I am ALWAYS suspicious when someone is EXTREMELY attractive likes me on the apps. Like they're either just swiping indiscriminately or a bot or looking to say something mean. I am slightly overweight (I am curvy and wear it well). I get hit on publicly but not always by the hottest men. I don't mind because I am not a looks person.
I have never used dating apps and just downloaded hinge and bumble on my phone today. I am curious to see how much y'all spend on dating apps. To me it's a bit expensive to spend 40$ or more monthly on a dating app but wanna hear from other people as well.
I cant find any to save my life. And some apps have body filters like jacked but it seems some people drastically misunderstand what that means . Theres every single kind of person except the kind I like. And unfortunately it is a deal breaker as i only find muscular women attractive. Tried dating normal and was kinda resentful honestly so it wasnt good. Idk . Im pretty desperate to find a partner but will never just settle. Ive found out the hard way its better to be alone. But better is a subjective term because im lonely either way , with someone i dont really like but tried my best to or by myself.
I'm sick of having to make the first move and come up with things to talk about. I'm sick of having to make the first move. For once I just want someone to take an interest in me
I went on a date with a guy that I met on Hinge. On date number one he informed me that he got divorced because he cheated on his wife.
Is this a red flag to immediately run? I am really in to the guy but I don’t want to set myself up to be cheated on.
23F had two dates last week with two different guys that went really great. Looks like second dates for both are occurring but I wasnt sure when its icky to keep seeing two people. I dont know them both well yet as its only been one date but I dont really know the etiquette-do i just wait until they ask for exclusivity or is that expected at some point?
I have been online dating for a while and have had a couple relationships. Usually once I am interested in someone, it is fairly easy to fade away from any others I had been chatting with. This time is a little different.
Current situation is that I had an exceptionally great first date with guy #1 on Fri. We have our 2nd date on Thurs and have been talking for hours on the phone and texting often. We have loads in common, and I am definitely interested in him. He paused his profile and said he is only interested in talking to me.
I have also been talking to guy #2. If guy #1 was not in the picture, I would be very excited to go on a date with #2. I know it is not always wise to put all my eggs in one basket, but I am not wired to juggle multiple people, and I really do not want to continue talking with #2 while I see how #1 plays out. #2 is asking about my schedule so he can plan a date.
So is there a way to politely pause #2 for a couple weeks while I see if things work out with #1? I was thinking of texting him something like "I had some unexpected events come up that are keeping me extra busy. Let's talk in a couple weeks if you're still available." Any better suggestions?
Seems like all have a paywall. I can’t even see my match or chat with them unless I pay…any good online apps for meeting people!?
So I (26F) just started using Hinge a few days ago and did not realize it only gives you 8 free likes. I saw a profile that seemed promising right after using them up (which seems like an intentional moneymaking move from the app, showing a compatible match only after I'm out of likes). In the future I'll definitely be more selective to avoid this problem, but for now if I close the app, am I likely to ever see this person again (I live in a pretty big city)? If not, should I use the free rose thing? It seems like coming on a lot stronger than I meant to but I'd rather not lose the profile forever.
Question for women, do you think men should list their height on apps like tinder/bumble? By doing so, it seems like they're sort of limiting their dating pool right off the bat. However, if they don't, they risk potentially disappointing the woman or even possibly making her feel deceived. It seems like a bit of a catch-22 tbh.
Basically, I'm sort of just wondering what the proper "etiquette" is, so to speak. I know for some girls it can be a deal breaker, whereas others aren't too fussed. As a shorter dude, I'd hate for the first thing I see when meeting a girl to be the disappointment at my stature written all over her face lol. On the other hand, I sort of feel shorter dudes should get a chance to "sell" themselves—especially since it's a pretty competitive environment for men. If you were a guy using OLD, would you put your height?
I was banned from Hinge 2 years ago, never looked into why and never bothered appealing since I was too addicted to dating apps anyways.
Fast forward to 2 weeks ago, I decide I want to get back on Hinge, send them an appeal by email, and they reinstate my account in under 24 hours. I assume that means they looked into my ban and found it to be a mistake, but not sure.
Anyways, I have recreated my account, and I have gotten 0 matches in 2 weeks. The reason I feel like this is a shadowban is because in the past, I would get alot more matches with way fewer likes sent. At this point, I have probably sent over 200 likes with no matches.
Is it possible that even though they unbanned my account, it is still shadowbanned in a way?
I'd say 3/6 photos are the same as my old profile, phone number is also the same, but I thought I wouldn't have to worry about stuff like that considering they unbanned me themselves.
Hello all,
I recently became comfortable with the idea of dating again after a nasty breakup two years ago.
