When someone who seems like a potential match has said they want kids and you don't, do you still swipe Right or just skip their profile?
Would you still want to date and spend time with someone who has already expressed a different stance from your non-negotiable?
I (55M) have been on Hinge for about 5 months. And the most consistent thing I see on women's profile is how so many women express a desire to travel or showcase their travelling experience or explicitly seek a man to travel with.
A case in point, I just swiped through 20 profiles (liked 2 of them) and 15 of them mentioned travelling as a requirement. 75%.
I love travelling as well but I would not even consider it in my top 10 criteria for women. With the limited real estate on these profiles, there are so many other qualities I would want to see on their profiles.
What is it with women and travelling? And why is it so important for the man to show compatibility with it?
Hello everyone,
I’m going to Europe at the end of summer and wanted some tips or stories on navigating online dating while on vacation (yes ik it’s not everyone’s cup of tea). Im in my mid twenties and got out of a long term relationship about a year ago. I want to open myself up to the dating world and I think it would be fun to go on 1-2 Hinge dates while on vacation. It would be a good experience for me and a little romance would be cute. Does anyone have tips for this or experiences they’d like to share? I’m not sure if most ppl are into meeting a girl that’s vacationing in their hometown for a day just to hangout.
There are so many apps for just homosexual men. What about the saphic ones?
I used OkCupid in 2015-17 and it worked quite well for me. I liked the system of answering questions to be matched with ‘compatible’ people and that you could describe yourself in detail on your profile.
I met my first girlfriend on there in 2016 and we were together for about six months. Soon after, I met my second girlfriend on there and we were together for a year.
When I started dating again in 2018, OkCupid had gone downhill - it had been made more like all the other ‘swiping’ apps and it seemed most people had stopped using it. I started using Hinge at that point, and aside from a six month relationship with someone I met on there I’ve been using it ever since with very little ‘success’.
Are there any apps that are more similar to how OkCupid used to be?
I had a really quick connection with someone I met online, which translated into a great FaceTime date and then an in-person (it moved to text almost immediately). She’s super engaging when I ask her questions, but she doesn’t seem very curious about me. A bit of a red flag there. I told her at the end of the date that I would like to see her again, and told her I don’t expect a response from her at that moment, but to let me know if she’d be interested.
She goes through conversation bursts and then doesn’t respond for 1/2/3 days (she did agree to a second date with no day set)
It’s been three days now, and I see she keeps showing “online today” in the app. I deleted the app last night (I’m no longer on any dating platforms since they are kind of misery machines). I’m now worried that looked like a passive aggressive mismatch but I’m hesitant to send her another text
Is this a lost cause?
Update:
Thank you everyone! I’m over it, and happy to re-focus in a more meaningful direction
If a guy says “can’t believe I matched with you” or something to that effect is it a red flag or do you take it as a compliment? Sometimes I’m worried that him saying that means he doesn’t have confidence in himself and is secretly insecure and I’ll have to pay for it later
I matched with a girl. She has no name in her profile, I ask her what I should call her she responds with:
"Heyy im [name] wbu?"
My name is in my profile. I dont know what to think of this.
Trying to figure out if it’s better to ask a girl out and just giving one thing to do or should I throw out options
Example should I say something like hey do you want to grab dinner
Or if they agree to meeting up to hang out should I give options
Like bowling or a walk or dinner?
I'm not sure if its the same from a woman perspective looking at men, but I've tried nearly every major dating app for a few weeks each, and with almost all of them there are a ton of girls who will barely do anything of effort. Little to no bio, really unflattering pictures, "I'm not on here much," and especially no one ever texts back. I have gotten several matches who just never respond after weeks, so they might as well have not matched. If you're not on the app, why even make an account???
Would it be a red flag if you found out that a guy has no friends for women?
If you have been on a few dates with someone and talking when do you stop going on dates with others? When they ask to be exclusive and only see each other?
Does it matter if long distance or not? Or how far you’ve gone (second or third base)?
I see it on a lot of profiles saying they want someone that can actually plan a date. But what does that actually mean? I mean its a date, we go somewhere at a time, and then do some activities. Other than picking a time/location and a few spots to visit its not really much to think about no? Is there something I'm misunderstanding?
Yesterday I redownloaded hinge and was swiping on all the profiles I liked until I ran out of likes. I realized this when I tried to send a like, so hinge knew I was interested. Cut to today when my amount of likes are refreshed. I went looking for the profile in hopes of liking that same profile and he’s in the freaking standout thing where you have to send a rose!!! Not only this, but nearly every profile in there was one I would like, but I can’t because you only get one rose and I used it yesterday and you have to pay for more. Now I have to wait who knows how many weeks to get enough roses or pay for them to like these profiles because they are not in the regular swiping order.
This is completely a scam. Hinge took the characteristics I was liking to then hoard the best profiles behind the rose paywall. So frustrating that they are withholding matches that appear the most compatible.
Anyone else have this happen?
Matched with someone had a short flirty banter, then I asked her for a coffee date subtlely, then she caught on and ask me to try harder... I tried and ask properly this time but was met with silence. Did I do anything wrong ?
I have “figuring out my dating goals” and “don’t want children” on my hinge profile and I keep getting a lot of “life partner” and “want children” type of profiles liking me. It’s very frustrating.
Does anyone else have this happen to them?
Yesterday I 24M went on a date with a girl from Hinge 22f. We ended up hanging out for like 9 hours and it felt like it went really well. I was making her laugh and she was doing the "brushing my arm" thing when she laughed. She was asking tons of questions about me and seemed genuinely interested. I showed her my hobbies and she said she was impressed. During the date we went to different cities, got lost a few times, it was like an adventure. Overall the vibes felt great and to me she was the perfect woman.
Well in the last 24 hours since the date ended her texts have been super short, like 1 or 2 words with emojis. Ive dated enough to know this means she's probably talking to someone else and I get pushed to the side or eventually ghosted. Its just confusing how a date can go so well, and one person can still lose interest like that.
There's also another girl Im talking to who is showing a lot of interest in me, flirting a lot, initiating conversation and talking about seeing me. So I think I'll focus on her now.
I’m just a single gal (30F) navigating the world of dating apps, and feeling both overwhelmed and isolated at the same time. All of my friends either met their partners ‘in the wild’ or when the apps were in their infancy. Just looking to be reminded of the light at the end of the tunnel when online dating feels so exhausting but still holds strong potential to find a partner.
I get the idea of befriending people before considering dating, but more as a 'we already know each other in person' sort of thing
If you match with someone on dating apps, like the simplest thing to get to know them to me it seems is to just do an activity together, right?Dinner, bowling, minigolf, whatever. But like if you are both attracted to each other, how is that not a date? It just feels like a more nebulous and undefined sort of thing.
Am I supposed to offer to pay for the both of us still? Am I still expected to plan everything? Because that would not feel like a friendship at all
If we hang out off and on for a month and I'm having a great time and she seems to be too, do I just say, 'hey, you want to date for real?'
Maybe this is supposed to be like hanging out in groups instead of one on one? That seems even more complicated to start out with
Idk.Friends are just people I click with, we have shared interests or history or whatever. There's no intentionality to it. It just is. Starting a friendship from a dating app, that may or may not turn into something more, I just am struggling to wrap my brain around how that even should be approached
I’m getting back on the app for the first time in 3 years after a break up and I realized a lot of good photos of me were taken by my ex. Is this something that puts you off?