I keep going on dates. The guy usually says “let’s do this again” “what are you doing for dinner tomorrow” “we should get dinner” or “Would you like to go out again. We can get dinner next weekend” and then pouf they ghost me. Why?
I’ve been thinking about creating a small guide for Indian men, probably around 21–28, covering everything from making a good dating profile to building a genuine connection and eventually setting up a date.( very affordable ebook)
Obviously, there’s no magic formula that’s going to lead to 100 successful dates, and everyone is different. But I feel like my experience so far could at least give guys a better idea of what women might be looking for and some of the things men tend to struggle with.
There will always be exceptions, so I’d also offer one text-based advice session and one profile review to everyone who buys the ebook.
Do you think this could actually work as a small business? More importantly, do you think it could genuinely help Indian men?
Note for mods: I’m not selling anything here, just trying to get an idea of whether people would actually be interested in something like this and whether it could provide some value.
Maybe they genuinely hate texting. Maybe it’s the oldest excuse in the dating handbook.
Pick your side - one word, one sentence, or your hottest take.
I went to sonic spring last weekend with my friends ( one male and his friend) while I have a boyfriend, my girl friends and my mom thinks it doesn’t look good to go to a festival for 4 days with your guy friends and sleep on a same tent when you have a boyfriend, but they’re just my friends and nothing happened I genially thought one or two of my female friends will come with me but none of them came so I was just I’m gonna go with them since I don’t have anyone else to give me a ride (It’s a 5hr ride from Toronto) or help me with setting up the tent and everything since they went last year they know more about everything.
What do you all think? Did I made a bad choose going there with my guy friends?
I mean just look at it everyone I meet is either not interested in love because of their toxic ex or chasing someone who’s not interested in them. It happened twice- I was told that they weren’t into love or relationships anymore and found out they were into a relationship with someone after a month or 2. I mean where am I even making a mistake? I do everything I could give them the time and attention and what do I get in return? Sent 23hrs ago? Left on seen? Why is loving someone so hard these days forget loving even finding someone who’s into you is hard. People are like, ‘Don’t give too much attention’ and what not. I mean how do I even show that I’m interested in them without showing?
It sucks.
Have had multiple long terms relationships and am beyond the hook up era mentally. I recently went back to school and have a job waiting for me with a respectable salary and a solid career trajectory in front of me. Having that has pushed me to reevaluate my personal life.
Im well respected by my peers, a decently good looking guy, I’m nice and kind. Here’s the problem-
I’m attracted to woman that are mentally stimulating, minimally materialistic, and that have traditional values. Mind that my schedule is hectic restoring me to using dating apps.
It’s hard to get back out there. I’ve gone on dates, good dates, and it just hasn’t happened yet. I’m coming to the realization that “my personal relationship filters” have narrowed drastically—I don’t think I’m the only one.
Additionally, every other girl is “plural” just by their “profile pronouns.” …. Hard to not lose faith in the process.
I feel like I’m cornered into being attracted only to conservative woman but attract liberal woman.
I don’t know what I’m looking for. I’m just curious if anybody else out there is going through something strangely familiar. I want to get back my mojo back and enjoy this chapter of my life.
It sucks.
Have had multiple long terms relationships and am beyond the hook up era mentally. I recently went back to school and have a job waiting for me with a respectable salary and a solid career trajectory in front of me. Having that has pushed me to reevaluate my personal life.
Im well respected by my peers, a decently good looking guy, I’m nice and kind. Here’s the problem-
I’m attracted to woman that are mentally stimulating, minimally materialistic, and that have traditional values. Mind that my schedule is hectic restoring me to using dating apps.
It’s hard to get back out there. I’ve gone on dates, good dates, and it just hasn’t happened yet. I’m coming to the realization that “my personal relationship filters” have narrowed drastically—I don’t think I’m the only one.
Additionally, every other girl is “plural” just by their “profile pronouns.” …. Hard to not lose faith in the process.
