in other women after our third date. I thought she was clearly interested as well and now I’m quite a bit disappointed. I was looking forward to have a great time in the next date but the thought of her still looking for options just ruins it for me. What do you guys recommend i should do?