Been on the app since February and the only “matches” I’ve had are my friends that are on hinge when we see each other’s profiles but no real matches not even a single like. Live in the Cincinnati OH area so it’s not like I live in a tiny town and have been through all the profiles.
I get a couple matches a month but few translate to actual dates. Would like to know if there’s something I can improve so women are more interested and willing to take that next step.
I’ve gotten better at my messaging the last few matches and can usually get them off the app to set up the date. Last match was last Wednesday, set up an ice cream date for Friday night, she mentioned ice cream on her profile. I check in Friday afternoon to make sure we’re still on for tonight and she replied to let me know she forgot about a concert with her roommate in the Bay Area. So yeah, would love to figure our how to be more appealing so I get more matches and then they don’t reply after the first message, disappear the moment I suggest an actual date, or get off the app but then disappear or cancel after setting up said date. Thanks!
Zero likes or matches in two weeks since starting. Voice prompt is about wanting to remove the invasive plants in my yard and replace them with pollinator friendly ones.
I’m a 28-year-old guy been using Hinge for about 4 months and I’m kind of stumped.
I have a strong profile and actually get a decent amount of matches, and honestly some of them feel way out of my league. The problem is I’ve never actually turned one into a date. Things either fizzle after a few messages or I get ghosted.
I’m pretty sure it’s a confidence thing. I either don’t try hard enough or I try way too hard because I don’t want to mess it up. I think I’m constantly in my head instead of just talking naturally.
I’ve got about 5-6 of them off the app and into texting, even set up some dates and had really strong interest… Then everything fizzles
I’d love to just be myself and have normal conversations, but for some reason I struggle with it on apps. Usually I’ll ask about something on their profile or something I genuinely find interesting, but it still seems to go nowhere.
At this point I’ve probably had 60–70 matches without a single date, so I feel like there’s clearly something I’m doing wrong and I want to fix it instead of just blaming the apps.
Has anyone been in a similar spot and figured it out? Any advice on messaging, having better conversations, or just getting out of your own head would be really appreciated.
Hello all,
Looking for advice on profile. Really self conscious about my appearance and quite awkward when it comes to photos.
Any feedback would be appreciated.
Maybe it’s just me and my “game” but I’ve been struggling for a couple of months and tried a few changes. Any help would be appreciated
Edit: I am from Scotland so our political views aren’t like yours in the US guys. I want feedback not political bs no one here cares for.
Edit 2: it is now “liberal” and “long term”
Appreciate any advice on how to make my profile better. Thanks for your time.
hi yall, I'd just like some advice because im just curious what I can improve on. I do know the car selfie is pretty bad so I have plans to change it but id like to chat with people to figure out what yall have to say before doing that. Two things though. 1. I am losing mass by dieting and exercising and 2. Im not going to cut my hair to have it super short and I understand that may limit my matches but my hair is important to me. I do style it and have bangs and the like.
caption 1 (mountain) : holy it was a hard hike but the view was definitely worth it.
Caption 2 (park) : My sister and I out for a walk.
Caption 3 (sunglasses) : You don't have to...I just didn't bring my normal glasses to the party and ended up having to wear sunglasses all night lol.
Just turned 26 recently and was thinking that now would probably be a good time to see what I can do to improve my profile. I’ve included my profile pics + some bonus pics at the end if people think that any of those would be a better fit for my profile
The caption for the swing dancing photo is "My sister and I at a swing dancing event."
I never been in a committed relationship before. Usually things flake off after a date or two. Just got broken off a 2 month relationship that I really thought was going somewhere but I guess not 😅
Feeling pretty rock bottom but I'd appreciate honesty cause that's how I can improve. I know I'm a bit wirey - I recently started going to the gym the past 1.5 months and seeing some progress.
I (27F) met with a 31M end of May. We both wrote on Hinge that we are trying to find a life partner. On our 1st date, we ate lunch and went for a walk in the park. 2nd date he asked me if I wanted to go on a day trip together to a small island nearby. I was a little hesitant to go on a trip like this since I've only met him once, but I figured it's probably because he wants to get to know me better, so I agreed to it. He drove his car and we took the ferry. We spent a whole day on the island. In the evening, we biked together and he had asked what my family plans were for the future, if I wanted to have kids, and how many, etc. Overall, we had a pretty pleasant experience. On the 3rd date, we went to play archery and then ate dinner afterwards. On the 4th date, he invited me over to his apartment and cooked lunch for me. He spent the day before going to Cosco to buy groceries and then spending the whole morning preparing lunch. We played some games after eating. No physical touch of any kind happened though, which is okay for me since we're both Asians and like to taking things slow. On that same day he told me he slept pretty late the day before and wasn't being very response to text messages because his ex-girlfriend called him asking if he wanted to date her again, but he thought about it and told her that he wanted to move on. I'm not sure what were his intentions of telling me this. It did make me a little upset and but we still had fun at his apartment for the rest of the afternoon. When I was about to leave, he escorted me to my car and said he always feels happy when he hangs out with me. I told him I feel the same as well. Then he said he's pretty new to dating apps and has just been using Hinge for about 2 months. He's not sure what the next steps are moving forward towards a relationship.