I feel like I’m cornered into being attracted only to conservative woman but attract liberal woman.
I don’t know what I’m looking for. I’m just curious if anybody else out there is going through something strangely familiar. I want to get back my mojo back and enjoy this chapter of my life.
Im 25f and hes 32. We both have kids. He has two boys and i have twin boys. We have been seeing each other for a month. Almost 2. Things have been great. Hes respectful, kind, we have a bit in common, he shows he genuinely likes me and is looking for the same as me. He also gives me space and isnt clingy. He did ask me to be his girlfriend last week 😅 i was okay with it at first as we have hung out a bunch of times but now im second guessing and im not sure why. Im used to meeting people who end up ghosting me or putting bare minimum effort and i always seem to like guys who dont like me back instead or liking those who like me back. I do enjoy spending time but dont necessarily feel a spark. Should i just end things or give it more time? I feel like i have the worsr luck with dating and that i have to settle for partners because im a single mom. Society tends to look down on single moms so i figured i should be lucky anyone would be into dating me. Thoughts?
Date was this past Friday, it went well. Was sad about the silence over the weekend, decided to reach out this morning. Nothing back yet 🤷♀️ met on Hinge
I'm 20F, never had a boyfriend, situationship or talking stages ( had 2 talking stages when I was 16 , never had after any other talking stages after that or even before that ). My college life is also not that good. I don't have female friends and had 0 male interaction romantically ofcourse. Lately I've been craving relationship, but I can't find any sources to atleast have a talking stage . Instagram has wierd boys with wired Dms and I don't want to use dating app because I want to meet someone offline. Plus I'm an introvert I don't go outside much😭😭 What should I do???
I (F26) never in my life thought I would be in this situation. Up until April, I was in a long term horrible relationship (with 27M) that I’d tried to end five different times before it finally stuck. It was bad but I did the majority of my healing before I could officially leave. I spent over two months in a psychiatric hospital last year and have left with a renewed sense of freedom and peace. 6 months later and I used that foundation to finally leave my cheating ex with my head held high and no regrets! It’s been a few months now and I’m doing better than I ever thought I could be!
Before I get into this, I know that red pilled guys are probably going to shred me to pieces and eat me alive…. I’d like to ask that you please don’t insult either of these incredible men. They’re both very beautiful souls and I cherish them deeply. The respect they have both for themselves and for me is admirable and I’d really prefer if they were left alone. I’m the one seeing multiple people.
Anyway, a few months ago I posted something funny on my main Reddit account and in the comments of this post I met a guy, I’ll call him Blake (M28). At first, we were completely platonic friends because we were faceless and I really just needed a friend at the time. We enjoyed our brief conversations on Reddit for a few weeks and then changed over to a different messaging app, where I discovered he had a very attractive European accent. Despite this, we were still mostly friendly and shared a lot of good conversations in brief moments.
I then met a guy on Tinder just days later, We’ll call him Adam (30M) He wasn’t really my type initially, if I’m honest, but he’d sent a little message and seemed enthusiastic in a way that excited me. We planned a movie date and despite my general lack of initial attraction, I found myself laughing really hard and admiring his tattoos when he wasn’t looking. I grew an attraction to him when we went out for the second time, and started to really enjoy his company. He’s funny, kind, cares deeply for the people around him, and he’s a great cat dad. He’s a huge nerd in the same ways that I am, he’s very thoughtful, he’s resilient in a way that inspires me…There’s also a strange aspect to him that I’ve never experienced.
He not only knows I’m still dating around and active on dating apps, but encourages me to flirt and chat with other men. He says he thinks it’s really hot that I have all kinds of men wanting me but I’m next to him. I don’t really understand it but I’m really enjoying my time with him, even when he gets a little excited when I get a tinder notification on our dates. About a month in he got me a hotel room and didn’t even invite himself to join… he left me be so I could get some good sleep. He left me a fancy hardback cover of a book I’d mentioned wanting to read, his gaming console, a stocked fridge with my favorite drinks and snacks and had some of my favorite food delivered for dinner. He truly has been a wonderful guy. He’s doing all of this even though he doesn’t make much more money than I do!