Anyway, is it normal to not get any likes or matches the first couple of weeks as a guy? I’ve never tried apps before, and I’ve been told Hinge is one of the better ones. I’ve basically exhausted the people in my chosen radius, and I do put effort in my messages with my likes.
I’ve even overhauled my profile based on feedback, and nothing. I know I’m not the most attractive man, but I still try to work with what I have. I don’t think I aim too high either.
My biggest dealbreakers currently are people who want kids or smoke, but I do try my luck with the “not sure” about kids as well.
I do think a couple factors potentially working against me are my race and height.
Not sure whether to end this experiment or continue.
For guys who get a lot of matches on dating apps, what type of pictures are you using?
I'm not so conventionally attractive but people tell me that if I'm not I should be perceived as high status or a person with taste.
I do think that I am fairly stable with my job and my place so maybe I should work on my presentation a lot as I BELIEVE EVERYTHING depends on pictures on the apps.
While I am willing to invest in places, outfits and settings need help where can I improve
Hello, I have been alone for over 10 years now. It did not bother me that much, but lately I started trying to make my life not slip through my fingers and it got a bit repetitive and lonely.
In my field of work I do not have any contact with women, so my "game" is absolutely non-existent. My male coworkers are much older than me and after work they go back straight home to their families, therefore there's no chance of going out with them and meeting their female friends.
It looks like my only real choice is dating apps, but since I haven't talked to a woman in over 10 years and have no idea how to small talk, my first impressions are probably awful. And I feel like these online dating apps are basically based on first impressions, especially when there's like 20 male vs 1 female users.
I'm looking for tips and recommendations from more experienced users, that would help me prevent feeling defeated and rejected after the first month of using the app.
Thank You all.
Stop liking profiles if you know you’re not in town for long
For reference: I like 5 miles away from an international airport. Women who are leaving town or know that they do not have any free time will like my profile.
It’s such an annoying, selfish thing to do. You know that you’re essentially unavailable, my bio says where I’m located. Yet, you still give me the run around.
I’m not comparing the people who do this to the people who know they will be back. I’m specifically referencing the “I was only in town for the weekend.” Women who match with you on Sunday, knowing their flight leaves in 2 hours.
So I'm 22m and I've been on dating apps for the last year just about and at this point I'm just starting to think dating isn't a thing anymore since no one ever wants to put in the effort, something i see a lot is they'll have their age set to something but then have their reall age somewhere else on their profile but apart from that, every conversation I have had with someone who's profile explicitly says something along the lines of "no hookups and want something serious" leads to them saying "I'm not looking for anything serious, just some fun" then someone else who also says they want something serious and hate people who can't communicate will short responses while I carry the conversation then just disappear randomly or just outright ignore me when i try to start a conversation. Or am I just naive and dating was never serious and wasn't about effort just what's easy? because I've tried about 9 dating apps and they were all the exact same
Hey all
So I have been dating over summer with a few people but as it has got into August, it became way more difficult with family plans coming in for people and people being on holidays etc
Do any of you find that dating is better in a sense in October / November time when the summer holiday season have passed but it has not quite the winter holiday season yet?
Also, some people say January - February is a great time as well? Let me know your thoughts 👋🏽
I've been thinking about making a post on one of the reddit dating subs and seeing what happens. Idk why but using hinge or tinder doesnt appeal to me I'd rather make a full post. I think women get more responses on reddit but also a lot of men probably dont read the posts in full. Any advice?
I’ve recently started dating again after a long break and went on a date last week where the guy asked me A LOT about my dating history within the first 15 minutes.. how long I’d been on the apps, how many dates I’d been on, how they went, whether I’d met anyone organically, how long ago, if I'd been in a long term relationship, hiw long was it etc...
None of the questions were inappropriate individually, but the rapid fire questioning made me feel like I was being interviewed rather than having a convo. Like I found myself giving much more detail than I wanted because I didn’t know how to handle it.
Is this normal dating behaviour? And how do you politely give vague answers or redirect when someone starts asking questions like this?
Like, I have tried dating in Chicago but I can't, I get ghosted, stood up, and left on read. But when I talk to someone somewhere else I feel like I'm prime beef lol.
As a nerdy guy I don't get a lot of attention from anyone but when i get match overseas these women actually like me and want to talk to me. While here I rarely get any attention from anyone and get no matches from apps.
Am i just weird or something? Right now I'm talking to this woman from Bangladesh who's cute, funny, sexy, and is childfree. I like talking to her a lot and she's interested in board games, tv shows and other things.
For reference I'm 5'2 and latino.