I kinda feel bad about it but also it just rubbed me the wrong way and made me feel like I was being used
(F 32) I'm very curious to find out "WHY DO MOST PEOPLE BLOCK?"
I always thought blocking unnecessary and kinda "rude" (unless the person is bothering, insisting or disrespecting you)
If you can, please, reply the questions below and maybe we will get some surprise...
To make it easier, I wrote a few options, so you can just copy and mark or just write the related letter.
Choose 1 or more options and be totally free for making any comments ... Thanks 🙏🏻
1 - I AM:
A ( ) A woman under 25
B ( ) A woman 25+
C ( ) A man under 25
D ( ) A man 25+
E ( ) I don't think gender matters.
F ( ) I don't think age matters.
2 - I BLOCKED BECAUSE:
A ( ) I "hate" her / him
B ( ) I was mad at that time.
C ( ) She / he was a jerk to me.
D ( ) She / him was insisting and annoying after I said "no".
E ( ) Though I like the person, I wanted to forget her / him.
F ( ) I blocked my ex because my current GF / BF was jealous.
G ( ) I blocked someone I liked because I wanted to get her / his attention.
3 - I WAS BLOCKED:
A ( ) Because I wasn't nice to her / him.
B ( ) Because I cheated on her / him.
C ( ) But I know she / him that still liked me.
D ( ) For no reason.
E ( ) Without having any fight or disagreement.
4 - I THINK:
A ( ) Blocking and not seeing pictures, etc. helped me to get over that person.
B ( ) Blocking never helped me to forget anyone.
Got ghosted a month ago, then found out she's dating another guy. Not a single word of closure - she just disappeared.
Tomorrow would have been our one-year anniversary, and I feel like absolute sh_t.
I want to text her so badly, but I know it would probably just hurt me even more. I really don't know how to move on. I've never felt this lonely and hopeless.
ну он мне вообще первый начал писать,я ему отвечала еле как типо «пошел в сраку» как начала интерес проявлять и открываться сразу ой да пошла ты в очко,и девушка у него сразу появилась,дебил
Advice welcomed.
On the dating apps and matched with this girl. Doing the normal get to know you questions and I casually mentioned that I ride a motorcycle.
She essentially said “you probably get asked this a lot but is there a plus one on your motorcycle”.
I told her she could be my backpack and that I had a spare helmet and she could ride with me and that she was the first person to ask me that question in that manner.
Then I felt the convo just took a turn and she asked me if she could ask me a question.
I said yes and she asked me if I talked to a lot of girls.
I was trying to get more clarification and asked if romantically?
Then poof got blocked 😅 Did I accidentally make myself come off as a player or something?
Idk that was a first for me.
I am genuienly wondering
Короче встречалась прошлым летом две недели с одним парнем из класса,он мол шут,в центре внимания,всю школу знает и тд. Так вот он сам написал мне,признался и тд
Летом встречались и после я написала ему спустя две недели мол «сорри,ты мне не нравился,давай лучше не будет встречаться»
Он ответил тогда «ок»
И весь прошлый учебный год избегал меня пиздец,то есть я заходила в компанию,а он разворачивался и уходил. Или например мог при моих знакомых сказать,что лист по истории воняет задницей,и что я выгляжу также. Потом настроил против меня моих единственных знакомых,я осталась в изоляции. После чего лидер решил затравить меня,и он вдруг вступился. Потом я поссорилась с его другом и он заставил этого друга извиняться передо мной три раза. После вконце года уже мог рандомно подойти типо «а у меня такая же игра,ты на каком уровне?»
Или стоять тупо сзади пялиться как я играю
Но в целом после каникул в 1,5 месяца,вот три дня учебы уже. Вчера например его выгнали с последнего ряда на передний за пиздеж,и сказали что свободное место есть возле меня или возле изгоя аутиста,он сказал мол «пиздец выбор» и сел возле аутиста у которого проблемы с гигиеной,которого он сам же травит,но иногда «сходит» как миротворец. Сегодня сажусь возле одноклассницы,а там рядом возле меня его рюкзак был с кго местом, так ровно когда я села возле одноклассницы он тупо подходит и забирает свой рюкзак и меняет место. Это че?
He’s been on delivered for a day Idk what my next move is but I’m just happy the balls in my court
Hej, jag har nu för andra gången blivit ghostad detta året. Jag är M38 och inte dejtat supermycket senaste 5åren. Men detta året har jag lyckats få till två dejter med två väldigt fina kvinnor och båda dejterna har varit riktigt bra i mitt tycke iallafall där vi har skrattat mycket, bra konversationer och det flytit på hela dejten med ett bra hångel som avslut.