Meanwhile, Blake and I got a little closer. We exchanged faces finally and he’s very attractive in the “boy next door” kind of way (ironic, I know). We have a 9ish hour time difference so when he’s going to bed it’s the middle of my day. He’s started calling during is late night walks before he goes to bed while I go on a walk to wind down after work. We’ve face timed and he’s shown me the streets of his small town, I’ve shown him the streets of my large city. When I mentioned my favorite musical, he started singing it without missing a beat. He knew and loved my favorite childhood show and sang the theme song from it. We have deep and conversations about politics and psychology and our personal mental health. We’re both moderate but I lean heavily left and he leans slightly right, but we never fight and have opened each other up to new topics and ideas. I find our friendly debates thrilling. We come from completely different backgrounds and religions but we see everything very similarly and when we don’t it’s never hostile and often becomes quite flirty and teasing. I feel completely at ease when I’m talking to him.
Eventually, he told me that he really likes me and it stunned me a little because I didn’t think he would be open to dating internationally. Blake is aware that I’m dating locally but said he doesn’t want the details so he doesn’t know about Adam specifically. He says because he’s so far he doesn’t want to hold me back from something that could make me happy, but he would “very much enjoy making me as happy as he can as well”. When I told him I liked him back, he added a week to his planned work trip to my country so he can come and spend a week with me in my city in just 2 months.
I’m feeling a bit conflicted, because while I like Adam and he seems to understand what’s happening… today he casually mentioned that he wants to ask me to be his girlfriend soon. He’s introduced me to his friends and he changed his phone background to a picture of me. It’s getting to the point that I don’t think he would like the emotional attachment I can feel forming between Blake and I… he seems to be more into it me flirting with strangers than forming one on ones with people. The issue is I really really like Blake and I don’t want to give him up even though he’s on the other side of the world… I’m not sure that’s something Adam would be comfortable with should we be expressly exclusive.
I’m normally very strictly monogamous and Demisexual so I’ve never had feelings for more than one person before. Both of them are so uniquely suited for me in different ways. I feel more intellectually stimulated when I’m talking to Blake. He has an uplifting energy that rubs off on me… He always has a funny story tell. I leave conversations feeling refreshed and energized. He’s been like a midday espresso helping me present a better version of myself for the rest of my day. Adam makes me laugh and being able to physically go get dinner with someone is really nice. He’s very emotionally intelligent, intuitive, and observant. He can usually empathize with me deeply. He meets me at my level and I leave conversations feeling understood. I wake up to cute little affirmations and he’s always around…
I feel guilty about Adam, because I can see that he’s more emotionally invested than I am. Even if Blake weren’t around, I’m not even 6 months from ending a 5 year relationship.. I’m not really looking for exclusivity right now. I’ve been honest but I’m worried he’s thinking he can somehow change my mind? If he were to ask me to be exclusive tomorrow I don’t know what I would do, and it’s looking more and more like that’s something he wants. I worry that even though he says this dynamic is fun for him he will grow tired of it and I’ll hurt him by dragging him along for too long when I know I’m developing real feelings for someone else.
I know that so far Blake is still somewhat an idealized fantasy, but I don’t want to give up on him until we have the chance to meet in person because I really feel there could be something wonderful there… and I don’t want to give up on Blake just because Adam is here and he isn’t. I also don’t want to make Adam wait for a few months until I’ve met Blake and know if he’s really as good a fit as he seems to be.
Am I a horrible person? Am I questioning a good thing? Is this even really a good thing? It feels good, but I’m worried I’ll hurt Adam if he wants exclusivity and I can’t give it to him because I really truly can’t give up Blake until we’ve met and Adam is so incredible as a man. I don’t even know what advice I need I just want to talk to literally anyone else about this.
