r/ghosting

I was thinking of putting at the bottom of my bio, along with looking for something serious something like:

"Brand new to dating apps, if we match then you can be sure I won't ghost you. I'll be honest if somethings not working" or something to that effect.

Is this a terrible idea? My thoughts are that I may reassure someone a little who's hoping for something serious, and had had enough of it in the past. And hopefully it might influence whether or not (even just slightly?) they choose to themselves over being honest.

But the downsides is it might sound like I'm taking it too seriously, and I'm putting the idea into existence straight away, but I guess if it puts off any ghosters then that's a plus for me.

What's your thoughts on including this? I can cope with someone saying "I'm talking to someone else sorry" much better than just being randomly ignored for life. Rather get an answer than endless loop of this stuff, which is sadly exactly what I'm expecting. But currently I have no alternative other than to use apps.

Why is it that when you stop talking to a guy, especially one who ghosted you or did you dirty, he suddenly stops liking your posts but never unfollows you? You don't chase him, you don't ask for closure, and you don't reach out. You simply move on with your life. Yet, he still keeps following you, viewing your profile, and watching the videos you post. No likes, no communication, just silent observation.

Like I don't know if I was to ghost someone I would remove my self completely just saying. Some people are bad at completely removing themselves.

So, about a month ago (yes, I’m still thinking about it) this guy that I had matched with on hinge months before (he ghosted mid convo & I just moved on & forgot about it) came out of the blue to apologize and ask me out for drinks. I find him to be extremely attractive, and his personality seemed fun & chill so I figured why not? (I am a woman btw).

So, went out for drinks, he seemed a little shy but the conversation was flowing for hours & we went to multiple bars. I could tell he was working up the courage to make physical contact all night which indicated nervousness but overall made him look interested. Anyway, one thing led to another and he ended up coming over. We immediately got into my bed and had an AMAZING time, multiple times. It felt very natural and we clearly had great physical chemistry. Nothing about it felt forced or mechanical & we were both obviously into it. There was eye contact, talking, laughing, etc. It just felt right.

He stayed the night, we slept in and then continued physical intimacy, multiple times. Then, I suggested getting breakfast & he agreed. He was super touchy with me on the subway, initiating all physical contact. Breakfast was kind of quiet but we were tired and hungover so I didn’t think too hard about it. We were definitely chatting but not about anything too deep, you know? Afterwards we went on a little stroll where he AGAIN was super touchy, rubbing my bum and back, holding my hand, stopping to kiss me, the whole nine yards. Eventually we went our separate ways, before which I said I’d like to see him again and he said he’d like to see me too. We kissed goodbye.

Later that day he followed up with “the way I wanted to come right back to yours when I left,” to which I replied “wish you did :).” The next day i asked what his weekend plans were and he just gave me a long list of activities and didn’t suggest an alternative time to see each other. I felt bold and texted later that day asking to see him on Thursday (the first date was Monday) & he said he would totally be down but he has a birthday party.

I left him alone until the following Monday & reached out again to ask how his weekend went. He took days to reply, eventually giving me yet another long list of stuff he did, then he asked how mine was. I said it was great blah blah blah, then I decided to prompt a second date ONE more time, and he completely ghosted me. OH and in the middle of all of this I noticed that he deleted his hinge profile and MADE A NEW ONE.

What the f*ck was that?? This has never happened to me before. I’ve had one night stands that have never turned into anything. It’s disappointing when it happens but jut not to this degree. It has left me feeling so disgusting, confused, insecure, and worthless. It sounds dramatic but I just feel defeated. Someone please provide me some sort of insight into why people behave like this.

Tried dating for the first time this year and met this guy I really liked. He took me on dates and I thought he liked me too. Then he started going days and sometimes a week without talking to me. I didn’t block him because i’m dumb and unfortunately still liked him. A month later he started breadcrumbing me on different social media apps. He eventually reached out a couple months later like nothing happened ….and I replied. I know, It was dumb. We talked for a couple weeks and then he started going silent for days/weeks and would come back like nothing (shocker!). I tried convincing myself to be okay with it because I thought I could do casual but I cant. I still wanted more and he did not want that clearly. I blocked him on everything a few weeks ago and it was hard at first. I will never make the mistake of letting someone back into my life after hurting my feelings. Never do it. :/

I(41f) met a guy (33m) while out with friends. We had amazing conversations via text and a few FaceTime calls which he initiated. We hung out a few time at his house and had a seeming great time. I didn't "give it up", we've only known each other for 2.5 weeks and I dont sleep around. He has a part time security gig which he worked on Fri night. We had plans to see each other the next day, sat. He text me a few times while he was working Fri night... then disappeared. Sat around 2pm he said he had to get his screen fixed and that something crazy happened and he was gonna call me later and tell me about it. He never called and I haven't heard from him since. We were texting all day everyday since the day we met and really seemed to hit it off well. Even after the times we hung out he still communicated and called me..... im just so confused

So a couple months ago my coworker (M24) started pursuing me (F26). We would joke and just have a fun time at work and I never saw him as more until he started to act a little differently. He started texting me more, asked if I wanted to get a drink together sometime, and offered to help me study for a qualification I needed.

