r/PataHaiAajKyaHua

Hi!!!!

Pata Hai Aaj Kya Hua

So the context is me and my gf have been in a relationship for 4 years. She recently moved to college and like...she cheated on me with another boy in like first month of it. I found out and a lot of drama happened but we decided to try to fix everything. So Obv on certain days we have our breakdowns and fights like yea mostly she understands my issues my insecurities but one day....

She suddenly said "do you ever wonder why I cheated on you? Did u notice how silent I became"

I was like what?

I went into an panic attack.

And then a lot of overthinking and i said all this.

Guys....is it worth to fight all this to save this relationship?

Pata hai aaj kya hua?

I mean kl shaam again ...

Quick : there's some function going on in our college

Function has been going on for 5 to 7 days ...

There's a junior sophomore... different department

So we matched vibe etc.... she's very friendly and touchy like typical chatpati girl ...

She always came towards me ..mind u voh kisi aur boys se ni baat karti thi ..so I thought she liked me also 😺 ..

O God can't tell explicitly but a few days ago we were on campus till 8 pm and she was very sad like having a mental breakdown..she didn't tell me what exactly happened to her but it was her family issues ...now I dropped her in her house..(flat) and later she hugged me tightly... And started crying saying her father mother had altercations with her regarding diwali vacations..and then she started touching and kissing me ... unfortunately I thought she might like me too as well and then ahmmm i ordered protection... Yrr 😭 I'm shy but in during intercourse she was crying too aage i can't 🤥🤧then very next morning she didn't talk to me in college and started ignoring me ..I thought maybe because of I made her uncomfortable in bed ..but later 2 days yaani kl shaam ..

She yelled me ki i should have stopped her ..I took fayda of her emotional vulnerability... well tbh i thought we both liked each other... although all sorted now ...she said ki now we should maintain distance now !! Yrr I'm feeling very guilty yrr i destroyed my friendship....

But I find it hypocrisy here ...well she assured that nothing will happen...

I feel so ch*tiya yrrr !!

ohhhhh my godddddd😭😭😭

so there's this guy on my dad's side of the family, not a relative but very distantly related (we even have different surnames so yeaaa)

every time i'd see him at a family function, i'd be like OH MY GOD HE'S SOOO EFFING HOT 😭😭 he looks EXACTLY how i want my guy to look, like actually EXACTLY. and i'd spend the next 2-3 hours yearning over him having 100 different thoughts in my head like should i go talk to him or will i look despo 😭😭😭 and then i'd go home and regret over the fact that i didn't talk to him. YOU GUYS I WANTED TO TALK TO HIM SO BADLY 😭😭😭

so yesterday i saw him again at another family function, when we sat down to eat there was no space for him so he was looking around and THEN HE CAME AND SAT BESIDE ME

AHHHHH AND HE STARTED TALKING TO ME SAMNE SE 😭😭😭😭😭

i was acting all chill and nonchalant on the outside but internally i was literally JUMPING. I WAS SO FUCKING HAPPY YOU GUYS 😭😭😭

and then when we were leaving, HE ASKED FOR MY INSTAGRAM. and later that night, he liked all my highlights. ALL OF EM and also sent me a reel.

BUT WHEN I WOKE UP THIS MORNING, HE HAD UNLIKED EVERYTHING????? the f*ck?????????

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so two days ago it was my birthday and during the evening I was getting dressed up as I wanted to click some pictures w my birthday cake. As I was dressing up , my friend (of 3 years) video called me. Kuch time baad she started calling me out on how tacky my accessories looked and how I was doing "too much" but i just ignored it. After getting ready I told her that I'll call her after cutting the cake n clicking some pictures, to which she replied "jldi aana apna do kaudi ka photoshoot karke"

After everything maine usko raat mein call kia and when I showed her my pictures saying that I think I look pretty in them , she literally laughed at my face for a minute straight. I asked her if my pictures looked bad and she said haan (lmao).

I honestly think I wasn't looking too bad :( even if I was looking bad at least use aise toh act nhi Krna chahiye tha.

Tl;dr: my friend was very mean to me on my birthday , calling me out on how my outfit looked and how I looked really tacky. She laughed on my face when I said I looked pretty.