What does your idea of a really good date look like?
A long drive with good music, a little picnic somewhere quiet, sunset, trying random food, talking for hours, some flirting… and that feeling when you’re comfortable enough with someone that the silence isn’t awkward.
Does Bhopal have people who are actually into this kind of dating? 😂
May I please have some advise on my situation. 29 yo M ghosted me for about 2 week (while constantly watching my ig stories). He decided to pop back up yesterday by engaging with my story which I responded to casually on ig. Then he sent a text message to my phone about a post I made and didn’t even acknowledge his 2 wk absence and that sent me into a spiral because for the past 2 weeks my mind has been trying to fill in the gaps and I made soo many excuses for him thinking he was probably having tech issues which clearly isn’t the case. So I ended up crashing out but now I regret it because it was emotionally loaded…
I only sent him an audio msg basically telling him “Jay I’m gonna be very honest with you.. looking back, I actually let my guard down a whole lot. & that’s because I genuinely like you. But what I’m not going to do is sit here & entertain the inconsistency you’ve been giving me or allow myself to be treated casually. If you want to continue going ghost for weeks, I respect that, by all means, do you. You wanna be a ghost be my guest. But that’s not something I’m willing to participate in and I’m not standing for it. If you’re not serious about genuinely getting to know me and seeing where any of this could go, please, please do not text my phone. I don’t have time for silly games” I knowww it’s soo cringe 😬 but I was never taught how to navigate situations like these and my parents sucked. I think a bottle up soo much and let soo many things slide then I just end up exploding. Any advise will be greatly appreciated 😭
And just a little more background we’ve been knowing each other for a little over three years now. At first, he was the one who initiated dates. To be very honest most I canceled/rescheduled in the beginning because my guard was up… I did “ghost” him a couple times during his pursuit. However I gave it a chance and started to fall for him. But when I started to get comfortable and started initiating plans with him, that’s when things shifted. He seemed super busy & his communication died down. When I brought it to his attention he told me about a trip with his friends that he was preparing for and that his mother was in the hospital so he was very occupied and I understood. But I would like to think that since he’s a grown man, he could’ve simply just text me and be like “hey I have this and that going on, my communication might not be very strong at this moment”. Instead of disappearing & waiting hours/days to follow up on a plan that I initiated with him.
When I noticed the change in his energy, I started to blame myself and thought maybe if I gave him more attention in the beginning when he was trying to get with me things would be different. But like I said my guard was up. I’ve been hurt countless times in the past & I have a big heart that I wear on my sleeves… So I was very cautious… I know theres no excuse, but that was my situation. I try to tell myself OK maybe this is apart of dating & I just have to give him time in the dynamic to grow. I really tried to be reasonable and give him the benefit of the doubt.
There was also another situation that I feel had caused the shift in him because he probably knew he wasn’t gonna get what he really wanted… it was when we had went back to my place from a date. I genuinely thought it would just be like a chill night but he randomly said he needed to go to his car for something but instead he went and got condoms. I ended up kicking him out that night because I was honestly confused on what gave him the idea that I was open to sleeping with him. Especially if we never talked about anything like that. I understand letting him come into my place probably give him the idea, but it was simply to finish off our night with a movie and I had no other motives. Well after that we stopped talking for a while. With this situation, I thought maybe I’m tripping and he’s a man at the end of the day and as humans we’re all sexual beings and have that desire. So I ended up forgiving the situation & talking to him again… because I actually really grew to like him. (And no we never got intimate not even a shared kiss) so there’s nothing big keeping me attached. I just genuinely like him.
Should I just block him at this point and just remove all access he never responded to my audio message so I feel like that’s an answer.