Har till bådat sagt att de ska skriva när det kommer hem så man vet att de kommit hem säkert, är ju ändå lite gentlemannamässigt gjort och standard. Sen har konversationerna som varit långa i textform innan dejterna avtagit efteråt och när man frågat om de vill gå på dejt nummer 2 då blir det tvärstopp och ghostingen är ett faktum
Båda har varit F35 med 2 barn och varit singlar 4-5år. Varför gör människor såhär? (Förstår att de är konflikträdsla / man vill inte avisa någon) men det är ju fan värre att bara sluta svara istället för bara säga "Tyvärr jag är inte riktigt intresserad längre, det var trevligt att träffas men det blir inget mer, ta hand om dig"
Så min fråga är, ska man skicka något till den senaste som ghostat mig i 6 dagar för tillfället och då ska det även tilläggas att hon ville byta platform att snacka vidare precis innan? Jag vill mer bara ha ett riktigt avslut egentligen.
Är det någon som lyckats komma ur / vänt det till något positivt.
I’ve been thoroughly ghosted by this guy I was seeing for months, and without any response from him or acknowledging or explanation. To be so honest I’ve reached out multiple times, he hasn’t blocked me, and still follows me on IG but never views my stories
I checked today and saw a post of him out on a date with another girl. It’s been one week since me and him last talked. I tried everything.
I just want to text him one last time
But the worst part is knowing he won’t respond but there is a little part of me that hopes maybe this time he would be open to giving me some
Sort of closure. It just feels like if he cared about me at all he would give me some of that decency. But maybe the hard truth is that he does not care. At all.
Hey
The last time I posted on here was like, a week or two ago and of course I get an asshole or two in my comments that wasn’t really necessary.
I feel like a lot of people on here are generally expressing their hurt in this thread and then there are trolls just being trolls lol.
Show some kindness, especially in threads like this one. Y’know?
By the way, for those who are still hurting, it does get better. I know everyone says that and that’s the last thing you wanna hear but it does. I’m finally moving on, have somebody new on my mind, and I’m starting to accept what happened to be what happened.
Don’t be a dick.
If they stop communicating with me and I can tell I'm being ghosted, I will send a final message letting them know that ghosting is immature and cruel, and that I hope they can do better in the future. Give them a day to respond (they probably won't) and after 8 hours max after sending that final message, block them on every channel that I have their contact on. Then, delete their number and every message they've ever sent, unmatch everywhere - I do not give myself any chance to make contact with them again, no drunken texts because every trace has been deleted and there is no way to contact. But more importantly I don't give them a chance to come back in to my life and do it all again so block block block. It's helped me recover from ghosting episodes and it's what they deserve, to be completely cut off forever. Oh also never add them on socials in the first place. Love, a Scorpio x
For a long time, I struggled with dating apps, especially Tinder. People kept telling me to quit because dating apps were cold and dehumanizing and that I should meet women in real life instead.
So I did.
One day at work, I met a girl. She was cute, funny, and had an amazing smile. We got along well, so I told her, “I know this isn’t very professional, but I think you look amazing. I’d like to stay in touch.”
She asked if I wanted her number or Instagram.
I didn’t want to put pressure on her, so I offered to give her my Instagram instead. That way, she could decide later whether she wanted to contact me.
She preferred to give me hers.
Her account was private, so I sent her a request. I thought that if she wasn’t interested, she simply wouldn’t accept it.
But she did.
We started talking, but she rarely replied. Sometimes she’d take hours or even days despite being online. I showed the conversation to some friends, and they told me she probably wasn’t interested.
I still tried a little longer because I really liked her.
Eventually, after being ignored for two days, I got frustrated and told her I was tired of the “princess behavior” and asked whether she actually wanted to talk to me.
She then ghosted me completely.
About a month later, I ran into her at a nightclub.
I make videos in clubs, and that night I filmed her. She was drunk and said something extremely personal on camera something that could potentially affect her private life if it was posted publicly.
The next day, she messaged me asking me not to post the video.
By that point, she had unfollowed me. So I couldn’t help thinking: you ignored me for a month, unfollowed me, and now suddenly you’re coming back because you need something from me?
I told her I didn’t know whether I would post it.
Suddenly, her behavior completely changed.