Unfortunately, we haven't been able to meet up these past 2 weeks because his brother came from Asia to visit him and will be staying for a little over a month. He said they have not seen each other for 8 years. He also seems to be busier at work since he's trying to get promoted soon and told me he's been staying up till 3am at night recently for work. Even though we haven't meet for 2 weeks, we still constantly text each other and he would voluntarily share with me his plans for the weekend and where he plans to bring his brother to. I try to be understanding of him that he's been busy lately with both his job and his brother, but at the same time I'm getting worried that if we don't see each other for a month, we can both lose the momentum to move forward. I'm not sure if he's just not as interested in me or just takes the time to warm up to someone. Since we aren't exclusive yet, I probably plan on meeting some other people so I'm not putting all the eggs in one basket... any thoughts?
I’m a resident physician in a specialty with very humane hours, basically 8–5 M–F. I’m not working 90 hours a week like some colleagues. Getting back on hinge after a LTR ended last year.
I don’t plan to list “healthcare” as my job title. Online dating is already hard enough, and I don’t like the vagueness of “healthcare worker.”
Wondering whether to list physician or resident physician. “Resident physician” is most accurate, but many will assume terrible hours and years of limited availability. That could lead to automatic left swipes.
Listing “physician” is also accurate. I graduated med school, I’m a doctor, just haven't fully finished my training. The downside is people might assume I’ve finished residency, earn a high salary, or can move anywhere when that isn't the case yet.
Some people worry that listing physician attracts people interested mainly in money, but I feel confident I can weed those people out. I’m also very selective about who I date seriously. I’d also prefer to date other educated/successful people.
I’m not trying to mislead anyone, but I also don’t want to limit matches. Any thoughts? I’m a man dating women, early 30s, looking for something serious but open to casual in meantime (although I'm just putting long term relationship on my profile), in a major US city
Just wondering what is the etiquette here and how would you handle this. I (M30) matched with this really lovely person (F31) literally one day after installing the app, went out on a date a week later, it was really fun, and I really like everything about her and looking forward to seeing her again and see how it goes. She also seemed to have a great time and told me she'd love to do something again next week.
But during that first week I did send out a some other likes and now I got a couple of matches, and they seem realy nice, but I really don't have the mental capacity to go out on dates with multiple people at the same time. At the same time I know people don't assume exclusivity these days after one date and it feels too soon to pause my profile.
So what do you do in such situation? Should I pause my profile? Should I just ignore the new matches? Feels kinda rude... or should I unmatch? What's the norm here?
I (23M) went on a first date with a match (21F). For context, I'm pretty new to dating, so any tips would be greatly appreciated.
So we'd been talking for 2 weeks before but had planned a date for when she moved to my city. We're both avid walkers so I chose a riverside walk and tour of the city. When we planned it, I had suggested to her dinner too, but she said that she'd like to grab something we could have while we walked, so I obliged.
I thought the date went really well. We kinda lost track of time and all in all it lasted about 4 hours. The conversation kept flowing, lots of laughing at each other's jokes, sharing vacation pics, but also some more deep talk which was good.
At points when we sat down I felt like I wanted to go in for a kiss but didn't end up doing it bc I thought it was too soon, like 30 mins in from the start. The most we did was have a hug.
At the end of the date I walked her back to her place and she said she had a super lovely time. I get a text 5 minutes later thanking me and saying the same thing, to which I replied I had a great time too and would love to do it again.
She then said 'just to be honest' she 'was getting more of a friends vibe' but would 'genuinely love to hang out with me' again because she 'had so much fun.'
I told her that I felt something more than friends and was looking for a romantic relationship. She thanked me for telling her that and asked me what if I was doing anything fun soon which she could join me in doing.
I don't know if I made a mistake by telling her what I was getting up to and saying yes. Am I just being delusional in thinking that this could be anything more than just a friendship or even just her way of a soft rejection?
I'm pretty happy with where my profile is at currently, but I thought it would be fun to post and get some feedback to see if there's room for improvement. I get a fair number of matches and dates as it is now.
To self-critique to start, I think my 3rd prompt can be polarizing. I know that anything judgmental can be seen as a negative, but this prompt gets me quite a few likes and conversation starters, so I've decided to keep it. Also, the last pic of my cat is basically just filler and a picture of me with my cat would be better, but I'm okay with that for now.
Namaste people from India.
I have had no luck on this app I tried barely had one like on this app and that too someone known🙂 but been trying out my luck but it has not worked out in any way looking for your feedback on the same . It has triggered some confidence issue in me
Hello, i've been getting very few matches lately and would appreciate the feedback, thanks