I know this is really long and I am using talk to text so ignore any errors, I’m literally rambling. but can somebody please help me because I feel like I’ve been beating myself up a lot and I no longer wanna sit in that space of feeling like I was the one who ruined everything Male and female advice are welcome. It would actually be nice to get a male perspective on this as well. Thank you all for your help.
29F. Downloaded Hinge for the first time 2 weeks ago. This is my first experience in general with dating apps. I figured it's impossible to meet people in real life, since apparently everyone is using apps now, so....
And yet, no one seems interested in actually meeting. Maybe it's because everyone is so saturated for choice that it's no longer a "big deal" to schedule a date with someone?
Of the 6 dates that I've managed to schedule.....
Honestly, I don't know if it's the cultural where I live (I just moved to a new city), or maybe this is a younger woman's game, or maybe online dating in general has lost its cultural relevance.
Anyone else have similar experiences in the past few months? Are we back to meeting people in real life now?
So I met this girl online 3 years ago and we started chatting. At first she seems quite keen on chatting with me and we don't talk all day and night, but maybe once or twice a week, but the conversation were mostly sharing brief information about each other and pleasant compliments. During this time, the girl did mention to me things like gemini and libra are a good match and kinda let me know she enjoys our little chats.
After a year she said let's go on a trip and we did, she planned the itinerary and booked the hotels. I went to her country but it's a different city cause she wanted to go on a trip to another city. So I went there and she was reliable, friendly and really kind. She tried to accommodate me and brought me to try the foods I wanted even if it's not her preference. During that trip I was a little sick, and the cold weather was also affecting my desire to go out much and I felt quite tired at the end of the day. I was surprised she only booked one room with two beds, and I didn't know she trusted me enough despite our first meeting. But I didn't take the opportunity and I barely talked much with her in the room, and honestly I felt her looks was not really like the pictures. There is definitely photoshop done but she's like 80% similar to how her photos are. So that was the first meeting and I probably was not proactive enough. I also realized she wanted to split the bill on everything and didn't expect me to pay.
After a couple months, I had a business trip to her country and I took the chance to meet her. She agreed to meet me after her morning shift on a Saturday she took me around her city and treated me to coffee and lunch and dinner. She even invited her brother to have a meal together with us. She told me it's her treat since I visited her city. I looked at her in a different light this time and I realized I missed out and I messed up.
After the trip we continued to chat and things were kinda back to the way it was, just occasional pleasantries and brief update about each other. And one day she mentioned about coming to a city in my country for a trip as her friend went there before. So I gladly agreed and welcomed her. So we arrange for the trip and she did the planning again as she normally prefers to do these things. So when she came, I welcomed her and we enjoyed the trip and this time she booked an apartment with two rooms. And overall it was pleasant and I decided this time I will be proactive to let her know I'm interested. But at one moment while taking her picture, I noticed she had underarm hair and that threw me off a little... I know it's immature of me but it's the first time I'm dating a girl and that I've seen these kind of things. So I held back and didn't really let her know my desire to be clear about our relationship. And I feel I messed up again. I also realized it was not easy for a girl who went on a trip and had her period on the last day and had to take a flight home.
As we went back we did continue to chat as usual but I realized we never called, just strictly chatted the whole 2 years. And now on the 3rd year I invited her again to come to another city for a trip. And I was sure I would be forthright about myself to her. When discussing about the upcoming trip, I mentioned briefly to her that we're both single, we could consider to be a couple, I mean why not? And she thought I was joking and she aske dif my parent allowed me to marry a girl from another country. I said they would be happy if I can find a girl I loved and marry her. And I said let's talk about this in person. Soon the time for the trip came, and this time I did the planning and booked the hotels. But despite me booking the same one room two beds setup, this time she said she preferred her own room as she needs to have some time on her own to unwind. I did feel rejected but I let her do as she wished. During the third trip I definitely let her feel I cared about her and was more proactive. And during the last day, her period came again. But this time I was prepared with ginger tea and she appreciated it. On the flight home, I told her we've known each other for 3 years and I've found her more and more attractive and I'd like us to consider being a couple. She agreed we're quite similar and can match well with each other. But she said she want to consider factors like family approval, LDR and future relocation factors. I agreed and told her let's think about it together. In the end I told her I appreciated her take time off from work to come meet me and that she enjoyed the trip. So I didn't ask her to pay me for it.
