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The case of 18-year-old Ryan al Najjar raises an uncomfortable question that often gets lost in debates about the hijab: can something genuinely be called a choice when refusing it can result in threats, violence, or even death?

A Dutch court sentenced Ryan’s father, Syrian national Khaled al Najjar, to 30 years in prison in absentia, while her brothers Muhanad and Mohamed received 20-year sentences each for their roles in her 2024 murder.

According to the court, Ryan was killed because she rejected the strict Islamic values imposed on her by her family. She had reportedly told police multiple times that she feared her father and brothers, had been threatened and assaulted, and had been placed in protective care on several occasions since 2022.

The killing was particularly horrific. Ryan was bound and gagged with approximately 18 metres of duct tape before being thrown alive into a shallow pool in the Oostvaardersplassen nature reserve, where she drowned. Her father's DNA was found on the tape and beneath her fingernails. He subsequently fled to northern Syria and later admitted killing his daughter in a letter to De Telegraaf.

The case exposes a contradiction in the simplistic slogan “the hijab is a choice.” In an ideal world, a woman should absolutely have the right to choose whether she wears a hijab. But a choice made under family pressure, threats, coercion, social punishment, or fear of violence is not meaningfully equivalent to a free choice.

my boyfriend and i have been dating for the past year. we're in the same college doing our masters.

like most relationships we've also had our fair share of ups and downs but very recently (a few days ago) we talked about trying to make things right between us.

here is where the problem starts:

1. my bf liked to sleep with me on call. overtime i developed that habit, and now i have trouble sleeping if he isn't there with me on call. every night i ask him when he'll call me (since he also sits with his friends for a while before calling me). he told me he'll call me at 2:30am which was fine by me. at 2:30am he messaged me saying he'll take 10 more mins and then didnt call me for over an hour. i was the one who had to call him.

2. i've told him innumerable times now to drop me a text if he's tied up with something since i am the one usually waiting for him. when the same thing got repeated today and he called me giggling (because he had smoked) and saying sorry it's not a big deal i got very annoyed. he has a habit of apologising and repeating the same thing again and again so at this point his apology doesnt mean much to me.

3. you might ask why is it that i dont sit with my friends? for atarters, my friends dont live in my hostel. they are also my boyfriend's friends so they're all usually together while i'm alone. furthermore, i did have 1-2 friends in my hostel but i lost them due to an issue arising between them and my boyfriend. that didn't matter much to me since they weren't close friends exactly, however i did lose friends by taking my boyfriend's side - which he is very well aware of, and also accepts.

4. last year when we started dating my bf was head over heels for me. i on the other hand had gone through a very messy and traumatic breakup, and was still getting over the entire trauma of that. my bf knew this, and was after me to get into a relationship with him. i did tell him that it'll take me some time to recover also, and he happily agreed saying he'll help me out. later, he used the same things against me in an argument saying that he was serious about me, talked about the possibility of a future together and i'd always change the topic. now my reasoning for that was - we had just started dating, and i wasn't over the trauma induced from my previous relationship. now, after 1 year together when i try to discuss our future he says that since i wasn't sure then and wouldn't answer him, so now he won't do either. that he fought for me and now i'll have to do that. it's more of a tit for tat game for him at this point i feel.

5. i am his first girlfriend, however obviously he's not my first boyfriend. i would use that to initially excuse his behaviour, however now i can't.

6. it's our last year in college, and so as per him he wants to enjoy this time with his friends as much as he can before they get scattered across the country because of their jobs. as a result, he wants to have fun with them and give me less time because in his words "i was a poor investment of his time" because last year when he did give me all his time and energy i wasnt ready for it. he also went through my notes app and read my diary and accused me of keeping count of every single mistake he made because whenever i'd feel sad/upset over something i'd write that down in my notes app (since there wasnt anyone else whom i could talk to). this was while i was going through a depressive phase all alone.

i dont know what to do anymore. i feel like crying. i also feel so stupid asking strangers on the internet for help.

Ok long story short, I'm 20 and I asked out a girl on reddit, who's 24. Her native's in Banglore and she's working as a doctor intern in another state

We talked for a few days, I felt good with her so I asked her out. I've never asked someone out in my life btw

Idk anything about her irl like how she looks, what's her type, number (which she told me will give only after the 1st date)

She deleted reddit for a while, saying she's been through tough times and told me she'll return soon

I wanted a while and then I noticed that she was commenting on a post a few days ago but didn't reply to my message

Then I decided to see about her in ROSINT (is a website to check someone's Reddit posts and comments including the deleted ones)

Turns out she was commenting on roleplay subs how h0rny she is, saying she wants to h00kup with a couple, ready for a h00kup, commenting on d!ck pics. From her posts, I'm assuming she's bi too

Ok fine, I'm not a good guy either. I do watch p0rn sometimes. But I'm well mannered enough to respect a girl irl, behave well and not be a creep. But H\*\*KING UP? Bruh I gtg, I'm out... I'm a virgin yeah, there's nothing to proud or ashamed in losing V card. I never had a proper relationship or went out with a girl before

I also asked her about whether she's willing to date me just for fun, like a casual thing or she'll want more if the date goes well (Nah I don't wanna sleep with her, I'm just talking about a good & healthy relationship)

She herself said after my question, "I'm not a fnckgirl"

Ok what's the definition of a fnckgirl, she's ready to h00kup with people, isn't that a fnckgirl too?

Our date hasn't happened yet, I haven't met her yet. So I kept my fantasies low. Did I dodge a bullet?

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Batao 👉🏻👈🏻

But not anymore, she was the real diamond . Peter lost diamond in search of trash

Was just talking to my colleague and he said he is no more 🤧

Wanna know the opinion of you all guy's just chillin