Should I put bi-curious or bisexual in my sexuality section?
I (27F, East Asian in London, UK), have thought I was bisexual for more than 10 years. I’m not sure whether my attraction to men and women is necessarily equal (like 50/50), but this definitely isn’t a new thought or something I’ve only recently started questioning as I’ve felt this way for over a decade.
However, I actually never dated or had a relationship until at the end of last year, when I had my first dating with a man (not through dating app), we stopped seeing each other after a month. In early this year I started using Hinge, I was very nervous at the beginning and especially afraid being rejected by women, so I’ve met like 3-4 guys and we’ve never seen more than once. Now I’m less nervous and want to view both men and women’s profile, but I’m not sure if I should put bisexual or bi-curious in my sexuality section that is visible to everyone?
I know some lesbians / bisexual will say they would only date “true bisexual women” who have dated women before, rather than someone who just wants “experiment” with women which is highly disrespect. I absolutely understand this and agree , however I cannot lie that it’s true, I’ve never dated a woman before, I’ve only dated men so far, and I’ve never been into any relationships, so even dating itself for me is like something new that I’m “experimenting”. But I don’t want them to misunderstand that I’m “trying woman out”, That’s why I feel more comfortable putting “bisexual” rather than “bi-curious.”
On the other hand, I also feel a little uncomfortable calling myself 100% bisexual when I have no real-life experience dating women. I do watch more heterosexual porn, for example, although I read more lesbian fiction, and I honestly don’t know what my attraction would feel like in an actual relationship with a woman. So in that sense, I guess I am still exploring🥺🥺I just don’t want to put “bisexual” and have women think I’m lying or being misleading if they find out I’ve never actually dated a woman before
I’ve seen some posts about this, there are some self-assessment criteria and my answers:
- Only recent thoughts: no it’s not.
- Want to “try” or “experimenting” with women: I cannot deny it, but same for man, I want to try dating as a whole new experience in my life.
- Sex with women: I can imagine myself doing this but I’ve never tried, and actually same for men, my 2 sex experiences so far with men were absolutely disastrous that I’m now consulting sexual health clinic for penetration pain (which is not the cause that I want to starting date woman).
- Marriage: I don’t think I wanna marry in my life with any gender.