When she returned back to her country we did chat a little bit more frequent now and I thought it was a hint I need to be more proactive. One day when she posted on social media that she's frustrated and unhappy. I tried to let her know I would be her listener and I am serious about being with her. She left me on read for 5 days and just said she had a tiring week. And she went to hike the next day and she just gave me brief updates like her departure so I wished her safe trip and enjoy herself. And after a couple of days I send her a message and she briefly mentioned she talk to her mom about me. I was surprised and I told her I'm grateful she did that and she can tell me about it when she has time. But she never did. And ever since then I felt like I have been rejected multiple times and didn't look for her. But occasionally she'd send me her gym picture updates and her cute pet cat who she refers as her baby. I just replied to them with a statement because I didn't want to ask her any questions.
So fast forward a couple weeks I had a long weekend and I asked her if she want to go on a date with me. And I could find a affordable flight to meet her. But she said she had already planed a hiking trip with her friend and it wasn't easy to find a group to go together and share the cost so she could not change the schedule. She also told me it's too far. So I just told her it's fine, and I understand and just switched the topic about a coffee recipe I'm trying lately. She responded with enthusiasm as she love coffee and the conversation ended.
From these interactions, I wanted to know if I should still try? Or should I just give up on this girl? Sorry for the long post, I just wanted to give as much context as I can.
TLDR:
Trying to know if the girl is worth getting into a LDR with. People form 2 different countries. She trust me enough to travel with me to a different country she doesn't ask me to pay or expect me to spend on her unless I'm willing to do so. But when I decide to express my desire to be with her, my messages don't get a reply for days. And when I offered to meet in her country she doesn't prioritize me. That's basically what I feel, like she doesn't really prioritize me. Also she's 32 and I'm 29. All opinions are appreciated from men or women. Thank you!
My dating profiles feel lacking and I think my biggest set back so far is my lack of nice photos. I'm not sure what kinds of photos to use and I can't rely on friends to take photos of me 🥲
Attached are the photos I use on Hinge and Tinder. My Tinder account is doing well but hardly anything on Hinge. What photos work and what should I do instead?
I’m a 23 year old female living in a relatively conservative country and a small town almost everyone around me (younger or older) is in a relationship, dating, or going out. Meanwhile I feel completely stuck
I’ve had long distance relationships before but I’ve NEVER been on an actual first date in my life I’ve never gone out with a guy, shared activities, or experienced what a real life relationship feels like and honestly it bothers me
Here’s my issue whenever I like someone I might chat with them for a bit but it never goes beyond that if a guy asks me out I pull back and say no i can’t make the first move and I’m terrified of taking that step partly because of living in a small,conservative city, and partly because I don't even know what's holding me back
Am I subconsciously avoiding reality? Am I toxic for pulling away when things get real? Or am I just afraid? Has anyone else experienced this and how do you overcome the fear of that very first date?