We ended up going to dinner and from there started talking all the time. Things got romantic and sweet very quickly. He talked about wanting to take me into the mountains to go hiking and then staying at a cabin up there. He told his family about me. He wanted to see me everyday and I wanted to see him too.

Things were starting to get physical and I knew I needed to tell him my diagnosis before things went further. I called him and told him over the phone and he said it didn’t change how he saw me and that he still wanted to be with me. I felt good about it and I figured he would do his own research on it too.

From there I felt a pretty immediate shift. He pulled back and things changed. He was canceling on plans and just seeming more distant. We still saw each other at work but I could just tell something was off. I decided to give him some space and I was having a hard time reading him. He would reach out to me sometimes, would still flirt with me at work (and I was so confused about what was happening) and then 5 days passed without him reaching out.

I figured whatever was happening between us romantically was over but I reached out because I needed some kind of conversation. I asked what happened and he said he wasn’t ready to jump back into a relationship, that it was going too fast and he was sorry. That’s all I needed to hear but he kept going and said maybe in the future we can try again because he liked me he just wasn’t ready. I told him we should just stay friends because I just felt rejected and confused. I didn’t want his pity “maybe we can try again”.

Since then he still flirts with me at work and I’m trying to maintain distance and not talk as much because it’s honestly hurting me. He still tries to help me even though I’m shorter with him. The other day he threw something at me in a playful way and I threw it back at him and he picked me up and threw me over his shoulder. It feels like he always tries to be near me and to talk to me but at the same time he doesn’t acknowledge what happened and I’m hurting about it. If he wanted me he wouldn’t have rejected me. I wish I could just get over it and go back to how things were before. I’m sad and I wish I didn’t like him anymore. I want to choose myself and say screw him. I think it was because of my diagnosis and I’m having a hard time getting over this. Any wisdom or advice is appreciated.

Been seeing this guy since the very beginning of May. We normally talk everyday, even if its just brief. We would normally see each other once maybe twice a week. We are both college students and with school going its slowed down to once every two or three weeks, and texting has been more limited. Sometimes he'll go a week at a time without saying anything, which isnt a big deal, I understand that we are both busy. Especially here lately, hes been very lovey when I do see him, and his texts are all about "I miss you, I want to see you." He even suggested that he wants to start partying together and doing a couples halloween costume. Its currently Friday, I saw him last Thursday and havent heard a word from him since. I texted him Saturday night, with no response. I just thought he was busy. Texted him last night (so Thursday night, since it had been a week) and havent heard anything since. Am I being ghosted? (side note, im sorry this is written so badly im basically just trying to brain dump here)

Should I give it one more shot or cut my losses?

I recently reconnected with a guy I met on dating apps a few years ago. We are both in our mid 30s! I reached out to him via IG

He’s back in my hometown which I’m moving to in just a couple of weeks because I got a job there. When we first met for dinner, he did ask if I was single now and if I was dating anyone, etc., which made me assume he was somewhat interested in me.

Our 2nd date was about a week and a half-2 weeks later. We had movies, dinner and drinks. It seemed to have gone well. Our dates are spread apart because of me living in another city.

Then we had our 3rd date September 10th. We went out to a baseball game. At the end of the date he did ask if he will see me again soon, and I said sure. At the end of the weekend, I texted him to let me know when he will be free one of these weekends and that I’ll make some time to come up. He replied saying “for sure!” and we had some small talk about our nfl team playing. He never ended up replying to my last message.

It’s been over 2 weeks now and I haven’t heard anything. He is busy, he manages and owns a bunch of franchise restaurants but I know it only takes a few minutes out of your day to send a text or check in.

He comes off very passive and has been hard to read. Not sure if I should just brush it off and wait for him to text me, if he does; or if I should try reaching out one more time. I don’t want to come off as clingy and double text.

Had an amazing first date with this guy. He was super attentive, texting me constantly, talking about wanting a life partner, making future plans, etc. We had a great date and I genuinely thought there was potential. Then he went on a beach trip and basically disappeared. I reached out once, got nothing, and eventually assumed he wasn’t interested and moved on.

Now, almost two weeks later, he randomly comes back with “Hey”

Like… sir??? 😭

Do I respond? Ignore him? Tell him I’m just going to pretend like we never met since you literally ghosted me for two weeks? I’m honestly more annoyed than excited that he’s back.

My boyfriend of 2.5 years ghosted me after an argument about him visiting me. I started medical school this summer and have been asking him to come see me (we have been long distance the entire time but I have done most of the traveling and we lived together most of the last 1.5 years). He’s been out and about, living life, and seemingly letting me struggle. He was never like this. There’s no other girl, but he’s insanely avoidant. I don’t know what to do. Becoming a doctor doesn’t even feel like it matters anymore since I always feel sidelined for his engineering job. I hate my life, I hate everything, and I don’t know how I’m supposed to even move on without an official breakup. I don’t want to breakup :(.

Went on an amazing date with a guy a week and a half ago and he immediately suggested a second one and we kept texting. He then said he was busy that week so let’s have the second date the week after. The texting remained pretty consistent.

It’s the second week now and we’ve continued texting but he never brought up the second date; after our most recent conversation he never replied and it’s been over 2 days now.

I don’t wanna seem desperate but I also just wanna know if he’s simply not interested anymore and have that answer for my peace of mind. Should I double text him tomorrow or leave him be?