The girl who used to take hours or days to answer was now sending multiple messages in a row.
She apologized for ghosting me. She explained that she’d been in a toxic relationship and wasn’t ready to meet another man. She admitted that ghosting me wasn’t the right way to handle things.
She also told me that the brother of her best friend had committed suicide and that she’d been going through a difficult period.
For the next two days, we talked a lot.
She told me about her life. She apologized several times. She was incredibly nice to me. She even suggested that maybe we could have a drink together one day.
And that was basically all I had wanted from the beginning: for her to actually talk to me.
The strange part was seeing how differently she treated me once I had something she wanted.
But what she didn’t know was that I had already decided I wasn’t going to publish the video.
I just didn’t tell her.
I let her believe that I might post it because, yes, I wanted revenge for the way she’d made me feel when she ghosted me.
Eventually, her friend took her phone and called me. She told me she’d found her crying in the bathroom because she was scared about the video and asked me to delete it and apologize.
At that point, I ended it.
I told her friend I wasn’t going to publish anything, and I apologized to the girl.
The video will never be posted.
But I’m not going to pretend I regret everything.
Being ghosted repeatedly can seriously affect your confidence. When it happens again and again, you start wondering what’s wrong with you. You start questioning your looks, your height, your personality, everything.
People often treat ghosting as something insignificant because it’s “just not replying.”
But when you’re on the receiving end repeatedly, it can hurt.
For once, the situation was reversed. Someone who had left me waiting for a reply was now waiting for mine.
And yes, part of me enjoyed that.
Maybe what I did was petty. Maybe it was cruel. Maybe I took my resentment about being ghosted by other women out on one person who didn’t deserve all of it.
You can call me an asshole or inhuman if you want.
The situation is over. I’m not posting the video, I’m not going to contact her again, and I’m moving on.
And I swear I didn’t really care that she suffered or she cried I even enjoyed it to have a power on her. And the only reason I ended it after 2 days is because I didn’t want that commite suicide because of me then I can be in big trouble ( without this I would have let her suffer for 1 or 2 weeks ).
But I wanted to tell the story exactly as I experienced it.
A guy I met a year ago just reappeared from the dead 😂
We met, really connected, went out 3 times, talked everyday for 2 months, and then he ghosted me out of nowhere. Completely disappeared and even unfriended me.
I moved on, forgot about it, life went on…
And now, ONE YEAR LATER, he sends me a friend request. Sir??? 😭
I have absolutely no expectations and I’m not interested in romanticizing anything, but I’m nosy. I want to know WHY.
Would you accept the request just to see what he wants, or protect your peace and leave him in the past?
I was with this guy for 6 months. Everything was going really well, we got along perfectly, and he treated me really well.
The only thing that bothered me was that he never wanted to go out with me. He didn’t want to see me very often—we would see each other once every 2–3 weeks. The thing is, we lived in the same area and could easily have seen each other either at school or around town. Whenever I tried to talk to him about it, he just wouldn’t communicate. He would say he simply didn’t feel like going out and that he wanted to sleep.
The last time we argued, I told him again that it hurt me that he never wanted to go out with me and that I wanted us to spend more time together. He ignored me, made some excuse about needing to get a haircut and go to sleep, and that was it. After that, he stopped replying to me.
The next day, I went to his classroom and he treated me with complete indifference. I left angry and kept texting him from Thursday until Sunday. Eventually, I realized that he genuinely wasn’t going to respond anymore. He basically broke up with me without ever actually saying it.
It’s been a few months, and I’m still struggling to get over it. I find it hard to believe that sex was all he wanted from me (I was 19 and he was 18), but I can’t stop thinking about it. I feel like shit. I can’t understand how someone can pretend to care so well for so long, only to eventually show you who they really are.
The whole experience has been horrible, and now I’m scared to try again with someone else. I keep feeling like everyone is the same and that I can’t trust anyone anymore.