May I please have some advise on my situation. 29 yo M ghosted me for about 2 week (while constantly watching my ig stories). He decided to pop back up yesterday by engaging with my story which I responded to casually on ig. Then he sent a text message to my phone about a post I made and didn’t even acknowledge his 2 wk absence and that sent me into a spiral because for the past 2 weeks my mind has been trying to fill in the gaps and I made soo many excuses for him thinking he was probably having tech issues which clearly isn’t the case. So I ended up crashing out but now I regret it because it was emotionally loaded…
I only sent him an audio msg basically telling him “Jay I’m gonna be very honest with you.. looking back, I actually let my guard down a whole lot. & that’s because I genuinely like you. But what I’m not going to do is sit here & entertain the inconsistency you’ve been giving me or allow myself to be treated casually. If you want to continue going ghost for weeks, I respect that, by all means, do you. You wanna be a ghost be my guest. But that’s not something I’m willing to participate in and I’m not standing for it. If you’re not serious about genuinely getting to know me and seeing where any of this could go, please, please do not text my phone. I don’t have time for silly games” I knowww it’s soo cringe 😬 but I was never taught how to navigate situations like these and my parents sucked. I think a bottle up soo much and let soo many things slide then I just end up exploding. Any advise will be greatly appreciated 😭
And just a little more background we’ve been knowing each other for a little over three years now. At first, he was the one who initiated dates. To be very honest most I canceled/rescheduled in the beginning because my guard was up… I did “ghost” him a couple times during his pursuit. However I gave it a chance and started to fall for him. But when I started to get comfortable and started initiating plans with him, that’s when things shifted. He seemed super busy & his communication died down. When I brought it to his attention he told me about a trip with his friends that he was preparing for and that his mother was in the hospital so he was very occupied and I understood. But I would like to think that since he’s a grown man, he could’ve simply just text me and be like “hey I have this and that going on, my communication might not be very strong at this moment”. Instead of disappearing & waiting hours/days to follow up on a plan that I initiated with him.
When I noticed the change in his energy, I started to blame myself and thought maybe if I gave him more attention in the beginning when he was trying to get with me things would be different. But like I said my guard was up. I’ve been hurt countless times in the past & I have a big heart that I wear on my sleeves… So I was very cautious… I know theres no excuse, but that was my situation. I try to tell myself OK maybe this is apart of dating & I just have to give him time in the dynamic to grow. I really tried to be reasonable and give him the benefit of the doubt.
There was also another situation that I feel had caused the shift in him because he probably knew he wasn’t gonna get what he really wanted… it was when we had went back to my place from a date. I genuinely thought it would just be like a chill night but he randomly said he needed to go to his car for something but instead he went and got condoms. I ended up kicking him out that night because I was honestly confused on what gave him the idea that I was open to sleeping with him. Especially if we never talked about anything like that. I understand letting him come into my place probably give him the idea, but it was simply to finish off our night with a movie and I had no other motives. Well after that we stopped talking for a while. With this situation, I thought maybe I’m tripping and he’s a man at the end of the day and as humans we’re all sexual beings and have that desire. So I ended up forgiving the situation & talking to him again… because I actually really grew to like him. (And no we never got intimate not even a shared kiss) so there’s nothing big keeping me attached. I just genuinely like him.
Should I just block him at this point and just remove all access he never responded to my audio message so I feel like that’s an answer.
I know this is really long and I am using talk to text so ignore any errors, I’m literally rambling. but can somebody please help me because I feel like I’ve been beating myself up a lot and I no longer wanna sit in that space of feeling like I was the one who ruined everything Male and female advice are welcome. It would actually be nice to get a male perspective on this as well. Thank you all for your help.
So my dad just found out I've been going on dates with guys I met off hinge. Some background info is that I never even talked to boys in high school but im 18 now and I like to be taken out yknow and go on dates with guys that are a little older like 20, 21, 22.
All of the guys were very respectful and never expected anything physical, as im waiting til marriage. And they took me out to dinner and to do fun activities.
I dont have any girl friends so this is the only way I really get to socialize with people.
When my dad found out he said im being foolish and implying that I've been sleeping with them.
He even asked me to scroll through my messages with one of them as proof I wasnt sending nudes.
In his defense I came home very late.
I guess what im trying to ask is, am I making a mistake?
Why would he say what im doing is foolish?
I just wish he would understand that i dont really have friends and him telling me he doesn't approve is basically sentencing me to years of loneliness since dating is the only way I feel wanted.