(The picture shows my accessories and a lil bit of my dress jinko she said ki it's looking tacky and bad)

bhai pata hai aaj kya hua ?? mere best friend (lets call him S) ne aisi tea spill ki h na my brain is still buffering 💀

so scene ye h ki there is this girl A sharda se mba kar rhi h bro she is officially engaged matlab proper ring ceremony done and aesthetic reels the whole shebang uska fiance (lets call him V) is such a green flag bechara corporate majdoor weekend pe drive krke milne aata h n they go on dates around knowledge park etc outside world ke liye absolute couple goals

but wait for the plot twist bc monday to friday madam ka alag hi kalesh chal rha h she was literally hooking up with my best friend S haan bhai full on weekday situationship classes bunk krke pg me sneak in karna and all that wild stuff

jab S ko finally hit hua ki bhai ye toh actually engaged h aur scene bohot toxic ho rha usne confront kiya and her response??? bro i kid you not she deadass looked at him n said "yaar shadi ke baad toh sati savitri hi banna h im just enjoying my life before getting tied down" LIKE WTF the audacity is insane tbh peak delulu behavior

aur sabse crazy part suno ek din S uske room pe tha n V decides to pull up unannounced with a bouquet for a surprise date 😭 A got so panicked usne S ko apne chote se attached washroom me dhakka deke lock kar diya n bahar gate pe V ke sath 20 min tak romantic baatein kr rhi thi while my boy S was literally sitting on the commode in pitch dark sweating bullets aur pray kr rha tha ki galti se bhi saans lene ki aawaz na chali jaye lmfaooo

S ki toh fatt gayi usne finally haath jod liye iss mess se kyuki usko anxiety ho rhi thi aadhi raat me but ye bndi is still out there living her wild hannah montana double life aur insta private story pe wedding countdown daal rhi h

tbh smjh ni aa rha if we should anonymously drop a text to V nd save him ya bas dur se baith ke mandap wale kalesh ka wait karein 🍿 what do yall think

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So today I asked my gf if she wants to go out. As you can see in the messages, she said she doesn't have any plans and straight up replied that she doesn't want to go out anywhere.

But later in the evening I got to know from our mutual friends that she actually went out with her guy friend. I am completely confused and don't know what to think right now. Why didn't she just tell me the truth instead of lying? She could have easily told me about it but she didn't.

Should I confront her directly about this lie or am I overthinking too much? Please advice guys, dimag kharab ho rha hai.

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Didi 2 saal something pehle college ke liye dusri city shift hogyi, ever since that, kabhi bhi usko text karu toh kaafi annoy si ho jaati hai, as if she doesn't like me texting her, upar chats attach kar hi di hai, last 2.5 mahine pehle baat hue thi, saamne seh kabhi text nahi karti kaam ke baat ke alawa, ab toh baat bhi nahi hoti.. she doesn't owe me kuch bhi lekin shayad maine badi behen h and ghar pe mahol etna accha nahi rehta esliye maine socha didi seh problem ke time pe baat karliya karungi jaise jab woh yaha thi toh mereseh karti thi, khair. Uski hi life and toh mai kon hoti hu interfere karne wali, so I js let it be, i should just expect less. She has her own life tohh ... Khaiir

Also, mai etne acche seh explain nahi kar paa rahi idk why, so pls don't misunderstand, before texting her maine usse poocha tha agar thoda time hai uske paas baat karne ke liye she said haan hai time bolo kya hua, fir hi maine usse baat karni shuru ki, fir bhi usne mujhe bola ki i ruin her moments wagera wagera and then also claimed ki i never asked her if she has time.

Edit : btw kuch logo ko misunderstanding hori h I guess, es chats mei jinko maine attach Kiya h usme i wasn't talking about meri dikkat ya anything, bas ek kaam/favour/help chahiye thi, woh bhi free ho poocha tha pehle. (Nothing related to family)

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We barely text each other during his exams, and I don’t even disturb him that much. I just don’t understand how he can be so rude to me all the time. It’s not just this one incident either. It really hurts because I miss him a lot. Doesn’t he miss me too? Can’t a person spare even 5 minutes to talk to their partner during the entire day?