We were friends in uni, we followed each other on ig. years after uni, we suddenly got closed. and somehow it got complicated as it involved feelings. he confessed to me, i liked him too however he took a step back when he knew i just got out from a relationship, he hated the idea of being a rebound. so since that we being distant. he kept avoiding me, while me on the other hand trying to understand the situation and wanted to be friends again. i tried to talk to him regarding this. he clearly said he wanted to move on, i respected that and expected him to be normal like previously. like im okay with him not having any feelings towards me as i treated it as just a fling.
but after the talk, he suddenly block unblock me on ig, then requested to follow again lol hahahah i asked him casually just like i would ask my other friends, but he chose to ignore. then he hid his stories from me and also muted my story which i tbfh dont understand, i thought we were okay??? ive benn trying to act normal, text him like a normal friend would do, share songs, but most of them he would ignore. fast forward its been months he didnt watch any of my stories. after almost 5 months, i decided to block him and guess what 2 days after that he suddenly deactivate his instagram. idk if anyone would be confused too or it just me?
i just wanted to be friends again with him. any advice on this?
okay so i got kind of set up with this guy. we didn’t really know each other, we just have a lot of mutuals, like a lot. so i knew of him, thought he was cute, asked to get set up, and we started texting. we were only talking fr for maybe a couple days, not even. genuinely mid conversation he randomly decides to ghost me out of nowhere??
to be honest, i don’t really care, like you do you boo, but i’m honestly just really lost because the conversation was good and he was so engaged, so i don’t understand why he just ghosted me mid convo.
it’s not like i need closure because we were barely talking, but part of me wants to text him and say something along the lines of “if you didn’t want to talk, you could’ve just said that… ghosting me is kinda a dick move.”
but at the same time i don’t even know if i want to text him because what would that ever give me? i don’t know.
also my friends are disagreeing with each other. 2 say text him, the other 2 say don’t. also keep in mind i’m 18 and i don’t really talk to guys that much, so i genuinely don’t know what to do here. help 😭
Hey, so I've been dating this guy for 2 months everything was going going well. There were 2 incidents screaming red flags but I ignored them. First it was a comparison to his ex and the second incident I was being yelled at for not being the best person to ask for directions in an area I don't know that well (I don't drive).
Keep in mind I am four years clean of toxicity (failed marriage). So me even tolerating the first and second incident is a tell that I really liked him...
Which leads me to this past weekend, someone on my property (the main house has a key to a door that leads into my extension of my home) basically broke in and strangley only took money out of my purse. The laptops, desktops, cells were all fine. Anyways after i dealt with it (speaking to the landlords, bolting the door on my side to prevent access) I informed said boyfriend, did he not lose his shit with me, calling me stupid and being vulgar for not involving the police (for R100 and some change). We all know SAPS would've laughed at me.
I had enough to deal with on Sunday and thought I'd address this matter with him on Monday (yesterday). I sent him a text making my boundaty clear wherein i state i dont take disrespect likely, we are both adults we can speak to each other calmly even if we disagree. He didn't respond for more than 24 hours left me on read.
Another form of disrespect, keep in mind this man is 10 years my senior one would assume there is a level of maturity.
I blocked and deleted his info, now he sends me money... i dont know if its in error and whether i should return it.
Any type of advice would assist at this point.
Heyy- using a throwaway for this.
I (F) had been recently seeing a guy and we had gone on few dates with another to be planned (mutual confirmation we both wanted a 4th but after a week/ 2 weeks as we were both busy). We had been intimate together and I had slept over at his place.
I noticed a bit of a change a few days after our last date, where he was taking a lot longer to respond and was less communicative but he was sick so i chalked it up to that. However, he then sent me a few drunk/ tipsy messages divulging that a close family member of his likely has a serious illness, and that he is scared. He has been a carer for said family member before and it appears this illness may be returning). It sounded awful and I felt a lot of empathy for him to the point where I actually teared up!
Anyway, I replied to his messages and tried not to just give sympathy but rather a shoulder to lean on etc. I don’t think it was too strong or anything, I just told him ppl process things differently and I’m okay with him taking space or me being a listening ear etc. I didn’t want him to feel embarrassed as he was clearly intoxicated when he sent the messages but i read them the next day. He read my response immediately when i sent it but didn’t reply. This was on Friday and now it’s the following Tuesday, still no response.
I was on a girls trip from Friday - Monday which he knew about so initially I thought it was that but now that I’m back I’m wondering if I’m being ghosted? I texted him yesterday just to let him know I got home from the trip and to ask how he was and still no response.
I’m really upset about it as I did really like this guy and saw something long term, he was also talking future tense with me and had been super communicative to this point so it makes me wonder if he’s just overwhelmed with what’s happening with his family?
Should I be upset and see this as ghosting or is it likely due to being overwhelmed? How long should I wait for him to reply and if he does- how can I best support him during this difficult time?
Would love any tips- I know we hadn’t known each other long but man, he was a great guy :/