r/NoOverthinking

Lately I’ve been a bit more sensitive (ok, perhaps a lot more sensitive) to social cues? and my close relationships including friendships and family. I was diagnosed with a terminal condition a few months ago after we found out treatment is no longer working, and lately I’ve really just been paying closer attention to who actually wants to spend time with me versus who is only spending time with me because they feel “obligated.” My close friend I’ve noticed has looked really uncomfortable when I bring up my prognosis or tell her how I’ve been(I only did this a couple times when I was feeling really down, I don’t bring it up often) and we’ve always talk about everything and vented to one another. She has been ghosting me lately when it comes to making plans and will only do things spontaneously. This time last year we would hang out multiple times a week, and this year I barely see her. Anyways, to the point…I texted her the other night telling her “thanks girly for hanging with me I had such a good time❤️😊” and she responded simply with “No worries!” Deep down I want to believe she doesn’t feel obligated to spend time with me and actually enjoys it, since we’ve always even so close , but by this response it made me feel hurt that she didn’t also say “me too” or anything like that. Just no worries (which makes me feel as if I was a bother). How do I stop feeling so hurt by something so little?

Have you guys ever wondered what happened to genuine friendships? Maybe I feel that way but maybe you might have ur right people in ur lives. No matter how much I talk and socialize it’s only as good as that but there is something that does not feel real anymore. Even seeing others talking and hanging out seems so fake. I might be assuming but people nowadays seems like gets together to take pictures and post on ig or socials to show off. Where’s the genuine connections? If something slightly goes wrong a bit, they don’t even like communicating anymore and just changes. Is it just me who feels this way or overthinking it? I don’t know maybe some of us just unlucky in terms of friendships.

Hi all,

Can anybody give me some advice/strategies to help me stop overthinking? When it comes to the evenings after work I find myself constantly replaying things over in my mind and overthinking conversations I have had. I don’t think it helps that I spend time on my own as well. I have tried talking therapy but it just has not helped.

If anybody had any advice on how to think positive and stop replaying everything in my head please let me know! Thanks

Lately I am noticing that eversince I moved back with my parents, my confidence has somehow vanished. I am thinking 100 times before doing anything, things that i have done flawlessly before. Like traveling solo, managing people, recieving orders. For example I have ordered a phone atleast 4-5 time in last decade all through amazon or flipkart, but this time I am so skeptic like what if it turns out to be a dupe. What will I do? My parents happen to be in a phase of life where they won't technically help or do anything but will constantly criticize about it. I am confused why this might effect me now in the ripe age of 26? Like they were unhelpful and held things against me if I made a mistake before also.

Next is I am afraid to make big purchases alone. Currently, I do have to do everything alone eventually and have done them but now I am delaying on important purchases and that's causing me a lot of distress also.

Lasting about traveling. I left for college at 18 in a different state to study. I travelled plenty. But lately I feel so underconfident to go for a solo trip nearby somewhere. And I feel guilty when friends or family can't really make time or plan something with me. If I have travelled so many times before, why can't I do it alone now? Each time I decide, there is some natural calamity news or women safety issue. Like these were there before also, but then I didn't care...why now?

Lastly its very confusing to my friends and family who have seen me be extroverted and independent all my life, that I have developed a weak spot suddenly. My attempts to ask someone to accompany me has also gone to waste as most people I know are introverts or think I am just suggesting a meet up for fun or anything. Mostly they don't get my situation. I don't blame them coz I am also confused.

If anyone has gone through the same or have any advices what might help or even a pov about this, plz share with me.

Replaying a conversation or planning for ten worst-case scenarios feels like preparation. Most of the time it's just worry wearing a disguise. Writing the thought down and asking "what can I actually do about this today?" has helped me cut through it.

I am 21M

Liked things like chess, books and running in the past, now becoming less and less skilled

Isolated myself and lay in bed mostly for the past 7 years

It will be hard for me to find even simplest job cause of isolation and lack of physicality

I am stupid. Everyday I Just cannot wait to go back to sleep again in order to do nothing

How to stop thinking and start f.e.reading, excersing each day more and more?

Is there anyone that can talk to me late at night or at night in general?

If you can’t talk during the day that’s fine.

I just desperately need nightly conversation

Discord is working for me again.
But at this point, idc what platform..

I am a 25 year old woman. I had short distance and long distance relationships. Whenever I had a long distance, call and message based friendship/relationship I feel super lonely, depressed and I easily get angry at the other person, for their messaging hours, calling hours, message tones. When they don't reply, leave on seen etc. I go insane, I feel super anxious. I simply go insane and lose sleep, appetite...

Do you think I'm just simply toxic or uncertainty and unavaliablity make me toxic? Do you think it is not for me?

Thank you.

ogni volta che mi frequento con un ragazzo mi faccio tremila pensieri per ogni cosa e non riesco a smettere, se lo vedo per troppo tempo online penso che si stia scrivendo con un’altra, se non mi cerca penso che non voglia parlare con me, poi se lo vedo leggermente freddo mi faccio un sacco di pensieri, io so perfettamente che le persone vanno e vengono ma il mio cervello non lo capisce, anche nella vita quotidiana penso a tutto, vorrei tanto non pensare sempre al negativo o direttamente non pensare ma non ci riesco completamente, ogni volta che devo dire o fare qualcosa lo ripeto nella mia testa o immagino scenari, non so completamente come gestire la mia mente

Hi, first of all thank you for reading. I have been having a hard time with a lot of things.
First, even though my relationship is fine, I love my partner and we havent had any issues, I am constantly uneasy, thinking about if anything they do means something bad about how they feel, and even if I feel a certain way.
I feel very anxious about it, and cant seem to do anything to solve it (I think it may be OCD, I’m talking with my therapist about it this week)
Then, I’m very tired even if I’m living everything i ever wanted professionally, and doubt is eating me away.
I just doubt everything a lot, it is exhausting.
I used to be happy, fun, and didnt overthink.
I don’t know how to come Back to that.
Any advice?

i feel so distracted by people around me with their thoughts with upcoming plans. i have a very important entrance exam coming up it takes place once a year and ive used this year to prepare, i have a lot to lose if i dont make it in this attempt.
how do i let stop letting my boyfriend and my other friends' issue stop bothering me?

in detail version:
my boyfriends ex is his roomate's bestfriend and they've become good friends again after a while and he hangs out with her often but he's my friend too and all of that bothers me a bit cause of the past she's had with my boyfriend but im ready to let all that go, then the thought of that guy being a bad friend to me and my boyfriend occurs which further lingers on and messes me up. im not able to think straight i dont want to be bothered by all this, and in the midst of all this, my bestfriends birthday is coming up so planning for that too is getting a bit distracting but still i can compartmentalize that. i just want the thoughts of the ex to stop coming. im secure in my relationship my boyfriend wont do shi but i dont want a third person to fuck it up (again)

Hey so could you all please help me?! I really need your guidance !

So like from a few months, me & KP are fighting constantly sometimes he is upset with me and sometimes I am upset with him. Whenever I am trying to convey my feelings he shuts down he just listens but he doesn't respond and whenever I am telling him to change himself and his habits he is saying he won't. He wasn't like this before. I don't question his love for me ik he does but I am not getting the emotional reassurance from which is making me question everything. What is blocking him? Ik he is little bit stressed but he doesn't shares his problems with me. :)

Will his behaviour change? What should I do in situations like this?