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Today is Boyfriend's Day, so I posted a Ghibli picture of us on my status with a cute little message. And this was his reaction

I know he is not that expressive with words and he is not really into these relationship day things or anything he finds cringe which is fair because we have a significant age gap and he is just like that.

But bro yesterday only I was reading a post where people were discussing efforts in relationships and most of the guys were saying that girls don't put enough effort.

He didn't even wish me on Girlfriend's Day which did hurt me a little, but since I know him and I know he isn't really into these things I didn't make a big deal out of it.

And I'm pretty sure he doesn't even know that today is Boyfriend's Day

But WHY THIS REACTION MAN?

Like I know his personality, and when you know someone and have spent enough time with them, you understand why they react a certain way. But still this one made me go

Am I overthinking this or is this genuinely such a dry reaction? 😭

Update : I did talk to him and his reply was like phatt se gussa ho jati hai literally no thank you no ily2 nothing but still I am bothered but I don't want to drag this topic and this is not something i should fight with him for but yes considering your partners needs and feelings is also important too so yes thank you everyone for your time here ,

I won't write a paragraph.bt in short I loved a girl for 5 plus years...gave her everything i had...stood with her in her worst situation even when her family didn't support her.... although coming from a poor family still helped her financially with all i had...when she went to hostel without a phone for 2 years i waited for her despite having proposals....even after studying 12-14 hrs daily still used to give her 1-2 hrs..never saw her in a lustful way...even after staying 5 years never been in a physical relationship with her ..never even forced her into this ..bt just 20 days before neet I found that she was cheating on me ..she went on 4 dates with that guy...at that tym I was just crying and begging her to stay...even gave her a chance ..and after 4 months she did that again..behaved with me in the most rude way she can...and a lot...bt that's all...at the end I just said wherever u live...live happily...don't get used by someone by listening to his words only

Current situation-

It's been a month talking to her...I deleted every single thing that would remind me of her ..and I may never see her face again in this life...

And what hurts me is not that she is gone...it's the thing that I used to think she is a simple and good girl with a good character which most of the girls don't have

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Pata hai aaj kya hua, These are the ppl why i stopped doing what I loved back then and i can't believe there are still some of these ppl who just don't give up. I'm honestly so disgusted and furious right now that I can't even describe these feelings. Feels like to delete reddit as well if these creeps keep showing.

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Pata hai aaj kya hua.......I am currently preparing for my college placements happening next year. Between the pressure of studying and being physically sick for the past few days, my health has taken a hit.

Yesterday, I called my mom just to check in on her. She asked why I looked so unwell, and I honestly told her that it’s the combination of falling sick and the stress of studying non-stop for placements. She asked how my prep was going, and I said it was going great.

Then the conversation shifted to my brother. Out of genuine concern, I asked how he was doing and casually mentioned that he should start preparing seriously early on, especially given how brutal the tech job market has been lately.

Instead of taking it normally, she snapped at me: "Don't try to become my mother. I know my son very well and I know what is good for him."

I felt so hurt and dismissed that I cut the call mid-way.

A few minutes later, she sent me this barrage of texts:

"Padhna likhna to hai nahin aur baith ke tum humko bata rahi ho ki placement nahin hota hai. Dimag mein itna kachra na bharna band karo. Aur phone agar kaatna ho to aainda se phone mat karna samjhi na. Aana na isi ghar mein hai placement nahin hoga to apna na chaal sudhar lo. Padhna shuru kar do."

(Rough translation: "You don't study yourself and sit here lecturing me that placements don't happen. Stop filling your head with garbage. If you ever cut the call again, don't bother calling at all. If you don't get placed, you have to return to this very house, so mend your ways and start studying.")

It feels suffocating. I am grinding daily, dealing with illness, and trying to look out for my family, yet my genuine concern is twisted into an attack. Bringing up "you have to come back to this house anyway" as a weapon when I’m already stressed about my career is sickening.

TL;DR: Told my mom my brother should prep early due to the brutal tech job market. She took offense, yelled at me for "acting like her mother," and then texted me claiming I don't study, calling market realities "garbage," and threatening that I'll have to return to her house if I fail to get placed.